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FamilyRe: "My Husband's House" by SmileDance(f): 12:37pm On Apr 30, 2022
Amhappy:
Because for most Nigerian men,they are the owner of the house. The wife is just a little bit above a tenant who can be thrown out at any time. Wife ownership start at the man's demise. This is more reason why more women are hustling and selfish with their money.
wife is not in anyway above tenant. You gets give your tenants quit notice if you wan chase them but a wife can be chased away by her brother in-law sef
FamilyRe: The Worst Has Happened! She Threw Me Out Because I Refused To Join Their Fetishe by SmileDance(f): 10:42am On Apr 30, 2022
I can understand your situation, it's not easy I have been in a similar situation that made me decide never ever to squat with someone again, can you get a job or afford even if na face to face house
FamilyRe: We Want To Adopt A Child As Soon As Possible by SmileDance(f): 5:20pm On Apr 29, 2022
Have you considered other methods of having biological children, IVF, Surrogacy?
Adoption isnt easy over here, which is why people patronize baby factories.
FamilyRe: Am I Wicked Or Been Sincere About This? by SmileDance(f): 12:26am On Apr 29, 2022
Kobojunkie:
But many of the same mother's threat these children as if objects of little to no value. undecided
I understand, i do not invalidate your opinion, but the level of cruelty in treating someone badly and that of taking the person's life isn't same.
A lot of us might have been angry/frustrated to say awful things to people but taking a life, Killing someone is too evil.
FamilyRe: Am I Wicked Or Been Sincere About This? by SmileDance(f): 12:08am On Apr 29, 2022
I do not invalidate your reasons op, but in a country where abortion is illegal, I don't think killing a human being can be justified. A person living with disabilities has right to life.
From the point of view of a mother, I don't think it's easy to allow a child to be killed, the mother would rather hope that one day her child will be healed.
EducationRe: Should I Sell My Late Mother's House With Her Grave To Fund My Masters In UK? by SmileDance(f):
How big is the house? Can you sell part of the land,? Is it possible you rent it out? Can you get a loan and also use the money you get from the rent to pay the loan?
TravelRe: Age Issue On Marriage Certificate by SmileDance(f): 1:40pm On Apr 26, 2022
Tokskob2008:
Is church marriage certificate now officially recognized at the embassieshuh
a lot of people don't know that marriage certificate from 'recognized' churches is as valid as the one from the registry.
FoodRe: Who Prefers Egusi Soup Cooked Without Anything Tomato? by SmileDance(f): 8:14pm On Apr 25, 2022
This is the first time I'm hearing that it is cooked with tomatoes
FamilyRe: Family Depriving My Right: Is It Possible To Charge Them To Court? by SmileDance(f): 6:15am On Apr 25, 2022
Ejiakusmith:
wickedness in de highest order

imagine say na girls girls ur father born

chaaaiiiiiiii
I'm sure he has sisters and also doesn't think they have any right to their fathers properties. OP Is no different from his uncles
FamilyRe: Family Depriving My Right: Is It Possible To Charge Them To Court? by SmileDance(f): 7:25pm On Apr 24, 2022
This tradition of the first son inheriting properties alone na wahala.
Go and settle with your uncles and ask then what they want. Share what is left equally among you and your siblings so the trend doesn't continue.

If na me sha, i will buy land somewhere else and bury my father peacefully
PropertiesRe: Urgent Help Needed To Evict Stubborn Tenant!!!!!!!! by SmileDance(f):
Rubbiish:
U already made a mistake!
U should have served him quit notice since December when u knew u had intention to use it for personal use. Please consult a lawyer to guide u on the best approach to take. Promise of mere words are not valid in law, everything should be documented! Consult a lawyer!
she already made mistake truly, someone said she should paste and eviction notice, back date and take a picture of it
PropertiesRe: Urgent Help Needed To Evict Stubborn Tenant!!!!!!!! by SmileDance(f): 7:32pm On Apr 21, 2022
Classyuniquebae:
Write an official quite notice and serve him . State your reasons for the quit notice as follow...1. failure to pay rent 2. Personal use of the house . Give him 3 months cuz he has already exhausted his 6 months free rent for an annual rent in the case of quit notice and then go on to pull the roof of he doesn't pack . He should take you to court.....
he doesn't even pay anually, he pays every six months, dó i still need to give him 3 months?
FamilyRe: How Do I Stop A Nine Year Old Child Who Steals And Lies Without Beating? by SmileDance(f): 7:52pm On Apr 20, 2022
rickleye:
You have to use all the tools available.
Dialogue - Constant and daily assurances that stealing is bad, show him videos of what happens to those that steal .
Spanking - I am spanking you because x, y z.
Change location - Could it be peer pressure , change friends and if possible location.


