₦airaland Forum

Musabadamasi:
Ok, thanks. Anyone you can suggest?

Shokoloko:
You need to stop looking down on yourself brother. Where did I say you were poor and wretched and unworthy and crude and timid.
Why did you use such names to describe yourself - this doesn't look good. See the terrible words you used to describe yourself!!!
Take a deep breath. All will be well

BTW 7 countries in 4 continents is not bragging. Canadians typically go on holiday every other year so its normal.
Calm down, stop looking down on yourself. Laptop selling is a legit job.
You inability to provide a reference or even the name of any book shows that you don't know and that's fine. Its okay to not know.
In the long run, you'll be fine. Things will be okay

Musabadamasi:
Good evening to all gurus in the house, please which school offers transport and logistics management course or related course? With less tuition and deposit fee. Please kindly assist. With someone that study conflict and resolution course at NOUN and also will NABTEB be accepted. Please anyone should kindly respond for God sake, thanks. Also for September intake

Shokoloko:
Which of their books? They must have written on a variety of subjects. Which ones please so that you can go back to your laptop sales and I can face my budget reconciliation?
If you were in a sane country or if you were sane you would respond this way: NO question is stupid, please ask away, these and these are the books I believe that you should study to enlighten yourself on this matter. Let me know if you need more clarification.

But no, the typical aggressive African selling laptops, which is you, will say " stop asking stupid questions ....."
The reason why you generalized and their books together is because YOU DO NOT KNOW WHICH ONE TO RECOMMEND

Shokoloko:
Where are you references? Why are you trying to avoid debating and correcting me.
Lets go back to the correction you were about to give me. I am waiting.

I told you that child abuse and domestic violence affects a country's GDP. I gave references. You said it does not. Explain to me

Shokoloko:
I am ready to learn. Teach me na.
You have the time to type all this, but no time to type out a correction. This common sense isn't as common as we think it is.
BTW, the second degree is Canadian. Thanks
I ask again what is your second degree?

Shokoloko:
That you were not able to provide any references to refute mine means you do not know as well. There are several papers on this, I just chose one. Everyone lese cannot be wrong while Solatium's common sense is correct.
This is a public forum and you should be able to provide references to refute a claim not hiding behind the cloak of common sense. When Hitler was annihilating the Jews did you not think that he was applying his "common sense" in trying to ensure the purity of the Aryan race? Common sense is relative therefore our common sense cannot precede factual, thorough studies that have been made public on google.

BTW, My second educational degree is in Accounting, I know what GDP in relation to Economy is. What is your own second degree in?

Shokoloko:
Uncle go and study. Google is your friend

Can you see that violent discipline at home can take off up to 19% of GDP
https://www.reuters.com/article/us-abuse-costs-idUSKBN0H41AL20140909

Not all information on Google are valid,your common sense precede Google,if you have a very sound education and a discerning mind it won't take you a while to figure out somethings.
You need to know what a GDP is in relation to Economy, and what a domestic violence is in relation to a child discpline, until when you are able to understand those and apply your common sense you won't get an answer.

Shokoloko:
She is an economist. She knows already

Shokoloko:
The typical African parent is a bully. Children are beaten and tortured for no reason.
Children are beaten up for not understanding her schoolwork, Children are beaten up for getting sexually molested, Children are beaten up for crying from the previous beaten, Children are beaten up for not answering quickly enough, Children are beaten up for daring to have a different point of view.

In your example, how can a man and wife (two people) hit, tackle to the ground and beat the crap out of a 15 year old. Like 2 people to one person? Even if she was an adult and not their daughter, two people to one is an unfair situation.

What Nigerians and Africans refuse to learn is that violence destroys a country. See how all the violent countries are experiencing reduced GDP compared to those that are not. Africans will continue to create and breed monsters.

It will be very easy for a 15 year boy to rape and beat up a 6 year old child because he has been beaten to the point of trauma he feels its not a big deal, his mother's has beaten the house help to stupor, and his father has beaten his mother to stupor so violence is a part of life.

Violence in relation to GDP growth?
okonjo iweala must no see this

Greenhold:
Good day everyone. I am a Nigerian passport holder, however I am currently a resident in UK under student/ graduate route visa. I applied for the short stay tourist south African visa here in London on the 3rd of March. My original intended date of travel is 29th of March and it is for a cousins wedding ceremony to take place on the 2nd of April. To leave SA on the following day 3rd of April.

