₦airaland Forum

occfx:
Through out my youthful adventure... I didn't risk it. Condom or no sex. I fear any type of STI as hell. See me suffer because of 5 mins enjoyment. Any man who does that is foolish. Why I don't pity anyone with STI.

The painful part is that these careless people go on to infect their innocent partners .

I am a medical doctor.
I have seen women in their 50 & 60s even some in their 70s taking HIV medications.
Husbands are mostly late as a result of HIV complications.

New infections are being recorded in young wives during antenatal visits,delivery,routine screening.

It's pathetic.

I laugh at people who say it's okay for a man to sleep around as long as he is providing.
I work and I also provide.
A man will not infect me with HIV or any STI for any reason.
We used to have regular screening in the first 3 years of our marriage.
Luckily for me,2 pregnancies..3 babies(including a set of twins). Since then,we use condoms or no sex.

It's been this way for over 5 years.
We are good.

occfx:
Only a foolish man sleeps around without condoms.

Most men who sleep around do not use condoms.
If they do so at the beginning,along the line ,they stop and go unprotected.

This is why STIs spread.
This is why side chicks get pregnant

He married an older woman but still died before her.

He didn't live long to have increased sexual urge while his wife would have become too old to satisfy his urge..
They even had 2 children and could have had more if he didn't die.

So old woman fit born pikin?
Well, maybe because she is white.

This life no get manual sha

DrAkpa:
I hope you realise you are putting him at the risk of contracting prostrate cancer? You women just take selfish decisions without realising how it affects the other party. If I were your husband, I won't even touch you again, condom or no condom. I will just simply marry a second wife. No time for non. Sense

Everybody is free to take whatever decisions they want to.
Emphasis is on personal health.
Life is per head.
He is free to take another wife,he knows.
It's his call.
I have gotten what I ever wanted in marriage.
I don't need anybody to infect me with nonsense in the name of nonsense sex.

Meanwhile,men are also selfish.
Anybody can be selfish.

DrAkpa:
Your husband must be very unfaithful and promiscuous for you to have made this comment. I feel ya pains.

Well,on the contrary,I have not really experienced his unfaithfulness.Maybe he is just smart to cover his tracks.
All men are unfaithful and promiscuous.
They say it rains everywhere and brag that men were not created for one woman.
Prevention is better than cure.
I have taken my decision and he is cooperative.
I can do without sex..He cannot .

If he must have sex with me,he will use condoms PROPERLY or forget about it.

occfx:
How una dey manage this thing... The feeling of sharing fluid with your spouse is out of this world. The good thing about me is I don't love two women at the same time. I don't know why. Before I love another person, I must fall out of love first.

But the consequences of sharing this fluid is too much especially when both of you are fertile. You go born tire

I'm not worried about fertility.
I had a bilateral tubal ligation during my last delivery.
My scare is getting infected with STIs.
Men claim they are polygamous in nature and cannot eat one food everytime.
I love myself and I want to be alive for my children.

2mch:
Always, always wear a condom. Once your spouse starts cheating, abstain immediately for your health and life. Chances are they are cheating without condom. Their cheating partner probably has several other partners they are cheating with, unto not putting their eggs in one basket. So, save yourself. There is no obligation to kpai in a marriage.

True that.
My husband and I use condoms PROPERLY,if we must have sex.

We hardly get intimate though and I'm okay with it

No condom,no sex.

Marriage will not end me

The moment I finished child bearing,checked myself and free from all STIs,I started insisting on "No condom,No Sex".

It's not me that one man will infect with HIV and other STIs simply because we are married.

I cannot live my life taking medications because of another person's stupi.di.ty.

He will contact his infection and suffer it alone.

If he is not using condoms,he should leave it.

I can do without sex all the rest of my life.

Sex is not oxygen or food

Chai...so a Nigerian man can marry a girl he met in the middle of the night in the club?

Like night club?

I don't want to believe this.

Never!

Proudlyngwa:
Do men love
Am just hearing that for the first time

I'm surprised .
Sounds ridiculous.
Men love?
They must be weak men

ideatoprince18:
See what my fellow men are commenting!!!

This is domestic violence at its highest form . If it was men that did this , they would have condemn the man and label him as demon. Is it bad for a man to have 3 wives? Now let's flip the coin .... What if it was a man that killed his wife cos she refused to satisfy him, I think the comments I'm seeing here would not be same.

It's not bad for a man to have 3 wives.
3 is even small.
He should marry 7.
Our forefathers married many wives.

Polygamy is the way forward
Men should marry more wives so that none of the wives will misbehave.
Where there is competition,women behave better.

Also,he can get enough sex.
Not one wife denying him sex .

Kikikiki.

This one listened too much to social media and beer parlour gist.

SuperPanther:
I am just tired and heartbroken. For me to have access to my wife for sex is so difficult. I work hard to ensure the family is fine and even try to do some chores in the house as I am able to.

Right now I am trying to configure my mind to forget about sex, just continue to serve God and remain a decent man. I am good looking so it's not a case of my being unattractive. There are many beautiful women I relate with that are willing to be in bed with me but I am a Christian. I am so frustrated now.

It's either my wife is pressing phone till forever, or she has one night prayer, or she is tired and wants to sleep.

Married men, how do you handle this situation?

