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The problem is this, most of these so-called guys do it for the purpose of being noticed. Nothing is wrong with letting a lady know you admire her but going about it like some 12 year old? That one is worse.
It's worse than woman wrappering, if you ask me. If a lady catches your attention, send her a PM, if she does not respond, then it means she is not interested.
It would be wrong to criticize these dudes without giving them a fighting chance. That I'm always serious does not mean others must be like that. I guess that's what makes the forum interesting.

erunz: yes it is. Almost everyone. In ketu have heard about this issue.

Sorry Please, I stay in Ketu, Ikosi but I'm nowhere near at the moment; is the Ikosi in question that of Ketu or the one at Oregun?

Wittylens: I have a problem of "Not Wanting To Go Out" . I hardly visit my friends. I prefere to stay indoors. Even when my male friends want to take me out I stylishly decline

Not you alone! I bluntly decline in my case. I hate going out but I enjoy when friends come around. Most of my friends have a big ish with my kind of person regarding outings. Still, that is not to say that my lifestyle and life in general is boring. Everything about me is engaging and enjoying quality time with myself and others, particularly friends. I believe that's just the way we are and there is nothing anyone can do about it, save we want to change. I'd rather stay the way I am though.

This is fallcy. Dark ladies are not aggressive than white skinned ladies and vice versa. There is no data, statistics or evidence to support this. It all depends on preference and what you want to see. I'd prefer a dark skin lady to a white one anytime, anyday.


NB: I know I ought to post on this thread since you said 'ladies only', I just couldn't ignore the thread, particularly when it is considered biased

I can't believe people like me still exist!

OP, we are practically the same, save for the introversion aspect. I am an extrovert, yet I prefer being indoor to going out.

When people say they are introverts, what strikes most people is that they are gloomy, annoying and starry people. I socialize indoor; I enjoy people visiting but I never go out. I believe you should do the same. Engage in things that would make your stay at home fun. Thus, when someone visits, it wouldn't be a challenge. Moreso, some ladies prefer introverts to extroverts. You'll find that person in no time.

Silkmoth33: So of all d things na tribalism u see first to change!

Ehen nao... It's sickening seeing us attack each other... BTW, you haven't told us what you would change.

cronsberg: Look at the utter failure called nigeria. This is how 90% of our markets, streets e.t.c are like. If you think i will stay here and die of high blood pressure then you are wrong. And to the original Op, yes i think its worth selling every goddam property you got to escape this crap. I no even fit shout joor. I have headaches literarily every week from thinking about the hopelessness of Nigeria. I mean look at the filthyness, unconduciveness, unhygenic nature of everything. mtsheeewww

I understand for Nigeria but at least, show an ounce of respect by getting latest pictures of Nigeria, particularly Lagos. Your pictures are taken in Lagos but that was a long time ago. Rather than see 'molues' you'd likely end up seeing BRT buses; though are still few but 'Behind' and decent molue buses now.

Things are changing and so are times.

For me, I'll say TRIBALISM - Our strength lies in our diversity.

As we breeze through Independence Day, most people tend to ask what is worth celebrating in Nigeria.

I must point out that it is not new that we have come to know that a lot is wrong with Nigeria. Ranging from corruption to tribalism, looting, kidnapping, terrorism, ritual killings, rioting, greed, unaccountability, rigging, politricking... The list is endless.

The question is this, if you have just ONE chance to change a thing in Nigeria, what would it be?

GeneralShepherd: An Oxford graduate is naturally ahead of you! There's no argument in that. Even in the west Oxford, Cambridge, Imperial College, MIT, CalTech, Harvard, Yales are known for excellence.

Their graduates have maintained excellence over decades. Please don't compare OAU to these schools!

See, bros, either you are doing this on purpose or not is what I don't understand. For the record, no one compared OAU to the aforementioned schools. What I stated is that being an Harvard graduate does not mean that you automatically live a life filled with nothing but fantasy. Heck you might graduate from Harvard or whatever made school and still become irrelevant. The school does not guarantee an automatic 'Behind' life. In a similar fashion, a man from the 'slum' can become a corner stone. Everybody knows the schools your mentioned are by any standard better than any Nigerian institution. I pray you get it this time.

justwise: This is those graduates you are talking about queuing for just few jobs and died doing that.

