₦airaland Forum

Bobodee09:
This advise goes especially to married men and men in general.

Don't put yourself under unnecessary pressure or take up loans to maintain a certain lifestyle.

I just lost an area senior bros this morning, the news didn't come as shock cos he has been in the hospital for a while and his BP refused to come down.

He is man in his late 40's married with 4 kids. This man was under alot of pressure to meet end means, he took up too many loans just to maintain his living standards to please his family.

The last time I visited him in general I also checked my BP and it was very high, I was also under pressure myself to meet target.
When I got home I promised myself I wont die young to please anyone.
I will do my best and leave the rest cos at the end no one really care all they want to do is take from you as a man.

Married men enjoy yourself, take care of yourself, buy what you want. You can't be working everyday and be suffering to please your wife and kids.

The men who die young are the ones who always labour and don't take care of themselves, you see men who only provide what they have and take care of themselves they live longer.

We are in this mess together trust me....those people you think are doing better have alot of loans on their neck. So don't let anyone push you by comparing you to them.

If what you provide isnt enough or appreciated tell your wife to also provide or take her leave.

The problem is not the pressure,the major challenge is not taking antihypertensives.

Your BP was also high..Did you seek medical attention?
Are you on antihypertensives and are you regular on medications?

Image123:
The man is probably mentally unstable, something has turned his head like they say.

Stop making excuses for him
He is very mentally stable
He is fully aware of what he did
But acting insane in order to deceive people like you.

Agricmoney:
chai why not get married instead of this .

Anyway, Agriculture is life

Men have nothing to benefit from marriage

Godwin4444:
so tinubu that took over less than 2 years stopped a 46 years old man from getting married?

What happened between d age of 25- 44?

No wonder the Bible said wise man left d east

He was busy bragging that men don't need marriage between 25-44 years

Gbadugbakun:
This is what so many young men are going through out there. No job, no wife, no kids, no home of their own. The government isn't even making life easy for the people. It's just from one suffering to another.

Why should a man get married?
Men say they have nothing to benefit from getting married

While his mates are crying over expensive bride price and marriage list on social media

It's now she will sin against God more.
And even lose all her self esteem..
As she will begin to find men appealing and of course,they will tear her towtow apart

Wainey:
Please if you can't give mature response, don't fill up the front page with drivels.

So I am in a relationship with this lady, but the problem is that she already has three children with her ex, not just one or two but three. Two of the children lives with their father while she lives with one.

Despite this, she is an industrious lady who works for her own wellbeing, though I spent money on her once a while but it's not even half of what she spends on me, that is mostly because she has a better financial muscle than I do.
She is caring, loving and loyal, she doesn't even have friends and has always been all about her career, when I asked why she didn't end up with her ex, she said it was cos of tribalism, I didn't ask further though.

Now, Getting married to a single parent is not something I wanted but I have dated a lot of rubbish in this country, but this lady was nothing like them and letting her go is not something I want right now.

So my question to those that are married to single parent, what difficulties did u face in ur marriage?

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Same gender who brag that marriage is meant for women and not men since men have nothing to benefit from getting married ,is even considering marrying a single mother of not even one but three children.

This one pass evening newspaper.
This is last year's magazine.

Hahahaha

You want to take advantage of a single lady living in your house so that tomorrow same you will say single ladies who live alone are easy prey to knacks.

If she rejects you,you will begin to hate her and eventually evict her.

Best you respect yourself and direct your preeeq elsewhere.

Fiscus105:
Let me repeat what I said about a story, similar to this few weeks ago here.

If you married a single mother, which her husband is still much alive, just know you are into a polyandry instead of monogamous marriage........fact 1.

If husband still struggling to separate ordinary ex without kid from wife, how much more relationship that involves kids. communication, collecting gifts/things and even visiting, these are the things you can't stop single mother not to do with ex husband.

I have witnessed countless of such cases, where ex wife, who is now married to another husband,in which exes still sleeping with them.

One thing I studied about woman is,... any man that succeeded in sleeping with them before, no matter how the relationship ended, couples with the present status of the woman,(maritaly or financially) , ex can still come back to her life,thou, if such ex knows how to play his game very well. fact 2. more reason why husband shouldn't be totally left wife by way of monitoring, once in awhile.(woman won't know, when she mess herself in the hands of ex. .......fact 3

And vice versa..
If as a woman,you decide to marry a man who already has a child/children with another woman...be ready..As long as that woman is alive,even if she is married to another man,there are huge chances that the ex (your own husband) wil still fvck her.

It's the law of nature.

Reason why I swore NEVER to have any business with a single father..I avoided them like plagues.
There was a guy I was friendly with.
Just talking stage,I found out her had a 10 year old son.
I just ghosted him..and never asked him about it.
We ran into each other few years later after I had gotten married,I pretended I didn't know him.
He was stunned!

Remilekun28:
May God bless the good Samaritan that took him to the Hospital and I wish the accident victim quick recovery.

I also had a car accident two weeks ago in which my left leg got broken in three places. And I need your help, please.

These are pictures of my leg yesterday morning when we visited the man working on the leg.

Please help me. I need your support. My leg has collected the #60,000 left on me. I'm broke and still need funds for daily care of my broken leg.

