₦airaland Forum

You are just fine
You are very empathic and that is a very endearing and beautiful quality

The ability to put yourself in other’s shoes.
You are not just a man. You are a gem.

Lol looks like dem don jazz you

Good. Add photos

Lalasticlala

I’ll take the money

pDudd:
First tip: Leave that your native brain in Nigeria.

If you're the kind of man that will sit on the sofa and be watching UEFA champions league and be telling a woman that she should go and cook, serve you, bring you water to drink and wash hand, you are in for a rude shock. Nigerian women in US have opened eye now o. They are not going to serve you like master and servant while your stretch your legs on sofa and be watching football.

If your mother did that for your father, please go and marry your mother so she too can come and be serving you like a king. Nigerian women ain't doing that for you.

Before you leave Nigeria, better learn how to cook, clean house, do laundry, go to buy groceries, take care of kids, and learn humility.

Learning humility is of utmost importance because the day you step your feet into America, you are now second to every woman. The American society favors women over men. They placea lot of value over men. So if you didn't respect women in Nigeria, you may need to reconsider that stance. And if you can't see yourself having a woman above you or respecting women, then better stay in Nigeria.



Next tip: All you old men that have spent 20 years following Akata and are now looking for unmarriedd younger girls in Nigeria who you want to turn into RNs and use her as your ATM, believing that she is a "good girl" and that she will be a good obedient wife, who will be at your beck and call.

You guys are looking for to go to an early grave and lose everything you have worked for since the 20 years you've been in Yankee. I implore you, please stop doing that nonsense.

There is nothing like a humble Nigerian girl. The ones that appear humble are just broke. The day money enters her hand is the day you will know her true colors. Now in US, you will find an elderly guy in his late 40s or 50s. They came to US in their 20s and hustled Akata for paper, and thereafter became legal. Instead of going to school, gain an education, and improve their standard of living, they take up security guard jobs, CNA jobs, and taxi driver jobs. They spend gruelling years doing these low paying jobs and saving pennies to eventually go to Nigeria and do big wedding and marry a small naive village girl, thinking that they are investing in her so that she will yield fruits and serve him in his old age.

Notice that Nigerian men are always looking for women to serve them cheesy

Well, these small naive girls come to US, go to nursing school, become LVNs or RNs. They then begin to make lots of money and they will begin to open eye grin

Lefulefu come and back me up here.


Those small, naive, village girls suddenly begin making about $3500 or more every 2 weeks. Back in Nigeria, they weren't even making 3500 naira every month. This kind of money blows their minds and they don't even know how to spend it anymore. The man who is her husband and invested in her now wants to control the money and keep her in a subservient position.

At that point in time, that is when the girls father in the village knows that he wants to receive chieftaincy title. Also that is the time the mother knows that she wants to become Lolo of NdiOhia. . That is also when the girls brother wants to open spare parts shop in Alaba. That is the time when the girls sister wants to get married. The entire family of the girl begins to pester her for money. Also at this same time, the girls husband wants to start to build block of flats in Nnewi. Also he feels that he is old enough to receive chieftaincy title in his village as well. All these things costs lots of money.

The pressure on the poor girls starts mounting. She has one or two kids at this point but she starts to work extra hours and overtime at work. Putting in a lot of exhausting energy into trying to fulfil the dreams of everyone. Instead of the husband to understand, he is not sympathetic to her. After all she is his investment and she better yield fruits. She begins to burn out slowly but surely. She needs support at home but the husband expects her to work for 12 to 13 hours, come home, prepare eba and ogbono soup for him, take care of the kids, and then open toto for him to Bleep cheesy. Tomorrow again it is back to the same routine up to 7 days a week.

One day all the pressure gets too much and then the bubble pops. The woman, under intense financial pressure from her extended family coupled with her unsupportive husband and work-family life, crumbles under it all. And what usually kicks it off? Money of course. Or the lack thereof.

The man, wanting to control the finances of the woman, starts a quarrel about how much he invested to bring her to America. Because of all the stress upon the woman and women being very emotional creatures, she snaps. She insults the husband with the greatest insult of his life. She neglects all he has done and acts on emotion. The man too, unable to stomach the insult, verbally and physically attacks the woman.

Now it always ends in 2 ways. If the woman is still alive after the physical attack, she calls the police and they arrest him for domestic violence. She files a restraining order against him and he cannot return back to the house he bought and the home he built.

