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YoudeyVexme:
She left home since 2006 nobody heard from her... not even when our father died. There was no contact at all.

Surprisingly she came visiting yesterday looking thin and sick with a swollen feet. After much pestering to tell us the families whats the cause of it she said she's HIV positive since 2011.

Now the thing is what's the Implication of living with an hiv patients and if it's you would you accept such situations even if it's your blood to live with you?

You need to tread softly with her so you can get every information you need from her to enable you know how best to handle the situation. She probably returned home because she had been told she doesn't have much longer to live. The swollen feet (maybe kidney problem) is probably a complication of the HIV, which I suspect may be full blown AIDS now. Take her to LUTH if you are in Lagos. I pray God will restore health to her.

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HRprof:
If you have separated from him before he got visa, obviously he will not indicate married as his status definitely he applied as single guy, so you do not need to worry about it just go and apply as single lady do not indicate him in your application . For you daughter one has have a child without marriage.

Abi... Thanks for this. It's about the only option I have.

Focusmind:
You don't need to worry much. Just tell the VO that you guys are temporary separated but you don't know his where about now. If you mention that he is currently living in the US, that may be the end of the interview as it would be misinterpreted that you are going there to join him permanently.

Your case is a rare case as it would be difficult to see someone with similar case to offer you guidance.

The closest case I saw was a colleague of mine in the bank then, she is a single mother and wanted to apply for the Canadian express entry visa with her daughter. She was temporary separated with her husband as at time and there was no chance of them coming back. They were in separation for two years before she started her application.

Meanwhile, within that period, the husband was already living with another woman, making the union as good as dissolved but there was no official divorce certificate.

She put in the application and went through all the processes and was successful. She got her visa in 2019 and she is currently living in Manitoba, Canada with her daughter.

Thanks for your response. Your advice makes sense. I think it's what I'm going to do.

HRprof:
Is unfortunate you experiencing this ... is really complicated but try and apply using separation as single mother not divorced because it might require you showing prove evidence of divorce documents. If he aren't in US that will be easier for you.

Did he travel using tourist visa? Has he legalise his stay? Investigate all that I will help you in you visa application.

Thanks for offering to help. I'll keep you updated once I know the next move.

CryptoRepublic1:
There's nothing complicated there,you're a single mother of one simple.

There're thousands of people could be using the same surname,as long as you don't need anything from him,then forget about him,don't mention anything about him and you'll be fine as long as you meet the requirements for visa.

You make it sound very easy

Thanks, very plenty. I had thought of this too. I guess I'll just take my chances and see how it goes.

I look forward to sharing the good news here.

HRprof:
Is unfortunate you experiencing this ... is really complicated but try and apply using separation as single mother not divorced because it might require you showing prove evidence of divorce documents. If he aren't in US that will be easier for you.

Did he travel using tourist visa? Has he legalise his stay? Investigate all that I will help you in you visa application.

I know it sounds awkward that I don't have answers to your first question, and it's because we have been separated before he got the visa. He only called me that he was now in the US. However, I think he has legalized his stay because he's come home like twice since he travelled.

dalass:
The next line of action will be to put in your application as a single woman with her daughter who has an ex (if you're asked sha) in the US...

All the best... Sorry ... But some men are scumbags

Thanks, brother.

Finally spoke to a lawyer and was asked to go to a federal high court to file that my ex has left for some years now, I don't know his whereabout, and I have been solely in charge of taking care of my daughter. Still, I'd love to hear from someone who has had a similar experience and how she resolved it.

dalass:
You're asking questions that no one can give specific answers to.... Hence the over 150 views yet only one reply!

Your case is complicated. But you have no choice but to mention him if you're asked concerning your marital status.

First tell him your plans and see his reaction. Then take things from there...

I suspect he's married over there and wants to keep you people right here.

I know a guy who has no intention of bringing his wife and daughter to US because he feels once his wife gets to US, he'll not be able to control her! Let's hope that's not your case

I agree it's complicated, and that is why I have come to ask here, hoping that someone with a similar experience will see this and share how she went about it.

We are separated and have no plans of getting back together. I have no intention of seeing him while I am in the US too. Besides, I am only going on holiday with my daughter. I have no plans to stay back in the US.

Then I have told him about my plans but he is not opening up to me about his marital status there or if he has already put in the documents to file for his daughter.

I know people who were denied visas because there spouses were already in the US, which is why I want to know the best way to put in my application.

Mentioning him in my application is fine, but I also don't want to create problems for him. What if he is married in the US, and I go to the consulate as his separated wife?

ednut1:
Don't deceive your self you know what he did, if he included you guys or declared himself married he would have come for you and or your daughter. Inform him of your plans and try your luck applying

You obviously didn't read the whole post, or you did and didn't understand everything. Let me make it clear.

I am not expecting him to "come for" me and my daughter. It's also possible that he declared he was married when he got the visa, then he got to the US and got his peeps here to "arrange" a divorce certificate for him. I know lots of guys and even ladies who have done that. He has refused to come clear about this though, and that is why I am confused as to what to do.

My question basically is how do I apply for a US visa without linking him with me and my daughter?

Please your kind advice is needed on this issue.

My ex-husband has been in the US for about 6 years now and we have an eight year old daughter together. I would like to travel to the US with my daughter for holiday but I am confused about the information to put down when applying for my visa.

