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Zabiboy:

So guys, i have another Self-Evaluation topic for discussion....This might be the last because it seems most people are more interested in women talk...But that's fine tho...everyone and his interests....
The question is "How do you overcome/supress your sexual urge?? Or How can a fellow guy addicted to porn and or masturbation control his sexual urge without watching porn or masturbating??
Practical and Readily accessible methods/activities ONLY..
This could help one or two people out there..

There is no one cure-it-all way if you consider your use of pornography and masturbation, addictive. Addiction may be because of several reasons that are unique to each individual.

My advice, that you first acknowledge that it's a problem for you and you are DETERMINED to get rid of this problem. From there, you can scour through the internet (some brothers have shared their own version of what worked for them on this thread) or get professional psychological treatment for advice on how to stop it utilizing the one that seems to work for you. I'll talk about a few here

1. For some, masturbation may be because of social anxiety and anxiety in approaching women. Learn conversational techniques and develop confidence to approach women. Be careful of being totally obsessed with women, because when your status improves, you risk choosing puuussay over everything else that matters in your life - The pure definition of a SIMP.

2. For some, it's to always get away from environments or emotional state that trigger the urge and replace the addiction with another one like getting into the Gym and channelling the raging testosterone into building muscles (It worked for me). For others, it's work, skill or travelling, being around people who redirected your thoughts of it elsewhere.

3. For some, going religious or even "pseudo-spiritual/Higher consciousness" can go a great deal in working for them. The No-fap movement/Yoga/Tantric movement are one of the consequences of this.

There are more. Do whatever works for you.

Soulrebel2:
Brother I understand there are monk mode and MGTOW movement and so on within the red pill, but I'm definitely not in support of such things.. we're humans, hate it all you want you can't deny nature...money and so called success is man made...but your urges to be with an opposite gender is hard to shake because it's nature.. confidence leads to success. Alot of Alpha's that are successful with woman watch how they excel in their other activities.. believe it money is not everything..when I was in Awka(unizik)...the high and mighty deputy director of anti-cult, Na me dey help am find woman...tall huge guy, because he used to see me and my guys how we were playing around with women, not only him many others like him Wey I chop their money tire that year.. successful guys with good cars and houses yet they melt in the presence of a 18 yrs old girl..it's a shame..
I believe everybody have their goals in life but guys you have to balance your life's...you can't spend all your days chasing money and no time for fun and when you realise it'll be too late and you may end up like this guys I mentioned.

Sex is a necessity in an adults life.. forget what religion is telling you..you can't suppress nature..or you'll just be some sad, lonely hor*y dude with money. Like a lot of people I know.

Sex is a necessity of nature but there are still a decent number of men who chose not to place success with women in bed, as a mark for their alphaness. Some are indifferent to women for lengthy periods while some go the monk way temporarily to focus on a purpose or for some other personal reasons. I understand that you are no fan of staying off women totally and that is understandable. However, the red pill or MGTOW did not in any way ask you to avoid women in total. The former makes you see what you are getting into with life and women. The latter advocates avoiding long term relationships with women to minimize the risks that comes with modern long-term permanent relationship with women and your immediate society like marriages and cohabitation. Some of the risks are life threatening. Most don't discourage you from having sexual relationships with women.

You seem to be mixing zabiboy's point with a man's inability to court women. Some men masturbate (not because they have anxiety in talking to women) and can seem to control their utilization of it within healthy limits and not affecting their relationship with women. Others can seem to talk and bed women at will (and not masturbate) but it affects their lives negatively eating into their health, time and finances which is borderline simping (hence, the treatment for sexual addiction in some countries). Everything requires some form of moderation in whatever way you chose to get your nuts off. For those of you who can go monk mode temporarily or for lengthy periods, do it of it is comfortable for you. It has its own unique benefits.

Starzo:
many single mothers are toxic. They feel betrayed by the previous men in their life and so carry a hidden grudge against the male gender.

Na so I go do mumu tell one of them wey carry pikin for back 'sorry o' when she nearly fall from one wooden flyover. Next thing wey follow na insults like, 'sorry for urself' and other things.
Me I nor dull too I still give her back sharp sharp

And when they see you as a single dude who can carry their burden, they'll give you the best sex much better than single ladies who are yet to give birth. Ask any guy who has slept with a single mother before.

That sex is what they use to trap these thirsty fools with small change. Before he knows, he is already cohabiting or married to her before he realizes that he married a damaged witch who pours all her frustration from men she has slept with on him.

Looking at the guy's face in all of the pictures they took together, you could feel the vain emptiness in his soul. Looks like he was forced into taking those photos. Indicators of the "suffering" he was already going through, living with this lady.

