whiteMandingo:
wahala..the economy is just getting worse and worse...ethiopian airline wch provided affordable flights to usa, is no longer cheap. over 3m naira now for a return flight.
pls who knows of any cheaper way to get to washington or houston area with below 20hrs total flight time that cost less than 2m naira?

Thats one thing that trumps a lot of applicants interview. Ticket alone is one year salary. By the time you add vex money and other shopping estimates, that is like N4m - N5m (18-24months salary)
So why are you willing to spend 2 years (gross) salary for two weeks? The FX situation is not helping at all

Truck Drivers urgently required to work in a food company. You have all the requirements to drive within Lagos and Ogun state.
preferably applicants who reside within Iyana Ipaja.

salary: N 100,000 gross pay

whatsapp cv to 08186424204

Deadline is 12pm on Monday 22nd, Jan. 2024

janda1:


Boss please can I send you a dm

The pay is very low I swear

I'm even afraid, 200 euro can't even pay money back home and can't run some bills back home

How can someone survive

If it's just to run 40 hours from Friday to Sunday and net that 1200-1500 euro a month, I'm ok with it

From Monday to Friday focus on studies

There's no way you can work for 40 hours as a student in Austria. If your employer knows that you're a student, he won't register you with AMS for 40 hours of work per week. Even if you're so good at what you do, and your employer wants to register you for a 40-hour-per-week job "AS A STUDENT" it would be difficult for him to do so because AMS may not allow him. Austria is not like Germany where it may be possible to work for 40 hours per week as a student. These people follow their processes very strictly. Your best bet would be if you're lucky and you get a warehouse job that pays well or a job that pays, and there are opportunities to work overtime (The overtime will not amount to 40 hours. It may be an additional 5 hours or about, added to your 20 hours). You may earn up to 1300-1400 euros as your monthly gross salary. When you deduct tax and health insurance, you may be going home with 900-1000 euros, and your body go tell you. You can work for 40 hours per week only when your school is on holiday after the end of a semester.

Secondly, even if you manage to combine two jobs, let's say a registered job with AMS and a black job, and you are working 40 hours per week, it will affect your studies. You need to excel in your studies to stand a chance for your residence permit to be approved for the following year. If you cannot get up to 16 ECTS in one year of academic studies, MA-35 won't renew your residence permit. During your studies, you would only be issued a 1-year residence permit which is renewable every year.

Unless you can learn how to speak, read and write German, then you can get a good job that will pay you well enough to earn up to 1300-1500 euros as your net salary. An example of such a job is "Doctors without Borders". They're always recruiting students, but you must know how to speak, read and write German.

BeaconGate Limited is Currently Hiring to fill Various Positions for her clients. If you know qualified candidates you can share this information with them.

Roles..........

📍Human Resources Manager
Minimum of 8 years Experience
Location: Ikeja GRA
salary: N 550,000 - N650,000.00

📍Head Facility Management
Minimum of 9 years of Experience
Location: Oshodi
salary: 9-10 million Annual gross

📍Accountant
Minimum of 5 years Experience
Location: Apapa
salary: N100,000/monthly gross (slightly negotiable)

📍Property Manager
Minimum of 9 years Experience
Location: Ikeja GRA
salary: N 500,000 - N600,000.00 monthly gross.

📍Network Engineers
Minimum of 5 years Experience
Location: Ikeja GRA
salary: Negotiable

📍Accountant
Minimum of 4 years Experience
Location: Ikeja GRA
salary: N250,000/Net

Other roles are;
📍Junior Accountants
📍HR Executive
📍Facility Managers
📍Facility Officers
📍Property Officers
📍IT Support Officer
📍 Executive Assistant

Qualified candidates should send their CVs to bgatecareers@gmail.com

That's a tidy sum for three persons; two adults and a kid to live upon in Sweden's most expensive city; Stockholm. I'd say it really worth if the person is not a spendrift

victory148:
What do you think of a job that has 50000SEK gross salary per month for a family with one child say in Vasteras, upsala or stockholm? Is it worth it?
CC:@CalmTravels

Internal Auditor 📍

Location: Sangotedo

Must have 2 - 4 years experience.
Must have worked in an audit firm.
Certification is an added advantage.

salary: 400,000 (gross)

Apply by sending CV to theladymohr@gmail.com using the role as the subject of the mail.

Deadline: January 19th, 2024.

What do you think of a job that has 50000SEK gross salary per month for a family with one child say in Vasteras, upsala or stockholm? Is it worth it?
CC:@CalmTravels

A Reputable client in shipping and maritime industry is urgently hiring for the following
Job Title: Accountant
Slot: 2
salary: 150k to 180k gross Pay
Avaliability: Immediate resumption
Responsibilities
• Post and process journal entries to ensure all business transactions are recorded
• Update accounts receivable and issue invoices
• Update accounts payable and perform reconciliations
• Assist in the processing of balance sheets, income statements and other financial statements according to legal and company accounting and financial guidelines
• Assist with reviewing of expenses, payroll records etc. as assigned
• Update financial data in databases to ensure that information will be accurate and immediately available when needed
• Credit control management
• Booking keeping experience
• Prepare and submit weekly/monthly reports
• Assist senior accountants in the preparation of monthly/yearly closings
• Assist with other accounting projects
Requirements and skills
• Minimum experience of 1 to 3 years is most preferable
• Excellent organizing abilities
• Great attention to detail
• Good with numbers and figures and an analytical acumen
• Good understanding of accounting and financial reporting principles and practices
• Excellent knowledge of MS Office and familiarity with relevant computer software (e.g. SAGE)
Qualifications
• (ACA, ACCA or CIMA) is a plus but not required
• ICAN is an added advantage
• BSc/Ba/Hnd in accounting, finance or its related field is required.
Proximity: Candidates who lives close to festac, Mile 2, Apapa and its environs will be highly considered
Send cvs to talentpoolresourcesng@gmail.com
Deadline: 20th January 2024

Bluntguy:
It's not always good to suggest what you should be paid by your employers. You should have told them that whatever pay that goes with the position you are applying for is okay by you. This is because the organization already has a payment structure on ground. The payment structure is always based on qualification and experience.

I will advise you just do your job till the end of the month. I am sure you will be paid based on their payment structure. By the way, you should have gotten your employment letter by now and what you would be paid is always specified in it. Good luck bro. Don't feel bad, rather hope for the best.

I once applied for a job last two years or so. In the application form, one of the required fields to fill was your salary expectations. You had to put the exact annual gross salary. Like no way to avoid the question or turn it back to the company.

Urgent Vacancy For Transaction Processing Officer

salary: N150,000 (gross)
Location: Ikoyi, Lagos
Work Mode: Fully Onsite

Major Responsibilities
· Preparation and posting of Invoices
· Processing and posting of Output VAT on invoices, where applicable
· Preparation and posting of Credit Memos/Notes
· Confirmation and posting WHT (PAID) on collections, where applicable.
· Preparation and posting of petty cash settlements and reimbursements requests/claims
· Preparation and posting of staff cash advances requests and retirements
· Accurate application and posting of WHT (COLLECTED) on internal payments where necessary
· Preparation of Processed WHT and VAT Schedule
· Timely reconciliation of account payable customers’ ledger accounts to ensure accurate and correct balances at all times
· Preparation of miscellaneous spreadsheets, graphs, and tables
· Liaise effectively and proactively with other team members to ensure timely generation of reports

Required Qualification and Experience:
· BSc or HND in Accounting, Finance or similar discipline.
· At least 3 years post-graduation Finance/Account/office setting experience
· Strong interest and confidence in handling financial transaction processing functions e.g., invoicing and expense processing
· Proficiency with the use of MS Excel or other spreadsheets
· Hands-on experience on the use of any Accounting or ERP application

Interested and Qualified candidates should apply to recruitment@vdtcomms.com with the job title as the subject of the mail.

bizlinks:
Let's bring the salary scale in Nigeria by the companies and organizations. Hide your identity please, by not adding personal info.

