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Jasen1:
Good day all

Please I really need a good advise insults are welcome also

Please pardon any error in the post


It happened like this

She's a girl I met in 2012 via 2go, we became friends we talk, chat, and call each other, we've been just social media friends we never met each other physically till 2016 when we met in PH for the first time, it WI didn't stay together for more than 10minutes she left, we were still talking


Fast forward to this year I relocated to Abuja and she lives here also. We decided to date each other, she was staying with her sister here while I just rented an apartment, she visited me and passed the night in my house (yes we had sex) so from that day, she started complaining about her sister giving her troubles, always punishing her, she always quarrel with her, soany complain, she said she want to get an apartment, I said OK I will help her get one but first she needs to start working at least when I get the apartment for her she can be able to pay her bills she said OK, 2weeka after she told her that her sister had issues with her husband and she's packing out of the house that her sister is relocating to ph and her sister asked her to leave the house or stay with her husband

She said she can't stay with her sister husband, I then told her to come to my place and stay, she agreed.

Now my problem is this, since she been here she sleep wake up eat morning afternoon and evening, she's not bothered about working anymore like she became so lazy to go out and look for work, I spend lots of money every week making sure we've enough to eat at home. But I'm really getting tired of everything


I don't know how to ask her to leave and again she don't have anywhere to go to, excepts her village or her sister place in Lagos, she has lots of friends here in Abuja but they're not good friends to her, I stopped her from associating with them, but this time if she want to go back to them, I don't mind, I really need space


Please note she's my girlfriend, we are both in our early 20's


I want the best way to ask her to leave that won't cause problem

Firstly did u met her working?
Did u get a job for her?
Cause if she has that dependent mentality, it would be very hard to knock her out of it, except ofcourse u get her a job urself n force her to go, lock ur door in the morning with her outside,,yeah u hv to be strict. Send her packing if she doesn’t listen ,, pack her load outside self if u hv to!

If u know it’s gonna hurt me, don’t tell me, then stop doing what u can’t tell me

WORDWORLD:
Chai FAKE FEMINIST

I am a feminist against homosexuality!! Deal with it, boy bye!!

This isn’t new naw!!!

Belafonte:
Guy stop being boring. Women despise boring guys and easily get dripping wet for non-bring guys.

The problem this girl is facing is simple. She has a "good" guy who does things by the book but lacks spontaneity. He sounds rigid. He probably has never slapped her butt, ever. Never pressed the bobby, once ever. She can not feel sexual desires towards him. It is against natural human laws of sexual attraction.

Women want a muthafucka, not a sheep.

I would not be surprised if this sister is already chopping blokos codedly. If she isn't, she probably already is already eyeing some dude somewhere.

All this no sex before marriage sef dey sound somehow for my ear. How can a woman love you when you haven't banged nonsense out of her head. Give her the kind of love making that will make her deny her parents, religion and tribe.

Stop thinking women will love you because you have money, because they won't. You will only be an ATM.

lol u r so spoilt!! I give up on you!

FrostyButter:
I can't stop laughing over here... Just listen to your self, cause there a choice to do something makes any choice made justified? Cause that's your irrational conclusion here from all your long talks. So cause people have a choice to be pedophiles, the availability of that choice presented makes any alternative choice eventually arrived at rational? Cause there is a choice to kill someone makes it right? Cause there is a choice to do anything and free will to choose makes it right? Cause that's how you logic works.

You have successfully confused nature with nurture my lady. You need to know the difference, cause the example you cited is an individual who has nurtured his or her mind to a very profane twisted idea. The mind is born like a clean slate, and it's not any one's nature to be gay.

Please please and please. The question here is, is this natural? And the answer is No. If you want to take me on any argument as to the morality, science or anything pertaining to homosexuality, I'm ready to take you on anyday. But sticking to the subject at hand... You have no case. Just rest.

well written

WORDWORLD:
You are not a true FEMINIST because you have an aversion to HOMOSEXUALISM. Go through the records, FEMINISM and HOMOSEXUALISM work hand in hand. True FEMINIST uphold HOMOSEXUALISM, with regards to political view point.

lol don’t tag me if u know nothing about feminism please!!! Not all feminist agree with homosexuality!! Feminism n homosexuality doesn’t go hand in hand!

FrostyButter:
There he goes again, making sense out of nonsense... Anything any man does is out of his choosing, it's choice. Stop all these lame attempts to stay woke, and sound radical...

If natural means genetically or biologically determined, then homosexuality is not natural. Decades of scientific research have failed to find a “gay gene” or a sole biological cause for same-sex attraction. The American Psychological Association, the American Psychiatric Association, and even gay researchers recognize that homosexuality cannot be reduced to biology alone. Instead, they acknowledge that social factors seem to play a key role in the development of homosexuality. No evidence suggests that it’s natural for some people to be born gay.

And please please and please stop meddling "Nigerians" in your fact less arguments. I find that very offensive.

exactly

Y not?

I hv been following her for years n she didn’t just change her name,, it’s been madrina since last year

Earthbound:
I thought this faggggg said his girlfriend is in London.





No wonder they denied him entry.

that dude is confuse as hell

KMSunshine:
Your face is too ugly honestly, couldn't help but to voice it out! You damn ugly woman, I swear you fcking look like igwe Kala Masquerade!

she is beautifully n wonderfully made !!

