Channah1:
Lalasticlala come and taste this Chinese cuisine.

Good one just work on the camera

reel14:
Hello Nairalanders. I got married late last year.
Even though I got married late, I made sure I was gainfully employed before taking the giant stride.

I love my wife and she loves me too. I carry 98 % of the home responsibility, recently, because things are on the high side and my wife is working as well, I told her to be taking care of filling the gas while I handle other bills.
I have observed that anytime I go near the gas maybe to make food or boil water, she will remind how expensive gas is right now, after all, if it finishes, I won't give money to fill. These words hurt me alot as this is the only thing you do for us in this house. I know how much I pay for rent, DSTV etc with other utility bills.

My thoughts now are;
How do men which their wives are feeding them cope with insults and embarrassments that come with every meal?

How do unemployed/underemployed men cope?

What if anything happens with my job, will I be able to stay in a verbal abusive home?

You married a woman with a wrong mind set. Alot of women carry the home front for years without a word some of us despite not married has done more than the parents of our ex has done asides giving birth to him yet we still begged to be loved. This exactly what happens when a lady thinks she's doing you a favour by marrying you.

lastbornop:
Hello sis,

This Busy workaholic mum of 2 and wife needs Home advice on managing cooking.

I usually cook a lot on weekends and store in the Freezer for the week. I even tag and plan for the week but right now, it just seems too tiring and i have been lagging so much in this department.

Any idea on how to manage this aspect of my life. I come home tired every day, i manage to put 1 or 2 together but i know i should do better.

Help a sis.

Share ur experience. I and others could learn from you.

Thank you

As for the cooking aspect I think this will help. Like you said you cook alot during the weekends make stew, soups and keep so that during the week you can just make rice or swallow and on the other hand, make sure you always have blended tomatoes and pepper, blended crayfish, if you use meat often cook it and refrigerate, cut your leaves an keep in the dry compartment of the fridge just in case you want to eat something else not soup or stew.

HeWrites:
An Nigerian Guy based in Italy, came back to the country, and locked up his parents, after he found out that the money he sent to them to build a house for him, could not be accounted for.

Facebook user, Nnamdi shared the story as thus;
“One of us just locked his parents up in police cell. His 65 year old father and 56 year old mother slept in police cell last night with an instruction that anyone who comes close to bail them should be locked up too..

I know what the parents did are wrong but I have been pleading with him since last week not to toe this path. There are many ways to solve issues like this.

If your parents do same to you, would you have done exactly what he did or you would have handled it differently? Hear him :
“Ben, I’m sorry I have to do what I did. You won’t understand how painful it is to be hustling here only to find out that my stupid and greedy parents were just wasting all my efforts on frivolities.

Like you already know, I have been in Italy doing all kinds of menial jobs just to put food on my table and make some savings. I have been here for six good years but I have never visited Nigeria.
I have been sending some cash to my parents to help me buy two plots of land and start building on it for all of us because we have suffered enough as a family, paying rent always.

Ben do you know that my foolish parents only bought one plot of land and nothing has been going on there apart from the initial foundation.? In fact they started the foundation recently when they knew I will be visiting Nigeria.

They have been sending me fake pictures of my house. Bro I’m mad. I don’t know what they used all the money for. They don’t know how I managed to make these savings. Omg I just wasted six years in Italy without anything to show for it. If I can’t trust my own parents, who then can I trust?

I will spend the remaining money I have with me on police to make sure they remained there until I go back to start a new hustle. Please Ben if you have a trusted lady in her late thirties who can build with me, kindly hook me up to her. I can’t trust these foolish parents of mine again.”


http://www.torimill.com/2017/11/guy-jails-parents-after-finding-out.html

Hello I think there's a better way to resolve this issue can you send me your contact so we can talk or you'd rather I give you mine?

nams77:

Wow. This is brave of you. I love ladies like these

Thanks alot I'm honoured. God bless you

grandlexuz:


I thought I was the only Cameroonian Nairalander oh. Been here for over 13years. Now have to share the title with you. Oya you get for pay your tithes to me..Lol

Inbox your digit so we can connect.

Starboytwo:
abeg connect us abeg, make we self fit testify

Lemme know when you're ready

Iogobenz:
lol this Buea nga.
Na for UB you learn all this one or na for wusai ehhh?
Naija don spoil you finish

The pride of a woman is being financially independent.

karkinase:

I love ur response thou...its shows ur diplomatic stance on issues if need arises..

