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Fools...did Nollywood just start today..you old fools are to be blamed.
You never take responsibility for anything,always looking for ways to push it back to the suffering masses..you and your Oga on top are to be blamed..we have never had it this bad that is why everyone is looking for ways to survive good or bad.

Thanks for your response..

What do you suggest I do?I have been paying 250,000 every month from my business account to my private account but I skipped December and January?should I continue with the payment after skipping December and January until it gets to 6 months or should I start a fresh one from this February?

Please how do I build my business and private account to make it worthy..the 2months that i didn't pay into my private account is it a problem?

giselle237:
@sandra50 pls dnt try all these things you are about to do. Lump sum payment, then previous lump sum payment… just as u are doing it just also be preparing your mind for refusal because these bank statement lumpsums cnt escape it. There is absolutely no rush. If you need to wait for 1 year to have a ‘safe’ account, then wait.
Secondly just labelling it business trip will not suffice, have you made same business trip to other locations before and what does ur business stand to gain from it being the UK?
The above two should be solved first before rushing into anything. goodluck

Good evening house..
Please can someone put me through on how to go about applying for a visiting visa?
I do importation business from the UK,I have someone that goes to the company to buy it for me and send for me but most times the person is always busy and it's been a challenge...

I have a limited company with a corporate account that I want to use and apply for visa..I also have a private account that I have been using even before I opened my corporate account...
I do pay 250,000 from my corporate account to my saving account every month while I leave large amount in my corporate account..sometimes there will be nothing left in both accounts when ever I order for goods that means I wouldn't have the 250,000 to pay into my private account....
Will that affect my statement of account when I want to print it?I was also thinking I should pay 500,000 into my private account for the 2 months that I missed?

Again when I will be printing my statement of account I will have large amount in my private account and then not so large amount in my private account because by then I would have gathered all the money that I have and deposit it into my account...my story will be that I'm going to buy goods with the money.

I have some chats that I had with the person that buys goods for me last years where he asked me to start coming to the UK myself to buy the goods since he is always busy..I intend to print and present it to them..I also have some pictures of my goods that I also intend to print and present...I have a landed property that I also want to present..

My story is that I'm going on a business trip and I will be glad if someone can put me through the documents I need to present to them..thanks.

Oh ok..thanks so much.

beryour:
It depends on exactly your reason for travelling.

If you are going to visit family, then you will need invitation/cover letter from them. You will also not need to provide hotel proofs as they will need to show that they can accommodate you with documents.

If you are going for tourism, then you do not need any invitation whatsoever but need to prove all you can as regards accommodation and funds.

I thought invitation letter makes it easier..looks like it's the same with gotten reservation?

Newsolutions:
For Tourist Visa. It is advisable to use hotel booking for your application, you can always stay with anybody when you arrive. 2) The person might have issues with government (credit or child support issues) this you don't know and it will be used against you. I can help you with names of hotel if you tell me the location you are going to

Passes this your advice to someone else have I made momey so I can date a small boy that is broke so I can be giving him money..the small boy doesn't know how to give me money..oga don't worry..the mean reason I posted this is because of ikechukwu so stop talking about you are 36 like you wouldn't get to my age.do not bother about calling any body because if I was to date again I will start from the people that stop for me on the road..I do not date guys my age..younger or 2 years older and I have my reason..all you wrote makes no season to me.

tosinhtml:
Okay, pardon me but let's just do some analysis here.

If my assumption is correct, it seems you were already 35 before ikechukwu met you as you spent only 7 months dating him, so in your early years from 20 to 35 which is 15 years in total, you made other wrong decisions. ikechukwu whom you only spent 7 months with shouldn't be blamed too much. You can't dump 15 years of mistake on ikechukwu. Please swallow your pride & call that childhood friend of yours to check up on him, people link up with their exes all the time.