The second way it ends is that the man attacks his wife and kills her with his security guard job service pistol or he strangles or stabs her to death with a kitchen knife.

In both cases, the police arrive and arrest the man. And then the family breaks up and most times can not be rebuilt anymore. It becomes a broken home with shatters dreams.

Nothing but the truth!

Build a house for rent
Use 2-3m to trade stocks (learn by yourself)
Diversify your income, maybe have a business

Tbh just do what you love while only thinking of how to make more money.

ityP:
Lmao. Are you really a lady? Cos if you are, you should know how these things work. Showing him her chats with the guy isn't honesty for all i know. Shebi you know say person fit dey delete certain chats abi? See eh, any babe wey dey show you her chats with a particular guy (worse still her ex), just wants you to trust her so much. So, it's easier for the guy to suspect nothing when she eventually starts to cheat on him. No be today this one start na.

I beg to differ

Samrocker:
I met her in my 100L days... But she said she got a boyfriend in Lag. But she made it known to me how really bad her boyfriend is treating her.
She is very loyal type of girl that she told me she can't cheat on her boyfriend despite all my trial and effort to win her heart to me!

Fast forward to 100L second semester, she called me on phone and asked if I was around that she has something to tell me. She came to me sobbing really bad and crying. She explained to me her boyfriend called her on phone and asked for a breakup.

I felt sorry for her because she narrated how she was dis-virgin by the guy.

So she slept over that night ... And eventually we started dating......

It's been over a year we have been dating now... She is so sweet and loyal ...

Not until she called me last month, her ex came with his new car to see her at home.

I was very surprised about this... But she said nothing attached, he just came to apologise...

But after few days... Her ex began to chat her up on insta... And promising her heaven and Earth that she should give her another chance....

She screenshoted everything to me herself.....


Plz I deeply need advice... What should I do to keep this girl from going back to her ex... Cuz her ex is financially okay than me....�...


Am afraid... Plz what should I do guys?

She showed you the shots herself.
She’s as honest as Bleep mahn.
You’re lucky

Her loss.

Someone will find you worthy
Just be worthy

Another thread meant to degrade women!

Nigerian men and crap!!

sistaj:
I only replied OK ma, yet u deemed it needful to post another reply to seemingly buttress ur weak argument. A life u have not lived and I would go on to say know nothing about. The way you sound so omniscient. I doubt ur type can even hold an argument in real life. Keyboard smart-asses. I hope u really stop arguing as u said but I doubt you will. I will be pleasantly surprised though. Even if the said person I referred to is my humble self, u will still call me a liar. I hope u have an open mind in future. Smh

Lol it’s impossible joor
If it’s you maybe I would believe you
Whether I stop or not definitely not your business.
No need for insults and grammar biko

Uglyaddy:
Very wrong @ bolded.
Some people earn as much as $25/HR.

Maybe it depends on provinces then or years of experience. I don’t think a student would have that much experience

sistaj:
OK Ma.

Except she studied for years as a part-time it really is impossible.

Psw rarely even earn 15$ an hour.
I’ll stop commenting here.
No more arguments.

CutieKing:
But why are people claiming audio income on this thread ??.
someone who makes 5k after tax has an average gross of around 8k.you pay federal tax,state tax,social security, Medicare, union due,retirement and host of others depending on your circumstances.
Besides why is everyone talking about overtime as if its statutory obligations?.does every job requires overtime?.
People should be able to tell themselves the truth somehow and stop this fantasy.
Besides is community support work a professional job??.I doubt.

It is not a professional job perhaps and who gives a rat’s a** on what a professional job is and whatnot.
Audio income?Lol you must be joking..

Professional professional that is how you guys end up earning nothing..cos you wan answer professional
Is trade a professional job? Yet they make good money.
Say what you know jeez.. cos you dey oversea no mean say you sabi everything.

To be very honest this argument don taya me
Everything WAS A LIE!
Ka mmadu nuo mmiri togboro iko..biko

atutupoyoyo2211:
For clarification, you are right, cos i applied for student loan in 2019 and i was given a very little amount and no grant because of how much i made in 2018. Now i said my sister had the money sitting in her account, i didn't say she made it all in a year. My sister worked as a personal support worker for 2 years before applying for a nursing degree. She worked part time while pursing her nursing degree and she just completed her RN qualification exam in February this year. the money she has was not made as nurse but was saved up from the time she was a PSW. Specifically, she didn't save much in 2016, but according to her, she saved 40k in 2017, 22k in 2018 and 18k in 2019. And trust me, as a nurse, she will make much more.