What is your salary?
What is your Position?
What is your Qualification?
How many year/s experience?
Organization or company name?
Lastly, tell us your location/state?


This will help employers know the salary of different professions and what to offer new employees, and will also help employees know their supposed earning. Thank you

gross salary 59K + OVERTIME RANGES BTWN 93 - 97K
QC INSPECTOR
B.SC
3+ YEARS
RIGID PACKAGING

salary : 95 thousand naira (gross)
Position : Maintenance technician (Gas and Diesel Generators)
Qualification : (HND) Higher National Diploma
Years of experience : 5 years
Location: Ogun/ Lagos state
Company's Name: Paras Energy

Still Searching for a better one.

Idaraobong5:
I joined sterling bank as an ET in 2022,they gave me a target of 400m in 6 months, I was always bashed during branch and zonal meetings, the branch manager was even harrassing me sexually,I coulnt cope anymore,I left for another organisation. The struggle continues.

When people hear your gross salary as an ET, they be like u dey earn big, not knowing when the pressure starts, either you use your own money to run targets or your figures get so low that you are being paid just basic salary without allowances.

emmanuelewumi:
Even if you are a business owner you have an amount dedicated as the employers income.


Most small business owners comingle their personal funds and the business funds.

They don't know the difference between revenue, gross profit, operating profit and net profit


By the way there are salary earners with portfolio of over N100 million


Even if you are a business owner there should be an amount set aside as your remuneration.

Dangote sef dey collect director's fees, sitting allowance and other remuneration from his businesses

Lol the bolded.
Must be a veteran like you.
Can't achieve the over 100m naira in one or two years.
Me wey be ordinary NCE holder, how much I go dey collect now with this kind certificate.
Thank God I entered into business and also look the way of stock investment on time with the help of kayode my yoruba friend in those days.

Locotrader:


Oga Emma, The active Nsempa members I see here are not salary earners.Lots of traders with over 100m naira portfolio are here.

salary earners are investing their money for long term/dividend.

My write up goes to traders where I belong

Even if you are a business owner you have an amount dedicated as the employers income.


Most small business owners comingle their personal funds and the business funds.

They don't know the difference between revenue, gross profit, operating profit and net profit


By the way there are salary earners with portfolio of over N100 million


Even if you are a business owner there should be an amount set aside as your remuneration.

Dangote sef dey collect director's fees, sitting allowance and other remuneration from his businesses

newnig:
That's an old quote that I already know. If you think I am being proud, then the nuts in your head needs to be rechecked. You call educating folks about the possibilities in the private sector being proud? Did I talk about my current or previous earnings? Or because some people think that N150k is big money, others shouldn't aspire higher? You kids are clowns.

When you get that N50k job you are looking for, you will understand what the rest of us are saying. Life is in phases; Men are in sizes. I have worked N20k monthly job in the past, I wasn't comfortable. I wished I had a N100k job then. When the N80k job came, I didn't want N100k job anymore because my responsibilities were becoming bigger, I wanted N150k at least. So if I tell you for instance that today I want N600k monthly, it's my current reality. The type of projects I have put my legs into are not the type that a N300k monthly salary can finance or sustain. Others are looking for 3m monthly, that's their reality. I can't say they are greedy or ungrateful. Na them know Wetin dey their front. Why is Dangote building a refinery? Is he not rich enough? He should allow other businessmen grow too nau? Those will be the words of the businessman who is worth just 10m naira Do you think an ex-senator will accept a directorship position in NCC? He may accept to be the EVC or Board Chairman but never a career director. That's growth!


Growth and change should be constant in a man's life. Complacency is one of the foundation of poverty. Do not be complacent but also do not be ungrateful. If someone comes on here and says she earns 350k, it's only gross stupidity, sheer ignorance and a poverty mindset that will make you say such person is lying because your reality is different from hers. And the fact that we all converge on the same thread does not mean we are all looking for the same thing. It's the same reason someone is leaving NCC for NUPRC, NDIC to ECOWAS etc. I can bet some people here will say "if I get NCC ehn, I will never leave. I will retire there", yet people are leaving there to places they presume better. If you do not understand this still, your case is irredeemable.

Minimum wage in 2019 was approximately $83, minimum wage in 2024 is approximately $25 and you want us to be hyping N130k. As a matter of fact, that should be the new minimum wage and it's still poor. No wonder the government will add N10,000 to minimum wage and you all will be jubilating.

Better dream big this year. Nothing is impossible, na your mind no gree picture am.

Not every humble person you see that needs the 50k job you mentioned. Won't be surprise if I earn much more than you

Regardless I get your point but try to be sensitive to people's plight.


Cheers

acorntree:


To measure poverty level, three steps need to be taken.
1. Defining an indicator of welfare.
2.Establishing a minimum acceptable standard of that indicator to separate the poor from the non-poor (the poverty line).
3.Generating a summary statistic to aggregate the information from the distribution of this welfare indicator relative to the poverty line.

On 1, Nigeria is no where to be found on welfare package for the citizen, extremely poor. On 2 minimum acceptable level for one to be rich is #500k per month salary, one can still live average life, having personal car, modest house etc. How many Nigerian earn above #500k per month? .on 3 statistics to aggregate the distribution of wealth in Nigeria is not reliable as most acclaimed rich people wealth are not transparent as most are into shady dealings. To be sincere unless one just deceiving himself, large percentage of Nigerians are poor. Those acclaimed weathy individual like otedola are one in million. They are just outliers. In summary, Average White live far better life than Average Nigeria

I agree with your analysis. People that say that ‘Nigeria’ is not that bad are either delusional Afrocentrists or the ones that think VIA,Banana Island, Ikoyi, Lekki,Port Harcourt and Abuja are representative of Nigeria’s status. Outside of that, Nigeria is a hell scape. In fact, It’s an insult to hell. People that say “Nigeria get money” are in an illusion. Stats show otherwise


1. There are so many indicators of welfare. In the US, There welfare system is by no means the best. It certainly not at the level of Europe and quite to distant to Canada,Australia, Newzealand among other developed nations. But it is light years ahead of what is seen in Africa. Most African nations do not have a welfare state. What welfare state is in Nigeria? The same country where corrupt politicians siphon the wealth of the nation to fund their extravagant lifestyle there and to send their kids overseas? Africa is the kind of an environment where you will have filthy rich individuals in heavily fortified palaces with all these expensive cars and other material things. Yet not quite a few yards from that heavily fortified palace you will see a half or fully naked child that can’t even feed and clothe themselves. Inequality in that society is dystopian. It is bleeped up. But Westerners actually have some sort of empathy and a moral compass unlike their African counterparts. US Welfare also varies on the states. Democrat states like California, Massachusetts, New Hampshire etc have welfare systems comparable to that of even Europe. Republican ones like Texas,Florida and Georgia etc not so much but still have a welfare system in place. The US spends 2.3 trillion USD a year on “on federal and state social programs include cash assistance, health insurance, food assistance, housing subsidies, energy and utilities subsidies, and education and childcare assistance”
The West has doesn’t have real problems. They have problems of a rich society. No country that spends anywhere that amount of money on welfare for its citizens can be described as poor.
That alone is around 2/3rds of Africa’s gross Domestic Product.

