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also read related article: http://m.af1234.com/Af1234/details/6-deadly-words-commonly-used-by-women

No lady should ever have to go through the trauma of being raped. Government and organizations around the world have condemned the act and imposed various punishment including long jail terms or even death on anyone who perpetrate this evil act. However, should a lady unfortunately get raped, what are the immediate action she should take?

Below we outline 5 steps to be taken;

1. Move to a safe place.
The first thing is to get to a safe place as soon as you can, don't remain at the same unsafe spot. You should immediately leave to a place where you feel safe, but if the hour of the day is late, then ensure you lock yourself in and make a call to a trusted person to come over ASAP, this takes us to the 2nd step.

2. Speak with a trusted person about what happened.
This is very important. If you cannot find anyone you trust 100%, then maybe you should talk to your parents, lawyer or doctor (except one of them was the culprit). The idea of talking to a trusted person is to ensure the trauma is reduced. Talking can help a great deal, that is why you should be talking to the right person, someone who can advice you and encourage you, NOT someone who in the nearest future would expose you and betray your trust. This person should also be ready to speak for you in-case of an investigation; they are normally referred to as "The First Contact"

3. Decide whether to report & Preserve evidence.
Before you wash your body, you should consider preserving the evidence of rape, this is the first physical evidence of what you just went through, preserving evidence also involves keeping your clothes as they might contain blood stains, saliva, semen stain or hair - all these can be used as evidence against the suspect.
The next step is to report the incidence to the police and ensure the police takes your statement. The officer on duty should take you to a health center; you can also report to state and federal ministries and special agencies set up for rape victims. The doctor's reports could aid investigation and conviction of the suspect; such reports include forensic examination.

4. Prevent HIV & sexually transmitted Diseases (STDs) and unwanted pregnancies.
We earlier spoke about the doctor's forensic examination, these reports also aids treatment of the victim from unwanted pregnancies and STIs. The doctor will give you the morning-after pill which prevents victim getting pregnant and various antibiotics which should prevent possible infections like sexually transmitted infections, you should also undergo HIV test and anti-retro viral treatment for 30 days to prevent contracting HIV; this is a precautionary measure known as PEP (Post Exposure Prophylaxis).

5. Get counseling to help you recover from the trauma.
There are many organizations set up, that offer free counseling to victims of rape. (check your local authorities' offices for details).

The process of going through court case and or recovering can break you down, this gets worse if you turn out pregnant or infected with STD.
The guardian / counselor ensures your well being and survival in those trying times.


Don't keep mute - Report rape cases to your local police or authorities. Help stop rapist.


source: http://m.af1234.com/Af1234/details/5-practical-steps-to-take-if-you-are-a-victim-of-rape

More pics Lalasticlala

With the bell about to ring on Saturday, my brother decided to follow the trend of other Nairalanders.

See shots.

lo ba tan

Congrats....

mccoy47:
Op it's "must attain" not "most attain"

Thanks for the correction..... Appreciated

nanizle:
There. Fixed it!

Lol.. You're part of the pple who doesn't agree...

Abeg Shakau dey there? If not try again

Lalasticlala.... Abeg make our ladies read this..

dannytoe:
Nice one op, but is possible to be 20 and have all this qualities already.

Yes but one cld understand if at 20 you haven't got them. ... Not having them by 30 however is a 'sin'

DjAndroid:
Only #1 is reasonable but will be better put as "career" , others are thrash.
Imagine "menstrual attainment" what's that rubbish?
Even the writer is half-baked.

The post below yours is from a lady..... And u? - a guy obviously.

BornnAgainChild:
Ok...so how about 10 things a female should achieve

By popular demand : https://www.nairaland.com/4044472/10-things-every-lady-most#60307374

Incase you missed the earlier post: 10 THINGS EVERY MAN SHOULD ACHIEVE BY AGE 30 >> http://m.af1234.com/Af1234/details/10-things-every-man-should-achieve-by-age-30

The dream of every lady is to be an independent woman. By the time she is sixteen she starts to conjure up so many fantasies in her head. In the diary of a girl, life moves so fast she hardly realises she has reached the triple decade. However there are certain things every lady should achieve before marking her 30th birthday.

1. A Good education - Education here is not the formal University education; however by education, we refer to a trade, business or employment that she can rely on - The purpose is to ensure she doesn't rely on a man for all her daily needs or petty cash. She should be able to take care of herself at least.

2. Full sexual education - By this age, every lady should have acquired every possible knowledge of sex, and sex education to a standard that she can teach her offspring, relatives, and community same.

3. Mastery in cooking - If by 30 a female cannot prepare a wonderful, tasty meal (even if it’s her local dishes) then something is wrong - she doesn't have to be a professional cook, but she should be able to 'wow' her friends, relatives and lover (if any) once a while or every time.

4. A confidence outlook - At 30, every lady should be bold; she should be able to address anyone, walk into any space e.g. into a classroom where only boys are no matter their numbers, if the need arises.

5. A sense of discipline - Every lady at this age should have laid for herself solid principles, no late night, no sex on first date, no this or no that - this vary from one lady to the other, but be ready to live by your principle irrespective of peer or social pressure.

6. Menstrual Attainment - That’s funny right? - Well if you haven't seen your period at 30, you're in serious problem already.

7. A trusted adviser - Unlike guys who can just talk to anyone to get advice, every lady needs at least one person she can run to - we talked about using the social media for this purpose in No 6 above; but social media won’t solve all, there is going to be that once when she has to talk to someone; so get a trusted person NOW.