This however, is very possible.
Saving 40,22 and 16k in 3years

CutieKing:
Someone making over 100k annually still qualifies for a student loans??.
Oga,is there something you are not telling us because this is sounding like a fairytale to me o.

I don’t think someone making that much will qualify for student loan in CANADA

sistaj:
I 100% agree with the OP's claims on his income and that of his sister who saved said sum working as a PSW because I can personally relate. I know someone who saved more than said sum after taxes while studying and paid fees of about 30k for a period of 20 months. It is simply about the hours you put in. You have to put in very long hours and work different jobs. It can be tiring and not the lifestyle one would want for the long term but some people actually love it and don't mind accumulating the $$. I know someone who has two homes. One fully paid for now and the second a rental property still being paid for who has made a career as a psw. I cringe at the the statements calling him out as a liar which is taking things too far. How can anyone be so sure of something they have not experienced? I don't think the op has anything to gain by lying to impress strangers. He is only trying to motivate people by sharing his personal experiences. I have been putting off reacting to the naysayers for a lonnggg time but I just have to say this now.

Someone who saved 100k while studying full-time? Even part-time, PSW?
Okay that’s IMPOSSIBLE!

atutupoyoyo2211:
My guy, live to work for 5 years and work to live for life.

Goal!!!!

atutupoyoyo2211:
By the way my goal is to save CAD15k after taxes by 10th of July 2020, which is 3 months from now . Lets see if that will happen or maybe i may get close. If anything changes in my situation, i will also let the house know.

You are doing great.
You inspire me no be lie
Stay safe regardless!!

Comzzy:
My guy, I will suggest u forget msc and business for now. I will give u some list of professional trainings for you to go into n you will make times two of that ur full capital in a year after getting a job with it.
Masters don baff??

I am interested. Can you give me a list of training I can take in 6months to 8months even IT

Please!

kokoz:
You are absolutely right bro...
Am writing from Canada....a lot of persons here have nothing....especially thr ones that have spent eternity here....they are most times stuck in dept....
The guy with 8 million....he should apply for a masters degree in Australia, that will be a perfect path to get his PR...a good job and maybe further for his PhD if need be...
With time...you start raking in millions

You sure say nah Canada you dey..
Most people I know here are doing very well for themselves..
Australia also have credit system.. what is to say that someone in debt in Canada won’t be in debt in Australia

Olofin2:
Our first child is 3 months old. Wife had the child through CS. During pregnancy, she stopped intercourse at 7 months. After her delivery, she agreed to sex twice recently after what looks like begging.

I'm planning to stop asking her for sex forever. I'm a playful somebody and she tries to avoid me playing with her.

Is it the childbirth that caused this?

How have you been doing as a husband?

ElasticStone:
Recently, I got a job with an oil company....of which my girlfriend of 7 months does not know of, even though I will start documentation next month. In her mind, she still thinks I work with Npower.

The thing is, I asked her if she will marry me and she said YESSS. This girl is fvcken pretty. I mean very pretty and she sings. She is currently in her penultimate year and I think am convinced she likes me for real. Isn't God wonderful?

Blessing blessing all the way..

kiddkash:
go to a pharmacy and ask the pharmacist for medicine to cure Parkinson disease

Nairaland I taya..

Parkinson do tor

Thank you tor sharing op

All the best to you

Deltayankeeboi:
Mumu talk.

Akuko na egwu

Nelsen08:
Average Nigerian ladies are dunce.
Pussy is only what they have to offer in a relationship. and the married one; all the have to offer the man is to eat, Bleep, sleep and wake up and produce baby.
Tueh

Average Nigerian men are paupers

Happyguy201:
You called him c Ronaldo abi

No be human being wey you be him be?

Bizibi:
hehehehe,but the same lady bought him the latest model of Mercedes benz g wagon as a birthday gift and you think the girl is from a poor home. Nor be only monthly allowance....

Date rich girls then nah by force to date poor woman?!

Toks2008:
In other words, Your Psy is for sale.

In other words, relationship should be transactional?
Calculating all penny spent
Abeggi!

Advices like this only comes from paupers

CRonaldo gives his girlfriend monthly allowance more than any of you have ever given anyone yet we no go hear word