₦airaland Forum

Purvan:
Nlders with toxic parents, how long did you take you to realize the only solution is to cut contact?


For me , I had a desire to cut contact since my teens but I could never understand why and stayed in denial. I moved out in my early 20s and kept contact to minimum. It was only when I turned 30 that I had the courage to examine the past and accept that my parents used me as a punching bag for their personal failures in life.

Now I'm working on fixing it because I understand that they will not be around forever and I don't want to end our relationship on a bad note.

My advice is that you talk with them about it and explain how it harmed you. They might understand

I dont think they will ever understand. I thought i am the only one in this shoe but now I know that some parent are not meant to be parent to some children.

ShoeGetSize:
Yes he is dealing with everyone and everything, including the value of the Naira which is now more worthless than used toilet paper and cost of living which is getting worse with each passing day.


You're so right. If I was the president of Nigeria and the Naira was trading at 1,200 to a dollar under my watch, I would shout it from the roof top. Thumbv is just dulling.



Be careful what you wish for. If corruption has to die, a lot of criminals wil die too. Like retired drug dealers who use bullion van to carry looted money around.

We are all in this, we condemn whatever he did wrong and we also praise whatever he is doing right. We are not haters like you.

Kaxmytex:
This BAT era, na investigation everywhere

Investigation is always the starting point to implementation of the right policies. You need the right data first.

JAGABAN IS DEALING WITH ANYBODY. Tinubu is following 2024 motto. NO GREE FOR ANYBODY. SOMEBODY SHOULD WARN DIAZINI AHEAD

janedonez:
Thats quite pathetic, with all the Investments I put into it

Sorry bro, ask qeustions next time before applying both herbicide and insecticides. Dont just follow the instruction, there are some cases you may need to increase the dose or reduce the does based on some circumstances LIKE Density of your crop, stage of flowering, ground water availability, amount of precipitation available or expected to follow in the next 24 hrs.

Oshomole can say the say about you. shuaibu

Too much dose, that is all, they will not recorver. just get whatever you can get and move on

Justkatty:
Truth be told, both were already tired of the relationship and by that looking for the slightest opportunity to end it .

Do you call that a slight oppourtunity? That is a very huge sign for any man that is not a fool.

I KEEP WONDERING THE LEVEL OF STUPIDITY I USE TO DISPLAY WHEN I AM STILL IN THIS RELIGION CALL ISLAM. I HATE THOSE YEARS AND NOW SEE IT AS A WASTE.

RECTEM:
Not News . infact, The money doesn't belong to him

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Those the money belongs to those that owned the money are refused to pay? Hatred will never let you appreciate people that still do their duties

Parydelegate:
Obaseki winning the battle...his candidate will pick the party ticket.

in the end, If Obaseki candidate win the primary, then both shuaibu and obaseki will fight to kill PDP.

I went to 3 Universities in Institutions in Nigeria and non of it is listed. I am lucky I guess.

Beremx:
Nigeria corruption should be studied in the university.
I'm tired of reading stories about it

This is actually a good news to read, first time a government is investigating itself just as the issue was reported. We should encourage this new development and not attack it again. The minister was suspended immediately and investigation commenced. RESPECT.

abhosts:
Save yourself the stress. Just go and manufacture the robot you are looking for.

He will get those list easily. it is not too much to ask such.

tasalanoni:
Nl folks, pls your opinions are needed.
I'm currently 31, earning reasonably well and with greater prospects for the future.

The pressure to settle down is getting stronger by the day. However, I don't consider myself psychically fit for marriage in the midst of the deterioration that the marriage Institution is experiencing.

Judging by my current perspective and disposition on the subject of marriage, I don't see myself setting down even in the next 5years. I try to carefully look at the pros and cons of contracting a marriage in today's world and I always come to the conclusion that there are more cons than pros.

I'm also not a very family oriented person in the sense of creating familial bonds and deeply cherishing them hence I derive my fulfillment and pleasure in doing the things I love to do, acquiring wealth and giving help wherever I deem necessary.

The thought of opting for an adoption is beginning to occupy the greater part of my consciousness and the reasons are few and in my opinion very valid.