8. A home (away from parent's home) - Preferably that place should be her husband's house but in any situation where is has no plan to settle anytime soon; she should get a decent but not too expensive accommodation of her own.

9. Sound religious indoctrinatiom - Not everyone would agree to this, but its common saying to hear people talk about the power of the praying wife and the influence it has on her immediate family.... if the ladies don't agree, every guy must agree; we all need one.

10. A fighting spirit: A woman's journey in life is far and filled with stones. A woman must aquire a fighting spirit if she is to move ahead in life. By fighting spirit I do not mean being aggressive but having the calmness to wade through difficult challenge with poise.

How old are you? Do you see yourself as being a successful woman? Going through all these points which of them are you presently struggling with? It is important for a woman to always develop herself inwardly and outwardly.

Source: http://m.af1234.com/Af1234/details/10-things-every-lady-most-attain-before-age-30

Yes... Just got a second approved 2 months back... But it takes a longer time than before or the 6 month waiting time. I can sell one of mine if the price is is right

issokay -

Note: Do delay fruits like strawberry,pineapple,orange,lemon,and kiwi til 1y because of acidity present in them

ISSOKAY - JUST GET SOME SHOT FOR NOLLYWOOD

Teewhy2:
Nice write up, op for this present economy people no dey too observe the rule when they look at the among they spend on the food. People will say e go master am na because na new food.

funny thing is its not that expensive and more expensive not to eat healthy

cc: lalasticlala, mynd44

WHAT IS FOUR DAYS RULES?

Four days rules means feeding a newly introduced food to your baby for four days before starting another.

FOUR REASON WHY THE 4 DAYS RULE IS A WISE IDEA

No 1: When you introduce any new food into your baby’s diet, The 4 Day Rule is a simple way of checking whether the new food causes any problems - such as an allergic reaction or digestive disorders.By introducing new foods one food at a time - with at least 4 days between each new food - you will quickly spot any troubles and have a good idea of what caused them.This is particularly important during the early stages of your baby diet.It is vitally important if there is any history of food allergy or intolerance in you or others in your family. allergic reactions usually occur within 24 hours of eating a food, but digestive problems may take longer to make themselves know.

No 2: Only introduce new foods to your baby early in the day.If you introduce a new food to your baby in the afternoon or evening, and baby has a reaction to it, the very least of your problems will be a disturbed, uncomfortable night for your baby (and you!).
An allergic reaction may need urgent medical help, which is not so easy to get late in the day or at night, meaning that your baby could be at serious risk.

No 3: Baby have leaky guts naturally, the guts heal up as they grow up. If you feed them with food that are tend to cause reaction it may cause damages to their digestive system. When you use a 4 days rule you dectect intolerance to food early. Some food are to heal the guts while some cause more damage to it. 70% infant have food Intolerance at early stage, 4 days rules help a lot.

No 4: It is advisable to stick to The Day 4 Rules for your infant. This approach will help you to know if anything ordinary is happening, such as allergy or sensitivity in your infant towards this type of food.

Allergy Symptoms:
Rash or hives
Nausea
Stomach pain
Diarrhea
Itchy skin
Skin redness
Swelling of lips
Shortness of breath.

If you notice any such reactions in your infant, stop giving him this food and offer him something else; Keep track of your baby's reaction to different foods and consult your doctor or experienced nutritionist for further advice.

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thanks

moststylish:
hmm my kinda girl, can I PM u

Just PM asap

Timtol:
How do u see this 3bedroom bungalow on 60by60?
Building from little earnings as the topic of the thread says.

i wont advice anyone on a low budget to use a concrete facial - there is no structural advantage other than easthetics and at a cost that could run into 500k or more (depending method abducted) -

Outside that, its a good structure for anyone planning to build on little budget...

Nice One..

Lomantics:
Most "slay queen" on social media dont have any of those things you specified.. The name just portrays irrelevance to me

Exactly - the tag slay queen is as bad at least we dey use the use on socials...

Timtol:
It's my pleasure my honourable boss.

you're the Boss

THUMP UP TO Carlcare - its always better to make up and mend bad relationship no matter how small or who is involved..

RIP

dearpiriye:
so far we have deviated a lot from the plan.

try to return to track now, before its totally too late or too expensive.. thanks.

@ Timtol - Thanks for the help also..

dearpiriye:
If I want to fill with sand from the dug soakaway but won't be able to start work on it immediately as you advised will that cause any problem? Also I didn't start with German floor due to poor advice, I was told to just fill,allow to compact and then continue, how much bags of cement will it then take to do the floor. It's on 1 plot and its 7 self contains.
is there anything I can do for my walls to reduce water rising? The lowest level at this stage is window level.

Is there any adverse effect to chaining and doing lintels for the whole building rather than at only entrances? Note my lintel is at 10th coach instead of the normal 9.

kindly send pictures of what u have on site now... that wld help and for nos of cement, whats the lenght and breath of ur building?

If you dont have money to complete the soak-away after digging, PLEASE DONT DIG.... suspend it..

ceelog:
What are your thought on washed gravel? Say if left under the rain for a few months. Does I make it neater?

If you're buying granite - tell them to make sure i has enough stone. If it doesnt, reduce the sand in the mix..

balaclava:
Had it been u didn't mention Nigeria. I would have agreed with u. Things don't work as expected in Naija. Situations in d country doesn't favour all dt was mentioned in your list for age 50 sef. Many died not having met dz criteria.

#Kolewerk

God wld help us all..amen