Rocboy112:
They are always violent

I know one whom I do business with. She separated from her husband at 28 with a kid. It didn't take me long to know why she separated from her husband. I've seen her shown streaks of aggression to her customers and estranged husband. There are many more of them like that.

Telling this (single men avoiding divorced, separated single mothers) to a SIMP who is seeing some small change to spend on girls is like teaching astrophysics to a donkey. They won't listen nor understand.

They will always learn the hard way.

ABANGWABOI:
#ILMOVON
#Attitude
#Bliv


No pity and bleeps given towards the dead..
You go marry single mother of two ?? if we tell una say this single mothers are toxic and bitter Feminist ladies una go say we be patriarchy FC..
seem am.. the useless boy go marry a pained evening newspaper that has 2 children, now she dn kill the idiot..
Rest in hell Kid..
for your likes that won't learn, Single mothers go deal with them tire..

Na wetin Baba Pete Edochie been dey talk yesterday, say men of their generation are Weaklings, funny enough na the men abuse am for that talk pass sef.. now see this idiot now, em dey awake no be say em dey sleep, na em pregnant woman machete am die, na em type dey believe say Never raise your hand on a woman no matter what.. nonsense talk.. if you like get quadruple belle, instead wey you go attack me and kill me then later go free and start fucking around, I go kill you and those children in your belle join and go to jail.. I rather be the Oppressor than be the oppressed, likewise be the Manipulator than the manipulated ..
Guys .. Luminouz, Martinez39s, Caveadullam, Skepticus, Glycolysiss..
see wetin we dey always preach.. this boys no go learn sha..

Most guys must have simped at some point in their lives but when your "beta simpishness" is on a pathetic, hopeless scale, you will always cross romantic path with sluts who have fûcked their prime, away. If it is a violent one like Edafe met, you are completely done.

I don't feel sorry for SIMPs. Nature has a funny way of eliminating weaklings from the human gene pool.

TheUndercover:
Most men can get cuter girls than they think. False psychological projection of their own sexual attraction mechanism onto women blinds them to this reality.

And some are surprised to see men who are below par, even low level street urchins/thugs being successful with women that they think are above their league because of the fûcked up nonsense they made up in their heads.

Saviolamemphix:
Shared a redpill nugget on ma status, one of my female friends called me a misogynist lmfao...

If a woman calls you a misogynist, know that you are doing well. Subsequently, you'll be called more if you show yourself not to be a pushover. Too many weak-willed males out there.

Generally, women's definition of what MISOGYNY means is different from what it means around here which is unwarranted/unprovoked hatred for women coming from an emotional state.

Last thing, you can share pro-red pill memes and posts without throwing the RED PILL term around unnecessarily or whatever means at your discretion. It will bore everyone around you and even be disadvantageous in some situations. Just live it. The game is to be sold not told, when you are outside of the manosphere.

IgboWarlord:
One of these days,i'll create a thread about my experiences of living here in Kathmandu,Nepal and working in Ulan Batoor,Mongolia....

I'm curious about that Mongolia.

Otu7:
I thought we copied federalism from d US but couldnt study dia military & how dey tackle terrorism..during d vietnam war especially during d rainy seasons troop movement was difficult cos of d swampy nature & also during d dry season most terrains were difficult to access cos of d bonks & under ground tunnels & also frequent abushes..d troops resulted to helicopter transportation...dey will use fighter jets to bomb & pound d target area den move troops by air..y cant nigeria use similar strategy?

You are still very ignorant of what is going on. If you are a southerner, it's even worse than bad for you.

These insurgency can be ended today, if the powers that be want to. No need for all these US Army type strategies. The north east is a open grassland savannah. Not hilly mountains and dense tropical forest like Vietnam.

Money has to be made and money-hungry saboteurs are much in the army (top ranks) and the government. Ending this insurgency is bad business for them.

That said, Nigeria is a big lie, even if you don't agree with me.

Xyzkwenu:
We need to ask married women what value they add to their husband.
Some only open their legs and that is all. Everything else is to nag, fight and quarrel from morning till night. Small thing they will start talking about the pain of childbirth. If men can give birth, many men will do it without complaining.

They eat free food
Watch free DSTV
Consume free electricity and waste free water

What they do is steal money from the husband's pocket
Work is done by househelp
Food is cooked by househelp
Market runs is operated by househelp
School runs is done by driver & school bus

That is why some women remain unmarriageable. They are a liability to themselves and anybody that associates with them. All they know how to do is open leg and continue demanding for money. Simple respect they cannot give their husband who they see as their houseboy.

