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Trialblazer07:
There is this babe that I dated in school before, we parted cux of no sex but over the years I have found myself begging her for a relationship again.

I have blocked, tried as much as possible to forget about her before you know tomorrow I will start talking about relationship with her again.

Just recently late hour in the night she asked me of my village and place, I told her and asked her why asking, she said nothing.

I don't know what to do as I want to forget her totally since from the look of things it won't work

Stupid. Disgusting simp.
Retar-ded fool.
Continue lowering your self esteem. Idiot.
And this fool will also call himself a man?
You should just die.

LocalStandard1:
I once jumped out of a moving car to go and meet a dark skinned girl, I bruised my feet and almost dislocated my legs.

She was the darkest girl I've ever seen, her smile was glowy cos her teeth were white and shiny so they radiate through her mouth, and she smiled a lot. She is young and of average height, couldn't get my eyes off her and regretted not approaching initially so I did the unthinkable.

When I went back I didn't see her again so I ended up walking halfway home cos of tfare shortage, with a bruised leg and damaged sippers.

Maybe it's because of were I am from but as black as I myself am, I find black women to be more attractive, more intelligent, more homely and respectful, haven't dated in years and still can't get my eyes off them, especially the smiling and greeting ones. Haaaaaaa.... lovelies they are.

Disgusting simp. Shame on you and your whole family.
Senseless human. Dirty bastard.
Bloody simp.

Women are mostly narcissistic, self-serving and devilishly manipulative.

They always want to be the victims.
Women want the accountability of a child.

That is why every man must be very wary and calculated in his dealings with a woman.

yanabasee:
Lol ..


You think men are sex-starved?

Literally, men just want to knack any stray woman... If you fall mugu, men will d!ck you... Sometimes to make scores, Sometimes to feel themselves...

You know that women are easily deceived...

While I was a student, we had a talk on the hostel on the cheapest thing a man had used to knack a woman...

Guys came up with sexy boxers, beards, iphones, being intelligent, sweet voice, how they walk and even pestering a woman... even telling her you want to knack her... A guy said he lied to a woman he was a virgin and she gave in....

The guy you quoted is correct Oga. Most men lack basic sexual self control and will willingly make a fool of themselves to girls at a at given instance.

daharry:
So after posting this Reno's nugget I got a shocking reply from a friend I'm trying to unplug..
guys would always learn the hard way, atleast I learnt the hardway.

Some guys are just so incredibly stupid.
The fool will learn the hard way.
Personally, I try to dissociate with guys who express these kind of mindsets.

Your last reply to him is as true asf.
Back in 2016, I was once a victim of this, sending money to girl wey get like two times my acct balance.
Never again.

Slimslimqq:
Lets be careful of those we intend to help. not all who ask for help needs help.

I am still a struggling young guy, but the little I make I share with those who doesn't have at all. that's my nature, and also I know what it is to be broke.

Last month, I came across a Lady's post on Facebook, that she needed 1k to survive for the weekend. I went through her profile and I noticed she's real.

Though, I was also broke, but I had 1600 in my account, so I reached out to her and sent her 1k as she requested.

she later chatted me up and sent her number to call and also appreciate my gesture.

we talked a lot and I got to know she lives in Benin city alone and sometimes spend days with her boyfriend who happens to be a fulltime broke yahoo boy.

I talked to her about the risk of living with someone who doesn't have a job and rather be involved in yahoo, and also I gave her samples of how desperate yahoo boys use their girls for ritual, but she defended him that he's not that type.

along the line, I learnt she had a skill, fashion design.

I discussed why she hasn't been using her skill to help herself grow, but she complained lack of funds to get a sewing machine and also that people don't sew clothes in Lagos

I told her about Lagos, and she seems interested. in fact, I told her my mom has a sewing machine that she doesn't use frequently, that I will discuss with her to release it.

she was happy, but said she doesn't know anyone to accommodate her in lag, but she has a friend who's married but not sure if she can accommodate her.

then I promised to help discuss with my mom and fiancee so that we can help her with accommodation and the sewing machine, and she seems glad about it.

I discussed with my mom and fiancee about it, and they agreed I bring her. my mom showed special interest in helping her in a little way she can afford when she heard her story.