Please help me. I'm soliciting your help because I have spent the #60,000 left on me on the leg. My parents have tried too. I need your help to continue my medication and daily care of my broken leg.

The man (bonesetter) working on my broken leg said it will take 6-8 months for the bones to join together very well. Which means I will spend 6-8 months lying in bed every day.

My people now carry me to do the private things I do on my own. Can't go to the bathroom on my own; my brother bathes me. I can't rush to the toilet whenever I'm caught short; I have to call my people on the phone to take me to the toilet. Please help me.

The man (bonesetter) working on my broken bones charged us the sum of #40,000; we've paid #30,000.

The nurse who stitched the wound on my leg and who will be giving me injections and prescribing drugs for me till my leg totally heals charged us #60,000; we've paid #40,000.

Every three days, we hire a car to take me to the bonesetter's house; we pay #2000 for this per day.

We have paid part of the treatment bill. Where I'm having an issue now is how to pay up the remaining treatment bill and how to get funds to pay for the transportation fare to the house of my bonesetter every three days. Please help me. I'm broke, and my family has really tried for me. Please, I need your help to take good care of my leg every day.

Please, my bank details are:

Bank: OPAY
Acct No: 913 531 0933
Acct Name: Babatunde Sikiru Yisa

May God's protection continue to be on you and your family. May you and your family never be victims of motor accidents. Amen

I live at NO 34, Araromi Street, Eleko Town, Ibeju-Lekki, Lagos State.

If you live close to me and want to visit me, that's my address, and my phone number is 0913 531 0933. Thank you. May God continue to bless you.

Oga,go to the teaching hospital and see the orthopedic surgeon.
After wasting money on traditional bonesetter and your leg goes bad,you will still go to hospital when it's too late.

You people don't listen

Whenever I'm in Nigeria and park my car outside my home,I lock the steering and pedal together,then switch off the engine with the tracker

Stomoney:
I wonder why people buy vehicles worth millions and couldn't secure it with just 100k gps tracking device.

Stupidity8)

Contact me for your all kind of vehicles GPS tracking with real time location monitor and shut down command (08064818129).

My brother,the matter tire me oh.
Something as simple as a tracker could have helped.

Praktikals1000:
I can't believe Igbos are queuing up to collect free foodstuff. Sebi they are all millionaires.

I'm as surprised as you are.
Anambra Igbos for that matter..They are all billionaires

Nigerian men are funny.

The same marriage that they benefit nothing from?

This op must be a child.

Bryancrox:
Why not Deborah Uloko?

Poor man's opinion

dinkyicon:
lagos nurse on the run or the boy friend im confused

The boyfriend is a nurse.

Go to school.

No!
School na scam!!

I can bet with everything I cherish that some of his children are not his!

Na Mumu dey go rescue woman from abusive husband.
Somebody that will soon return to her husband and give birth to 4 more children

People who attend church can never stop looking foo.lish to me.

Rearealki:
I have been single for a while.

Most ladies I approach are either in a relationship or they are married. I end up getting disappointed.
I have observed that most ladies 20 or above are in a relationship.

I dont even see single ladies

The only single lady I found was so rude and disrespectful. I had to abort any relationship because it the thing I can never tolerate.

Unbelievable that a man can sound this concerned,even passing off as being worried because of inability to be in a relationship with a Nigerian woman.

Same women you men detest and classify as devils, labelling unprintable names especially on social media..this platform,inclusive.

Wonderful something

...and you born 5 children.

You are a joker.

Use.less woman

They will give it to him

Puss360:
Lol, my auntie's daughter wears leg chain, nose ring, even has tattoo on her breast.. lol...
And guess what, she is a professional Paediatric specialist... With outstanding medical qualifications...

She may be bisexual..swinging more with women

It's not by force to be in the UK .
Let her return to Nigeria.
Nigeria is very hot in all regards.
Weather,economy,security, healthcare, education..name it.

Nahunger:
Poor girls should marry poor men, rich men should marry rich girls.

Stay in your class, no more handouts for Nigerian girls.

It's still you men that change this narrative

Nahunger:

They never learn

It's only a Nigerian girl, you will see preparing for marriage and only has #5k in her account.

That's the girl y'all prefer to marry.
The ones who have millions in their accounts will be difficult to control and hence, disrespectful...innit?

Cyroskijah:
What is the essence of this fame and wealth

No family

Women are evil
Wife is not family
A man can have children at any age.

All I say to women who endure abusive partners including my mother is "SERVES YOU RIGHT".

My mum almost lost an arm.

He fractured her arm...After the surgery which was fully funded by me,they were separated for a while.
I and other family members tried to set her up,started a business for her,even took her in..later got an apartment for her.
But she shunned everything and returned to him.
Made all of us her enemies..said we wanted to destroy her marriage.
And everybody hands off.

Just yesterday,the old man who clocked 74 last month bathe her with hot tea he prepared and locked her out of the house tying only a wrapper.

She passed last night at a neighbour's house.

A fool at 65 is a fool for ever.

Serves her right again and again.

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Difrent:
No talk wetin you no know . How come the wife looks like 24 years? Do you think she is his first love?

How does the wife look 24?
That woman is in her lates 30s to early 40s.

You men can be funny

.no wonder some of you marry your "mother's mates" without knowing