2. We haven’t even gotten onto other factors one has to consider when comparing living standards of people in different nations such as infrastructural development, HDI, access to healthcare, GDP Per Capita, Life Expectancy, Infant and Maternal Rates Safety. Nigeria and Africa rank terribly when compared to the rest of the world.

Added on to the fact that when analysing the differences in development between The USA/Western World and Nigeria/Africa be it scientifically,socially,politically,economically,technologically etc. The Western World is light years ahead of Nigeria and Africa.Thus, The Average Westerner even amongst the poorest of them enjoys a far better quality of life than an African. There is no continent that’s tougher to survive than Africa. If you can survive in the jungle. You can survive anywhere. It’s why Nigerians in the diaspora tend to be highly successful. They have seen and experienced the worst of the worst.

Job title: PR / MARKETING OFFICER
Job location: Victoria Island
salary: 350,000 -400,000 (monthly gross)
Job Type: Full-time



Job Responsibilities:

1. Create digital content that increases customer engagement and enhances the company’s online brand
2. Manage the Company’s websites and ensure that they are all up to date on all the key activities are recorded (create and upload images for the organization's website)
3. Manage the Company’s corporate communications
4. Research new online media opportunities that may benefit the business including mobile, social media, development of blogs and forums
5. Develop and integrate marketing content strategies
6. Keep up to date with current digital trends
7. Keep up to date with the Company’s industry/market developments
8. Manage and develop the contact database and assist with lead-generation activities
9. Develop a project planning schedule with team input; create content for social media, cost estimates for ads, budget for influencers
10. Organize regular meetings; ensure efficient communication with all the different specialties of the company.
11. Constantly visit and communicate with clients on hospital facilities and updates.
12. Execute monthly promotion plans with clear KPI.
13. Responsible in organizing and coordinating programs/ Symposium and Clinical Grand Round and events involving the Hospital’s consultants and coordinate closely with
14. Medical Affairs on the program.
15. Organize and coordinate any off-site health talks involving the Hospital Consultants at the operations premises for their staff, agents and clients.
16. Assist to formulate, organize and implement sales & marketing strategies in order to increase the company’s sales and market share
17. Planning and carrying out PR campaigns and strategies.
18. Monitoring the public and media's opinion of your client or employer.
19. Writing and editing press releases, leaflets, brochures, speeches, newsletters, websites and social media content.

Job requirements & skills:

1. 3 – 6 years proven experience working in a PR
2. Experience managing media relations (online, broadcast and print)
3. Background in researching, writing and editing publications
4. Proficient in MS Office and social media
5. Familiarity with project management software and video/photo editing is a plus
6. Strong communication ability (oral and written)
7. Excellent organizational skills
8. Ability to work well under pressure
9. Creativity and problem-solving aptitude
10. BSc/BA in Public Relations, Journalism, Communications or a related field


To apply, please send your cv to anu.olutomi@globalprofilers using the job title as mail subject

We are Hiring!!!



Workforce Group on behalf of her client is hiring for the position below:



Job Role: Business Development Manager (Lagos)

Location: Lagos, Nigeria

salary: N2.4m (annual gross)



Our client, a value-added reseller to some of the top 5 software development companies in the world, offers enterprise resource planning (ERP) solutions, business productivity tools, custom software solutions, and IT infrastructure services to local and international businesses.



The ideal candidate will lead initiatives to generate and engage with business partners to build new business for the company. The professional will be responsible for the growth of the department. This candidate will work with the sales team to develop mutually beneficial proposals, negotiate contract terms, and communicate effectively with stakeholders.



Job Responsibilities:

- Develop a strategy both for sales and growth focused on financial gain and customer satisfaction.

- Generate pipelines and Conduct customer events.

- One-on-one roundtable with new prospects

- Demand generations and deal closure.

- Think critically when planning to ensure project success.

- Arrange business meetings with prospective clients.

- Promote the company’s products/services addressing or predicting clients’ objectives.

- Develop entry-level staff into valuable salespeople.

- Maintain existing business.



Qualifications:

- Bachelor's degree or equivalent experience.

- An MBA will be an added advantage

- 2+ years prior industry-related business development experience in an enterprise software company

- Strong and good communication and interpersonal skills

- Proven knowledge and execution of successful development strategies

- Focused and goal-oriented

- Digital Marketing skills and ability to develop sales content for online purposes



Qualified and interested candidates should apply through recruitment@workforcegroup.com with the role as email subject/title

newnig:
That's an old quote that I already know. If you think I am being proud, then the nuts in your head needs to be rechecked. You call educating folks about the possibilities in the private sector being proud? Did I talk about my current or previous earnings? Or because some people think that N150k is big money, others shouldn't aspire higher? You kids are clowns.

When you get that N50k job you are looking for, you will understand what the rest of us are saying. Life is in phases; Men are in sizes. I have worked N20k monthly job in the past, I wasn't comfortable. I wished I had a N100k job then. When the N80k job came, I didn't want N100k job anymore because my responsibilities were becoming bigger, I wanted N150k at least. So if I tell you for instance that today I want N600k monthly, it's my current reality. The type of projects I have put my legs into are not the type that a N300k monthly salary can finance or sustain. Others are looking for 3m monthly, that's their reality. I can't say they are greedy or ungrateful. Na them know Wetin dey their front. Why is Dangote building a refinery? Is he not rich enough? He should allow other businessmen grow too nau? Those will be the words of the businessman who is worth just 10m naira Do you think an ex-senator will accept a directorship position in NCC? He may accept to be the EVC or Board Chairman but never a career director. That's growth!


Growth and change should be constant in a man's life. Complacency is one of the foundation of poverty. Do not be complacent but also do not be ungrateful. If someone comes on here and says she earns 350k, it's only gross stupidity, sheer ignorance and a poverty mindset that will make you say such person is lying because your reality is different from hers. And the fact that we all converge on the same thread does not mean we are all looking for the same thing. It's the same reason someone is leaving NCC for NUPRC, NDIC to ECOWAS etc. I can bet some people here will say "if I get NCC ehn, I will never leave. I will retire there", yet people are leaving there to places they presume better. If you do not understand this still, your case is irredeemable.

Minimum wage in 2019 was approximately $83, minimum wage in 2024 is approximately $25 and you want us to be hyping N130k. As a matter of fact, that should be the new minimum wage and it's still poor. No wonder the government will add N10,000 to minimum wage and you all will be jubilating.

Better dream big this year. Nothing is impossible, na your mind no gree picture am.

Nice point.

newnig:
That's an old quote that I already know. If you think I am being proud, then the nuts in your head needs to be rechecked. You call educating folks about the possibilities in the private sector being proud? Did I talk about my current or previous earnings? Or because some people think that N150k is big money, others shouldn't aspire higher? You kids are clowns.