Thank you

macho44:
Nne, ayam ur CUCUMBER, biko use me

lol

writetopoker2:
Which kind food are they budgeting for weekly, that its remnant/leftover will now build such house, even if nah 20 years she begin keep the excess money.

Guys the wife don go fuc.k outside come save money

in kaduna you can get a plot of land for 200 and above depends the area cost of building is cheap. As of 2013 to 14 a plot of land around refinery and behind went for 50k and 80k depending on the phase and you don't know the years it took her to build it. Imagine she saves 500 every day x 12 is 1,302000 of which 1m you can build a relatively ok 3 or 4 bedroom flat.

SandraJane:


Source; https://dailypost.ng/2021/08/12/ogun-missing-ijebu-ode-chief-imam-found-dead/

cc; lalasticlala

So so sad I pray God rest your soul and grant your children the fortitude to bare the loss.

citywal:
I just don't get it at all, I swear I don't. How can a girl know that you love her, like she knows legit.

I told her times without numbers reduce the way she goes out with friends, she lives in the mainland n I live at Ajah (lekki axis) her mum recently opened a restaurant and she should be helping the woman... Like I advice her alot.

I came across pastor Kingsley Okonkwo preaching that says "you saw her the way she was before you married her and it you didn't change her then why change her now"
Heaven knows I tried but if she can't stop we can't get married and I can't date her.

I can't keep getting worried anytime she goes out considering the dangerous times that we are now.

I am not a simp but fact is sooner or later y'all calling yourself redpillers will want to settle down.

I mean if this is how looking for a partner is hard I'll just get myself a baby mama n focus on my life n kid. I'm legit tired of all this...so pissed this night.

so sorry about that

kingxsamz:

All these one na lame excuses nobody is ready to read. Christians will say "where two or three are gathered, the lord is there" but na still their pastors dey vex say people no plenty for church, even though there are at least 3 churches in every street. There are more Christians in this country and they're still looking for more. They say they want to win souls, but the souls they want to win have already been won by another church.
So basically, what they're doing is trying to win members from other churches. And more members guarantees massive weekly income.
Na who do advert pass they usually sell, that's why their daddy GO is angry and sacking pastors anyhow because the pastors no get sweet mouth to cajole people to come and buy the market they're selling.
Anybody that says this isn't about tithe and offering is just lying to himself, so ya'll keep crying.

Winning souls doesn't mean taking people from their churches. There's no church that doesn't call on Jesus but not everyone who goes to church is truly saved. We are after the souls not the body

malcom1X:



Did you not read the part were he was fired and told to return all properties of the church?

How do you want him to invest more in God's work again?

That he doesn't work with living faith doesn't mean his ministry has ended. He can also open his own church.

Mustiboy:
So, if I understand very well, pastors are tasked with bringing people to the church by all means, even if it means invading their privacy and compelling them to come to your church?

Is this not the idea of more members, more revenue?

It's now glaring that today's churches are business enterprises; churches, since time immemorial, have always been so.

Nothing dey shock me again.

No my brother we go for the lost the places I go for evangelism, I don't go there without least 2k on me and every Sunday I transport my converts to and fro church and give them refreshments as my pockets can carry. We don't go after already made we bring I the lost and groom them in the word and then they take their place in christ.

Odewaleadesoye:

Did he celebrate is mom like this while she was alive? Even if its her birthday?

Rozcol:
Yes I had to end my friendship with my once very good friend because she saw nothing wrong in dating someone who used to be so interested in me, that I turned him down isn't enough reason for her to date him

There are so many other guys she can date and it shows the guy does not genuinely love her else he wouldn't have come for me in the first place.

I don't think it's cool for a close friend to go ahead and date someone who was once interested in her friend, its betrayal and also a sign that she doesn't know and respect boundaries and that's dangerous to me, such friends are not to be trusted. She can stab you at the back when you least expect.

Now she's telling people that I'm selfish and petty for having issues with her decision to date the so called guy. What do you think?

Receive sense and may every spirit of jealousy die in Jesus name

kollinzgee:
I just started dating a hausa girl she is a christian and very well behaved and intelligent.
But the problem is my friend who speaks hausa fluently because he once lived in the north. whenever he is around they deviate from speaking normal english to hausa its makes me insecure and jealous because i feel they relate better because i dont understand hausa,i dont want to act immature so i feel like telling her to stop.

Are you not married, what are you doing with her?

RolandNkem:


https://www.google.com/amp/s/dailypost.ng/2021/06/06/tb-joshua-did-much-damage-his-ministry-was-toxic-oap-sandra-ezekwesili/%3famp

God bless you. You just said my mind.

