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frozen70:
I don't know why you men are scared of marriage yet you want to be sleeping with a woman

Women are the most loving humans to be with

You can only see them displaying when you men trigger their emotions

Yeah right , the most loving humans to be with and equally the most dangerous people on earth.
The death of several men is traceable to their wives directly or indirectly.

Hathor5:
It's not about the institution.

Ask yourself:

Would I rather grow up with my mother and father loving each other and living under one roof?

Or would I rather grow up with my parents separated not being with one of them on a daily basis?



Never said anything else.



There is a HUGE difference between shit happening and making poor choices.



Someone who asks what is better for him without even considering the kids' interest in all of it is not fit to be a father. I stand by it.

The ideal scenario you're pushing is no longer the barometer by which good fathers or children are rated.

A child can grow under any circumstance and turn out well in life and because life doesn't give people choices of what environment to grow, it shouldn't matter the environment we find ourselves. What matters is what we make of it.

And there are no poor choices in this matter, it's a matter of perspectives.

You still can't postulate who should or shouldn't be a father. I know you're not suggesting that attempting to raise a kid as a man makes him unfit to be a father.

Hathor5:
If you think that baby mama brings no drama you are in it for a BIG surprise.

And before you ask which is better for the man, ask which is better for the children.

If you don't ask this question first, you are not fit to be a father.

No need to overrate the marital institution

There are kids raised by single parents who are better of those raised by both

Shit happens in life, a married person today can become single tomorrow for many reasons

Lastly, don't be hasty to conclude that a man is not fit to be a father.

The demands of living with a woman are too numerous to count. Virtually all the functions of a wife can be improvised in today's world. Perhaps that explains why some men prefer to have kids without necessarily tieing the knot with any woman.
Which of these 2 options is best for a man to live long?

BirtherOfKings:
I don't have courage to hawk bread
Sun will finish me and cos me to run back inside

Read again, Hawking and distributing are not the same

Someone plans to remove the roof of a bungalow to deck it. Can the removed roofing materials be reused after the new structure is placed on the decking?

It has never been an easy feeling the times I had none to give Awkward and odd was the feeling ,to say the least. It should always be a thing of joy to be able to give cheerfully to the God who gave us all things. I love to always give to the Lord.

ArticleBeast:
Very ungrateful bastard

How dare you call him a bastard?

tiswell:
Hustle o make you no go dey wait for inheritance

You miss the point. Hustle or no hustle, a good parent leaves an inheritance for his children's children. Inheritance is your right as a child in a family and it's meant to augument your life.

HenryDion:
Old enough!!!

Folks old enough don't consider sex time as the best time of their lives.

Oesophagus99:
he's only 4!

do you have a problem with that?

Thought as much, this thread is for mature minds not babies

HenryDion:
Sex is not overrated, as lack of it can make your life miserable even if you have billions in your account.

Having sex, with someone who means the world to you can help manage depression, anxiety and improve your overall mode thanks to the love chemicals.

Just get your rock and die, and have the best time of your life. Trying to discourage people from sex is one of the traits of an incel.

Don't do that!

How old are you?

OgThanos:
Yes. Sex was once overrated, but certainly not any more..
You can now get sex at your fingertips
But bro,, make I no lie, sex sweet o, just do it with the right person at the right time. Ciao

Sure it's sweet but outright marriage, it's too costly.

If you still run after sex like it's food, you need to grow and get busy with life. There is a lot more to life than sex. Trading a beautiful future for momentary benefit is not logical. At this stage, life should have taught you enough lessons to make you control your libido. If you're not learning your lessons, too bad.
Besides procreation,Is sex really worth the cost? Check out the profile of sex outside marriage
A. Terminates life abruptly
B Causes Unwanted pregnancies
C. Turns married men to polygamous men
D. Drains people of their hard earned income
E. Opens the window for multiple spiritual battles
F Can make you a victim of Thunderbolt(Magun)
G. Brings shame and disgrace when you're caught in the act.
F Wastes your time and resources. Imagine travelling from Lagos to P/H just to have sex
G. Can shatter your dreams suddenly.

Sex ain't all that, there are deeper causes of existence.

DoggoneDogg:
Your made men - bank MDs, CEOs, Ministers, Heads of big public parastatals, Permanent secretaries etc - are all working for salary till 65 but some ignorant itunes gift card low budget yahoo boy in your friend's list will tell you he can never work for salary & he is his own boss yen yen yen.