When you get that N50k job you are looking for, you will understand what the rest of us are saying. Life is in phases; Men are in sizes. I have worked N20k monthly job in the past, I wasn't comfortable. I wished I had a N100k job then. When the N80k job came, I didn't want N100k job anymore because my responsibilities were becoming bigger, I wanted N150k at least. So if I tell you for instance that today I want N600k monthly, it's my current reality. The type of projects I have put my legs into are not the type that a N300k monthly salary can finance or sustain. Others are looking for 3m monthly, that's their reality. I can't say they are greedy or ungrateful. Na them know Wetin dey their front. Why is Dangote building a refinery? Is he not rich enough? He should allow other businessmen grow too nau? Those will be the words of the businessman who is worth just 10m naira Do you think an ex-senator will accept a directorship position in NCC? He may accept to be the EVC or Board Chairman but never a career director. That's growth!


Growth and change should be constant in a man's life. Complacency is one of the foundation of poverty. Do not be complacent but also do not be ungrateful. If someone comes on here and says she earns 350k, it's only gross stupidity, sheer ignorance and a poverty mindset that will make you say such person is lying because your reality is different from hers. And the fact that we all converge on the same thread does not mean we are all looking for the same thing. It's the same reason someone is leaving NCC for NUPRC, NDIC to ECOWAS etc. I can bet some people here will say "if I get NCC ehn, I will never leave. I will retire there", yet people are leaving there to places they presume better. If you do not understand this still, your case is irredeemable.

Minimum wage in 2019 was approximately $83, minimum wage in 2024 is approximately $25 and you want us to be hyping N130k. As a matter of fact, that should be the new minimum wage and it's still poor. No wonder the government will add N10,000 to minimum wage and you all will be jubilating.

Better dream big this year. Nothing is impossible, na your mind no gree picture am.

My brother, you couldn't have said it better. I was the one that made that comment. The suicidal comment was just an hyperbole however, I was disappointed at the fact that many folks here saw a 130k monthly pay as a big deal. I was like wtf. Someone even said she earns 350k monthly and another was like its not possible, she needs 6 years experience to earn that bla bla bla. It's just disappointing and it's so obvious they haven't really started life and have little to zero experience in the labour force. Like you said, life is in phases. If you offer a kid fresh outta secondary school a 20k monthly job, that'll be big money to him. Many people here on this thread are definitely graduates and will see a 70k monthly job as a big deal. By they time they receive 70k consecutively for like a year, they will understand better.

In a nut shell, make una stop arguing blindly o. Don't think salaries are the same thing both private and government. Many privates pay 7 figures o and they are very plenty. Very very plenty. I mean very very very plenty. No just siddon dey look, come out of your shell and come to terms with reality.

newnig:
That's an old quote that I already know. If you think I am being proud, then the nuts in your head needs to be rechecked. You call educating folks about the possibilities in the private sector being proud? Did I talk about my current or previous earnings? Or because some people think that N150k is big money, others shouldn't aspire higher? You kids are clowns.

When you get that N50k job you are looking for, you will understand what the rest of us are saying. Life is in phases; Men are in sizes. I have worked N20k monthly job in the past, I wasn't comfortable. I wished I had a N100k job then. When the N80k job came, I didn't want N100k job anymore because my responsibilities were becoming bigger, I wanted N150k at least. So if I tell you for instance that today I want N600k monthly, it's my current reality. The type of projects I have put my legs into are not the type that a N300k monthly salary can finance or sustain. Others are looking for 3m monthly, that's their reality. I can't say they are greedy or ungrateful. Na them know Wetin dey their front. Why is Dangote building a refinery? Is he not rich enough? He should allow other businessmen grow too nau? Those will be the words of the businessman who is worth just 10m naira Do you think an ex-senator will accept a directorship position in NCC? He may accept to be the EVC or Board Chairman but never a career director. That's growth!


Growth and change should be constant in a man's life. Complacency is one of the foundation of poverty. Do not be complacent but also do not be ungrateful. If someone comes on here and says she earns 350k, it's only gross stupidity, sheer ignorance and a poverty mindset that will make you say such person is lying because your reality is different from hers. And the fact that we all converge on the same thread does not mean we are all looking for the same thing. It's the same reason someone is leaving NCC for NUPRC, NDIC to ECOWAS etc. I can bet some people here will say "if I get NCC ehn, I will never leave. I will retire there", yet people are leaving there to places they presume better. If you do not understand this still, your case is irredeemable.

Minimum wage in 2019 was approximately $83, minimum wage in 2024 is approximately $25 and you want us to be hyping N130k. As a matter of fact, that should be the new minimum wage and it's still poor. No wonder the government will add N10,000 to minimum wage and you all will be jubilating.

Better dream big this year. Nothing is impossible, na your mind no gree picture am.

Couldn’t have put it better. Perfectly said. The last paragraph belongs on marble

Edonnaa:


"Pride comes before a fall"

That's an old quote that I already know. If you think I am being proud, then the nuts in your head needs to be rechecked. You call educating folks about the possibilities in the private sector being proud? Did I talk about my current or previous earnings? Or because some people think that N150k is big money, others shouldn't aspire higher? You kids are clowns.

When you get that N50k job you are looking for, you will understand what the rest of us are saying. Life is in phases; Men are in sizes. I have worked N20k monthly job in the past, I wasn't comfortable. I wished I had a N100k job then. When the N80k job came, I didn't want N100k job anymore because my responsibilities were becoming bigger, I wanted N150k at least. So if I tell you for instance that today I want N600k monthly, it's my current reality. The type of projects I have put my legs into are not the type that a N300k monthly salary can finance or sustain. Others are looking for 3m monthly, that's their reality. I can't say they are greedy or ungrateful. Na them know Wetin dey their front. Why is Dangote building a refinery? Is he not rich enough? He should allow other businessmen grow too nau? Those will be the words of the businessman who is worth just 10m naira Do you think an ex-senator will accept a directorship position in NCC? He may accept to be the EVC or Board Chairman but never a career director. That's growth!


Growth and change should be constant in a man's life. Complacency is one of the foundation of poverty. Do not be complacent but also do not be ungrateful. If someone comes on here and says she earns 350k, it's only gross stupidity, sheer ignorance and a poverty mindset that will make you say such person is lying because your reality is different from hers. And the fact that we all converge on the same thread does not mean we are all looking for the same thing. It's the same reason someone is leaving NCC for NUPRC, NDIC to ECOWAS etc. I can bet some people here will say "if I get NCC ehn, I will never leave. I will retire there", yet people are leaving there to places they presume better. If you do not understand this still, your case is irredeemable.

Minimum wage in 2019 was approximately $83, minimum wage in 2024 is approximately $25 and you want us to be hyping N130k. As a matter of fact, that should be the new minimum wage and it's still poor. No wonder the government will add N10,000 to minimum wage and you all will be jubilating.

Better dream big this year. Nothing is impossible, na your mind no gree picture am.

ADUBA1:
No Professor earns upto 450k irrespective of how many years you have stayed in the system not to talk of 560k. Where did u get your information from. That is consolidated salary. Nothing like basic here
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It's per annum but it's just basic salary up there, allowances aren't there.
If included you will then get that 650k monthly you are talking about.