Kwanza:


https://dailypost.ng/2021/05/19/bandits-burn-down-assemblies-of-god-kill-at-least-8-worshipers-in-kaduna/?amp&utm_term=Autofeed&utm_medium=Social&utm_source=Twitter&__twitter_impression=true

How about arresting those behinds the barbaric act.

Hurt:
I feel terrible....we met in camp and he told me he was serious with me and wanted to marry me, the problem was he wanted me to visit him more regularly and have intimacy and I refused. I wanted to wait till marriage. Today I saw pictures of his traditional wedding on Facebook to his ex girlfriend.

My dear don't beat yourself over this it might shock you that he actually wouldn't have married you even if you had agreed to be seeing and having intimacy with him. He would have still left you after everything and married his ex.

davonlee:
https://www.nairaland.com/6521047/ive-been-diagnosed-stage-1

I went to a private hospital today for a more comprehensive diagnosis. I was told that from the symptoms I'm exhibiting and test results as well, it's best I undergo partial colectomy, because the cancer has grown deep into the layers of my colon wall, but not outside the colon wall yet. My family, as well as you guys have been of immense help, and I really appreciate all your advice. I'll be updating y'all on my progress. Never in my life did I ever think that this would happen to me. Sincerely, it feels like a dream to me. Thanks everyone.

Don't worry dear this too will pass dont worry have faith that God would take this out of your system.

uc4uandc:
NEVER DATE AT WORK PLACE
(A personal experience)

It was early August of 2020 when I got an invitation text to come for an interview in newly established entertainment industry here in the East.

We numbered over 300 who came for the interview and after much screening, 62 staff were selected.

The daily training was intense and interesting too because of the Manager we had, he was so detailed and funny also.

Amongst trainees were beautiful ladies of all shapes and sizes and intelligence.
The first day I saw my girlfriend, I didn't feel anything, she's very young and beautiful and opposing too (one of my likes about women). I realize she's a little opinionated, hence she got my attention.

We were all given appointment letter to our various positions. Mine was what I applied for but my gf didn't get hers, she was rather given something else. She came to me to complain since we are now friends and I told her that maybe the reason why she wasn't given the position she wanted was because she's short (Sarcastically, but I meant it)

She got angry and opposed me (I have a thing for women who oppose actions, especially when they have reasons). I apologized and we got along....... Boom we started dating.

#FASTFOWARD#
The next month, I got promoted to one of the managers, everyone was happy for me.
I have been a senior staff for like 8 months now and I must tell you that it has been a terrible experience.

My girlfriend is choking the hell out of me at work. She's very lukewarm in terms of carrying out her duties, when I confront her to do her work, she will tell me that I'm being too harsh on her. How can you litter your department like this and go home? she will tell me she's tired, I will have to assign someone else to do it, but it's her duty.

This keeps happening all the time, if I shout at her at work (when she gets on my nerves) she won't talk to me again for weeks and she won't greet me at work. If I ask her questions about sales, she won't reply me.

The most recent one was her and her colleagues misbehaving and I queried them, others replied my query, but she didn't. I wanted to let go, but one of the senior staff asked about her own reply to the query. I was forced to surcharge her N5,000 since she didn't reply, that means she's guilty.
After I served her the letter, she got angry and said "all the managers in this company are stupid" she said this to my face. Something she can't say to other managers.

Mehn! I was so furious and I was walking away when she threw her book at me, in front of other junior staff. OMG!...... I just walked away.
She's still keeping malice (her specialty) with me. I am not happy with her either.

I keep avoiding her so as not to get into more of what we are. But the work is suffering because of her dereliction.
Currently, I don't know how to tell her I don't want to be with her again, but I love her.

My advice
Never date at your place of work especially when you are bossing over her!

Firstly, if she truly loves you, she would do everything within her power to do good by you and at work so you don't suffer any form of set backs. Truly if you don't want to get sacked, then end whatever you have with her.

1beat:
you're not ripe for relationship.
you lack knowledge of handling marital issue.
because you have feed her for a night she must not do mistake. you need to learn how to over look something.

My dear this one is shocking ooooh it could be there's a genuine reason for that ooooh.

Geonigga:
I have sometime in February this year made a post of a lady I met and who refused taking my calls one certain night and which I did a post seeking for advise here.

Let me now go straight to the recent happening in the relationship with this lady whom I met in the church and who also live in the same estate with me in fact her house is not that far from mine though she is living with her aunt.