1. Progeny is very important in social arrangements especially in the Igbo society. I'll definitely be needing someone to carry on the family's name and legacy when I'm no more.

2. If my perspective on marriage changes for any reason and I decide to take the step towards contracting one, I may have become a little too old then to handle the perculiates of marriage and family life( parenting, school runs issues etc). But with a child already in picture and almost a teenager by then, that part of the problem would have been kicked out..

Nb:As for raising the adopted child, myself, parents, siblings and a helper will be involved while financial responsibility will be exclusively mine.

Kindly help me with insightful and mature advice that is based on direct or third party experience.

You are a smart man. Marriage is a scam now than before.

tunwumi:
😂 It shows the level of your HSE exposure.


Big opening for window? Read about H²S gas

Have you ever heard that anyone died in an open water storex due to suffocation before? what are you stressing as if you alone knows what HSE safety procedures are. There can only be a serious problem if the ,id of the tank is closed. we currently have over 46 tanks to wash every month in our poultry farm and there has never been an issue. Just relax and stop exaggerating issues when you barely experience the practical.

a yam laffin

tunwumi:
Ignorance is a disease. It is better to try and read about "confined space"

I'm sure you are one of those people that uses the word "saner clime" without checking the meaning. Just a simple Google and YouTube search will educate more than all o can say.

Yes, it is a confine space, but it is not as dangerous as you portray it because it has a very wide opening that is capable to serve as window.

Who even initiated the approval in the first place. Even the graduates has nothing in their skull and you will wonder if they actually went back to another secondary school or a university.

tunwumi:
This is very dangerous. It is called confined space which definitely have limited oxygen and excess heat. Avoid the temptation of trying what can cut short your life

Taar, you can sleep inside for 24 hours without any hard in as much the cover of the tank is not closed. Must you see challenges in every thing? try to be positive minded always, it is good for your mental health.

WOW. What a smart way of cutting bribery and corruption going on with immigration .

Nackzy:
Daddy's child, this is really a bad sign, but the guy isn't smart enough to decipher the meaning, the dad will practically dictates everything that happens in that marriage, my guess though

You are likely to be wrong, Men are not like that, Men aways support men because they know how it felt to be a man that tolerate women.

osothermal:
Labour Party is strong in Ondo. They ruled for 8 years there.

That LP then is same of today, that LP then is even Zenith Labour party now. and its dead in Ondo. SEE LAST ELECTION HERE

HarryGleb:
He should better join labour party

Who wan join losers party?

Give Benue till next 3 years, it will still be zero. A state vast in Agriculture but could not attract investment in food processing.

After Tinubu, Wike is currently most popular Nigerian politician, hate him if you like, that is the fact. his popularity is beyond what Rivers can stop. It just like Lagos voting against Tinubu in Lagos, it will never stop Tinubu from become president.

Obaseki is governor today because Shuaibu is with him but today Obaseki treat him like he made Shuaibu and can unmade him. There is no maturity in Obaseki approach at all.

saphiere:
How about what Dora and Ngozi Okonjo do us

That is the problem, people like them will never win but people like Diazini, No never wish a woman to be president. nIgeria will disappear under woman. President is never Nigeria problem in most case but the senseless law makers called senators, the have the power to remove and fire any failing president. A woman president will be powerless to control them.

Splashme:
BUHARI (not Emefiele, Tunde-Sabiu) approved the Naira redesign. Theifnùbu is afraid of dragging Buhari
.

Did he have to cut Buhari head before you know you know he is dragging him? investigating buhari goverment publicly is enough dragging. Buhari is really dunce

tesppidd:
You don't know?

Ariwoola nko?

Dey play.

Stop displaying ignorance and foolishness.

saphiere:
I wish this country was ruled by a woman.

WHAT KIND OF SENSELESS THINKING IS THIS? ITS LIKE YOU NEVER BE UNDER FEMALE BOSS BEFORE. WHAT DIAZINI DO US AS A COUNTRY IS NOT ENOUGH LESSON FOR YOU? ABEG O.