See my attachment.

Bad English! THESE ARE are THE graduates!! Not 'this is'.

Call it proof reading for free.

GeneralShepherd: Where is OAU again in the world university ranking?
Please don't delude yourself

I believe the ranking matters more to you than anything. Not every Harvard graduate becomes something to reckon with when they face the world; not every Oxford or Cambridge graduate make it to the very top. You might be in the best society and amount to nothing; likewise, you might be in the so-called 'slum' and still become a trail blazer. The whole thing rests on individual and not some fancy Webometrics' ranking. It is you who should wake up for the cryo-sleep.

justwise: How many graduates does Nigeria universities turn out every year and how many get employed a year or two after graduation? Lets not forget that they don't have work visa problem unlike Nigerian students abroad. After going through strike after strike, cultism, paying for handout and finally graduated how many get that job?

Not getting a job after graduation abroad is mainly down to work visa restriction in places like this UK and not because they are not good enough.

I just updated my post. I'd love it if you could fall back to it. I also answered your questions in it.

justwise: [/b]

He may not get a job after graduation but...he will graduate on time without strike disrupting his studies, he will get quality education without paying a lecturer for some copy and paste handouts and that certificate will be recognized.

I made up my mind not to post on the thread again, rather, follow the arguments. However, I just couldn't overlook this post.

Of what use is graduating in Light Years when there are no job offers waiting around? I graduated from OAU and truth is, there were strikes in my time, the stress was huge and reading took its toll on me most of the time. But one thing was certain; the Obafemi Awolowo University and her lecturers DO NOT sell handouts. That you have a problem with Nigeria does not mean you should commit the hasty generalization fallacy. A Nigerian University fed me a powerful mindset to face the world with. The tuition fee in my time was incredibly low and I end up paying myself most of the time. Just so you remember, I rounded off in June and some of the experiences I garnered in school fetch money for me now. I have not gone for my youth service yet, but I make money writing/proof-reading articles. I worked top print media organizations while in school and served as a freelance journalist. Quality education is not a mirage in Nigeria, education in the West could be better if compared to ours. Still, that does not call for the write-off of Nigeria. Great or small, we have our reasons for doing the things we do. Those in the West would want to justify their reasons for being there, the same goes for some in Nigeria. NO PLACE in the world is an UTOPIA; problem with most youths is the job they seek from the Government.

For those comparing Nigeria of the 80's to that of the present, I can only say a lot has changed. The rate at which graduates are released into the outside world now is far greater than then. Not everyone of us would end up getting that job that we dreamed of and this apply to every part of the world.

Getting a degree is not the problem, rather, the acquisition of skills which could tell if an individual is productive or not. As of today, I have tens of options on what to settle for after my service year, thanks to my judicious use of the strikes that took place while in school.
We all decide what we want for ourself.

The guy doesn't sound like one that is grateful to me. It would be better if your friend leave his sorry ass before she becomes a total victim.

Lemme follow for future reference. Now I know where to look when I finally make up my mind on planting them

justwise: [/b]

Interesting....so you would have traveled if you were given a country of your choice?

I said it long before now. I was believing I would land somewhere in Africa. That way, I would still be connected to Nigeria without thinking I'm far away. I believe I have mentioned that several times on the thread.

taiwoawoniyi: Good one bro. And let me add, if dropping offering with the left hand is a controversial,then I suggest you stick with right. No use going to hell because of dropping with left. My thoughts and humble opinion. Shalom

Abi o. I see no reason why we should make fuss over this.

Shalom!

Jarus: I don't have any plans to settle outside Nigeria, and not sure I fancy it.

But I love traveling outside the country. It's fun. For holiday in particular.

Here is someone who shares the same mindset as me.

And sir, I could remember being rude sometimes back. I'm sorry. I take back my words; they came out of spite. I'm sorry sir.

