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Hmmmm...
My mental health.. I've started ignoring and avoiding most of the people that stress me out with annoying questions and billing.. I'm working towards moving out of the family house to my personal space..

iLegendd:
2. Money can drain your emotions if you lack it or if you have it, but people are always bringing their financial problems for you to solve because you have money. At a point, the money won't be enough, but you're carrying lots of people's financial problems on your shoulder.

What I do to protect myself from this baggage is by not doing a 9-5 job to avoid being seen as a working class on suit, but working from home without them knowing what I do at home.

Since I work from home and with my computer, they think I'm broke and jobless and when they notice I have money, they suspect it's fraud or ritual, so they become scared and stay away from me to avoid being used for ritual.

Also, I don't flaunt money or possessions in real life — I stay on low key and invest my money for me, myself, and my family.

Whatever is left, I give to charity without being asked. I hate being asked. This way, I have protected myself and my emotions from being financially drained by opportunists.

One more thing, being financially drained could also be by not having money at all. This leads to depression and this is why I don't just work hard, but smart too when others are sleeping. I don't want to ever be broke, so I need to put in the work whether I like it or not when others are having fun or sleeping.

Typing...

I love this pattern

ImoleNaija:
Smile... I would like to have a good report though.

Hopefully

ImoleNaija:
It's really a relief knowing that.

I hope you now go to work early

Lol.. Let's see how tomorrow is going to be

ImoleNaija:
Going through the comments, I think a chaste lifestyle is still worth it. I won't give up.

E be like say we still have people who haven't lost their values & dignity.

Lol... Yes o

osazsky:
oga grow up.there are no virgins in Nigeria again.the last one was last seen in1989 dipper life conference held at ojota..u don forget.the earlier u know this the better for you.dont waste your time on this fruitless adventure

That's not true..

Despite all these awareness , I'm really amazed that we still have so many persons with SS around..
I personally know of a young couple, husband is a banker while the wife is a lawyer, both AS. Now they have 3kids, 2 with SS and one AS.. They keep visiting the hospital from time to time and it pains me so much..
Why allow such trauma on oneself despite being enlightened

avrilwisedata:
Don't mind him. Giving excuses upandan.. He's not ready and he's lackadaisical about ensuring he's punctual.

Ehen, so you think I leave home late and already have the mindset to blame it on Lagos traffic abi.. Well, it happens sometimes..

Nyenatetan:
Cooking,

Making your breakfast by yourself, in the morning, could be among the causes of the lateness,

Always try to have your breakfast prepared, at least half way, before you go to bed, you'll only put up in fire once when you're awake and in just 5min, guess what you've reduced time,


Workouts

Do you carryout any workouts on daily basis, you can minimise the time spent for that. Maybe if you always did , highest level, you bring it down to medium.

Trends


Don't operate your ohine in the morning, until when you're settled down at work., you can check it out fr messages or missed calls, but do not operate more that replying messages

Good luck, and pray -telling God your intentions- not unnecessarily long devotions at a time it's less required to do so.


Gand luck

Funny enough, I neither cook nor workout in the mornings when I'm on duty.. Even one day while I was still working at Ikoyi, I visited a friend at Ijede. I was to resume work by 2pm and I left the place at 11am, took speed boat to sandfill.. Till date I don't even understand what happened that day, we were just moving around in the water for such a long time and when I thought we had finally gotten to sandfill, we were back to where they picked us, they said something about not seeing clearly. A supposed 15mins trip o turned to over 1hr. We sha moved again, got to one other place, I can't remember now but still on the island and then there was now one strange traffic gridlock to ikoyi.. Got to work at past 4pm that day.. No be juju be that..

elohim24:
You're not alone, I am a perpetual late comer, I get to work late, I get to church late , I get to all my appointment late... the thing tire me no be small. I have never gotten to work before 10am ... I just can't seems to leave home early. Funny thing is that I can wake up very early and change my mind about going out for the day. I'm also late to airport but because naija airline no dey keep to time I never miss my flight before. Abeg pm me when you find solution

Lol, I don hear.. The few times I had to be at the airport sef, my brothers are always helpful.. One time, my brother went to drop me at the airport at about 2pm for a flight scheduled to take off at 11pm, I felt so restless that day en

Kennytowel:
Get an apartment that's close to your workplace.
Even if it's a self contain. Maybe a walkable distance, preferably.

Or better still prepare a night before. Pick out outfits,prepare documents and all items your taking along.
Prepare your shoe down,arrange money your taking along.
Infact bath and brush just before bed.
Do you prepare breakfast? If you do (try to make something that is less time consuming (cereal or bread and tea)
If you say you wake up early, reset your alarm like 40mins backwards.

In other words wake up rinse your face and mouth, put on outfits, carry all the necessary items , wear shoe and dash out.
Come back and tell me how it goes on Monday.

Then if your still late......ermmmm.....seek advice from your pastor

Hmmm.. I don't even eat before I leave home.. I just pick my food from the freezer already kept the night before and take to work and then microwave it when I'm ready..
As regards getting an apartment, I'm working towards that already before Lagos stress will ruin me..
Thank you for the advice..

GonzalezAguero:
Haven't you heard that most nairalanders don't have a good sense of humor??they take everything in the wrong way.. imagine one clown calling you a lesbian...
You posted that stuff for fun..tho it might sound offensive but it's all cool since you ain't insulting or shaming anyone.. enjoy yourself and your job..