Many people here don't understand how it works, I am not saying it's big enough though.

I don't know how much tertiary institution teachers are paid per month, what I saw up there are basic salaries and someone said they receive up to 650k and that the stated amounts were false.

So I made him understand that they are just basic salaries not the gross salaries.

lagostrendboy:
“We will pay you N911k monthly” – France announces job opportunities for Nigerians

The French Embassy has announced a job opportunity for Nigerians willing to work as English Language Assistants in France.

The embassy is seeking English Language assistants to work in France for a 7-month period, providing an excellent chance for individuals to immerse themselves in the French language and culture. Eyes Of Lagos reports,

According to information released on the embassy’s official website, candidates interested in applying for the position must be between the ages of 20 and 30 and possess at least a B1 level of proficiency in the French language.

The application window for this employment opportunity opened on December 19, 2023, and is set to close on January 19, 2024.

Successful applicants will not only gain professional experience but will also have the chance to travel, live, and work in France.

The role requires a commitment of 12 hours of work per week, and the contract duration is seven months.

One of the most attractive aspects of this opportunity is the salary offered to the selected candidates.

English Language assistants will receive a monthly salary of N911,000 or €1,010.67, translating to a total of N6,377,000 over the course of the fellowship.

Prospective candidates are encouraged to visit the embassy’s application portal to complete the application process.

Part of the information reads;

“The language assistant has the status of a non-permanent State agent. He works 12 hours a week. The duration of the contract is 7 months. The monthly remuneration was set at €1,010.67 gross.”

https://eyesoflagos.com/2023/12/29/we-will-pay-you-n911k-monthly-france-announces-job-opportunities-for-nigerians/


cc: mynd44 , Nlfpmod , Seun

Terrible pay. The quoted amount is also the gross and not the net.

“We will pay you N911k monthly” – France announces job opportunities for Nigerians

The French Embassy has announced a job opportunity for Nigerians willing to work as English Language Assistants in France.

The embassy is seeking English Language assistants to work in France for a 7-month period, providing an excellent chance for individuals to immerse themselves in the French language and culture. Eyes Of Lagos reports,

According to information released on the embassy’s official website, candidates interested in applying for the position must be between the ages of 20 and 30 and possess at least a B1 level of proficiency in the French language.

The application window for this employment opportunity opened on December 19, 2023, and is set to close on January 19, 2024.

Successful applicants will not only gain professional experience but will also have the chance to travel, live, and work in France.

The role requires a commitment of 12 hours of work per week, and the contract duration is seven months.

One of the most attractive aspects of this opportunity is the salary offered to the selected candidates.

English Language assistants will receive a monthly salary of N911,000 or €1,010.67, translating to a total of N6,377,000 over the course of the fellowship.

Prospective candidates are encouraged to visit the embassy’s application portal to complete the application process.

Part of the information reads;

“The language assistant has the status of a non-permanent State agent. He works 12 hours a week. The duration of the contract is 7 months. The monthly remuneration was set at €1,010.67 gross.”

https://eyesoflagos.com/2023/12/29/we-will-pay-you-n911k-monthly-france-announces-job-opportunities-for-nigerians/


cc: mynd44 , Nlfpmod , Seun

Dagger111:
In 2016 she told me her salary was N35,000. And then two years later, when she got promoted, I asked about her salary and she said, “Oh these people, don’t mind them. They added only N8,000 to my old salary. Because of her meager salary, I’ve taken up so many responsibilities in the house without complaint. I pay for utilities and pay for food. I pay the fees of our two kids, clothe them, and take care of their medical bills. When my wife sends me a grocery list, she adds sanitary pads. She buys dresses and clothes, comes to show them to me, and asks me to pay for them. She started talking about a car when our second child came in. Things weren’t good on my side so I asked her to give me some time. She said, “I’ve saved something. I can add it to what you have so you pay me when your money comes.”

I agreed and took that money from her, topped it up to get her a car. For three months my ears never rest. She would wake up at dawn and ask me to pay what I owed her. I got tired and paid the money when I didn’t have much in my account.

One evening, I turned my laptop on and saw a lot of emails. I checked and it was my wife’s email that had been opened. I asked her, “Did you use my laptop?” She answered, “Yeah I was checking something.” I told her, “Then you didn’t log out.” She answered, “I forgot. Please log out for me.” I was about to log out when something caught my attention. I saw a mail with the subject, “January Payslip.” I opened and started going through. When I saw her gross salary, I was shocked. N654,734? And this girl has been crying poverty?

I went through the details. That night I couldn’t sleep. I was angry. I felt let down. I felt cheated. I felt played. We’ve been married for six good years and my wife earned that much without my knowledge? How much she earned didn’t bother me a lot than what she was using that money for. I decided not to talk immediately but rather do a little bit of investigation.

All my life I’ve held the view that it wasn’t right for anyone to go through their partner’s phone. It’s an invasion of privacy and it breeds mistrust in the relationship but that night, going through her phone was the only way to find out what I was looking for. I started with her best friend. Nothing much was found. Her family had a Whatsapp group. I read the messages there. I got few hints. I went through the chat with her father and that was when I realized my wife had bought a piece of land and had started building. Her father was in charge of the project. He had sent photos of the various stages of the building. At some point, her father said, “Thank you for helping out your brother. He would have been home had it not been you.”

She has only one brother—her senior brother. I went to look for the chat between them. Her senior brother lost his job and was home doing nothing so my wife bought her Hyundai i10 to use for Uber. Every week, her brother rendered an account and they split the money. From all indications, my wife was doing well for herself while she plays poor so she could rely on my salary. Why would she do that? I thought I was being a supportive husband so my wife could be proud of the man she married. When we bought land, it was her name and my name that appeared on the land title. That car I bought for her with a loan from her bears her name. I didn’t mind. I believed what’s hers was also mine.

The next morning she realized I wasn’t looking well. I was boiling on the inside but looking for a good opportunity to start the conversation. When I calmed down a little, I asked her, “So why would you do that to me?” She asked, “What have I done?” I answered, “You bought land, you never told me. You started building on it, you never told me. When are you going to tell me?” She was shocked. She asked, “Who told you all that?” I said, “Your father did.” She stood quiet for a while. She asked, “Why would my father tell you all that? What were you people talking about” I said, “I don’t know. You can ask him.”

We left it there. Some minutes later she came to me with her phone: “My father wants to talk to you.” The phone was already on a loudspeaker. Her father was clearly angry. He asked, almost shouting, “You said I told you my daughter has a building? Where did I say that and when?”
I asked, “Is it not true that my wife has a building project going on that you’re supervising?” He asked me, “I told you that?” I asked him, “Is it true or not?” After the back and forth I told them, “I read your messages last night. I saw the pictures. I read the various budget you had sent to my wife. I read the confirmation of the money receipts that you sent her. You’re a man. Would you be happy if your wife does this to you?” He started fumbling. He started apologizing saying he thought I was aware.”

My wife stood there motionless, didn’t know what to say. When her father hung up, I told her everything I knew, from her salary to the car she bought for her brother. I said, “Yet, even your sanitary pad, I buy them. You think I’m a fool? You’ll use your money to acquire your own properties and live on mine because you’re my wife? I hear. We’ll see.”

