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In the western world,women are molesting under aged males
While in Africa,it's men who molest underaged females

We4all:
Too bad! Nigerians and false alarm/ lynching are like 5 and 6. Everybody appears to be blood thirsty and looking for the slightest opportunity to unleash their demon. They lynch criminals not because they think they are guilty but rather out of anger, frustration and poverty.

There was a similar scenario involving a baby daddy and his ex girlfriend. He wanted the kid, but the lady kept denying him access. The guy she was dating at that time threatened him that the next time he comes around the girl, he may not be that lucky.

Unluckily, he made another attempt to forcefully take the child and that guy made true his threats. He raised alarm, a crowd gathered and the poor dude was lynched and burnt to death. The ex girlfriend was out of town when this happened and cried her eyes out when she got wind of the situation.

My advice to lynchers is to channel this energy toward the kidnappers that invade their homes to kidnap and kill them. Say no to jungle justice. It is so archaic!

Why was he dragging the child?
I thought men could have children at any age,with multiple women

DrFunmisticGlow:
honesty at this point, is it worth it to get married?

More than the fear of getting married for me, is the fear of being a single mother or worse, a married single mum.

If I knew what I know now,I wouldn't have gotten married.
I would have been a single mother by choice.
Have 2 children, preferably females..who bear my name.

DrFunmisticGlow:
it is well. A lot of men deep down hate women, but marry them anyway because of what women can provide and how they can make their life easier.

That's the whole truth.
A lot of men hate women very much but marry them because of what women do for them

Sex mate
Baby maker
Nanny for their children
Housekeeper: Cook,laundry,Clean,etc

Marriage benefits men more.
Reason why they remarry as soon as their wives die.


Some men look dirty and unkempt until a wife comes into their lives.

As for me,I have no trust in my husband.
He is a typical Nigerian man.

I started having Pregnancy induced hypertension in my second pregnancy but my husband(in the selfish nature of men) kept hammering that we were going to try for a 4th child,despite my health condition..Asthmatic(and I had bad exacerbations in both pregnancies) plus preeclampsia.
Eventually signed for a BTL during my CS.
3 Children are more than enough.
I had even wanted 2 ,only for the second pregnancy to come as twins.
I always put myself and children first.
Na mumu dey trust man

SAMBARRY:
how can she work to save up money when she's pregnant?

Calm down.
I have been reading your comments and I agreed with you until this.

I have 3 children.
1st pregnancy was a single birth.. Vaginal delivery
2nd pregnancy..a set of twins.C/S
My husband and I are medical doctors.
I worked all through both pregnancies and saved up money for MY delivery.
I only started maternity leave 3 weeks before my EDD.
Men are naturally very selfish people.

A reasonable woman should not put her hope on a man.
If women know how much their husbands hate them for real,they will love themselves more.
Husband is just waiting for you to die so he can marry a new wife.

Kobicove:
Before I opened the thread I already knew it would be a white person...those people are crazy!

Lies..
White women make the best wives.
Team foreign women

neolboy:
This is my life story
I am sharing my experience here about marriage life, some of you might call me a Simp or weakling but need to share it for those who asked me to share it when I write on a topic about what i regretted so far in 2025, was getting married last year December and ending it this Year January will pick one or two things from my story.

I met this girl 2023 through a mutual friend, we became an acquaintance and later start dating. She is from Delta state likewise myself, she comes from Ndokwa west specifically Kwale by tribe. In 2024 i proposed to her, by May I went to see her family while she came to meet mine also.

Early September i asked her family for the traditional list. We both agreed for traditional marriage and court wedding, After collecting the list we start planning towards the traditional marriage which was fixed on December 29 on a Sunday afternoon. That faithful day, i went with my people to pay the bride price and other things, and the court wedding was fixed on January 17.

January 7th, we were together discussing but something strange happened, her phone rang and i saw her going outside to answer some calls, after sometimes she came back inside not composed. I asked her what the problem was but she downplayed it and told me it was nothing, but i was not comfortable, after a while her phone rang again, it was her brother's wife calling her and asking her if she has told me about the pregnancy. I was shocked and asked her what pregnancy is she talking about.

Here comes the shock of my life, i discovered that she was some weeks pregnant, I asked her who got her pregnant, to my surprise, it was her ex boyfriend. I was enraged, mad and furious, something was whispering into my ear to go into the kitchen take a knife and stab her. Luckily for me, my younger sister called me at that moment, if not i don't know what i would have done to her. Because it was late i left the house for her.

In the morning, i came back, she was already in tears crying and asking me for forgiveness. I told her to leave my house, I picked up my phone call all her family members, called mine also.
Her family were trying to persuade me to forgive her but i told them it was unforgivable. My family asked for the refund of the bride price which was later refunded after they discovered that i did not bulge to their request of accepting her back.

It was a painful moment and a painful experience too, but i was able to pull through by the help of my family members some friends.

It was a long story i had to cut it short. It is my life story

Moral lesson: Do pregnancy test even on the day you are to tie the knot, do not trust to the extent of ignoring little things.

Extra: The guy who got her pregnant was aware and even told the girl's sister that his property with them he is coming in future to collect it. Na so I for dey look after another man's property

So despite all the gist about men not benefiting anything from marriage,men are still getting married.
Now see!
Don't get married.
Marriage is not for men.

All the way from Anambra to Lagos.
Development is by force

Agboriotejoye:
I hope men can see

A girl wants to give her "babe" N300 out of N77k

If it is you now you'll first take her out with 10k then give her 33,500 out of the 77k

Simps deserve to be slapped every morning they wake up and waste oxygen

The op is a guy
He is giving his babe 300 naira.

