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Jessepaid:
Hehehe....


my anger here is this....


up to 10 people have complimented her...


yet e no do am....



she still dey find my mouth...

You don't understand the "effect" of the "drug" that "attention" means to ladies. Even, aging don't affect it that much (some grandmas still use make up/filters to appear younger).

"Attention" has the same "currency value" as money to women but the truth is that, this "currency value" means that you'll be "relegated" to the "friendzone" level like the tons of other beta simps/orbiters around her. The "simp/orbiters" who would get a "taste" of her would have to have "simping value" as "wealthy providers" on the short term (packaged prostitution disguised as dating,) or in the long term (as marriage or cohabitation). The dudes getting her coochie for free or "close" to free is probably not in the list of those giving her these compliments. They may even, be tired of her already wishing that some simp take her away quick.

Knowing what your "value" is to every woman in your life who has no blood relationship to you is very important.

ABANGWABOI:
Na her type dey shout men are scum for Nigeria..
E dn reach for yankee see say nobody get em time.. unlike men for here always pussy worshipping..
As a black woman.. White men no get your time, they see you as sub human and below them.. Black Americans/Canadians despise and hate you.. while fellow Nigerian (men) avoid you.. (who wants to be with a woke, vengeful and feminist woman in a gynocentric society) ..
What she is experiencing is what most of them are experiencing.. some ladies in the he comment section said that it seems they would marry in Nigeria before leaving coz their chances of getting partners abroad is minute.. lol

Babe nor know wetin dey sup.

Though other variables dey involved like economic factors, social factors (Canadians like most part of the "cold" west have a high "individualistic" culture), etc, Canada has a high number of men avoiding permanent relationship with women. The laws go wreck ur life if u nor "package well" as a man using ur big head instead of ur foolish dick. Only Australia and Japan come close. You either see men avoiding marriage/cohabitation totally (going monk), having baby mamas or hide under SERIAL MONOGAMY" where they "spin" or "simp" plates in "marry-and-divorce" arrangements pretending to be "traditional conservative patriarchs. Only a few are lucky to end up with wives who are " manageable" on the long term and they include couples who are immigrants from conservative backgrounds like Asia (Indians and Arabs) and Africa to some extent.

TheUndercover:
Thank you so much Boss! with this explanation, we can say the "far too much" in the statement can also mean a woman who's experienced in a negative way, not a virgin and the likes, right?

Yeah. Sure.

The author of the quote is known to share traditionally conservative views concerning marriage.

TheUndercover:
“A man will teach his wife what is needed to arouse his desires. And there is no reason for a woman to know any more than what her husband is prepared to teach her. If she gets married knowing far too much about what she wants and doesn’t want then she will be ready to find fault with her husband.” - Barbara Cartland.

Skepticus, Martinez39s, CaveAdullam, or anyone, please I need more explanation of this quote.

The quote is the foundation on what a healthy traditionally-conservative relationship/marriage is built on.

A man should be firm in leadership when it comes to relationship with his complementary but submissive partner. When the man fails in this, by not providing adequate leadership in the relationship, letting his woman get away with bad behaviours, or letting her indulge in pleasures and freedom over responsibility in the name of being "woke" or "liberal", he sets himself up for disrespect and even, marital failure.

A woman who can't be submissive to the sensible leadership that a man brings, radiating masculine vibes (lacks feminity) or being exposed to post-modernist liberal and feministic ideas (which is "knowing far too much " ) is "chaotic" and most likely, be a disaster in permanent relationship with a man who seeks a complementary, submissive partner.

SOZINN:
Vetted woman or Unicorn contradicts AWALT.
but okay
No arguments

SOZINN, you do mix things up quite a bit and I understand that it's not done with a malicious intent. Your red pill awareness is undoubtable.

AWALT is an indisputable fact of the red pill, no doubt. However, like I always say, it stops no man from marrying if they want to, but AWALT makes them understand what they are getting into. How they end up, is of no relevance to you, personally, EXCEPT learning from their experiences whether negative or positive. There are pros and cons to whatever every step everyman choose to take after swallowing the red pill. It depends on what every man what for himself.

That doesn't stop you from expressing your red pill "bias". If it's done within sane, mature and respectful language, even those who don't fancy your ideas will still agree with you.

For me, any form of legal engagement with a woman (backed by government) makes absolutely no sense to me, but if a brother who has swallowed the red pill, decides to go to Ikoyi marriage registry to legally pair with his woman of interest (knowing the risks) who am I to stop or discourage him?

Choose your "POISON" carefully!