The reality is that If you are looking for a solution to an issue at the late hour, social media & churches can fool you but above 35 struggle to get partners they really want. I hope you have made some good money within the time you were single, It makes no sense if you are older, broke & lonely simultaneously.

If you are good looking & willing to date down, you will surely find a man at 36, Nigerians are struggling & you will surely find a good looking man albiet below your financial status, that's me assuming you are very financially stable.

Dating multiple men can work but you might end up being used by all of them, best time to do this was in your early 20s. They call it hoe phase, where you can date about 5 guys at the same time & no issues. Not at 36 where every one has moved past that behaviour.

Good day house..please should I get someone to send me an invitation letter from the UK.. someone that owns a company over there?
Incase I want to apply for a tourist visa what do I need for it.

Thanks but no..there is no altar fighting me..you are telling this to the wrong..na today we begin see pastors and churches.

Itistime1984:
U have huge foundational problems concerning marriage. There is an alter fighting you. Go to Omega fire ministries trust me I'm not a member but I believe on the Grace of God on that church concerning foundations. If u are in Benin then u are in luck because they are having all night every Friday for 3 months. Dem no dey force person but if u really need to get married u know what to do..I rest my case

Nice people are over hyped because you are not judging from what you said that you are high tempered and strong headed so you think people who are not strong headed are over hyped..stop being high tempered so they can also over hype you..I'm done with you

pocohantas:
I can’t remember judging you, I gave an illustration to someone else on why I think nice people are overhyped. If you chose to buy the market, best believe I won’t stop you.

No Nigerian men are seeing it,I only want to marry someone that I love..I said it that most people act like they are perfect but when you hear their own story you will know that you are even better..you are 40+ but you are here being judgemental.

pocohantas:
My life is not perfect, I always say it that I have a bad character and I too stubborn. I own it with my full chest . I also said it that I am a premium evening newspaper. I have never been one to pride myself as a virtuous or wife material. You are how old? 30+? I am over 40. So you are even learning work in singlehood. This is not a matter of perfection, it is just realism.

You are the most caring woman in the world and Nigerian men just can’t see this. Yeaaaaa, Men are scum…

kayperry:
Eeyah! seems like a perfect introduction for those yet to meet you a whole poco wrong ke world wil rather end aunty i know mfm hotlines

Madam my life is perfect just rest..only an ex can tell why they left and who told me the ones I wrote here?I told myself right?if you must know they all still speak to me..there is nowhere I will beg to go for me within their states that they wouldn't go..does it sound like I'm the one at fault or they are trying to please me so the fault they feel can stop?we need to see you in person and know how perfect your life is in real life not just acting like you have got everything going well for you on a faceless forum.

pocohantas:
No I am not wrong. My response to you was to pray for the spirit of discernment, you left that one and jumped on a post to another person. I guess that is how you care too much. Anyway, I stand by my post, but since you want to make that post about you, I will take out time to address one of your posts. I don’t know anyone that has been severely dumped because they are too caring. You mean, 1,2,3,4 all left you because you CARE TOO MUCH? Interesting

Who are these people telling you, you care too much? What exactly is care too much? Lol

So these people highlighting your good quality, care to share why none of them decided to step in and marry you? Why they haven’t introduced you to their male friends? Put in a good word for you?

Are they your EXes?

Only an EX can genuinely tell you why they picked someone else over you. Ask you EXes why they left you, there must be one thing that would be a constant and I am sure that thing wouldn’t be caring too much, at least not in a positive way.

Care too much? Pfffttt!

I honestly do not care if you ignore me. You are not the one fcking or doing giveaway for me.

Thanks.

pocohantas:
But then, if you are convinced you are awesome and it is the men with a problem, you just have to sit back and relax. Make peace with the fact that you are not the woman they want, just as many men didn’t scale through your own selection process too.

Someday you will meet the one that wants you and you want him too.

No thanks..I can't write all that he did here..

Steep:
@ op atleast there is a man showing interest, you a Christian? If you are, commit your worries into God's hands, tell him to reveal if this man will be good for you. Don't push him away!