Divorce and seperation teaches many of them a very bitter lesson and turns them to ashawo. Single mothers and ashawo compete for attention from sugar daddies who use them on pay as you go basis.
You need to get close to some single mothers who have left their matrimonial home to know how bitter and frustrated they are.
They are tempted with freedom to operate outside the control of their husband but that freedom comes at a cost.

Most of the free things and awoof that husband provides are cut off. Many start paying house rent, electricity bill, medical bill, t-fare, hair dresser and menstral pad etc from their pocket. The money they get from multiple Sugar Daddies is not enough and soon age will betray them. The life of a divorced wife and that of prostitutes have many similarities.

Of all languages to speak, you chose to speak facts!

I love you, no homo! #MGTOW

ShadowCracker:
Bruv, like this stuff is not funny, Women will seduce you, have sex with you and later claim you raped them.
They will literally always win as long as you don't have proof of consent.

Guess what: There is literally no law on false rape accusation, If one manages to be proven not guilty the woman will literally get away with it, but if not 25 years in prison.

The worst one can do is file a case of character defamation, which at worst the accused will pay a fine.

There should be equal punishment for both rape and false rape accusations .

That's why I was laughing at your "Proof of Consent". Marriage won't even save you. In some jurisdictions, your legally married wife can still accuse you of rape.

Till legislation that punishes false accusations is put into law, why not avoid problems for yourself than put yourself through the hassles? Women aren't worth the trouble guys put themselves through for the temporary pleasure of ejaculation. Go your fûcking way!

ShadowCracker:
Honestly, Men should start wising up when it comes to false rape accusations.
I have a female friend that works with the judiciary, we were chatting about some rape cases in her court today.
So there is this woman who wanted to get back at her ex-husband, so she issued an alliegation that she was raped by the man when he visited her house.
note: She invited him, seduced him and called the cops on him.
Man was arrested, no evidence of violence just sex.
Infact since the day the man was arrested, the woman is nowhere to be found.
But still man has been detained since 2019, apparantly the judge of the court a woman, wouldn't grant bail.
According to her, the woman could still come back and she doesn't want the man to run.
Our rape laws are one-sided and women are fuckkiing exploiting it, my friend was telling me that the easiest way a woman can ruin me is too just make a rape accusation against me.
she said a key thing which is that "every girl you have sex with always ensure you always have proof of consent".

"Proof of Consent"?

Only if "consent" can "prove" itself well in a court system where males are generally assumed to be perpetrators of rape and women, assumed not to be liars when it comes to rape accusations

LMAO!!

Clowns!

HellVictorinho:
Even the politicians vote yet they still make more money.

I already modified my earlier comments

HellVictorinho:
What about those that don't vote?

Sadly, just like me,you'll have to suffer the negative consequence of the rest of the populace whose majority are ignorant and stupid.

If you are SERIOUS with your life, my advice for you, is to hustle hard to make your life better enough for you to leave this hellhole or help your loved ones/kids leave. Nigeria is a big lie existing on paper that will collapse when our oil becomes useless to the rest of the world. Our leaders know this as a fact, that is why they are stealing as much as possible, stacking the money abroad and getting dual citizenship for their kids before the lie crumbles.

BLOODYSPERM:
The strategy of the north is extremely diabolical,the elites and govt especially the federal government fund bandits to kill and kidnap their poor citizens to stir up crisis there which will lead to bigger government intervention and more resources for such interventions and the debt will fall on the taxpayers and law abiding citizens of the south

These analysis didn't include cleric gumi's foot miltia herdsmen here in the south

The north can go very far for absolute power and total dominace from terrorism in their place, kidnapping their citizens now guerilla maruadering here in the south west

These just the beginning , we should expect more unconventional tactics and shouldn't be taken by Surprise, anything goes here in the south , they are emboldened like never before

One of the presidential candidates in the last elections (I can't remember his name now), mentioned something before the 2019 elections (that was in 2018 and it was on nairaland's front page) that the core-north (north west and parts of the north east), has a very old caste system in which the ruling elites of the north used to great advantage that was further backed by the philosophy of fatalism that exist in Islam. This may be strange to Muslims of the south and some other parts of the north but in this caste system, the peasants (poor Hausa-fulani Muslims) are encouraged to accept their fate of death and destruction as long as it is beneficial to the advantage of the larger Islamic community. It has pre-islamic roots but the aspect of accepting your fate as a Muslim was twisted by these power-hungry elites to suit their supremacy agenda.

It's a reason why you haven't seen any big statewide protest against, Boko haram, banditry and kidnapping by the elites, northern celebrities and the poorest of the areas affected. It says a lot. I've lived in about 5 of the six major political zones of this country to understand basic culture unknown to non-indigenes of these areas.

Weathered:
Who will arrest him? Arrest him for what?