Trust was lost. Love was broken. We had to find a new way of living our lives going forward. Her father called me every morning and evening apologizing for everything and sometimes taking up the blame so I didn’t have to blame his daughter. I told him, “The emotional state I’m in right now, it would be hard to think straight or think forgiveness. Just give me space.” Three days later, they were in our house. The father, the mother, and the senior brother. They came to apologize. “Don’t let this break up the beautiful marriage you both have. If nothing at all, consider the kids and be lenient in your judgment.”

I listened to them. My position was still the same. “I need time to clear my mind. Just leave me alone to think.” From last month to this moment that I’m writing this, my wife had changed totally. She doesn’t ask for money but the house is being run smoothly. She has started paying for things she never paid for but that doesn’t move me. She has taught me a very great lesson and I’m taking it seriously. That in everything, I have to look out for myself and my family first. Lastly she told me, “If you want us to change the names on those properties, we can do so.” Guess whose name is on the property…her father’s name.”

I told her, “You don’t need to change anything. They are yours. You suffered for them so you can decide what you want to do with them.” The land I bought has our names. I’m selling it and take my money back. The car she’s driving has her name. I put a for-sale sticker on it some weeks ago. She agreed she’ll pay for the car. I’ve given her two months to pay up or I sell it and take my money.
She’s getting the message and I’m glad. Each one for himself, God for us all.
She keeps asking if I’m going to leave her. I keep telling her I won’t but if she wants a separation for a period, I will gladly give her. I’m not going to leave the marriage. I would give us some time to heal and see what may happen but when it comes to money, I’ve taken the lesson she taught me through her actions.

What will you do if you are in my position and feeling deeply hurt??

Leadership News

Written by Iniobong Ekponta Reading Time: 2 mins read




Aggrieved non academic officials drawn from the Non Academic Staff Union (NASU) of the Akwa Ibom State University (AKSU), and other affiliate bodies including the Non Academic Staff Union of Educational and Associated Institutions (NASUEAI), Senior Staff Association of Nigerian Universities (SSANU) and the National Association of Academic Technologists (NAATs), is set to embark on strike on 3rd January 2024, LEADERSHIP garthered in Uyo, the state capital.

The chairman of NASU in the institution, Comrade Mefiok Umana, who doubles as secretary of the Joint Action Committee (JAC) of the coalition, maintained that the strike action remains sacrosanct as the 14-days’ notice already issued to government since December 20, expires on 3rd January 2024, except government intervenes via dialogue.


Poor funding that has impinged negatively on academic infrastructure and welfare of workers, he explained, compeled the protesting workers to agree to down tool until government accept to address their grievances.

Lamenting what he described as gross underfunding of the institution and non-commitment to staff welfare as the driving force of the school, Umana expressed anger that while civil servants in the state are enjoying the yuletide season, AKSU workers are wallowing in crises situation in their homes due to lack of government largesse.

“All is not well with us at AKSU. Our workers are in sober mood in this Christmas and new year festivities,” he lamented, and listed some of the grievance areas to include non-implementation of petrol subsidy removal palliative at AKSU, no double salary to AKSU workers in December, as announced by Governor Umo Eno, and only N2,000 hazard allowance as against the N30,000 for senior workers and N15,000 for junior staff.


Other problem areas he listed bothers on lack of conducive environment for teaching, learning and research, explaining that only two hours (10 – 12 noon), are devoted to running generators to energize the school every day, and no leave allowance due to inadequate subvention.

Dagger111:
In 2016 she told me her salary was N35,000. And then two years later, when she got promoted, I asked about her salary and she said, “Oh these people, don’t mind them. They added only N8,000 to my old salary. Because of her meager salary, I’ve taken up so many responsibilities in the house without complaint. I pay for utilities and pay for food. I pay the fees of our two kids, clothe them, and take care of their medical bills. When my wife sends me a grocery list, she adds sanitary pads. She buys dresses and clothes, comes to show them to me, and asks me to pay for them. She started talking about a car when our second child came in. Things weren’t good on my side so I asked her to give me some time. She said, “I’ve saved something. I can add it to what you have so you pay me when your money comes.”

I agreed and took that money from her, topped it up to get her a car. For three months my ears never rest. She would wake up at dawn and ask me to pay what I owed her. I got tired and paid the money when I didn’t have much in my account.

One evening, I turned my laptop on and saw a lot of emails. I checked and it was my wife’s email that had been opened. I asked her, “Did you use my laptop?” She answered, “Yeah I was checking something.” I told her, “Then you didn’t log out.” She answered, “I forgot. Please log out for me.” I was about to log out when something caught my attention. I saw a mail with the subject, “January Payslip.” I opened and started going through. When I saw her gross salary, I was shocked. N654,734? And this girl has been crying poverty?

I went through the details. That night I couldn’t sleep. I was angry. I felt let down. I felt cheated. I felt played. We’ve been married for six good years and my wife earned that much without my knowledge? How much she earned didn’t bother me a lot than what she was using that money for. I decided not to talk immediately but rather do a little bit of investigation.

All my life I’ve held the view that it wasn’t right for anyone to go through their partner’s phone. It’s an invasion of privacy and it breeds mistrust in the relationship but that night, going through her phone was the only way to find out what I was looking for. I started with her best friend. Nothing much was found. Her family had a Whatsapp group. I read the messages there. I got few hints. I went through the chat with her father and that was when I realized my wife had bought a piece of land and had started building. Her father was in charge of the project. He had sent photos of the various stages of the building. At some point, her father said, “Thank you for helping out your brother. He would have been home had it not been you.”

She has only one brother—her senior brother. I went to look for the chat between them. Her senior brother lost his job and was home doing nothing so my wife bought her Hyundai i10 to use for Uber. Every week, her brother rendered an account and they split the money. From all indications, my wife was doing well for herself while she plays poor so she could rely on my salary. Why would she do that? I thought I was being a supportive husband so my wife could be proud of the man she married. When we bought land, it was her name and my name that appeared on the land title. That car I bought for her with a loan from her bears her name. I didn’t mind. I believed what’s hers was also mine.

The next morning she realized I wasn’t looking well. I was boiling on the inside but looking for a good opportunity to start the conversation. When I calmed down a little, I asked her, “So why would you do that to me?” She asked, “What have I done?” I answered, “You bought land, you never told me. You started building on it, you never told me. When are you going to tell me?” She was shocked. She asked, “Who told you all that?” I said, “Your father did.” She stood quiet for a while. She asked, “Why would my father tell you all that? What were you people talking about” I said, “I don’t know. You can ask him.”

We left it there. Some minutes later she came to me with her phone: “My father wants to talk to you.” The phone was already on a loudspeaker. Her father was clearly angry. He asked, almost shouting, “You said I told you my daughter has a building? Where did I say that and when?”
I asked, “Is it not true that my wife has a building project going on that you’re supervising?” He asked me, “I told you that?” I asked him, “Is it true or not?” After the back and forth I told them, “I read your messages last night. I saw the pictures. I read the various budget you had sent to my wife. I read the confirmation of the money receipts that you sent her. You’re a man. Would you be happy if your wife does this to you?” He started fumbling. He started apologizing saying he thought I was aware.”

My wife stood there motionless, didn’t know what to say. When her father hung up, I told her everything I knew, from her salary to the car she bought for her brother. I said, “Yet, even your sanitary pad, I buy them. You think I’m a fool? You’ll use your money to acquire your own properties and live on mine because you’re my wife? I hear. We’ll see.”