Just accept that you are wrong and that you don't know it all..you will be ignored after this.

pocohantas:
And your username was there? Please make this clear to me.

This is your post I believe?

pocohantas:
I really can’t remember tagging you or your situation to that post. Your issues, your problem. I replied to someone else, not you.

Enjoy the rest of your day.

This explains me now right?I must have one of these things you mentioned or something similar..you people need to stop being judgemental,always trying to tell someone's life history when you haven't even met the person..at least you told her about her fault but in my case,what everyone around have been telling me is that I should stop caring so much..at least 7 people that are close to me have told me that..so you see that you don't know it all as you try to make it look..

pocohantas:
I’ll give you an illustration;

I had this colleague, very religious, supportive and emotional. She was dating this other colleague and every time they had issues- the unit bore the brunt. We couldn’t understand why the guy was taking time to wife such a beautiful thing.

Then one day she had to stay at my place. In her time with me, I was faced with the laziest and nastiest being I have ever come across. This lady would tie her used menstrual pads and keep them in a corner, waiting for when she had time to burn them. She doesn’t take off her makeup and wig until midnight when the other party is almost dozing off. Her cooking was nothing to write home about. If you even say make you do small pre-intimacy, you would be met with layers of girdle, very tight bra and thick undershorts. You can't differentiate between the clothes she has worn and the neat ones. I had to sit her down for a talk.

2) I have also met nice guys that had various flaws from hygiene, to pettiness, to inconsistency, stinginess… etc

No one passes on a good thing over and over. If multiple women and men keep leaving you to marry someone else, someone you have deluded yourself is even below you, then you might need to return to the drawing board. Every failed relationship or marriage is a call for self-reflection.

The bad thing about supposedly nice people is, they already believe they are one of the best out there. They think we are the ones that are privileged to have them. They think you can never find someone else like them. So they rarely change or restrategize, they just sit there, ever ready to tell you how people do not deserve/appreciate their kind.

Thanks love..I really appreciate.

cayorday89:
Seriously? At least she explained her reasons, and look at the long list of those who dissapointed her, that should make you show empathy and not complicating things by cursing her. Try and be human, if you have sisters, you will know some people are not to be trusted, my younger sister had to break up with a doctor who promised to and is processing their relocation, but she said no because of his philandering lifestyle, she prefers to have her peace of mind intact than money without it.
@Op, you are older and wiser, and I don't know how to advice you on this, as I know how it feels to not be able to cheat on a partner and having multiple dating partners is a no no for some people, I can only wish you the very best in this journey of finding a good partner.

Thanks dear..I appreciate.

Das1mama:
Op don't allow anyone change u from being good, Tough times and bad moments only comes to prepare us for the best. To every knowledge there's a power and to every power there's principles that guide it which is that knowledge..... Make your choice but be wise. Shalom

It's so disheartening.

Ishilove:
Some of them keep their brains inside cooler anytime they login to Nairaland

Why would I put age aside?I should move with a guy my age?no thanks.

Sammy101111:
Hmm you are right but what you said _ follow some one you love and not because he want to marry ( if that should be the case but you will have to put age aside And no ego or pride

First thing I look out for is someone's heart then other things follow..and it's actually hard for me to talk to a 38 years old man..I will follow someone I love not someone that wants to get married because if that is the case then everyone would be married by now.