Some Nigerians are funny. Don't mind johnmartus.

How would you arrest the spokesman of bandits who have the clandestine support of the Federal Government?

ZKOSOSO:
Why won't DSS invite Gumi for drills and questioning.?

Is Gumi bigger than Nigeria?
His late Father was a terrorism advocate in utterances for always downgrading Christians till he died. So his son would get away like him too.?

Gumi is bigger than Buhari's "Nigeria". Some Nigerians are bigger than others. I don't care if you disagree with me. At least, you won't disagree with the evidence on ground. Sheikh Gumi is hanging out with bandits, kidnappers and terrorist when he likes and your army calls him "respected". This country is a big lie. No fool can deceive me anymore.

Only if Evans, the kidnapper was a northerner, he would have gotten so much compensation that he would be going for a governorship position now!

tit:
Wetin concern army?
You done finish with Shekau?

Shekau na army boy.

They all work hand in hand, cashing out steady. All these, is to deceive gullible fools around. Not us.

frank417:
I cringed anytime I read the word "respected" in the letter. Is this truly the military?

Northern Nigerian Military.

It's clear to every one, even the blind!

Nigerians ehnnn...

Bunch of fools that are easy to deceive!

2023, 2027, 2031 elections etc won't be any different.

Just put money, ethnic rivalry, religion and other nonsense and their brains would fly out of their skulls literally.

Nigerian politicians are the luckiest!!

When a simp meets a ho .... Recipe for disaster!

Mumu fish with badluck.

U nor see better country come. Instead of you to navigate European or American waters where you will be protected and even celebrated, you visited the shores of cannibalistic, hungry vermin's.

AsomughaChuks02:
Some are using recovered loots to finance their 2023 ambition while others are using bandits to mine Zamfara Gold and fly it to Dubai in preparation for their last stand in 2023. Nigerians are watching them.

Wetin una wan do dem?

Dey there they "watch them" while they steal and plunder your future. Better look for means of getting out of this cesspit of evil called Nigeria before you become another wasted pawn in their devilish games.

MansoryMX:
Find abi arrest them. They know the people sponsoring all these bandits and BokoHaram

U and d guy u quoted, adioolayi are delusional comedians lol

Dat one said they should "find", u said "arrest" the bandits

Both of you are funny. How can those sponsoring them arrest "them". Those to "find" or "arrest" them are the ones arming them with weapons and funding them. It's like telling a hired killer to arrest himself.

The more you know that this country is a big lie, the more emancipated you are.

misterjosh:
What if some are casualties of the attack... Just saying...

A few of them are already dead or in Boko Haram's captivity.

A smart way the army officers at the top "divert" the attention of their families from knowing what is happening and looting their entitlements. Many of these "pepper-soup" generals with big pot bellies will be buying more houses in lekki, Maitama and Dubai.

The ones that absconded and are alive made the best decisions ever.

egopersonified:
Some of these people have died in combat but the same people they died for have declared them wanted.

Exactly.

A few of them are already dead or in Boko Haram's captivity.

A smart way the army officers at the top "divert" the attention of their families from knowing what is happening and looting their entitlements. Many of these "pepper-soup" generals with big pot bellies will be buying more houses in lekki, Maitama and Dubai.

The ones that absconded and are alive made the best decisions ever.

KelChinon202:
What if these guys or some of them are dead already during the attack by the insurgents?
Na wa oo.

A few of them are already dead or in Boko Haram's captivity.

A smart way the army officers at the top "divert" the attention of their families from knowing what is happening and looting their entitlements. Many of these "pepper-soup" generals with big pot bellies will be buying more houses in lekki, Maitama and Dubai.

The ones that absconded and are alive made the best decisions ever.

This country is a big lie.

alcuin:
I think the military needs to reevaluate the training. I think these guys aren't properly trained.

Bring your family members to be trained as killing targets for boko haram boys that will be rewarded with amnesty and promoted to Chief of Army Staff or even as Nigeria's president.

namedo:
United we stand. Divided, other small African countries who are jealous of the union go shiit for una head oh.

U dey crazze.

United Nonsense.

Sentiments apart, reason well with dat ur big head. Does this country looks united to you?

Ahmadm:
So this morning my younger brother went into the bathroom to have his bath only for him to dash out with Usain Bolt lightning speed screaming my name and shouting SNAKE SNAKE��

That's a west African forest cobra. Very deadly and not a spitter. The one with red markings are the ones who spit.

internationalman:
This is making the 14th straight win in a roll..

Nawa o..

The highest is 18 set by them last two seasons

Guardiola is trying to equal his own record. Interesting.

Anyway, this is 20th consecutive win in all competition. No draw, no loss.