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Just wondering what your iews on contraception are and if it is available in Naija culture

yes contraception is available in Nigeria

Any Naija womanI know has either just given birth and planning to easily become pregnant again or are just about to give birth.  Is this normal in Nigerian culture to always give birth?

dont see the issue here or abnormality of it. its in EVERY culture

Is this normal in Nigerian culture to always give birth? I know we should alll be fruitful and multiply, but how can u work F/T in the western world and keep up with that?

yet to see or hear of any culture where their women dont always gives birth

NO

NO

NO

[quote author=Tee_Jay link=topic=472365.msg6318576#msg6318576 date=1278058504]Lisa was the "trouble child" of the family, so i'm not surprised she isnt in the picture.[/quote]lol

aieromon:
All these methods come with side effects that may affect libido.
Calculating the ovulation cycle should be a good option if the couple is determined to observe safe and unsafe days of sexual intercourse carefully.

yea, especially when you are ready to have another bomboy unplanned

Ujujoan:
Father and daughter is not the only incestious r/ships. What about brother and sister, counsins/cousins.

yes, there are other forms of incest but father-daughter are most commonly reported form of incest and in many cases its not consensual. its abuse, rape and incest.

Sexual abuse couls also be carried out by non-family members so technically, incest is not the cause of the abuse!

yes non-family member can also abuse, but we are talking about abuse here in the context of incestuous relationship between families

So lets assume that relatives actually decides not to have children, will it make it right for them to be together?

NO. non-resultant of a child/children in the relationship still doesn't in anyway justify it. what is wrong is wrong regardless

definitely agree with Jenny. he now has a family of his own and that should be his number one priority above all.


you seriously need to communicate with him and make understand his responsibility to his new family first. he can still help his parents and siblings but not doing so in detrimental of his immediate family


you don't go chasing a rat, while your house is on fire.

FL Gators:
I dont beleive it. Look at the dump they live in, look at the clothes on their back, look at them. . . .

How did they think they were going to get away with all that?

its still a possibility given the huge amount they were caught in and the amount its estimated to worth


its probably not their first time, just that thiis time they were caught

@ Emeka

are you even sure hes is getting the main handle of the real money? maybe hes probably working the big "dudes". the other man looked fresh to you because he had his shirt-on. i mean from the look of his legs, you will know hes just as dry as the other man

[quote author=seasoned_mom link=topic=470102.msg6308075#msg6308075 date=1277894060]I doubt very much if there are any 'ignorant' kids anymore concerning the consequences of indulging in sex. Just like the adults in our society everybody knows the consequences but choose to ignore it till its too late. I think kids should be encouraged to practice abstinence in the sex ed, let them know it IS possible and not to be cajoled into thinking there is something wrong with them if they want to abstain by their peers or adults for that matter!
I would love a situation where role models who have practiced abstinence can be present when teaching sex ed to these young ones so they see it as an option too. The advantages of it should be emphasised over and above the other choices after all, its the only fool proof option against stds and pregnancy.[/quote]you will be very much surprised at the number of young people who are very ignorant about consequences of sex. so, even though, with the way sex is everywhere we'd like to believe that at least these kids have or have had enough infos on sex thats hardly the case. so, i believe that we still have tons of them out there.

yes abstinence is the best protection but at some point i humbly think we need to realistic. i rather have an informed teen who knows that she has options when it to comes to sex. at least if and when she does decide to have intimacy, she will educated enough to rightly protect herself and spare me early entrance into grandmotherhood and save herself from the consequence of all things undesirable about sex than for her to be rather clueless, make the worst possible mistake,and hide it from me when she does have intimacy.

i guess what most people get wrong about sex ed is that they tend to believe that teaching kids about sex will encourage them to be sexually active. big lie. in many cases, teens who received abst.  sex ed were more likely than their counterpart to get pregnant. so, inasmuch as we'd love to have our kids be vrigins till their wedding night, we do also have to come to terms with the fact that those are just wishful thinkings in many cases

yes absti. programs does work for some if not many, likewise the other sex ed also protects them from pre-martial sex.

abstinence or not, kids will have eventually have intimacy if and when they want to. its eventually their choice because as parents one can only do their best. i like giving them the BOTH options and not just one sided part.