Jerry Gana.

If you know, you know!

princepee:
Oga keyamo na thesame hustle you and eedris dey oo.
Both of una na scamer ...
Activities by the day, government hustler in the night.
You have done more than eedris self
Those of us wey know you for mende Maryland know what's up

How was his background in Mende?

SOZINN:
Simping + heart break + red pill + AWALT + Anger + meditation = MGTOW

Respect people who have gone through this phases in life.

Your analogy misrepresent MGTOW totally but I do get your point. Not all simped, suffered heartbreak or even angry at women. Those in perpetual anger phase are incels or incel-types.

TheUndercover:
Questions For You:

If you catch your wife cheating on you, what will you do?

What have you learned so far from this thread starting from phase one to phase two? What do you want me to talk or post about more? Has your views about life changed?

If i ever had a wife and caught her cheating on me, on the spot, I'll encourage the guy to go on and move on like nothing happened. Her conscience will do the work. No emotional drama. I'll ask her to leave and separate from her. It's stupid to trust anyone, talkless of women.

Martinez39s:
❌❌❌❌❌❌❌❌ You clearly don't know what mgtow is. You didn't even understand my question.

I could have continued what I hoped would have been a mature and intelligent discussion, but at this point, I leave you to bask in your world view. Freely indulge any belief or way of life you want. Good day.

Las las, you can't beat the ignorant at their game of delusions, especially males filled with oestrogen, unwilling to learn and understand.

If it walks, talks and acts like a clown, it's a clown.

Please, starve the trolls.

CaveAdullam:
We share over 90% of traits that are analogous to animals especially apes and chimpanzees. Especially when it comes to a male space like this, men will shit test, proclaim a show of dominance and status, develop some particular features or imitate it. Expect this wherever you find a motley of testosterones. Testosterone is a b!tch. Lol!

It is normal! However, if we don't calm down, relax to see the nuances in every ideas/opinions our transmutation into something better will be dilatory.

While I do agree with your point about testosterone putting some men on edge, it's not an excuse for emotional immaturity and being openly stupid. I mean, we criticize this behaviour in women and we are well aware that testosterone is not the cause of it. If all men on this thread were allow to show effects of their testosterone, you are going to have a chaotic scene of insults fuelled by psychological insecurities and masculine inferiority which is the definition of being a SUPER BETA. The thread won't last this long. The Mods against this thread would have all the excuse in this world to shut it down which will be a loss for men folks that may have their lives saved by this thread. Baiaon was on your case earlier on this thread, using insultive words on you for no justifiable reasons, only because he disagreed with you, despite the fact that you agree on a lot (as it concerns the Red Pill), more than the few points where men would naturally tow their divergent bias. He was given the silent treatment and he went inactive on the thread. The thread moved on progressing more in ideas.

I know nairaland gives some form of anonymity to folks, who take the "advantage" to openly deride each other in an open argument that should have some decorum. This thread has a title and a purpose. Anyone active here probably agrees with the red pill, though on various levels, so some level of decency in engagements and arguments is to be expected. This is not your average Front Page thread where you have people saying all sort of nonsense to each other and is encouraged by the mods for internet traffic. Also, those who leave the sphere of arguments and engage in ad-hominem/straw man attacks on their personality won't dare say it out in person. You are likely to get punched in the face by another man.

That said, emotional maturity even in the face of betas showing their insecurity and inferiority is what every decent man should strive to have. I've been on online forums where blue-pilled is being encouraged and advocated. Though I don't agree with it, I know that insulting a stranger (online) and getting myself worked up over personal choices/decisions of another man (especially a stranger) that has no relevance to my life is worthless and a sign of weak, beta behaviour. Do what you want. No one cares. Those who blend with your style will pair with you. It's that easy.

If you seem to have a bad day, was raised poorly, emotionally immature or suffer from some form of masculine inferiority complex, I'll advise you to take your problems elsewhere. You won't find anyone to stroke your fragile ego here and even if you do, folks will see you as nothing but a toxic, bitter individual (beta) with time and avoid you altogether.

IronGalaxy:
Why am I mentioned?

I thought "SOWETO" might be of interest to you(

By the way, heard from my Xhosa bunny?

osamz007:
FIRE IN SOWETO

IronGalaxy will be pissed

#AmaZulu

Peaceyw:
This is hilarious:

Marry again, Hell NO ! ( Even JESUS was hung on a cross just once)

Nusaibart:
This man like most men like him are trash scum

The rebirth of Digmygold. Interesting.

DonX001:
And I must commend the policeman's level of restraint despite provocation.