Yet in his life, he may never reach the heights of those men I highlighted above while you can if you know your onions.

Okay.

but you know salary jobs just don't work for some people. They keep having issues and changing jobs till they get tired of it all

At what point can a man quit salary jobs
1. After attaining financial strength
2. After establishing a profitable business
3. After years of job hunting without success

Just thinking out loud

petra1:
haba . many Nigerian ministers have been ministrying all over the world. pastor chris ministers with benny hinn.
arch bishop idahosa syarted ministrying in America since the 80s

At what ratio?

budaatum:
You wonder why? Perhaps American preacher sells in Naija but Naija preacher does not sell in America.

I mean, if Naija see oyinbo for poster the juju fit make dem run come, but Naija for poster juju might not work on oyinbo in America.

I am just wondering too, of course.

Think you have a point

Most Nigerian churches don't feel the speakers' list of their conferences are complete until American preachers are included. The same can't be said about American churches conferences where they hardly headline Nigerian Pastors. I wonder why.

He broke into limelight in the 90s as a controversial miracle man.

Tongues wagged , most of which was in criticism of his peculiarities and methods.

As a high school student, a colleague of mine said he won't last 7 years. But he did.

The mainstream Pentecostal caucus had their reservations about his style and believed he had questions to answer about his foundation as a Christian.

The argument was predicated on the sudden appearance of a miracle man without a traceable spiritual foundation.

Hence, they kept him at arm's length, stood aloof and watched from a distance.

He seemed like a candle that was to burn out shortly

However, T.B Joshua ignored the criticisms, forged ahead, turning many to Christ.

International doors opened for him and his church became a Jerusalem of some sort to foreigners who came in from S/Africa, East Africa, Europe, Asia and the Americas.

There was this big scandal involving the trio of T.B Joshua, Chris Oyakhilome and Chris Okotie. It shook the Pentecostal circle in the early 2000s. Still, he survived.

To the admiration of most, he embraced philanthropy with an aggression that could best be described as second to none at least in Nigeria.

His popularity across the nations of the world rose as he travelled with the good news of Jesus Christ.

Regardless of which side of the divide you stand on this man, one truth we can all identify with is the fact that;

He made "Jesus " more popular
He spread the name of Jesus across the whole earth.
From Mexico to Korea and many other nations, his message was JESUS.

There is no doubt as to the gargantuan impact he made in the lives of millions across the world.

His cable Television "Emmanuel TV" is viewed from all over the world.

I salute a man who rose from Ikotun to become a global icon of uncommon proportion.

He was a spiritual father and adviser to Presidents.

He has lived his life.

In the lyrics of Chief Commander Ebenezer Obey , T.B Joshua did his best and left the rest.

I wish him eternal rest with his maker.

Single men and women need to be educated on this simple but weighty question. From your experiences in life or marriage, what do you have to say?

What could be more antithetical to the Christian faith than Christians and Clergymen who doubt,despise and mock the miraculous?

Such claim that it's only Jesus, the apostles and a few Bible characters who are licenced to walk that path is not only ridiculous but mischievous.

Their only focus is the exegesis of the word while ignoring the requisite corresponding prayer walk with the Holy spirit without which signs and wonders will not happen.

Matthew 17:21
[21]Howbeit this kind goeth not out but by prayer and fasting.

You criticize the opening of blind eyes because you lack the gift
You despise raising of the dead because God did not use you.
You tag as fake the healing of cripples because your ministry lacks such proofs.
You mock all manner of miracles and call it hypnosis and crowd manipulation simply because it's not you.

If roles were switched and it was during your preaching meeting that blind eyes suddenly popped open, cripples felt a sensation in their knees that made them walk and the dead resurrected , would you still be critical of miracles? I doubt.

This is nothing short of jealousy and envy. If you truly desire a gift, why not ask the Holy Spirit to release such into your ministry or ask those who manifest such how they got it.

The ministry of Jesus our mentor and role model was not just a teaching ministry , signs and wonders followed his word.

Pentecostal Pharisees prefer you to preach, teach, pontificate, elaborate, enumerate and cascade the word. But the moment you mention healing the sick, raising the dead and demonstrating the revelational or power gifts or making use of olive oil, mantles, water or any of the Biblically established points of contacts for miracles, they get irritated, uncomfortable and impatient with you.