yes

no it cant. a woman can only do her best in keeping her mans third leg to herself. at the end of the day, its the man who decides whether to keep philandering or not. the change has to eventually/ultimately come from the man

preg or not, anticipating the result of any medical test can be scary due to the uncertainties. so its quite ok to be sort of afraid but the good news is you have taken the right step by going for it at least you will now know.

just not let it stress you much

quite sad imagine how hard she must be wishing just to be "normal" like her siblings

spicyhoney:
However, I dnt know if it actually helped everybody cos we still had cases of students who got pregnant during the long vacations and had to be expelled. (It was an all girls boarding school)

sophy09:
[b]Even if sex education is introduced into school, most will still have intimacy. [/b]With the introduction of condom many will still have intimacy but the rate of unwanted pregnancy will reduce.

IMO,the idea of sex ed,is let young people know that they have options when it comes to protection and their choices. its better people know the consequences of their actions and choose to indulge in it than to be ignorance of it and bear the unknown consequences

no denying the age difference is huge and in many relationships it does backfire. so thats definitely something you have to keep in mind esp since this isnt a mere relationship but a lifetime commitment thing such as marriage. had it been 9-10(or 11) it wouldnt be much of a 'big deal' as in age not the quality of the marriage for your people
but then again, only you see through this man in terms of his personality,maturity, etc if hes what you truly want in a partner, do your best to convince them afterall, at the end of the day, youre the one going to live with him 
you still are very young hence your peoples reluctance, maybe if you were in your 30s and him 40s or 50s there wouldnt be more strong objections.

i have known couples with big age diff. and it hasnt be a hindrance so every case does have an individual variance to it

Ujujoan:
Even in the bible, people married from their families! 

that was BEFORE there was a law against it. these laws are in the bible like Leviticus chapter. i think it was one of the laws given to moses, so before that its wasnt really much of it a big deal but after the law was given to him, it was forbidden henceforth.

if you desire, i could give you the passages in the Lev. were incest were vividly forbidden

I know it's legally wrong, I just dont know why it should be!

for the obvious reasons, genetics and morality sake

As for biology, what if they decide not to have kids   

thats hardly the case in many incestuous relationships esp in father-daughter cases




and then one has to wonder what kind of sick attraction/love a father would have for his daughter(he help mold with his spermatozoa,bath,change her etc) to copulate with her while there are +billion women out there he could possibly mess around with. dont just understand that kind of nauseating thinking/thought

sorry but you cant leave religion out of it. its basically the number one reason why almost people consider incest a sin

its legally wrong for a family to lawfully/legally marry each other in most lawful society. its a punishable crime in most society

its biologically incompatible/wrong

serves him right and even more right if he was not saved.

olodo

i think it is sort of worse in nigeria esp where most people are on the "it must come with flesh" wagon not knowing that just as its hard for those who are fat find it hard to lose weight likewise thin ppl find it even more harder in many instances to gain and maintain the weight

teeth whitening

it should be introduced however, i think thats hardly going to be the case because we nigerians are overly "sanctimonious". so, 'we' will see a sex ed as free licence to have scx, 'we' will condemn it, bound it, tie it,lose it,do 7days/nights fasting over it and pretend as if everyone one of our kids/children are pure unadulterated virgins. 'we' like our kids to grow up with the phrase 'see no evil,hear no evil' when it comes to sex ed/premarital sex

also our "sanctimonious" selves tells and most definitely convinces us that sex ed will be ONLY about having sex and using protection and excluding anything about abstinence.


will it help in reducing everything unwanted about sex? the jury is still out on that. 'cause our overly "sanctimonious" nature will then again like to bring up dead and extinct statistics on how it doesnt deter but encourages sex.

personally, i think it will be a great idea not necessarily for the fact that it will most likely reduce whatever thats bad about sex but for that fact it will give more people esp girls,women and young women alike the "power" to be informed(big emphasis on that word informed). 

i'm not for any one sided sex ed like- abstinence only or protection only type of sex-ed but a very comprehensive sex-ed

3rd sick man story. molested 3 girls, his first victim when he was 18, she was 12

brb