Though it's likely to be for 3 reasons:
1. The most important one is that he knew he was being videoed. And any mistake could likely cost him his job and even worse, land him in jail, maybe for life. Cos if he kills the guy, people will forget about the fact that he was driving one way, and focus on his excessive use of force and police brutality.
And it can trigger another EndSars.
So he had to keep calm, because he knew he was being videoed.

2. And he also knows that if he keeps calm and the video gets out, he will be hailed massively by the public for his restraint, and possibly rewarded and promoted for being a very example of good policing, and go still chop plenty money from the car owner for assault.
Plus he knows he or his colleagues can still beat heaven and hell out of the guy when they get to police station and there are no prying eyes or video cameras.
So he keeps calm.

3. It's also possible that he knows they've done something very wrong or bad to the guy while trying to arrest him, something they shouldn't have done.... that's why they're calm and gentle when the guy is reacting the way he did.
Cos they know if they attempt to retaliate, people around there might side with the guy because of what they've done, and join hands in beating them.
Police can be gentle when they know dem don fuckup, especially when they know they're being videoed.
That's why it's important to know the full story of exactly what happened before the guy assaulted the policemen, and before the video recording started.

Your analysis was on point.

No. 2 happened!

OjukuwuHusband:
Open question; what do redpillers think about arranged marriages and can it reduce simpism on our society?

In the past, arranged marriages worked because women who were picked for marriages were often raised right, in closed conservative societies where their hypergamy was controlled with dire consequences, if she fell out of line. In the few cases, where it turned out bad was when the lady given out, was badly raised or super entitled ladies in marriages done solely for political and business connections.

To be clear, engaging with women in permanent living arrangement would involve some level of "simping" as you'll be expected to provide as a man to get sex, companionship and your bloodline passed on. Realistically, you can't always hold frame 100% of the time but at least, be smart enough to recover when you seem to be losing it.

Regarding arranged marriages, I can't say same for today, where modern women have been exposed to too much feminist ideas that promote freedoms over responsibilities. In my own opinion, I feel it work in some ways and some men are lucky especially when those who "vetted" her for you, did right This "vetting" can be very hard though. Today, a woman's past is hard to figure out and her potential as a good complementary partner for the future is equally hard. For a man, it's like buying goods in the dark. You don't know what you'll get - a risk. I've seen a good number (arranged marriages) turn out really bad with super damaged/unmarriageable women.

Junnior:
This is debatable.

True. Some mothers are super-entitled and manipulative of their loving sons. Mother-worship is also another bad side of it.

Generally though, the only woman (or women) from whom, most men would experience true love or a semblance of it, is mothers and female siblings.

Junnior:
Wow, this is awesome.

Quite busy now. In a few months, I will be assessing my options as per how exactly my relationship with women will be. I will definitely be seeking your views on particular questions I might have as regards to Mgtow.

I don't have it all figured out, as an imperfect being but I'll share my knowledge as regards that.

leksite120:
In all honesty, the reason you're telling us this now, I don't understand. What do u want?

It seems guys are more foolish when in love than girls

A man in love is a big fool. Even when you see them in reality, they often look miserable and stupid.

2 guys fighting in love fighting over a slût, are the biggest fools ever.

RedpillAnalyst:
These happen more often than not. The excitement is over and it is time to move on.

Boredom is number one thing that push these women to unleash their whoredom.

In the next 5 years marriage will be an outdated concept. You can't sell marriage to any logical human being. You have to be a first class simp or live in Arabian country to enter that marriage contract.

Good points made.

It's not just boredom alone that makes them unleash their whoredom. The financial rewards and the gradual acceptance of women degeneracy is the one fuelling these monkeys branching in marriages. If there was no government legislation to favour married women who divorce their husbands, there won't be a high rate of divorce witnessed in those societies now. At most, separation would be the case as it is common in the Nigerian system.

In my opinion, I doubt if marriage would go extinct in the next 5 years. An institution that old (began at almost the time humans ended cave dwelling and began in settling into societies at the advent of agriculture) won't just go off like that. People still get married every Saturdays, even in societies where the men know that the probability of divorce is as high 80 percent with them also losing more. That said marriage rates are falling worldwide (Nigeria included) when the rate of those married were compared with folks (men and women) who were eligible for marriage.

Drenimarcus:

Now they are called "304s"

Type 304 on your calculator or some other digital device and turn it upside down. What you get is H.O.E. no be me talk am

Jessepaid:
Hehehe...

Sometime last month I went to get breakfast for myself in the morning..