As in en, when I first started seeing the comments, I was surprised at the way people took it.. I even had culture shock.. Lol
People mind dey go far sha.. Tufia#

Datboredberry:
I was referring to the people being rude to you... I was actually defending you...

I'll let the insults slide...

I'm sorry, I didn't understand, please pardon me.. I was already pissed with some of the previous comments.. No vex abeg..

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hawksford:
Lol...

For you to have to bring it to a social forum means you really must be bothered

If you don't mind me asking...

Asides being a perpetual latecomer, do you also consider yourself a very disorganised person?

Do you get to do so many things you're not supposed to do (like unnecessary stuff) before setting out or you just kinda spend so much time on the activities you're supposed to do?

These questions are a good place to start

Cc : Sophiatheninth

Yeah.. I'm sometimes disorganized.. I scatter and rearrange alot..

Kayczz:
Tell the HR department to start deducting heavily from your salary whenever u come late.
I think this will help

Lol.. You're mean. I'm a likeable person, my HR won't do it

uuzba:
You're being vague.
What do you mean by very early? What time is very early?
In ideal conditions, it take me 45 minutes to get to work.
When lagos traffic sets in, it take 2 hrs.
Bad traffic, 3hrs.
Bad traffic starts from 5:15am.
So i get up very early AT 4AM, leave the house, be at the bus stop by 4:45am
and leave immediately or latest 5am.
5am + 45mins + bus conductor looking for passengers, I get to work 6:00am-6:30.
Work starts at 7:30am.
So I get up early and arrive at work early.

My area is not that safe, I can't leave home before 6am

caesymore:
You fit try my pattern, during evaluation at my work place they rated me highest for time management ranging from coming to work in time and finishing my bills before deadline.
I sleep latest 1 am, my alarm wakes me at 6am I snooze my alarm and it repeats every 10mins, I snooze till I leave the house ,I say the lords prayer drink a class of water from my fridge go to the toilet throw some shots while I roll my AZ after every in the toilet, I then commence my morning workout, each set of exercise will be accompanied by maybe dishing out my breakfast which is mostly garri and soup as I don't eat till I come back from work , the soup goes to the microwave. I continue my workout everything goes from 6 to 7 once its 7 I boil water for Garri and turn on the microwave eating and every goes till around 7:22 then to the bathroom I go brushing, bathing and listing to good music remember I'm still snoozing my alarm once its 7:40 I don push I mostly easily get a bike of N100 to work I get to work 5mins earlier or more everyday but never after 8am.

Though I'm fortunate to be leaving not really far from work, I pay more than some colleagues that live afar and paying less for rent then more on TP

Hmmmm... You can't say same for someone living around Ikotun and working at Surulere

Kuriosmynd:
picture of the bumbums so we can pick one

Just imagine it ..

MeghaneMorgane:
Try to tag along with someone who goes your route and is going early. That way you will have no choice than to be on time.

I remember when I was working in VI and my sister was doing her internship in Ikeja. We used the same car to go to work from Festac side. But the car will first drop me at VI since mine was a proper job and then drop my sister at Ikeja. My sister hated going late to work. So at 5am she will wake up and have her bath. Then she will wake me up (because I warned her not to wake me up until she has had her bath). Around 5:20am she would have had her bath then she will wake me up. Then she will go and make food for the both of us to take to work. Immediately she is done with the food, she expects that I should be ready which is normally the case (because she will shout at me if I’m not ready)

At 6am, the driver was already waiting for us. At 7:15am thereabout, I’m at work. Before 8:15am she is at work too. Everyone is happy.

The day I make my sister go late to work, the following day, she will not cook food for me and that thing used to pain me . By the way, the sister in question is my younger sister.

Wow! That was really nice of her..

Zeel007:
This your own no be ordinary true true...

A colleague even told me one day that even if my workplace were to be the building next to my house, I would still get there late..

NA UNA SABI O.
What you guys think of me is your own intellectual property and really none of my business..
I come to nairaland to entertain myself in whatever way I want..

I dislike both but if it is a serious issue, I would rather go for tabs..
If you tell me I must give you injection, I would just withdraw water for injection and administer to you or give you injection vit B complex for peace to reign ...

And I'm here still in shock that one of our dogs consumed a whole live hen meant for thanksgiving and what we saw was just feathers.. I've been avoiding the dog since the incident, make e no con chop me join..

We had 7 covid cases at my workplace yesterday..

Oh my! God, please let the needed help come o.. Chai! Not again

Ayo081:
There's nothing spiritual here, it just an habit. A bad one.

I'm sure you won't be late.

Here's another trick I do use; I observed I wouldn't want to miss a staff bus, then why should I be late to a bible class.

Think of an event you wouldn't want to be late to (like an exam or job interview), treat everyday like an exam day. Then Mae it an habit.

Lol.. Don't even add job interviews, I also get there late.. I'll just give an excuse once they ask me why I'm late.. It's been like that bro.

Hmmm.. Thanks for the advice.. But like I said earlier, even when I wake up very early, I still get to work late.. There seem to be a spirit behind it, doesn't look ordinary to me anymore

I have worked in several establishment and one common thing colleagues can say about me wherever is that "I get to work late".. I feel bad about this though and I've done my best to stop but it ain't working.
Even when I try to leave home early, something must sha happen that will make me get to work late.
I'm beginning to think it's not ordinary. What should I do?

Ayo081:
Be consistent

May wisdom never elude you..

Ayo081:
Be consistent

Lol.. Yes o

Make I begin try my luck.. Hopefully, it'll end well too