Men and sex

Men live and breathe sex

Everytime sex

Sex .sex..sex

Is this sex food or oxygen ?

Tufiakwa

Samantha125:
I'm curious, when a man cheats, it's understandable for who?

That's why they are eating slow poison and dying prematurely.

Men!

New generation women will finish you people.

prinzmenzir:
Hi everyone, I’m posting on behalf of a friend who’s been experiencing a skin issue.

From time to time, her skin starts to swell and becomes very itchy. When she scratches the area, it gets worse l, the swelling increases, and the irritation spreads. She describes the sensation as feeling like “worms” under the skin. There are no visible worms, but that’s how she describes the feeling. All the recommended drugs so far isn't working.

Has anyone experienced something similar or know what this could be? Any suggestions on what might be causing it or what drugs she could get

Thanks in advance!

This is urticaria.

I also experience it.

There is no known cure.

Just identify what she could be allergic to and avoid it.

Anti histamines such as Loratidine,Cetirizine can help reduce the itchiness.

Also can try Tabs Monteluklast.


I didn't know what I was allergic to until I realised it was hibiscus flower coupled with me being asthmatic.

Wish her quick recovery

delugadou:
Her argument is valid. You shouldn't train children with that type of money. It could spoil their future. It's similar to kids of police personnel .

How come?
300K a day is 9 million a month ,could be more.

Why is she walk away?

We have agreed on social media esp on this platform that women only care about money.
"Just have money and every woman will stay"....or did anything change?

A slim figure makes one look younger than they really are.

Sabinus looks older than 2face at a quick initial glance.

seborrhic:
Yes, I get,but believing that she went to a lab that is reputable enough for their tests and results to stand scrutiny when published, I felt they should know they must have a higher standard.
They would have just done a stool or even blood culture instead if she didn't like the indignity of producing a stool and give her the entire result when it's out.
But I don't even see the need for a typhoid test in this case,unless she requested for it,in which case they should have told her a stool culture is more appropriate.She may as well have done an MP

Widal test is cheaper than stool or blood culture.
When Nigerians say they want to check for typhoid,they are very specific. They want "Widal test" . Anything outside that,they assume you don't know what you are doing .

seborrhic:
So such lab is still doing widal test in this age?

Why not?
It's a private business.
Nigerians like Widal test.
The more you tell them how useless the test is,the more they want to do it.
Nobody wants to run out of business
Conduct the worthless test for them and collect your money

banom:
It is bad how someone will wake up and start blackmailing someone with something as damaging as HIV.

I once suffered such fate..... someone wanted to tarnish my image because of a girl we were dragging... the guy went around and start saying that I have contracted HIV. That he saw me with a girl they knew had HIV.

That was how he damaged my name in the whole town. Some people even started avoiding me when the rumor was everywhere.

I simply kept my cool...it took much time for people in the town to know I didn't have any HIV.

I know the amount of pain and humiliation that false rumor caused me in that town.

It took only the grace of God for me to forgive that guy and move on with my life.

You were dragging a girl with your fellow man to the point that the man labelled you HIV positive.

See how you men disgrace yourselves offline because of women but online,you all are alpha males,haters of women..Lol

A sense.less daughter.
Just because of pe..nis
May we not give birth to abomination as a daughter

SpencerForbes:
Some ladies don’t wait till 6 months. 3 months in a relationship and the lady has already started denying the guy and claiming single. They start leading the former on while he thinks he has found the love of his life. Later on, they’ll invite the former to their traditional marriage while the former has struggled with them.

Men never trust a lady or pick anyone from the gutter except she has your ring or your child.

Single or married.

I was single even after introduction.
It was after we held marriage rites that I knew I was married.
Relationship is not a marital status

FavouriteOfGod:
Hmmmmm 🤔
Whatever would be the problem, this isn't palatable at all.

I am a medical doctor

God saved me from practising in Nigeria.

You people are always blaming health care workers for the woes in the system instead of holding your government accountable.

advanceDNA:
She's been behaving for 3 decades....that's a long time to be classed as forever..

Wife is not Family.
Marriage is not a do or die affair.
3 decades is not forever.

Una no go blame medical doctors and nurses for this one again?

See male tearssss.
Tuface divorced Anne,it was fine.
Out of his many women,one divorced Akon,men are crying .
Wife that is not family?

Akon Is a polygamist.
I thought they said polygamy makes women behave and stay with men forever .

What could have gone wrong?

Hmmmmm

SpencerForbes:
Why date a guy you’re sure you can’t marry?
That’s what’s really confusing about ladies.

It's a man that decides if a marriage holds or not.
Women can only fantasize,wait and pray .
If the man doesn't marry them,their loss.

Some of them spend their youthfulness, waiting on their boyfriends, while forsaking serious men who could have long married them.

After all the wait, boyfriend disappoints
Society will judge them harshly for being single into their 30s.

Date but don't allow boyfriend make you miss your husband.

Wisdom is profitable to direct

But I thought they said it's only Nigerian women that do this.
Na wa o

God forbid this type of y.nash

Men will sexualise and embarass you.

Soon,your knees will suffer the effect of carrying such load.

Finally,someone has said the truth

MrIcredible:


Arabs and serious obsession with their women...

They know to how degrade other women but will be preserving their own.

HYPOCRITES

While Nigerian men preserve and adore other women while degrading and disrespecting their own.