The roadside canteen I went to was slightly full with all walks of men excluding women..

While I was there waiting patiently for my takeaway, two pretty ladies came for breakfast too...

They both kept to themselves and were pressing their phones...

Thankfully the men present there were all business men and artisans with more pressing concerns in their minds so the ladies were totally ignored..

I noticed an old man handling idly with a shoe needle... It turns out he was a shoe maker...

He had no shirt on, probably in his 70's with grey and white hair spewing out all over from his bald head and uncovered upper body...

Something hit me.. why should a man this old and shriveled still be fighting for his daily bread?

Where are his kids at least?

Why is he in the middle of a busy motor park with all the noise and other unpleasantries?

I still admired the fact that his pride didn't make him to resort to begging...

Knowing that he was depending on patching a shoe to get money for his breakfast..

I called the woman selling aside and whispered in her ear to discreetly ask the papa whatever he wanted for breakfast and that the bill is on me but she shouldn't mention me...


The girls didn't notice what I did because I wasn't trying to impress anyone or get attention...

When it was my turn to be served, I insisted she served the papa first...

So she went to him in his little kiosk and asked him what he wanted to eat that someone will pay..

The man refused to eat until he identified who was making such a gesture....


She tried to persuade him to eat and not worry, he still blatantly refused...

So I owned up he was just saying blessings and appreciations.. I just told him to calm down as I didn't want to create a scene..

He then ordered and was served...

By now the girls had noticed what happened..

They turned their attention to me one was telling me that I look familiar and she knows me from somewhere..

The other one was asking me if I go to dominion city church..

I could tell they were wet already..


Their eyes glistening with a mix of desire, excitement and amazement...

I cleared them that I don't know them and I don't attend the said church..

I paid for both I and the papa's food totalling a thousand naira, took my take away and left..

I was utterly disgusted by both girls..

If you are a man of faith, may the deity you believe reward you for your kind gesture (pardon me but I'm not religious, though). Men don't have to be nice. Being kind is okay, though it must be done within limits where you aren't taken advantage of, at the level of mockery.

The man you extended your act of benevolence to, reminds me of how sad it is when I see men being harsh on each other for no reason because some have it "easy" than others (with factors beyond their control like privilege, time and chance contributing to their success), ignorant of the facts of life (shît can go wrong, even if you think you are fully prepared for the better) or stupid dick contests that reeks of psychological insecurity, emotional immaturity and mental inferiority.

When I went fully red-pilled, I started appreciating men striving to make life meaningful for themselves and their families if they had one (from those at the bottom like manual labourers, truck pushers to those at the top like CEOs, MDs top political leaders etc. Whether we like it or not, class and rank (Hierarchies) will always exist among men. Even, the ranking criteria is relative (subjective) and can vary within environments/strata etc.

In Nigeria where it's common to rank men with fiat cash (money) and financial networth, even, the networth of Nigeria's (and Africa's) richest man is some other men's "tax" money and "chicken change". Life happens to all. It's a reason why I have stopped broke-shaming men or mocking them for being in certain low economic class which is typical of Nigerian men. Most of those who broke-shame or mock others for being "low-value" are either ignorant or coping psychologically online. Also, the modern romantic scene is not static universally. A lot of broke, poor men end up having a lot of sex and are even "reproductively successful" than some rich high value men could ever imagine. Men need to start looking deeper and read between the lines. Justformen can relate.

This is not to say that men should not strive to get better or not be "encouraged" to get better. It's not "broke-shaming" in my opinion. For those stuck on the "Burden of Performance" thing, do you think the guy who goes out there to push his wheel barrow to survive and probably feed his family, and the guy who who gets up early, earning millions monthly, working extra hard, as the MD/CEO of a multinational firm, don't understand the burden of performance saddled on a man, and are not working towards lifting the burden that their "muscles" can "afford to lift"? Do you think they are working for the fun of it other than earn money to survive and solve their basic problems like food, shelter and clothing?

You don't have to agree with me. Just understand my point. Life is different for every man. Let's not make it harder for ourselves. We only have a life to live.

Akfrenzy:
believe NIGERIA Army at ur own peril

Their record of habitual lying is haunting them.

It's a very disgraceful fact that Boko Haram are believable than the army as they record video evidence of their offensive on the military and civilians. Also, they back up their threats with action, most of the time.

The army might be right though, not because of this rubbish video they put up, but because, Boko Haram didn't put out any statement or video on the Damasak attack.

DPsychologist I have no intention to derail your thread though. I just want to clear things up. No vex. For the first photo, MGTOWs is the guy chilling in the top left corner.