Ik09: Sorry, but I don't believe this story. The UN doesn't have many positions for photographers ( http://careerfair.un.org/content/how-can-i-work-photographer-un) so the few available jobs are very competitive. Very unlikely they'd offer someone a job who doesn't have any interest in working for them?

Where was this job based? At the HQ? Are you a humanitarian photographer? Can we see some of your work?

As far as I'm aware, the only way someone without humanitarian experience can start working as a photographer for the UN is through their Young Professionals Program (https://careers.un.org/lbw/home.aspx?viewtype=NCE). Nigerians have NOT been eligible for that program for at least the past two years.

This sounds more like someone's fantasy, than what actually happened.

I registered well over a year ago and I was not replied until June. Fact is, I have always had this attachment towards field photography, other than field journalism. I believe the idea was that I would be trained for a while before setting out. Interestingly, I have never had the opportunity to use one of those powerful Nikon or Canon cameras before. I did want it initially, it wasn't like the whole thing came out of the blue. My mindset was that I would be taken in to work somewhere in Africa. It is no fantasy. And about the country, all I can state here is that it is an European country. I applied, got it, and then I had a change of mind because it didn't land me where I wanted.

Kingmee: can you please explain the rational behind what makes it a disrespect to man?...why did man frown @ that move in the first place?....my bro., if you check very well, you'll find out itz rooted in adolatary believe/superstition which the bible clearly frowns at...
should we now be elevating culture above the teachings of the bible?

It is not affiliated with idolatry/superstition. It is common logic; the left hand does the disgustting things related to the body whereas the right is treated as the decent one. The left hand is believed to be the 'bad boy' because it is responsible for co-ordinating certain tasks I would not want to mention. Therefore, engaging that same 'filthy' hand in 'decent' day-to-day activities is a sign of filth on the user and also an act of gross indiscipline. People who do this are seen as uncouth. This is logic at work. You cannot engage it in public, even the left-handed folks are served and tongue lashed in public. This explains why the left hand is 'silent' in gatherings. And please, do not question it beyond this; it has been from time immemorial.

It is not stated in the Scriptures whether to use one's left or right hand. The problem here is moral. We believe we give to God when we give our offerings, particularly when it requires a basket and well conducted by the Pastor in Charge.

Here is the code: If you were to give to an elder, would you do so with your left or right hand?

Say your pastor asked you to help him pass his Sunday school manual during a class, would you do so with your left hand?

Our parents; imagine being sent on errand and you hand over the content with your left, what do you think the reaction from them would be?

In summary, there is a problem when we conveniently do to God the things we cannot do to men. Giving to God using one's left hand is an act of disrespect.

OP, your Pastor friend does not know jack! The word 'Christian' was first used in Acts when the people of Antioch saw the disciples of Christ and described them as 'Christ-like', that is CHRISTians. Your topic is dead on arrival. Sorry.

majekdom2: not too healthy ... there is much to learn in our diversities . leaving nigeria to work abroad isn't a bad idea ... you learn more from international experiences. I know your fear is being regarded as a minority but I bet not with a UN job.

You quite understand my fear. But again, I believe working somewhere in Africa would in a way connect me to Nigeria. I initiall fancied the idea of travelling outside of Africa but again, it wasn't a priority. The passion comes first, every other thing come later.

actYourDreams: You typed "Above all, I must confess that I applied with the hope that I would get to work somewhere in Africa". "Somewhere in Africa" may be somewhere outside Nigeria. So it seems right to say you had plans to live outside Nigeria. Right?

Yes!

aspirebig: @op,
OYO is your name ooo, i do not buy your idea.By the special grace of God, I am am still in naija doing my bit to make naija a better place.But, you know, do not think because you are blessed in naija that is the end of the world. What is the per capital income of an average Nigerian.

If you decided to stay probably because one person somewhere has promised you an appointment or an elective post, then wait and have your share of the national cake.It is true that you can make it in Nigeria, but also know that many people dreams have died by staying put in Nigeria too. I see traving abroad just like people migrate from the village to cities, it is NOT everyone that make it but at least 75% of those that migrate do make it, and the last time I checked 75% is still an "A".

