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[quote author=mama-gee link=topic=457400.msg6216440#msg6216440 date=1276559702][color=deeppink]^^What are you thanking her for?

She stated the same thing every user on here has been stating since the beginning of World War 2.

Women shouldn't hide under the "Weaker Vessel" theory to abuse and beat their husbands and men shouldn't beat up their wives neither.[/color][/quote]im thanking her because at least she doesnt believe in that your mind boggling line of thought "they deserve a little beating" justification

do you have a problem with me agreeing with what she said?

thank you for that mukina2.

"they deserve a little bit of beating" remember?

what other special info would you need other than the history of the forum, founder, the diversity of it etc

iice:
[color=#9900ff]Family. . .gah [/color]

LOL why the wrinkles

[quote author=mama-gee link=topic=457400.msg6215407#msg6215407 date=1276544729][color=deeppink]Oh well, the topic tends to state the issue of violence over the wife.[/color][/quote]because they are the ones abused most.

[size=2pt]i see its never going to change
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beating is not conflict resolution.

no mind him or her.

when a white man does it, it automatically becomes "advanced" forward, bright thinking, civilized and what have you but when a african does it instantly becomes primitive, backward, dirty, monkey way of life and all things not desirable.

wonders

[quote author=mama-gee link=topic=457400.msg6215356#msg6215356 date=1276544100][color=deeppink]Emmm. . .Yeah, that should bring the issue of "Wife Battering" into more surveillance.

Most Nigerian Women over here tend to beat their husbands and abuse them cause the govt is on their side when it comes to violence.

Let's be real, What kind of man would be patient enough to watch a woman spit on his face and abuse him cause of a sexist law that bans beating a woman up? [/quote]like i said there is no excuse for domestic violence be it man or woman. beating never resolves anything

with this her mindset? i doubt it. she will probably think she deserved it because she provoked him first



yes, men and women should learn to control their angers. women annoy and provoke, men annoy and provoke

however, there is no justifications for raising on your hands on a person in marriage. there are other ways of resolving conflicts that doesnt involve abuse.

Falajuro

has already touched on the important points.

family planning should be a shared discussion and agreement between couples. so you have the right to be mad,however, dont let this mishap tamper on the trust in your marriage. be calm and listen to her reasons of doing it alone and work on it

wrong section

michelin89:
Women dey beat men. They give slaps and even kick them in their balls.

Fact is no woman should hide under the weak vessel label to be a nuisance.

yes, men abuse women (more) and women abuse men

there is no excuse for domestic violence be it man or woman

but i find it very disheartening that a young lady would have the mindset that most women deserve a little beating because of some silly justification. it makes me wonder the kind of thing she would tell her daughter when she finds out she was beaten by her husband for "disrespecting" him

[quote author=mama-gee link=topic=457400.msg6215155#msg6215155 date=1276541897][color=deeppink]Once again, someone has a hard time comprehending the English Language. . .

I wonder how most users here created an E-mail account talk less of registering for an account in this forum?[/color] [/quote]oh yeah, go ahead and spew all sorts.

in your view because the law is on their side therefore whenever they are disrespectful to their husbands, they deserve a little beating to correct them.

tell me more

oh really? you'd think it will the other way around since those bred abroad would be trying to balancing two cultures-birth land and father land

[quote author=mama-gee link=topic=457400.msg6214514#msg6214514 date=1276535246][color=deeppink]I[b] know most women deserve a little bit of beating over here in the U.S. especially the Nigerian women.[/b][/quote]Mama gee you have finally lost it!

how can you say some women deserve a little bit of beating?

so women are now little kids that needs to be beaten when they misbehave?

so beating is the way to punish a woman(a little child in your opinion) when she misbehaves?

kai, mama gee, i weep for you and your future daughters

give me one reason why carrying a baby on the back is wrong?

if carrying a baby on the back is "primitive" what do you call your "whites" who strap their baby in the front or put them in strollers? advanced? because they are "whites"? pray tell

i guess those abroad should also stop wearing their native wears, and eating their foods because they are also "primitive" according to your white mans "manual of advanced living" book

my family is one of my greatest gifts in life. they will always be first for me in anything.

while career is still important, i wouldnt have the joy/fulfillment of working and placing emphasis on my career and coming back to a dysfunctional household. career ends but family will always be there

nah, i'm just saying in general.

Tgirl4real:
Guys, letz discuss this:

I was watching a soap on TV recently where a girl's(about to wed) younger siblings(with a wide age difference) call her fiance by name. At first, I thought probably cos they are noy Yorubas, but I later discovered that the girl's mum is Yoruba. Should we always embrace western culture and forget ours?

Again, I watched another one, where the kids greet their parents hi mum, hi dad. Am I old school or we don't value our culture anymore?

IMO, i think shes being a little bit disrespectful by calling her elder sisters husband by name. i wouldnt have a problem with it if she was the older one then calling him by name is no problem in my view. but then again, if her culture has no special name they call this kinds of people i wouldnt blame her. and if the sister has no issues with her young sis, doing so then  . . . . .


i see nothing really wrong in the greeting "hi mom, hi dad" in many instances as long as she doesnt wakeup in the morning and tell me "hi mom". i dont think youre being old fashioned but i personally wouldnt be so strict about it

Missy B:
It's impossible that there were no signs before they settled down.

thats not entirely true. in many instances there werent [b]ANY [/b]initial sign during courtship or early years in the marriage. many develop the habit in the marriage. so abusive signs arent clear caught during courtship as many tend to believe/assume.

youre right though that many women who are "fortunate" enough to see the signs early ignore it under the pretense that "he will probably change after the wedding"

if we have the money and patience (for the possible lucks and failures) then yes.

and yes, i think we need more specialist and possibly make it more affordable. its a blessing for barren couples

if i had the choice . . . . .

a poor man with potentials, vision, plan? yes

a poor man with lazy bone, no potentials and just whipping about being poor? no

[quote author=Miss_Ife link=topic=462056.msg6205336#msg6205336 date=1276407473]Hello people

I was just wondering, in your opinion, what is the ideal number of children and the ideal age gap between them?

My hubby and I are thinking about 3 kids with around 3yrs gap between each, What about you?[/quote]2 yrs gap

LOL i see Chaircover has joined the undercover investigative team of NL (UCINL) welcome to the club jare

Ebony,

thats not entirely true. some women still deliver vaginally after CS aka VBAC. the problem however, is that its a very delicate thing due to many complications that may arise therefore many doctors are very reluctant to the idea and you know if any thing goes wrong its on their head.

its still possibly to deliver naturally after CS. a friend that delivered through CS before and was in labour waiting for another CS, the baby couldnt wait any longer she delivered naturally with no complications whatsoever.

the issue is that many women arent aware that they can still try vag[i]i[/i]nal birth after CS therefore dont even bother to access their risk/chance

his life was already wasted from the time he started sleeping with those kids

^^^^^

go to any general hosp. and check/ask if the vaccine is available. its still relatively new so most countries dont have access to it yet

traditional first before Court

dont the children go to school?

these are things kids are taught in school with vivid drawings

nigeria is not japan so the comparison does nothing here. no bics on the highway says the police then get over it and stop pedaling bics on busy highway

iice:
[color=#9900ff]Or being mistaken for a child when one isn't [/color]

abi? i remember back in my days, a female pro. was younger(very young) than her age therefore she had to work extra hard fashion-wise/acting much older so she could be taken seriously by the students cause she is easily mistaken as one of the student. people started suggesting to her to grow wrinkles so as to appear older and be taken seriously. you can imagine.