I told her the latest development, then she asked when would come, I told her that anytime she likes, then she told me she doesn't have enough money for transportation to lag. she has only 2k while tfare would cost 5k, I promised to help her with 3k the following week, not that I have it, but I had faith I will get it for her.

Then two days after, she messaged me that she would be coming on Saturday(today) because she owes a lot of debt and they are threatening to embarrass her on sunday(tomorrow). I should help her send the 3k so she can start coming.

I struggled and fasted just to help her raise the 3k, so that she can start coming.
I also noticed my mom about the development.

ulcer almost killed me because i made sure I help her send the money yesterday evening, I didn't any healthy food because of the savings.

this morning, I sent her a message to know if she has started coming and she replied yes, that she's in the bus. few hours later, I didn't hear from her, I sent her another message to know where she has reached, but she read and didnt reply me.

meanwhile my mom was already worrying me about her situation. so I collected my mom phone to call her, to my greatest surprise was hearing loud music and noise in the background, immediately she heard my voice she cut and blocked my moms number and mine.

Before u bash me, know that she isn't the first I tried to help, some nairalanders can attest to this, because I am accommodating, both male and female. I took after my late father. because I believe God rewards those who have good heart.

I am not pained because she scammed me of the money I suffered for just to please and help her. if she had ask, I would have given her, but because she played and fooled me and including my mom, I am pained. that I don't think that will stop me from helping anyone else In future.

Modified: I have removed her pictures, and info. but this thread has made me realize I am more human than 70% of some guys on nairaland, because I had no bad intention towards her but some guys are here staying all sort of thrash because of their silly mentality.

Stupid disgusting dirty simp.
How many of your fellow men have you helped?
I hope you die.

A completely finished man.
This is what happens when simps let women break them down, basically manipulating every strand of their thinking faculty.

How low can a man go as to not realise he is being taken for a fool?
Probably in your yesteryears, you were denigrating Redpillers and joining forces with women to call them names. Now the chicken has come home to roost.

Weak men like you deserve no sympathy.
You disgust me.

Stupid, rigged poll.
Thunder fire you seun. Thunder fire you lalasticlala.
Shameless, tribalistic bigots.
Stupid animals.
Now that you have rigged the poll, are you happy?
Bastards

zyzywizzy:
I swear to God! That really hurt me so much! Then I had locked up on her.. I just need to ask if I had made the right decision

Disgusting simp.
I'm sure if she so much as flashes your line, you'll call her back like 7 times in a row.
How low can you go?
The fact that you're seeking advice for what was an evident reasonable action means you're not yet over your blue-pilled mindset.

What's more? You'll still simp for the next girl you meet. So much so that she'll also take you for granted, just like this one did.

Alaye swallow the Redpill and save yourself.

I just hope you don't learn the hard way.

Pussy whipped, irritating simp.

zyzywizzy:
Good morning guys!
This will b my first time bringing a topic here, I been having issue with my GF recently! I have been doing so much for her, she’s a fashionista and also a sales girl, her father ain’t responsible, he left their mother, her, including her younger kid! I been doing d little I can, am just in my Final year and I had make little for my self! Investing in crypto! I do support her so much! I gave her weekly up keeping for her to keep supporting herself at work and her fam! I even got a a tailoring machine and some other things, But this days when crypto is down! I couldn’t do much then I notice the chances, no morning text nor calls I didn’t take that serious!
Until last week she discussed getting a new phone, and I was like WTF, don’t u know what I have been going through? I said when d BTC pumps I will assist u in changing that, she said Okay! She’s to visit me in ilorin, d next few days I asked her about her coming over! The next thing she said will I buy her d phone when she comes then I change it totally for her! I told her didn’t u remember when things are going fyn for me! I do alot to help u, why are u now pressuring me now.. that b*tch was telling me to go bring my STATEMENT of ACC, then I gave up totally on her! For her to utter such! I’m done helping her and it’s been 6 days ago we’ve talked last, no apologies text from her then I give her a distance, I had make millions not less than 7M in my crypto! I can sponsor her education, but no I won’t do that, imaging I have sponsored her school already! This is how I will be treated! What have I done for her?
Pls advice me guys!!
Just 2 years relationship

You're such a profoundly stupid human.
How senseless can you be to label her father irresponsible?
Are you so daft and unthinking that you'll label your fellow man with such tag even when you do not know the circumstances?