I have lived in 3 biggest cities in Nigeria, namely, Abj, Lag and PH, with Abj being the most expensive, followed by PH. Ordinary electricity is still a luxury, except you have a gen, inverter or solar,no good roads, no good medical at the reach of an ordinary citizen, no good schools at an affordable rate, life expectancy is among the worst and poorest in the world, no good security, crime rate is high, no street camerals, injustice can be seen everywhere, we are still battling with acute corruption, our leaders are just playing on the people's intelligent. All we have is syncophants everywhere. I do not see this present generation of Nigerians going to enjoy steady power supply in life.No b curse ooo, we are not doing anything in that direction.

There is no plan to provide basic social amenities, infrastructure or something for the young ones look forward to , in Naija. . If you have the opportunity to travel, do so but in the right way, not by selling your family only land when your parents have 7 kids and are still living in a rented accommodation.

Many university graduates are still earning N30k till date, I have seen a 2.1 holder earning less than N50k a month, so if such dude has the opportunity to travel to abroad, and off he goes, will you blame him? NO....When you are admitted into the uni, you only know your admission year but you cannot be so sure of your graduation date, with the strikes we see in our schools.

Our best brains are leaving the country daily, it is no news.Go to the international airports and see for yourself. Many people that cannot dream of owing a brand new car in life, not a Tokunbo ooh, do achieve this in abroad under 3 to 5yrs. In naija, the opportunities are very Limited. Take it or leave it.

However, I do not support those leaving the country without a good education or learned skills-as it is not everyone that has the opportunity to going to the uni or poly. Also, I do not support those going through the desert by trekking,travelling with the ship or hiding in a ship without the right documents. For how long, are you going to be in hiding?
In as much as travelling abroad is good, do not risk your life to the point of death in order to be in abroad.

I hate politicians, both small and great. So as it stands, politics is a NO for me. No one has promised me a thing and I am not looking forward to that. I appreciate your points though.

soledadd: Buy op you have to travel because you are still myopic. When you travel you gain a lot of experience and understand better. Nothing seems too big to you again because you have seen it all. I only miss my family and friends nothing more.

I agree. You sure gain a lot of experience. But does that also apply to people with no skill, talents or educational background. I asked this because that is the most important thing my thread centres on.

actYourDreams: No one asks how the OP got her or his so-called offer. Did she or he just get the offer from the blue moon? Or she or he actually applied? If it was the former case, then OP is contributing to the corruption in the land or OP is not just telling us the full story. If it was the latter case, then OP once had the thought of traveling and he or she would not just tell us why she or he declined the "offer".

You've been stressing this too much and I find it worrisome. Above all, I must confess that I applied with the hope that I would get to work somewhere in Africa. I have always dreamt of delving into the investigative side of journalism. My purpose for declining was not because someone 'connected me', rather I have never dreamt of settling down outside of Nigeria. I wouldn't know where I'd be placed in the society class, maybe somewhere within the lower or 'partial' middle class. Forget the connection because it is not there. This is the resolve of a young man who believes travelling far byond the shores of his country could damage his plans.

alaladakosta: Bro, talk true make them help u. Drop your pride man. From your post all I can see is a desperate boy. Condemning what is better than yours

I don't think I do too well with the word 'boy'. Moreso, everyone needs help at some point in time; you assumed wrongly because I am not in any way desperate. I honestly see no reason why I should explain anything to you when it is obvious you did not read through the thread before posting.

Silkmoth33: Its better to b a liability there where hope still dey say dem go turn u to asset.
Dan to remain here and die unremembered.

I detest this horrible mentality. Go there and become a pest when you have nothing to add? Does it even sound meaningful to you How does one sell off his properties, travel with no plans other than intend to become an addition to the infestation plaguing the government. A mentality as this is capable of making the carrier wretched for life!

I am glad that more matured minds are showing up on the thread.
@Londoner. You used my words perfectly than I'd ever put it down. Bless you!
Seun, kindly push this to Front Page, please.

It's only a band. I'd get another ASAP!