Sammy101111:
Have you tried outside your spec zone
Have tried something different
In this life some people will love you but you wont love them back and some People you will love they wont love you back .Have you tried someone who gave you a green light toward is feelings and it was not your spec .
Don't date by looks or first appearance .
At less before you date a guy there should be some interval when he will ask you out
what was things you study about him before you say yes and you both start dating
and for now you are not getting young you are 30+ because i wont lie to you i notice woman 30+ self made or empowered they always have pride and ego and men will not wait they will run as time goes on
Am just sharing my idea with you

?@ sandra

You are still a child..I'm done with you.

toujurs:
at 36? . You still feel you look younger. Your village people are really on your matter, like a panel beater . You want bam bam na, nw you dey run tiki tiki and taka taka, you no fit drink water drop cup

All of a sudden this post is revolving around my age..I talked about someone I love disappearing without a word and some people are talking about my age..what age range do you think I date?my age?hiding behind keyboard and acting like your life is perfect..why would I marry someone your age in the first place..in real life I look 28 unless I tell you my age so please stop shouting some that is 36..it's a good thing to get old.

Karleb:
Shey if you be man, you fit marry 36 yr old aunty?

The guy gave a solid advice, if she sees anyone serious even if they don't tick all boxes, let her marry o! By the time she knacks 40 without an assurance, her age alone will repulse guys.

This one no be woman hating o!

Ignored

toujurs:
four years i meant wasn't about wishing her death, haba . Why will i wish her death . Four years i meant is when menopause would set in. .

What do you mean e don choke her?if you see me in person you will probably look older than me.please mind what you say..

toujurs:
Which man will tell a lady the truth, when most ladies don't like hearing the truth, why she is interested in the truth now, is because e dn choke her.

You that is saying this, if you see a pretty lady as in full option, and she dey enter your eyes, so you will go and tell her you just want to knack her .

Well it's not every guy I see that I would want to get married to..what if along the line you find out he is not someone you can marry how then will I pull out after telling him marry.

Sammy101111:
Sandra you are from imo state right
Now i want you to know understand this at your age now let your intentions be cleared to any man will to love you let him know if its not heading to marriage he should not propose to date and let him know you are not forcing him to date you just dont want time waster

He is talking like someone is about to die..

Michelle55:
What kinda negative energy is this?
When do you suddenly turn God to map out her life like that?
Kindly keep mute if you've got nothing tangible to say!
PS: before you call me names, I acknowledge the fact that I'm 42, old and wrinkle already. Whatever you would say next wouldn't hold water!

Imagine..I didn't find his comment funny at all.

Michelle55:
What kinda negative energy is this?
When do you suddenly turn God to map out her life like that?
Kindly keep mute if you've got nothing tangible to say!
PS: before you call me names, I acknowledge the fact that I'm 42, old and wrinkle already. Whatever you would say next wouldn't hold water!

I don't understand what you mean by it's remaining 4 years for me to give up..give up how?that any guy that comes I should accept him..did you not see where I said there is someone that is asking me to accept him back so we can get married after he messed up?why should I accept any man that I don't like because of marriage?I will rather have kids than to accept any guy because of marriage.

toujurs:
My dear you are right on that bad character side oh, Any lady i see still single at 32 and doesn't even have a boyfriend, i see them as disrespectful ladies with bad characters, as a reason for them being single at such old age.

On the part on about being faithfull, i agree with you, you can't put all your eggs in one basket, that other guy that is telling you he likes you, keep me at a side. I said keep oh, i didn't say you should be knacking him. While you stay with the main guy. Incase main guy mess up. Even in business you can't invest all your money in one business na, Most of you ladies are smart, it's good to be faithfull and loyal. But human will always be humans. Madam ehn at 36yrs. Any guy that comes and his serious, just accept the person. It's just four years remaining for your time to give up. Or you inject a sperm and take care of your child, if you are lucky you will give birth to a boy

Thanks dear..really appreciate

Michelle55:
I'm deeply sorry sweetie for the hurt you're going through, you will be fine okay.
Don't think it and give yourself time to heal, age is just a number, and never put pressure on yourself because of that after all, dem no dey catch late comer for marriage.

Exactly..

Iyaebe:
Yes,six months is enough time to make concrete moves if you are dating a matured man who knows what he wants and not some amateur men that are still testing the strength of their manhood and how many rounds they can go on a woman.Bottom line is be with a man who is ready and willing to settle down and not some game boy.