I was assured by the lady who attended to me at the Vfs embassy that I should be expecting my visa around the 17th or 18th as it normally does not take more than 2 weeks or 15 days to get a response for this kind of visa. She asked me not to worry about getting it on time as I have more than enough time (i explained to her why i was applying just 4 weeks before intended departure)

Today is Friday the 25th of march and I am yet to get any information concerning my passport or visa. The tracking code given to me only shows "Your application is received and under assessment at the Embassy/Consulate General of South Africa." Their phone number never goes through. I even emailed them and they could not give me additional information apart from to wait till they get back to me. I am worried now and wanted to know if anyone here has any other options I could take or what I should be expecting at this point. Kindly advise.

MajesticKris:
No Generation can Defeat Israel

Penguin2:
The problem is that you don’t have money

No Nigerian in-law supports his/her daughter against a rich in-law.

They thought you had prospects.

They thought things will turn out for good for you so you will be wiring them with money but it seems the reverse has been the case.

About your wife, she has divorced you psychologically and I suggest you do same physically by putting pen to papers and granting her the freedom she seeks.

Stop allowing her be in the driver’s seat in the whole fracas, she has occupied it for too long, take up the driver’s seat, go on offensive, sit her down and tell her that you have decided to grant her the divorce she’s looking for and if her attitude doesn’t change, sincerely, then go ahead with the divorce and let her go and focus on yourself and making money.

10 years from today she will look back and regret treating you like shit.

My 2 cents!

Bobodany:
pls what can I do, mine is renewal passports
I captured on friday which is 25th of march but surprisingly, my collection date is on the 25th of April
That’s a month
I don’t know what to do
Is there a way to fast track it so I can receive it fast ??

Laffz25:
Good day my senior Ogas, Please I need a big favor from the house. I got offer from the following school.
1:- RGU Aberdeen. Scotland
2:- Aston university.
3:- Ulster.
4:- Edinburgh Napier. Scotland
5:- Aberystwyth university Wale

I will be schooling while my man will be my dependent and working. ( He is into constructions but he can do any job to support his family)
Please house which of this school/area is good in terms of job opportunities, cost of living, accommodation and best area to raise kids. I am mostly concerned about the university/area job opportunities for my man, cost of living, accommodation and kids raising. Header in the house please your input and advise will be well appreciated. Please which of this University area is good to choose. Thanks in advance my people.

ELIZABET:
Good morning good people and @justwise.
Some time ago, I posted here about UK dependant visa refusal due to errors on their part.

I applied for Administrative review, and the refusal decision was overturned and withdrawn 26 days after my AR application.

Does anyone have any idea how long it might take UKVI to ask for passport re-submission and granting of the visas after a successful AR?

It is two weeks now since I received the Administrative review success letter.

I have used the paid call to reached out with no tangible result/information.

My enquiries
1) how long it takes to ask for passport re-submission?

2) how long it takes to collect passports/visas after submission?

3) any medium to contact UKVI about status or follow up after successful AR?

Gracias.

Optimistic4life:
I'm trying hard to live a life free from sin and sexual immorality and I am doing pretty well but of recent, my hormones/body have been raging and I am finding it difficult to cope.

It's 18months I have been separated and there is no getting back together.

Were you ever in my situation, how did you overcome without involving in sex/masturbation?

I just need some words of encouragement.

Its really not easy and it has become some sort of distraction.

The reason I do not want to have a male friend is because of my fear for God.

melodie22:
Thank you very much
The person that registeredfor me didn't pick a capturing date because march and April was already filled up

Madeforher:
Sofri abeg,everyone cannot be the same nah,haba everyone was talking and you are here criticizing them as if you are Mr know it all,not every woman is bad likewise not all men are bad,get that right.If you have married for long as you have claimed then you should know the woman you are married to unless of course you have not been treating her well hence your fear that when she gets to the UK she will turn on you..You sef think am now how will you be married to someone for years and not know her to some extent..Oga abeg rest..Note you can come for me all you want I am more than ready to lecture you because I have been on this journey for a decade now �

The trend is for Students route help not for Marital counselling as clearly pointed out by someone earlier.
Save your counseling for your offspring and don't derail the trend's. moving ooonnnn

melodie22:
Please treat as urgent
I registered online for my passport but the person that did the registration made a mistake in my name please how can I correct that??

Hisbah21:
Even Putin now understand he's fighting a fruitless war. those wailing Putin now its almost a month still getting setbacks..look at the people he lost..never to a dictator

Jsaviour:
Sorry to disappoint you, I am enjoying a blissful relationship.

The problem with some of you is that you are unmarriageable but don't know this because we have a lot of desperate women around.

Only you know what you are afraid of

Accept your L in peace, you can't gaslight this one.