If you fail to do so now, society is more cruel teacher and it will end up very very bad for the child.
true, it could be peer pressure from school, environment etc
FamilyRe: How Do I Stop A Nine Year Old Child Who Steals And Lies Without Beating? by SmileDance(f): 12:41pm On Apr 20, 2022
Dialogue won't work, take away everything he likes from him( not food), if possible take him to the police station to see the way criminals are being treated, take him to the prison to see what becomes of thieves, then buy koboko at home, soak in blended pepper and flog him naked, then repeat the process each time he lies or steals, if this don't work then nothing else will.
FamilyRe: Shocking Response Nigerians Gave a Woman Whose Husband Raped Her 15yrs Daughter by SmileDance(f): 10:29am On Apr 15, 2022
Women should stop seeking validation.
LiteratureUpright: Short Story by SmileDance(op): 8:28am On Apr 15, 2022
Faderera was an epitome of beauty, an embodiment of character. She was the definition of big, bold and beautiful and was the best beautician in Oleyo town despite only training for three months. She had studied Vocational Education at the college of education and won the ‘Miss Big Nigeria', A beauty pageant organized for plus sized ladies. She used the price money wisely to set up a small but classy beauty parlour that was patronized by people from all walks of life.

Despite achieving all these at the age of twenty two, Faderera remained humble and respectful to everyone around her including her childhood friend Labake.

Labake had been outspoken and rude as a child and was already exposed to boys at an early age, she was once caught on bed with a married man, stripped naked and chased out by his wife after he promised her a blackberry phone if she agreed to sleep with him. While Faderera decided to further her education after secondary school, Labake got pregnant and was forced to marry her then boyfriend, Kamoru, a motorcycle mechanic. The marriage crashed and Labake returned to her mother’s house barely a year after. All efforts to reconcile Labake and her husband proved abortive even though the latter begged her and insisted he still loved her and didn’t want his child to be from a broken home.

After Labake’s marriage crashed, she started to work at Faderera’s beauty parlour as a pedicurist.

Then Faderera met Daniel. Daniel was a young good looking Medical Doctor who had just been posted to Oleyo for his youth service.
He had come to the beauty parlour twice for an haircut and was impressed to see a young hardworking lady already doing well for herself, he proposed to her and she agreed to marry him. Nine months later, they got married in a low key ceremony and moved to the state capital.
The day to day running of the beauty parlour was left to Labake while Faderera focused on her marriage as it was still early.

She would visit the beauty parlour weekly to check how things were going. While Labake was also planning to also set up her own beauty parlour as she always made it clear that she wouldn’t ‘serve’ Faderera forever. Faderera was keeping her home and continued to maintain her business and her marriage. She was loved by her in-laws and plans were also in place for her to move her business to the state capital where she lived with her husband. One day Faderera came to work with bruises all over and told her staff that she had a motorcycle accident.
Then Faderera became pregnant, and her husband stopped her from going to work as it was risky for a pregnant woman to travel on such bad roads.
Labake on the other hand had decided to marry Alhaji Shittu as his third wife and would set up her own beauty parlour too.

Then one day the news broke, Faderera had died .
This time it wasn’t a motorcycle accident, Faderera had forgotten to drop the house keys for her husband when she went to the market and this upset her husband when she returned, he hit her so hard that she fell down on her head and died on the way to the hospital.

Neighbours confirmed that he had been beating her. Baba Kafila their landlord once asked Daniel what his wife’s offence was, he said Faderera needed ‘iron’ hand because she was a beautiful, curvy beautician who could cheat on him if he gives her too much freedom.