Is that not a replica of what the Pharisees did to Jesus , they would rather have the sick die in their pain than to be healed. This is not only wicked , heartless but totally "unkingdomlike".

They accused Jesus of casting out devils with Beelzebub because they couldn't. So, what they couldn't do , they despised and condemned.

Luke 11:15
But some of them said, He casteth out devils through Beelzebub the chief of the devils.

Jesus was not just a word man he was a miracle man who healed the sick, cleansed the lepers and raised the dead.

Furthermore, he commissioned his ministers to walk in the same anointing he carried and to do greater works.

John 14:12
[12]Verily, verily, I say unto you, He that believeth on me, the works that I do shall he do also; and greater works than these shall he do; because I go unto my Father.

Mark 16:15-18
[15]And he said unto them, Go ye into all the world, and preach the gospel to every creature.
[16]He that believeth and is baptized shall be saved; but he that believeth not shall be damned.
[17]And these signs shall follow them that believe; In my name shall they cast out devils; they shall speak with new tongues;
[18]They shall take up serpents; and if they drink any deadly thing, it shall not hurt them; they shall lay hands on the sick, and they shall recover.

These anti- miracle teachings has raised a generation of rude, mannerless and rebellious Christians who talk carelessly of kingdom dignitaries

Jude 1:8-10
[8]Likewise also these filthy dreamers defile the flesh, despise dominion, and speak evil of dignities.
[9]Yet Michael the archangel, when contending with the devil he disputed about the body of Moses, durst not bring against him a railing accusation, but said, The Lord rebuke thee.
[10]But these speak evil of those things which they know not: but what they know naturally, as brute beasts, in those things they corrupt themselves.

Am I suggesting that all miracles are real? far from it. However, not all miracles are fake and staged. You wish to know how to distinguish between fake and real? Ask for the gift of discerning of spirit.

Discerning of spirit is not demonstrated by contrasting what is said or done with the Word alone , it is actually a spiritual ability to navigate and see into the unseen realm to identify the spirit in operation.

In other words, the minister can say and do all the right things according to the Bible and still operate by a familiar spirit and fool the natural Christian.

Why disparage miracles when the Christian faith is predicated on the miracle of resurrection?

Ademola Akinyeye

Depressed101:
I don't like to think about it.. Not even with my sisters... Just don't play too much love with them in my presence it comes with mixed feelings

You get the gist

dokkyelele:
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My Dad once told me....Billa, keep your body safe and clean for your husband to come. A good daughter is not the one that warm bed but warm hearts and keeps her family together.

Your diplomatic dad put the words in a mature format using euphemism . In other words, " don't sleep around, wait for the one" A good daughter after becoming someone's wife will end up warming her husband's bed. Failure to warm that matrimonial bed is antithetical to the values of a good wife.

Sonnobax15:
Na like how many blocks you don mould for hell fire ?

Don't be judgemental

How men cope with the thoughts that their daughter(s) will grace a man's bed someday is humbling. Especially during wedding receptions when an oversabi master of ceremony tells the bride's father not to feel jealous or uneasy during the kissing session. A man can only console himself knowing that his wife is also someone's daughter and the beat goes on.
How do you deal with that thought as a man?

Janicex:
Fulanis/ Yoruba Moslems should keep trending this news until riot erupts in the north!!.

Any news that will end Nigeria is welcome

You are disgusting

Toks2008:
Nah you dey read faster than your brain lol!

Nothing wrong with the English

Thank you jare

His banal brain needs some oxygen

Ugaboy:
. This OP English...I have to read twice in between lines.

before I could Understand.

Nairaland Mods are just pushing substandard content to front page this days...cus of traffics.

What's wrong with OP's grammatical construction? Please indicate the error or the substandard part in the write up.

Charmingrascal:
I loved her asked her out but to be honest I am tired of the relationship but I don't want to break her heart.

I guess I am dating her out of pity at the moment

Lol, many can relate

Ladies are most guilty of this, after feeling choked by a man's relentless wooing, to pity his "destiny", they give in. This wrong footing gives undue advantage to an exploitative woman calling the shots. In some instances, the lady eventually falls in love , but not often. On many occasions, after milking him , she dumps him.

Some guys too do the same.
Have you loved or been loved out of pity?