A lady will be very foo.lish to even part with 300 naira because of a boyfriend

Nigerian men have graduated from killing their girlfriends and wives to mothers and sisters.

Crazy things are happening!

Enwhen:
Beautiful girl ...RIP

42 years is now a girl because she is dead.
Would have been an old woman if alive and celebrating her birthday

Newly employed health workers who have not received salary for 5 months now?

And no hope of getting paid

The way his gender people brag and boast that they don't need marriage as it doesn't benefit them,One would have expected this man to be happier and live longer without a wife and children..

But NO!
He committed suicide instead.
E no die well.
Yeye dey smell

osuofia2:
You wife left you and you killed yourself, sabi man will use that period to give himself a treat. Bang and bang more pussssys, enjoy and improve yourself. Triple your income and bounce like a ball. Everywhere good

Easy to rant on social media.
The way some of you men brag online ehn...
Meanwhile,it's your type that's the weakest when life reality hits

The way young men drag ladies of nowadays over paternity fraud makes me laugh .

They tend to exonerate their mothers who are even the main originators of this menace.

Paternity fraud is as old as creation.

Old women for village been dey run am

And are still into it till forever.

Terrymania:
Not in a Western world. Once the women travel to any Western country, they automatically become king. It becomes anything the man says shall be used against himself.

Which means if Africa was civilised,men would no longer be the prize?

How can women chase out their husbands?
Are men no longer the prize?

Terrymania:
Where's the husband?

Congratulations to her.
At the end,it's the child that matters, especially a daughter

GOFRONT:
You see Ngolo , You see Sadio, these two are the real G.O.A.T in Africa...........they both have sense. They returned home to pick their wives however huge their money and fames...

But you see Mikel Obi, you see Ekong Very senseless Footballers. They prefer to marry Russians

Is it not on this same naira land that men are discouraged from marrying Nigerian women?
Foreign women are regarded as the best.
Or am I missing something?

Hohaiiiode:
The biggest mumu in Nigerian political history! See statement ! Ur weakness is showing in every turn you make !
If you must die , you should die honorably! Like fubara like good luck

Honestly.

Politics is a dirty game and not suitable for weak men like Sim Fubara and Goodluck Jonathan

Kobojunkie:
Yes, marriage is not a do-or-die affair. But please endeavor to ensure the children are not abandoned in all of this, no matter the decision you make at the end.

They will be fine.
I hope I get custody of my children.
They are the only reason I got married in the first place.

hkidola00:
ohhh funny.. you all relocated to same country

Yes..Many more are still relocating.
The pathway is straightforward for us.
Only requires huge financial commitment and exams

hkidola00:
you feel lonely and its boring there right

I don't feel lonely.
It's not boring.
Back home in Nigeria,I didn't have many friends.
Had a small circle and my small circle have also all relocated.
We had a class party few weeks back.
It felt like we were in Nigeria.
Virtually,everyone in my university class was present.

Holycity:
I may leave mine soon

Me too.
I'm thoroughly tired of the whole arrangement

How can women walk away from marriage?
Marriage that's a trophy and the only clothe that covers the unclothedness of a woman?

I find this unbelievable.

Only men walk away from marriage,while the women go on their knees begging them to reconsider.

Op is cooking up stories

eepeepook:
This man is always in England while praising Nigeria. Ask him to come back, he’ll throw insults your way.

Don't mind the clown.
This is my 6th year in the UK,I have not missed anything back home in Nigeria.
I even regret not relocating much earlier.

My life has been more beautiful overseas.

Goodmarlian:
I am starting to get myself together financially after 5 years of struggle. I recently rented an apartment, its a single room in a three storey building but it's downstairs,very spacious and I have to share toilet and bathroom with the security.I initially wanted to get an apartment in ikorodu or mowe ibafo but considering the nature of my job it would be too stressful for me.

It's cost me 400k to get the room and I plan furnishing it,getting a flat screen television and at least a sofa. I already have a big bed. I believe i will be able to do the rest this year by God's grace.

Getting accommodation in Lagos is too hard and I think planning to get another bigger apartment would take another two years Or more I am tired of plotting and planning again as time is going, we dey age everyday so I just want to stick with this one get settle down here and rather plan building my own house from here instead.

I have not hinted my girlfriend about the plan yet so I would like to hear advise from the more experienced people here.


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Why are you planning on getting married as a man?
You are even struggling and want to squeeze and get married?
To what gain?
On social media,esp this platform,it has been hammered on several occasions that men have nothing to benefit from marriage.

And then age? Men can get married at anytime ..A 70 year old man is younger than a 30 year old woman ,as far as marriage and fertility is concerned..and can marry an 18 year old virgin whenever he is ready.

So why the desperation?

You people talk one thing online but do another in reality.

Single woman gets pregnant,men cry
2 women marry each other,men cry

Any story about women without men in their lives....Men cry

If it were to be a lady,they would have assumed and even concluded that she went for hook up ..And try to justify her murder

That's the disadvantage of trying to remarry when you have a daughter.

New man would want to take advantage of her..

Immediately I saw this thread,I knew there will be lots of hot male tears here...lol


"Men do not have anything to benefit from getting married".
"Just have children with baby mamas"

Women heard! And some are "helping" them by not getting married ,yet having babies outside wedlock

Now,men are wailing..

I don't have Bible App on my phone
I don't own any type of Bible

I don't attend church and I don't read the Bible