Trust was lost. Love was broken. We had to find a new way of living our lives going forward. Her father called me every morning and evening apologizing for everything and sometimes taking up the blame so I didn’t have to blame his daughter. I told him, “The emotional state I’m in right now, it would be hard to think straight or think forgiveness. Just give me space.” Three days later, they were in our house. The father, the mother, and the senior brother. They came to apologize. “Don’t let this break up the beautiful marriage you both have. If nothing at all, consider the kids and be lenient in your judgment.”

I listened to them. My position was still the same. “I need time to clear my mind. Just leave me alone to think.” From last month to this moment that I’m writing this, my wife had changed totally. She doesn’t ask for money but the house is being run smoothly. She has started paying for things she never paid for but that doesn’t move me. She has taught me a very great lesson and I’m taking it seriously. That in everything, I have to look out for myself and my family first. Lastly she told me, “If you want us to change the names on those properties, we can do so.” Guess whose name is on the property…her father’s name.”

I told her, “You don’t need to change anything. They are yours. You suffered for them so you can decide what you want to do with them.” The land I bought has our names. I’m selling it and take my money back. The car she’s driving has her name. I put a for-sale sticker on it some weeks ago. She agreed she’ll pay for the car. I’ve given her two months to pay up or I sell it and take my money.
She’s getting the message and I’m glad. Each one for himself, God for us all.
She keeps asking if I’m going to leave her. I keep telling her I won’t but if she wants a separation for a period, I will gladly give her. I’m not going to leave the marriage. I would give us some time to heal and see what may happen but when it comes to money, I’ve taken the lesson she taught me through her actions.

What will you do if you are in my position and feeling deeply hurt??

You've handled things fairly maturely. You've done well!

From your narration, it's quite clear that your wife and her family has gotten the message. For her parents and brother to have come over to your place to plead with you kinda indicates they really respect you and see you truly as a son-in-law.

Also, considering that your wife too has started adjusting and making changes, it appears she respects and loved you. Not many women who can cater for their own needs would be that humble and sober! It seems she is a good woman who was just influenced to do the things she did. She didn't know the gravity of it...

I think you've starved her your attention enough (that's why she's asking if you'd leave her). Don't let that issue destroy your marriage.

What you can do now is to engage her in a heart-to-heart conversation of how much that revelation breached your trust for her. Let her know you love her, but you are just so hurt! Also forgive her. You both can resolve to not hide anything from each other again... I believe your marriage can get better and your love deeper.

Dagger111:
In 2016 she told me her salary was N35,000. And then two years later, when she got promoted, I asked about her salary and she said, “Oh these people, don’t mind them. They added only N8,000 to my old salary. Because of her meager salary, I’ve taken up so many responsibilities in the house without complaint. I pay for utilities and pay for food. I pay the fees of our two kids, clothe them, and take care of their medical bills. When my wife sends me a grocery list, she adds sanitary pads. She buys dresses and clothes, comes to show them to me, and asks me to pay for them. She started talking about a car when our second child came in. Things weren’t good on my side so I asked her to give me some time. She said, “I’ve saved something. I can add it to what you have so you pay me when your money comes.”

I agreed and took that money from her, topped it up to get her a car. For three months my ears never rest. She would wake up at dawn and ask me to pay what I owed her. I got tired and paid the money when I didn’t have much in my account.

One evening, I turned my laptop on and saw a lot of emails. I checked and it was my wife’s email that had been opened. I asked her, “Did you use my laptop?” She answered, “Yeah I was checking something.” I told her, “Then you didn’t log out.” She answered, “I forgot. Please log out for me.” I was about to log out when something caught my attention. I saw a mail with the subject, “January Payslip.” I opened and started going through. When I saw her gross salary, I was shocked. N654,734? And this girl has been crying poverty?

I went through the details. That night I couldn’t sleep. I was angry. I felt let down. I felt cheated. I felt played. We’ve been married for six good years and my wife earned that much without my knowledge? How much she earned didn’t bother me a lot than what she was using that money for. I decided not to talk immediately but rather do a little bit of investigation.

All my life I’ve held the view that it wasn’t right for anyone to go through their partner’s phone. It’s an invasion of privacy and it breeds mistrust in the relationship but that night, going through her phone was the only way to find out what I was looking for. I started with her best friend. Nothing much was found. Her family had a Whatsapp group. I read the messages there. I got few hints. I went through the chat with her father and that was when I realized my wife had bought a piece of land and had started building. Her father was in charge of the project. He had sent photos of the various stages of the building. At some point, her father said, “Thank you for helping out your brother. He would have been home had it not been you.”

She has only one brother—her senior brother. I went to look for the chat between them. Her senior brother lost his job and was home doing nothing so my wife bought her Hyundai i10 to use for Uber. Every week, her brother rendered an account and they split the money. From all indications, my wife was doing well for herself while she plays poor so she could rely on my salary. Why would she do that? I thought I was being a supportive husband so my wife could be proud of the man she married. When we bought land, it was her name and my name that appeared on the land title. That car I bought for her with a loan from her bears her name. I didn’t mind. I believed what’s hers was also mine.

The next morning she realized I wasn’t looking well. I was boiling on the inside but looking for a good opportunity to start the conversation. When I calmed down a little, I asked her, “So why would you do that to me?” She asked, “What have I done?” I answered, “You bought land, you never told me. You started building on it, you never told me. When are you going to tell me?” She was shocked. She asked, “Who told you all that?” I said, “Your father did.” She stood quiet for a while. She asked, “Why would my father tell you all that? What were you people talking about” I said, “I don’t know. You can ask him.”

We left it there. Some minutes later she came to me with her phone: “My father wants to talk to you.” The phone was already on a loudspeaker. Her father was clearly angry. He asked, almost shouting, “You said I told you my daughter has a building? Where did I say that and when?”
I asked, “Is it not true that my wife has a building project going on that you’re supervising?” He asked me, “I told you that?” I asked him, “Is it true or not?” After the back and forth I told them, “I read your messages last night. I saw the pictures. I read the various budget you had sent to my wife. I read the confirmation of the money receipts that you sent her. You’re a man. Would you be happy if your wife does this to you?” He started fumbling. He started apologizing saying he thought I was aware.”

My wife stood there motionless, didn’t know what to say. When her father hung up, I told her everything I knew, from her salary to the car she bought for her brother. I said, “Yet, even your sanitary pad, I buy them. You think I’m a fool? You’ll use your money to acquire your own properties and live on mine because you’re my wife? I hear. We’ll see.”

Trust was lost. Love was broken. We had to find a new way of living our lives going forward. Her father called me every morning and evening apologizing for everything and sometimes taking up the blame so I didn’t have to blame his daughter. I told him, “The emotional state I’m in right now, it would be hard to think straight or think forgiveness. Just give me space.” Three days later, they were in our house. The father, the mother, and the senior brother. They came to apologize. “Don’t let this break up the beautiful marriage you both have. If nothing at all, consider the kids and be lenient in your judgment.”