TheUndercover:
It's alright then. Thanks.

Okay. I edited my earlier comment, though.

Just to correct your earlier comment about MGTOW being in marriage. The MGTOW is red pill to its core but where they differ from the other elements that constitute the red pill is abstaining from permanent relationship with women endorsed by the state (legal marriage) or permanent cohabitation (regarded by a lot of governments including Nigeria's, as Common Law Marriage).

MGTOWs can have platonic, romantic, business relationships with women as long as it doesn't pose a serious threat to their health, money, resources, freedom and life. Women are not worth the stress of proving your worth (ego stroking). Live life on your own terms.

TheUndercover:
@Skepticus, I highly respect your views, there are about 7 billion plus people on this Earth, surely we can't be the same. I just want to ask you a question, man to man, I know you're among the MGTOW group if I'm not mistaken, which of course there are pros and cons to every path one makes in this life and sometimes the pros outweighs the cons. The MGTOW path pros heavily outweighs the cons in this modern age and time because of the degeneracy of this generation.

But my question is, do you intend to have kids? If yes, how do you intend to go about it? Of course you know you can put yourself first in marriage to which is the main core of MGTOW, but if you don't intend on having kids is fine, or do you just want to have a baby mama? We all know both the parents have roles to play in the child's life. So I will be expecting your reply Sir.

Any reply you give is okay by me, I just want to hear your views on that. Thank you.

Thank you. I understand the cons of going my own way. I've assessed it properly and confirmed that I can bear its consequences. I have an aversion to the issues that constitute the transactional institution called modern marriages and cohabitation (from the nature of the modern woman to the influence of the state at the detriment of men). However, I'm not against men getting married. Men should do, if they want to. The red pill at least makes them know what they are getting into, and lessen the risks.

For your question, I intend to have a kid at some point in time and I have a lady who we have some form of agreement towards this. The terms are perfect for both us.

Dpsychologist:
Dpsychologist:
https://www.nairaland.com/6485330/what-does-man-stand-gain

The thread is fire. Some comments there give compelling reasons to avoid the institution of marriage or other forms of permanent cohabitation with women which I know that you and some of your followers here, are not fond of. Even the arguments of those who still believe in the illusion of ancient dominant patriarchy was ripped to shreds considering modern women and present social realities, by the moniker, Justformen and a few others.

The good thing is that on the thread, the facts are laid bare for men to know what they are getting into, when married or staying away from it. Pick your poison.

Pappilo said it all.

JustforMen:
Poor and average is a very relative standard... and is not even an objective measure. what level of wealth qualifies one to be poor and average?
reading one single book on mating strategy will leave room for misapplication. Even monkeys and dogs get pussy why not a man just because he is 'poor and average' ... poor and average by whose standards?
Well, the irony of your argument is that poor and average people get more pussy than any other category of men. As evidence, you see population explosion in poor and average populations.
Infact, average and poor people dont struggle to get pussy at all and sometimes they even get it from women who pay them to give them.

I still want to know what a man is designed to gain in marriage that is worth all the suffering he goes through.

Justformen, you burst my brain here. Some just pack some narrow minded theories in their brain and think life works just like that.

The ignorant ones with no experience of life works will start parroting the nonsense of Burden of Performance, or a man running from responsibilities because he refused to marry.

Do you think the guy who pushes wheelbarrow in the market for crumbs isn't carrying his burden of performance or you think the guy on his purpose chasing his dream and refused to be sucked into the slavery of marriage is dumb?

SOZINN:
The manipulated man was written by an alien.
My head don blow
I can't believe a woman wrote that book

I've finished the book but I will listen to it again via my pdf reader. With my headphone everyday.
Omo
Also I want to compile all the red pill messages in this thread and create a pdf file too
If you see me you will think I'm listening to music.

Haha

#Redpillislife

There is a reason why Esther Vilar is the only woman held in high esteem in the manosphere.

At the peak of second wave feminism where women were getting attention, complaining about being oppressed by men and men were too pussified, distracted by the lure of pûssy to see what was going on, Esther was the first to notice and challenge these feminist tropes of male oppression proving that WESTERN WOMEN were in fact, not oppressed and brought out statistics to show (at the time the book was first published in the 70s) that more women were in school than men. Women were favoured in divorce courts and got resources from men without bringing anything to the union other than their smelly pûssies etc. She even made a phrase describing MARRIAGE as an institution where men "DELIGHTED IN THEIR OWN SLAVERY". She did it at a great risk as she faced death threats from her fellow women and feminists.