It happened that on Wednesday being the 21st of April, 2021, when I arrived home from work, it is my usual practice to call her and when I called her that very day, she took her call and told me that she is very hungry and her reason was that she didn't like what they cooked in her house. I have to invite her over to my house and she ate very well and even took a bottle of soft drink before leaving for her house that night which I also gave her a naira note in case she wants to buy anything the following day.

The following day being the 22nd of April, as usual when I came back from work around 6:30pm, I put two calls across to her which were made in different intervals, but lol and behold this lady I thought she was my girl friend didn't pick up the calls, I remained calmed and went to bed that night.

However, during the course of the night, around 11:30pm that night my phone rang and I took the phone to know who was calling, it was this my so called girl friend that was calling, I had to ignore the call.

The following day very early in the morning she called again but I was preparing for work and I didn't want anything that will ignite sad mood on me, I have to ignored her calls even when I was at the office.

Later in the evening when I was about leaving the office she called again and I picked up the call with a mild attention, she then asked why I refused taking her calls since, I replied her by saying that she started it, this lady has to immediately end the call and up until now she has refused to take my calls or call back.

Please I really want to know who is at fault here because she is now making it look as if I am at fault but as it is I have made up my mind to call it a quit if she can not step down her pride and apologize. I will appreciate you guys opinions on this.

If not because I don't want you to feel insulted i would have said you don't have sense. She didn't pick your calls then you concluded she's creating common sense didn't tell you that you shouldn't judge before hearing? You should have picked her call hear the reasons she didn't pick you might be shocked knowing she's innocent. Some guys ehhh.

Elgorny:
Hi nairalanders. I'm about to do my international passport, and totaly i'm confuse, i spent much time searching on google for weeks i'm yet to decide what is best for my future, is not easy to make such decision. That's why am here to seek an advice from public, i'm in my early 20's with nigeria being my country of birth, and also eligible to be citizen of cameroon through my parents who are 100% cameroonians based in nigeria for almost 3 decades, we recently travel to cameroon, i love the place and the people are friendly, very organize country with law abiden citizen. What i noticed in my short visit to cameroon. One can't even buy bus ticket without
cameroon national identity card, or lodge in a hotel, or rent a house without idendity card, for foreigners, they must provide all necessery document in order to be issued ticket, is very rare to hear the indigines discusing politics publicly no tribalism no religions sentiment, and its citizen has the equal right Irrespective of tribes,

My brother same applies to me Nigerian by birth and Cameroonian through ma parents. But trust me when I day cameroon is the best option.

maureensylvia:
1. Dawanau Market
This is unarguably the largest foodstuff market in Africa. This is undisputed because of the volume of business activities that takes place at the market daily.

In this market, goods are transported to different countries which includes Togo, Burkina Faso, Cameroon, Chad, Niger, Ghana South Africa, Libya and other African countries.
Goods mostly sold there are Beans, Soyabeans, Sorghum, Moringa seed and leaf, Sesame seed, Hibiscus flower (Zobo), Bambara, Dried tomatoes etc.

Dawanau market is very popular  both in the country and outside Nigeria. It is not only serving the state’s economy, it is serving those of other states, countries in Africa and also global economy.

So when next you think of Foodstuffs from North, think of Kano. I equally deal into Foodstuffs. If you have any questions, do feel free to contact me.



2. Enlemu Market
This is a local market where you can get all sorts of fashion accessories ranging from shoes, bags, cosmetics.

pronounced Enlemo which is actually yan'lemo is mostly a fruit market for the bags and shoes it locally made but it's not their market.

etrange:


The boys that jump from one woman to another aren't "hoes" but the women they left are the hoes? It's either you don't know the meaning of that word or you're just a sexist.

Don't mind the baby man common sense isn't common.

IyaTola:
Good morning!

Easter is a time to reflect and celebrate, but unfortunately many are not celebrating because of the situation of things.

I want to help atleast 10 people who have genuine reasons to be assisted.

You must provide evidence

Happy easter

Me i only need rice no matter what pepper, onion, Maggie and oil no go hard us by God's grace. Its the rice that's more important nothing is too small I need the rice not for easter but to have food in the house cause there's nothing at home not one bit nothing at all.

dre11:
Hisbah Invades Nigerian University Hostels, Arrest Male, Female Students Found In Same Room



http://saharareporters.com/2021/03/25/hisbah-invades-nigerian-university-hostels-arrest-male-female-students-found-same-room

funny enough what the hisbah themselves do is alarming to the ear.

SweetVibe:

your profile pix say all about you.
Look at the rusty room you live with dirty bedsheets and scraped walls but you have the nerves to brag about how you dump a guy who lost his job despite spending on you when he had money.

Lol