I have no advice to give to such a miserable simp like you.
Submit your statement of account to her and make sure you rob the nearest bank to you, so you can get her the latest iPhone.

Incredible fool.

Peter Obi is all we want.

golddust6000:
am here for advice, so u know fit open shop for your wife?

You came here for advice but you have been arguing against the mainstream advice been giving to you.
Staying abroad and marrying a Nigerian girl living in Nigeria is a very bad decision, with almost certainty of ending in disaster. Besides that opening a shop for her is another foolish decision, more so in her name.

A completely finished man.
I'm certain you'll learn the hard way.
Continue.

irunoko:
you wish

Misery loves company unfortunately I cannot be part of that company no matter how bad you want me there

Go and lick your wounds alone illiterate poverty stricken looser

Okay. Evening newspaper.

irunoko:
yes o gutter Boy

I really see you want to get messy so bad and of course I will indulge you

Every woman has dry vagina after a certain age virgin or not

I know you weren't taught that in school and you want me to teach you that but that's not a problem I can afford to enlighten the broke and frustrated loosers for free that's my own way of giving back to victims of Buhari by the way you strike me as number 2 on the list so I understand clearly why you're having a heart attack for toke mankinwa

Oro na dun,otinke



Ewwww. show some respect for your mom.stop talking about the nasty grey fluid coming out of her VJ.i know you like nastiness and you crave for people to go in the mud with you but have some self respect for where you came out from

Just tell me how much your mom wants so I can give you some of my wrist chains so you can sell it and take care of yourself and your mama.

Toke accept that you're an expired, miserable evening newspaper.
But don't cry too hard okay?
It shall be well with your damaged soul.

MALIGNANTGuest:
U never see the one wey both couples dey mad?

Majorly single mothers.
That's why single mothers are bad market. Damaged women only good for pumping and dumping.

6pack:
This is pure description of what I am doing now. A big fool. All these and even more is what I will say if someone had posted this and I am to respond or give advice. Dude I talk to people about not being simps teach them the redpill shit . Make them know that no girl is worth their time etc but here u am defying all what I teach , some times it is not as easy as it seems. I am one of those guys that have never been in love before, I just Bleep this girls and that's it. But this time everything changed. I can't even imagine is doing this. But somehow I know I am more after revenge that actually having her back. I still want to see how I can get her back, waste a handful of her years and send her out on our wedding day. This might not sound real but that is exactly what I will do if my plot twist works.

Just don't be a simp while at it.
Your utterances here show you have been simping. Go and simp no more.

skoskosko:
It depends on the circumstances that led to that status. Never take her word for it, it does not mean you are insecure;
1) Is the boyfriend/husband deceased? If so good to go, although With added expenses.
2) If he is alive, why did he not wife her;
a-: did she have to escape an abusive/immature relationship? If so, no problem.
b-: was she a promiscuous, abusive partner, that the man had to run for his sanity.

A true life story that happened last November. I and my flatmate live in diaspora. I got a call early November from a mutual friend if my flatmate is still with his babymama, I used the term, because although with complete tradition engagement/intro done, they were not yet officially married. She lives in his house with their child, has every good thing of life and runs his bussiness. Marriage is in the works and there is no case of abandonment because we visit Nigeria twice or in worse case once every year. Communication is good, FaceTime is almost nonstop. I confirmed in the affirmative and he went on to tell me how his woman has been passed around by virtually everyone he knows, unfortunately for her she did not know this guy knew us, so she was basically free around since it was a bit off their zone.

I broke the news to my flatmate, he vowed to catch her red handed, but I asked how? For the first time, he embarked on a trip home in November instead of December without her knowing he was on the way right until he walked into his home one evening. On entering his house, he went immediately for her phone , giving her zero opportunity to wipe clean. She was completely caught unawares. The contents were heartbreaking, the allegations confirmed and she had no choice to admit to it all. It became clear that what she does was wipe all traces of infidelity clean whenever he announces he was coming home. Most horrible is the fact that they were multiple. Although my guy foolishly lost his cool and beat her up and it ended at state CID, but was later settled. Today, that relationship is effectively ended, she is officially a single mum.