Don’t ever hv that illusion in ur mind that it’s a test blah blah blah !! Dash him 200k tell him u want no refund. That the money in ur account is for goods u hvnt paid for!!

emykuzee:
no matter how you borrow to your partner
they will never pay you back
exprience

lol i tell you

emykuzee:
no matter how you borrow to your partner
they will never pay you back
exprience

lol u tell you

geo4c:
I don't understand this kind of advice sef

U said maybe he saw your account balance

Wat if he want to know if you can loose all you got to save his

If u two truly i mean truly understand each other

I don't think you would b here seeking advice

Meet him after dinner and tell him how much u'v got.. If after telling him Nd he still insist. u will b left with no other option than to trust him and give to him

On the oda hand

If he truly care for you and your business he wouldn't want you to go bankrupt

He might reduce the amount to something u can afford to loose

dont try this nonsense

thunderfirebuha:
Take my advice.


If you don't want to lose that relationship, please don't lend him money.

rather, dash him 100 or 200 thousand.

dont say I didn't warn you

take this advice dear

Let her abort it, if u know u don’t wanna marry her fullstop! As far she doesn’t want to keep the baby. Don’t go n force her to be a babymama if she ain’t down for it

OneSentence:
so the idea of a date to u is for man to call you, take you out then lavish money and then you go back home? pls what's the fun there for the man?

lol u take someone on a date ,, won’t u spend b4, if I myself take my mum or sibling out, I am sure as hell going to pay.. why is it now a problem for a guy to pay for a date.. okay because it’s between a woman n a man? If u invite ur friends out to chill, ain’t u paying, well I do!! U guys better stop making things difficult for urselves with this kinda thinking.

Wilfredpat22:
Once you invite a Nigerian girl for outing or whatever know you are paying the bills. There is no girl in Nigeria that has paid for a man’s lunch or given a guy a lift before. We are low lives ladies in Nigeria.

I will advice you to only invite the girl to your house straight and try bangingg her first before spending a Kobo. Those are sensible intelligent men that I kinda respect honesty.

By the way,

It's funny how most ladies out there uses 16 digits passwords with a mixture of letters, numbers and symbols to lock their phones while the password to unlock their respective legs is "swipe to open

how many ladies do u even know? Lol

Bradiyung:
this ideology is whats killing most girls. A date is suppose to be an avenue to get to know each other more and have some fun. the lady shouldn't have it in mind that its a mean for money to be lavished on them,, the guy is not an ATM machine.

then again for the ordering part, I see nothing wrong with that. Asking for money on the first date is what’s dumb. But if I am on a date n the waiter comes around I would order what I want....
u taking me on a date u know what up so don’t expect me to plead with u before I make my order.

mmadu5:
GUYS BE CAREFUL WITH NIGERIAN GIRLS THESE GIRLS ARE NOT SMILLING ANYMORE , A GIRL THAT I MET ON FACEBOOK AND DECIDED TO MEET HER IN PERSON LAST WEEK SUNDAY TURNED OUT TO BE A MONEY HUNGRY LOW LIFE WITH NO SELF WORTH , DO WE HAVE ANY MORE GOOD HOME TRAINED GIRLS LEFT IN THIS COUNTRY ATALL?


SO WE MADE PLANS TO MEET LAST WEEK AFTER CHURCH
I PICKED HER UP AND THEN WE WENT TO ONE NICE LOCATION TO CHILL AND ENJOY THE MOMENT , IMMEDIATELY WE GOT THERE
SHE STARTED ORDERING FOR FOOD AND DRINK, WHICH ON A NORMAL WAY I SHOULD BE THE ONE TO GIVE THE GO AHEAD OR MAKE THE ORDERS , AND THEN WHILE THE WERE PREPARING THE FOOD I NOTICED THAT SHE WAS MOODY SO I ASKED HER IF ALL IS WELL
SHE PROCEEDED TO TELL ME THAT HER LANDLORD GAVE HER 3 WEEKS TO PAY HER RENT OR PACK OUT
I ASK HER WHAT ABOUT HER BOYFRIEND OR HER DAD OR FAMILY MEMBER OR FRIEND WHO CAN HELP HER OUT SHE SAID SHE DOESN'T HAVE A BOYFRIEND, BUT SHE FORGET THAT SHE ONCE TOLD ME HER BOYFRIEND WAS IN GERMANY AND ALSO HER DAD WORKS WITH WAMCO.SERIOUSLY AT THIS POINT I WAS TOTALLY DISAPPOINTED I TOLD HER PLAIN AND BLANK THAT I WISH I COULD HELP BUT I CANT AT THE MOMENT SHE GOT UPSET AND SAID THEN WHY DID I CALL HER OUT TO SEE HER , AGAIN SHE FORGOT THAT IT WAS HER WHO BROUGHT THE IDEA OF MEETING UP, IN MY MIND I WAS REALLY PISSED ,SO THIS GIRL ACTUALLY THINKS I WAS GOING TO GIVE HER MONEY FOR COMING OUT ON A FIRST DATE OR WHAT? TO CUT THE LONG STORY SHORT I PAID FOR THE THINGS SHE ORDERED AND THEN LEFT ,

I JUST TIRE FOR NAIJA GIRLS ,, ,

HAS ANY OF YOU EXPERIENCED OR ENCOUNTERED SUCH GIRLS

she is shameless