1. We are not formally divorced, only been separated for the six years he's been abroad.

2. His daughter bears his surname and has it on her international passport.

3. He has refused to tell me if he stated that he was married to me when he applied for his own visa. I also do not know if he is legally married to another woman in the US.

I know guys find a way around getting divorce certificates from here to the US so they can marry their "akata" or whoever would process their papers for them.

But I don't know if my ex did this before he got his "stay" in the US, because he's been visiting Naija regularly from the second year he travelled. He has also refused to own up to the exact thing he did.

4. What is the chance of applying for and getting the US visa as a single mother, especially as my daughter bears her father's name?

5. Would I need a consent letter from my ex to travel with his daughter if I eventually get the visa?

6. Is it possible not to mention him at all in my application and not be linked to him in any way?

7. Or should I just apply with the true information, attach my wedding certificate and pictures , and proofs that my ex abandoned our marriage six years ago without a proper divorce, has been in the US since then, and that we have no intention of ever getting back together?

8. But what if he is married in the US presently? Won't I be causing trouble for him?

Thanks for taking the time to read my ramblings. I really need clarifications about this. Forget the emojis

Deveangel:
[color=#006600][/color] am also having the same issue with my baby. please what was the solution you later used

Absolutely nothing o. I stopped breastfeeding her at 18 months and she still refused to eat food like that. I just kept trying everything good for her. Later found she loves to eat eba or amala with either ewedu or okra soup. She's 7 now and it's still her best food. She is still very selective when it comes to food but the ones she likes to eat, she eats them well. Just keep trying until you find a way. All the best, sis.

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mistijude:
All these gimmicks is to gain recognition, I have not seen Sam Adeyemi less of motivational speaker.

And who wants to gain recognition? Rev Sam Adeyemi? LOL.

Ishilove:
Think deeply...

And no, it isn't 'high heels matter'

Drowning in knowledge

FlordFlorez:
16? Simplyleo has spoken my mind. Female child is an heart attack. God, if thats what could cost me heart attack in future, i reject having one!

Be careful what you pray for. If you are destined to have only female children, this your prayer could change things and cause childlessness.

My sister used to say if it was only banking job that is available in the world, she would rather remain jobless. Three years after school and thousands of applications and job interviews, she remained jobless. Fast forward, she participated in a fasting and prayer program and got a word of knowledge that she needed to pray about the blessings she had delayed with the words of her mouth. She did and had a dream where what she said about a banking job was replayed to her. She prayed and asked for mercy. That same morning, a family friend offered her a job in a bank. She started the job, met a guy there, they got married and now live in Canada.

Moral of the story: Be careful what you wish for, and never say never.

piroux:
Why does everyone make it sound totally hopeless for AS and AS genotypes to marry?

There are a few options available to the couple if they can afford it. They are expensive and some painful...

Is it worth the risk? To them, yes!

Do you have any idea how hard it is to fund, love and click with the right person?

Please leave them, abeg!! My only issue is why did OP come and tell us? Do you want to be discouraged or do you doubt the journey you have embarked on?

We make it sound totally hopeless for them because can this couple afford the painful and expensive treatment for their warriors?

Can the love they claim to have now survive when the stress of taking care of sick children begin to take its toll on them?

Won't the man someday decide to go "try" another woman outside who can give him children that will "outlive" him?

Do all couples who found, loved, clicked with, and married the right person live happily ever after?

You sef think am...

bigmodo:
I am an As and I am getting married to an As. I love this girl so much that I am moving forward to marry her.

We have done our introduction and our traditional marriage is next month. I know the complications of an As marrying As in the issues of children they might give birth to. But I have no choice. I want to marry the love of my life.

Hope your parents and in-laws are aware of this avoidable journey of stress you want to embark on? Even if you don't care about the money and time you will spend nursing sick children, consider the pains the innocent kids will go through most of their lives.

Order on Jumia or Konga.

Folafikemi:
LANDING GIST (OVERDUE)

Welcome to Regina. You are so correct about these our little ones acting like they know they have some kind of right here. My daughter took on the attitude immediately we landed in Toronto.

We got here first week in September and still job hunting too. Let's connect, please. Check your inbox.

smartgenius:
I got a job in 2 weeks.
Regina is a great place too. I remember I once wanted to study at University of Regina.

That's great. I'm exploring going to school too. Yet to decide what course to do as U of R and Saskpoly do not offer the course I really want.

solos007:
Beautiful!..ain't it?

It's cool. Where in Regina do you live? I've never been to these areas in your pictures.

smartgenius:
I also landed in September. I stay in down town Toronto. Nice and cool but mainly whites and Chinese residents. Are there any nairalanders living close to Young and Eglington? We could meet up.

It's same here, Indians and Filipinos. How has it been with work and all?

It will be great to meet Nairalanders in Regina.

jen2praise:
Landed in Canada in Oct. Cold windy breeze

Snow even. I landed in September.

Any new Nigerian PR in Regina, Saskatchewan?

Hi. I'm interested in this.

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nero2face:
Nigerians are not wicked people, it's our leaders that divide us and make us enemies to each other... For their selfish interest

I’ve been on Nairaland for some years now, both as a registered member and as a guest. And I can categorically say this is one of the few intelligent posts I’ve read here. Thumbs up, bro!