I listened to them. My position was still the same. “I need time to clear my mind. Just leave me alone to think.” From last month to this moment that I’m writing this, my wife had changed totally. She doesn’t ask for money but the house is being run smoothly. She has started paying for things she never paid for but that doesn’t move me. She has taught me a very great lesson and I’m taking it seriously. That in everything, I have to look out for myself and my family first. Lastly she told me, “If you want us to change the names on those properties, we can do so.” Guess whose name is on the property…her father’s name.”

I told her, “You don’t need to change anything. They are yours. You suffered for them so you can decide what you want to do with them.” The land I bought has our names. I’m selling it and take my money back. The car she’s driving has her name. I put a for-sale sticker on it some weeks ago. She agreed she’ll pay for the car. I’ve given her two months to pay up or I sell it and take my money.
She’s getting the message and I’m glad. Each one for himself, God for us all.
She keeps asking if I’m going to leave her. I keep telling her I won’t but if she wants a separation for a period, I will gladly give her. I’m not going to leave the marriage. I would give us some time to heal and see what may happen but when it comes to money, I’ve taken the lesson she taught me through her actions.

What will you do if you are in my position and feeling deeply hurt??

its not your story..this is an old story dating back over 3 years.. Nigerians and plagiarism.Learn to quote the original source.

Dagger111:
In 2016 she told me her salary was N35,000. And then two years later, when she got promoted, I asked about her salary and she said, “Oh these people, don’t mind them. They added only N8,000 to my old salary. Because of her meager salary, I’ve taken up so many responsibilities in the house without complaint. I pay for utilities and pay for food. I pay the fees of our two kids, clothe them, and take care of their medical bills. When my wife sends me a grocery list, she adds sanitary pads. She buys dresses and clothes, comes to show them to me, and asks me to pay for them. She started talking about a car when our second child came in. Things weren’t good on my side so I asked her to give me some time. She said, “I’ve saved something. I can add it to what you have so you pay me when your money comes.”

I agreed and took that money from her, topped it up to get her a car. For three months my ears never rest. She would wake up at dawn and ask me to pay what I owed her. I got tired and paid the money when I didn’t have much in my account.

One evening, I turned my laptop on and saw a lot of emails. I checked and it was my wife’s email that had been opened. I asked her, “Did you use my laptop?” She answered, “Yeah I was checking something.” I told her, “Then you didn’t log out.” She answered, “I forgot. Please log out for me.” I was about to log out when something caught my attention. I saw a mail with the subject, “January Payslip.” I opened and started going through. When I saw her gross salary, I was shocked. N654,734? And this girl has been crying poverty?

I went through the details. That night I couldn’t sleep. I was angry. I felt let down. I felt cheated. I felt played. We’ve been married for six good years and my wife earned that much without my knowledge? How much she earned didn’t bother me a lot than what she was using that money for. I decided not to talk immediately but rather do a little bit of investigation.

All my life I’ve held the view that it wasn’t right for anyone to go through their partner’s phone. It’s an invasion of privacy and it breeds mistrust in the relationship but that night, going through her phone was the only way to find out what I was looking for. I started with her best friend. Nothing much was found. Her family had a Whatsapp group. I read the messages there. I got few hints. I went through the chat with her father and that was when I realized my wife had bought a piece of land and had started building. Her father was in charge of the project. He had sent photos of the various stages of the building. At some point, her father said, “Thank you for helping out your brother. He would have been home had it not been you.”

She has only one brother—her senior brother. I went to look for the chat between them. Her senior brother lost his job and was home doing nothing so my wife bought her Hyundai i10 to use for Uber. Every week, her brother rendered an account and they split the money. From all indications, my wife was doing well for herself while she plays poor so she could rely on my salary. Why would she do that? I thought I was being a supportive husband so my wife could be proud of the man she married. When we bought land, it was her name and my name that appeared on the land title. That car I bought for her with a loan from her bears her name. I didn’t mind. I believed what’s hers was also mine.

The next morning she realized I wasn’t looking well. I was boiling on the inside but looking for a good opportunity to start the conversation. When I calmed down a little, I asked her, “So why would you do that to me?” She asked, “What have I done?” I answered, “You bought land, you never told me. You started building on it, you never told me. When are you going to tell me?” She was shocked. She asked, “Who told you all that?” I said, “Your father did.” She stood quiet for a while. She asked, “Why would my father tell you all that? What were you people talking about” I said, “I don’t know. You can ask him.”

We left it there. Some minutes later she came to me with her phone: “My father wants to talk to you.” The phone was already on a loudspeaker. Her father was clearly angry. He asked, almost shouting, “You said I told you my daughter has a building? Where did I say that and when?”
I asked, “Is it not true that my wife has a building project going on that you’re supervising?” He asked me, “I told you that?” I asked him, “Is it true or not?” After the back and forth I told them, “I read your messages last night. I saw the pictures. I read the various budget you had sent to my wife. I read the confirmation of the money receipts that you sent her. You’re a man. Would you be happy if your wife does this to you?” He started fumbling. He started apologizing saying he thought I was aware.”

My wife stood there motionless, didn’t know what to say. When her father hung up, I told her everything I knew, from her salary to the car she bought for her brother. I said, “Yet, even your sanitary pad, I buy them. You think I’m a fool? You’ll use your money to acquire your own properties and live on mine because you’re my wife? I hear. We’ll see.”

Trust was lost. Love was broken. We had to find a new way of living our lives going forward. Her father called me every morning and evening apologizing for everything and sometimes taking up the blame so I didn’t have to blame his daughter. I told him, “The emotional state I’m in right now, it would be hard to think straight or think forgiveness. Just give me space.” Three days later, they were in our house. The father, the mother, and the senior brother. They came to apologize. “Don’t let this break up the beautiful marriage you both have. If nothing at all, consider the kids and be lenient in your judgment.”

I listened to them. My position was still the same. “I need time to clear my mind. Just leave me alone to think.” From last month to this moment that I’m writing this, my wife had changed totally. She doesn’t ask for money but the house is being run smoothly. She has started paying for things she never paid for but that doesn’t move me. She has taught me a very great lesson and I’m taking it seriously. That in everything, I have to look out for myself and my family first. Lastly she told me, “If you want us to change the names on those properties, we can do so.” Guess whose name is on the property…her father’s name.”

I told her, “You don’t need to change anything. They are yours. You suffered for them so you can decide what you want to do with them.” The land I bought has our names. I’m selling it and take my money back. The car she’s driving has her name. I put a for-sale sticker on it some weeks ago. She agreed she’ll pay for the car. I’ve given her two months to pay up or I sell it and take my money.
She’s getting the message and I’m glad. Each one for himself, God for us all.
She keeps asking if I’m going to leave her. I keep telling her I won’t but if she wants a separation for a period, I will gladly give her. I’m not going to leave the marriage. I would give us some time to heal and see what may happen but when it comes to money, I’ve taken the lesson she taught me through her actions.

What will you do if you are in my position and feeling deeply hurt??

Some women are like that.they cannot detach with their family n make a new one.u like housemate to her while her parents dem na her true family.its really bad that she could do all this without telling u.she can plan ur funeral 2 years n ahead n u will never know.i cannot advice u to leave her this is a marriage.Bt wat i can advice is take charge.. take ur place as d man of d house n stop being mr Nice guy .Anything she wanna do wit her salary fem henceforth should be approved by u.Continue to pay rent n schl fees as thats ur number 1 responsibility as a man...no let am contribute for that one bt she has to chip in somehow.