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Oops. I meant to say there's no CSD on the Glo Mobile Network. My error!

c0dec, you are hereby cautioned. No, seriously.

If the man really loves you, he will tell you he is impotent before you get married. Anyway, young people planning to get married should check for STDs, HIV, ability to consumate the marriage, et cetera before getting married.

A lot of problems can be prevented by doing due diligence. People should do their homework before allowing love to 'carry them away!'

if so, how come it is possible for a woman to be elected as a state Governor or President in Nigeria

So do you ladies think you can compare yourselves to the men?

It appears as if I am the only one that has eyes on this forum?

This is not divorce; it's annulment. There is a difference between the two. [I]"Annulment is a legal procedure for declaring a marriage null and void. Annulment differs from divorce where the court ends an otherwise legal marriage on a specific date."[/I]

What we are saying is that since the marriage is [I]contracted[/I] based on certain [I]basic expectations[/I] and you know that you are not able to satisfy those [I]basic expectations[/I], and you go ahead and deceive your partner in order to get married, then the marriage [I]contract[/I] can be declared null and void.

This is just like what happens when you get married to someone and the person is discovered to be married to someone else! In that situation, will you say that since you "don't believe in divorce" both of you must remain married to the same man?

If, unknown to you but known to him/herat the time of the marriage:
[list][li]Your husband or wife was incapable of consummating the marriage[/li]
[li]He or she is suffering from a venereal disease in communicable form[/li]
[li]Your wife is pregnant by another man (remember, we now have DNA analysis).[/li]
[li]He/she is of unsound mind, a 'mental defective', or subject to recurrent attacks of insanity or epilepsy[/li][/list]
... then the marriage can be cancelled (annulled, voided) by a court in Nigeria.

This is different from divorce, and your lawyer is in a better position to discuss the various conditions. But it is an option that you should be aware of ([url=http://www.nigeria-law.org/Matrimonial%20Causes%20Act.htm]reference[/url])

IAH, if the child is living with the man and his mother is alive then it can be really complicated unless both you and the child are able to accept each other.

Then you have to consider the financial status of both of you if he's paying money for child support, then you have to consider the possibility that he will leave you even after you have children in your relationship with him!

So it depends on so many factors. Was he married to the mother of his child? Did she leave him or did he leave her? Was it just a fling that went wrong? WHy was he not able to maintain a relationship with the boy's mother?

Sometimes we are too quick to conclude that someone is perfect for us when we know so little abt the person.

What else do you expect from the superior sex?

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This thread is for discussing your favorite Nigerian movies (home videos).

How come the ladies can't think of a better question?

Related: Why is it that a girl would like a guy and won't let him know?

Construction of the tourist facilities at the Olumo Rock site have reached a more advanced stage today. Any comments?

[center]THE OLUMO ROCK SITE TODAY:
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Current state of development of Olumo Rock Tourist Facilities in Abeokuta
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A lovely lady on this forum [] supplied me with the following picture from the [I]Olumo Rock Construction Plan![/I] This is what Olumo Rock will look like when the construction taking place on the site is complete. Compare this with the third picture on this thread. Wow!

[center][img width=436 height=356]http://www.nairaland.com.nyud.net:8090/img/olumo-rock-construction-plan.jpg?[/img]
CONSTRUCTION PLAN FOR OLUMO ROCK FACILITIES
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Such a marriage can be declared null and void in court.  Only a wicked man will marry a woman knowing that he is incapable of fathering a child.  The law of Nigeria provides for 'voiding' (annulment) of a marriage under circumstances like the one you've described. 

[I]Lawyers in the house please shed more light on this issue of voiding or annulment of a marriage[/I].

[color=#770000]UPDATE:[/color] There are so many cases of impotence that are due to psychological and similar factors. Those ones are curable, and you cannot annul the marriage unless it's an incurable case. I apologize for ignoring this factor in my post.

There's no CSD on the Vmobile Network. Besides, CSD is probably too expensive. What do you need to use WAP for?

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Nice tip. I stay at Otta, Ogun State. Where is the nearest Vmobile Office?

dablessed, your question is a closed question. I have my own ideas about the order in which a relationship should progress, and I don't think I can fit it into your friendship/dating/intimacy/companionship model at all!

Hmmm. Good point.

I just want to say that you should try to be calm about it. Good people sometimes do bad things; people make mistakes. If it's possible for you to ask him in a direct, really calm fashion with the facts, like: "so and so told me you were seen at a club with another woman. Tell me about it". Then listen to what he has to say and watch him intently for signs that he's not being sincere.

Ask "why" questions, and do not use this as an occasion to react. Just listen like a calculating robot and ask questions. Then excuse him and think about the response. Then when you're sure you know exactly what happened, you can react. You can also keep us updated. Hope this helps.

His he your husband, boyfriend or fiance?

Why don't you ladies suggest something for us to talk about?

I am a young man and I have dabbled into so many things, but so far the Nairaland Forum seems to be my most successful venture. I am not in love with anyone, and nobody is in love with me.

So, I'll spend my last day on earth furiously typing all my plans and ideas for Nairaland in a document, and I'll direct my parents to give the document to my biological brother to continue the work I have started so at least I'll know I'm leaving something good behind. That's it for me.

forty-nine

Why not let's leave Peter alone and talk about pets or something else?

Probably the Ogun State government, or their Tourism arm.

So why did he choose not to phrase his statement as a question?

It's meant to be amusing, not hurtful. Apologies if you felt bad about it.

I support that. I guess I'll work out the details.

Greatpeter, why can't you phrase your statement as a question?