However when Faderera was tired of the incessant beatings from her husband, she had gone to her religious leader to seek counsel. The latter prayed for her and told her to be submissive to her husband and continue to pray for him. She was told that no man will continue to beat a submissive wife.
While Labake left her first marriage due to domestic violence and married a polygamous man ignoring what people would say,
Faderera died of being a 'Virtuous Woman’.
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CrimeRe: Fact Check: Was Toyosi Kidnapped And Raped? by SmileDance(f): 9:02pm On Apr 14, 2022
So why did she say she was clout chasing? The people arrested are still innocent until proven guilty
CrimeRe: Toyosi Who Tweeted She's Being Kidnapped, Raped, Has Been Arrested By The Police by SmileDance(f): 8:51pm On Apr 14, 2022
This girl deserves the punishment meant for kidnappers and rapists, now innocent boys are being held for this, she needs to be taught a lesson.
Nairaland GeneralRe: Aboki Used Bible To Wrap Suya For Me. by SmileDance(f): 11:21am On Apr 13, 2022
He doesn't know it's the bible lol
Enjoy the suya and God's word
No violence zone.
RomanceRe: Brothel Addiction: Depressed And Thinking About Suicide by SmileDance(f): 10:24am On Apr 13, 2022
kenzysmith:
i dont ve their number on my phone but anytime i take ahchol d ist thing on my mind is sex
then stop taking alcohol, stay away from friends that visit brothels, is there anything you can do as a hobby? Cooking, dancing, teaching?
CrimeRe: Ramadan: Man Beats Pregnant Wife To Stupor Over Meal by SmileDance(f): 6:12am On Apr 13, 2022
It's so unfortunate that the woman will still return to the marriage.
CultureRe: What Is The Easiest Way To Learn Yoruba Or Igbo by SmileDance(f): 5:58am On Apr 13, 2022
LordVoldermort:
Okay can you provide more info
pm me
Christianity EtcRe: Osinachi's Husband Said She'll Leave Their Marriage In Death - Osinachi's Mum by SmileDance(f): 10:33pm On Apr 12, 2022
Ken4Christ:
I suggest Pastors should try and balance the message on divorce. The message she has heard about no divorce from different Pastors killed her. And so many unbalanced doctrines are killing members today.
we should stop seeking validation Abeg, pastor can say whatever he likes for all I care I won't stay in a place where I'm being treated like trash even if the holy prophet says otherwise, in the end every adult is responsible for himself.
Christianity EtcRe: Osinachi's Husband Said She'll Leave Their Marriage In Death - Osinachi's Mum by SmileDance(f): 8:44pm On Apr 12, 2022
panpan:
Report the matter to a domestic violence NGO (non-governmental organization).
she will deny it and fight me for trying to destroy her home, you can't really help who doesn't want to be helped sef, it is what it is unfortunately.
Christianity EtcRe: Osinachi's Husband Said She'll Leave Their Marriage In Death - Osinachi's Mum by SmileDance(f): 8:08pm On Apr 12, 2022
graphics106:
sad
You people didn't say any of these things when she was alive oh.
All of u need to be arrested for withholding evidence. Maybe that'd help curb all of these excesses.
they couldn't say anything, the singer would most likely support her husband and even accuse them of trying to destroy her marriage, I have a close relative also going through domestic violence, she has a good job and can take care of herself yet she didn't leave the man. It saddens me that if he beats her to death (God forbid) he won't even be arrested because who will take care of their children, will I go and drag my relative away from her husband's house? We don talk to her tire yet she would rather stay so wetin make we do?
CrimeRe: Mother-in-law Poisons Her Son’s Wife, Balogun Yetunde To Death In Kwara (photos) by SmileDance(f): 7:58pm On Apr 12, 2022
Women should stay away from where they are not loved and accepted.
RIP to her
CultureRe: What Is The Easiest Way To Learn Yoruba Or Igbo by SmileDance(f): 4:43pm On Apr 12, 2022
I can teach you Yoruba online
RomanceRe: How Can I Stop This Boy From Sexually Harassing Me? by SmileDance(f): 8:49pm On Apr 11, 2022
michael77777:
Arrrrrrrrh aunty e never reached that level nau


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that's the only way he ll stop, verbal warnings might sound like a joke to him. I hate nonsense
Christianity EtcRe: Why Deeper Life Embraced Use Of Television, Social Media, Others — Kumuyi by SmileDance(f): 6:10pm On Apr 11, 2022
I know someone who declined a job offer at NTA in those days because kumuyi said television is a sin.
This television issue was what sent Tunde Bakare out of the church

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