Peace

You don't, people who have a blissful Marital life don't come raising down the roof,they marshall home their point with Mutual Respect to others, unfortunately that is not in any of your comment from the first,no matter how hard you disguised
Some of us know how to find these things.
Aunty,be calming down and see what God can do in your life, aggressive and disrespectful woman is a turn off to Men

cbn4main:
I was the man who said "I know the wife I married".
The point Jsaviour and some of us are trying to make is that people shouldn't just wake up on the wrong side of their beds and start generalising by talking sh** abt marriages. The truth is, most Nigerians are enjoying their marriages abroad regardless. This one goes out to THE SINGLE MEN...... when u marry the one whom you love and who loves you too, RESPECT & TREAT HER WELL. You will see how loyal and humble she will be, even when living with you in UK.
But if you treat your wife bad, beat her and disrespect her in many ways, my brother UK or the western world in general shouldn't be home for you. She will show you pepper with every legal tool at her disposal. Simply put, the way u make your bed so shall u lie.

uchman:
Oga,
Any man that is wise enough, should know the type of woman he is staying under the same roof with.
We are all writing from our own marriage perspectives.
Try as much as possible, not to be carried away by love and ended up impregnating a street urchins, wayward girls or cheap girls that rarely understand life.

If you look around, you will understand that everybody have different characters and like mind attracts, marriage is not friendship.

If someone keep befriending those club girls that take shisha, igbo and keep louding their voices all around the area, quelling everybody they see, refused going to school, following touts around, hanging from club to club, drawing dirty tattoos all around their body and a niggar mistakenly Bleep without condom, how do you want them to behave when married?

We have disciplined girls, my wife will not even think of it because I know her mother, i know what her mother will support and what she will not, i know how they were trained through her siblings.
So let's choose wisely.

With this your Statement,i know your age cadre and i can predict you haven't been married for too long.
Enjoy your marriage as it stands,Compile your experience and come back in 10yrs time to tell us about it.
Next person please

Jsaviour:
Are you sure you aren't drunk?

So it's I that told you how beautiful some marriages are that has marital frustration

You that is crying here to force us to accept your frustrated marriage experience is now what?

There is nothing Musa won't see at the gate oo!!

Better go and work on your mindset to purge the trauma of the frustrating experiences you've had.

I'm not the cause of your fears and negativity

People live in fantasy world,we have seen that in movies and real life situation,like i said earlier on, you do not need to tell me the kind of woman that you are.
I already know,but just in case you don't, You are an aggressive woman who talks before she thinks. and no sensible man comes near such,that is why e dey pain you for body.
Aunty tone down your aggressive nature and have yourself hitch in no time

Edwosa:
This is easy to say and do indeed... but you should understand that the kids will never have the best of life when the home is split (there are so many things I can't type here). Another man fathering your own seeds over a little quarrel, c'mon man!

This may sound rude now... A man that will choose to quit his marriage out of a manageable misbehavior of his wife isn't worthy/matured enough to taking Marital vows in the first place...

There will always be ladies out there that desire you... But how can you tell they aren't worst than this wife you're quitting.

Marriage is for the matured mind bro.

Jsaviour:
There is no frustration anywhere around me and if there is any, I guess it's in your camp hence why you are crying all over the place with your partner in crime. Victim mentality helps no one.

The man already told you that he knows the woman he married and can't experience such but your victim negative self want to force it down his throat.

We have peaceful marriages between Nigerians abroad but you and your fellow want to instill fear in people for no reason.

Divorce will keep happening for those it's meant for likewise peaceful marriages for those it's meant for.

This isn't any motivation but to tell you and your fellow negativity people to keep mute so we can enjoy bliss here.

By the way, my only headache right now is learning how to cook hot peppersoup

I can't join in your frustration, enjoy it in peace

Videour:
Actually she's a good girl in all aspects. We have been dating for 3year now, she's all I want in a woman, her smile gives me joy every time with dimples.

I am 35 years she should be going to 25 this year. A career lady that has this hustle spirit in her but my problem is that she's obsessed with sex.

Imagine a man at my age having 2 to three times a week, which I know if I don't put in work she's definitely going to get it else where.

Psychologically, it's affecting me.
Please what is the best way to handle this?
My Nairaland family.

Jsaviour:
Our life experiences are shaped by our Believe.

Whatever you think and Believe, that's what you will attract to your life.

I simply said you should stop projecting what you have chosen to bring upon yourself into another man.

There are men living with their loving wives abroad because there is mutual respect.

If you think you can misbehave towards your wife same way you do to her in Nigeria because there is no law, then be ready to dance to the tune.

Some women treat their men bad for no reason same way some men treat their wives bad for no reason.

Rest with your choice please