Now, tomorrow she will paint a pathetic story of how she left because he was abusive, while leaving out how she was sleeping with every thing that has a dick. And someone would want to form woke and just wife such a woman without sue deligence.

There is a reason she is single if the baby daddy is alive, find out why and do not take her words for it.

Lastly, I expect some people to try to rationalize her actions by asking why the hubby did not take her along. Please whoever will cheat will cheat, while you are even at home with her, what if the conditions were not favorable? Mind you, he visits once/twice a year, and it wasn’t about funds, she runs the family biz!

Nice one
Single mothers are bad market. End of story.

Sweetplum:
Marriage to single dad is dangerous according to your school of thought.
I m not married neither do I v a child yet. I dislike this gender macho towards men. Men are supposed to be our protector but they are the ones discriminating

Men must not protect damaged goods.

Dimaya:
Put yourself in the single mom's shoes.

Imagine, in secondary school, you were caught having s*x and were expelled. You had to drop out of school in JS3, and now years after, you're poor, living homeless on the street or under the bridge.

Would this lady, if she were single and childless right now, marry you and save you from the consequence of your previous poor decision.?

Let the answer guide you

Wisdom

Legendoo:
The quality of the woman you settle down with show's how much you love yourself.

Why would a single guy marry a single mother?

Low self esteem issue's?

Scarcity mentality?

The world is your oyster pick the best of every fruit and never settle for less.

Besides , single mother's are statistically bad news.. won't say more.

Forget the nuanced rationalisations from the woke simps and quasi hoes.

One bottle of origin bitters for you.

Okopolyblog:
You got me worried with your warnings !!!

My current girlfriend had a child for her Ex-husband, right now she is with me, and I intend to marry her. Should I call off the whole thing. Infact I feel sorry for the girl, I don't know if I love her out of pity.

Pump and dump.
Girls don't love out of pity. Why then should you as a man love out of pity?
Don't be comfortable getting the short end of the stick.
It is better to err on the side of caution and wisdom.
Single mothers are bad market.
Pump and dump!

Peter Obi 2023.
No going back.

cenaman:
because they are single mothers, they should remain single forever isn't it?

Okay. Captain save-a-hoe.
White Knight in shining armour. Carry on.

cenaman:
Same thing that is giving me sleepless nights.

My current girlfriend was my childhood friend in primary school before we lost contact after our FSLS.
Though she's a single mom and independent woman, I don't know how to tell my parents that she is a single mom.

Mumu no try marry single mother or you'll regret it for the rest of your life.
Don't say you weren't warned.

JhimmySpark:
.. Same here too, I find Pocohantas comments interesting and intelligent, she says it as she sees it. Wonder why many people are put off by her comments baffles, I find her contributions really cool. Chopchopfine meals are yummy and appealing to the eyes, she has a good sense of humour. She's one cool, calm, intelligent person.

Disgusting simp

AsomArchitectNG:
My preferred list of females here are

1.) Pocohantas - She's Intelligent and smart and yeah many ppl might not like her based on the fact that she's outspoken and doesn't tolerate anyform of disrespect from anyone and seriously it's one feature i love about her just like our dear WIKE she'll tell you her mind and move on. If u like vex


2.) Ishilove - Ahh!! This one is our general mummy on nl. She's Intelligent. But Seriously i have a thing for intellegient women. Soft spoken and what have you. Don't know anytime i see her comments here with poco there's this smile that beams around my face

3.) Chopchopfine - Good sense of humor, great cook, another thing i factor about her is her voice lol. So anytime i watch her videos i pay more attention on the voice than what's she's even cooking Afterall i rarely cook maybe 3times a year .

4.) Candidlady - not much to say about her. But trust me this one is a darling and yeah she contributes intelligently to threads and above all compassionate too.

List of damaged, evening newspapers on Nairaland.

OlawaleBammie:
ahh, she enjoyed ooh, even till now, 3year after we went our separate ways we still dey miss ourselves

You're still a simp

I concur