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That is a common practice in the South South and South East.
Parents are even ashamed to speak the native dialect to their children.
They bring up their kids to see the language as archaic and crude.
Go to the West, the yorubas are very proud of their language.
They speak it everywhere, even in the offices.
And they force you who is not Yoruba to learn it because the will speak it to you

I thought Monday will be Muslim Public Holiday

HumbleSmith and this his Osinachi...
Old song...

hi3:
let them ask for yours before you start ranting now.

A doc will still see your nude anyway... Deal with that!

I would have ignored your quote..
But then... I am a medical doctor.
Just to inform you..
There is a big difference between a doctor seeing your nvde for medical reasons and some random internet dude asking for them.

She actually took the conversation too far.
Should have ended it immediately he asked for the nvde picture.

Doc to be, my foot.

Mtcheew

Am no Cinderella...

Hehehehe.

Good luck...

romenna:
if u r a successful lady then lets connect, i can only be motivated by ur success, cant be intimidated at all. but make sure u r legitimately successful tho, dnt come n be braggin wit sugar daddy money cos dats wat we see on a daily

Lol... Exactly what I typed earlier.
Nigerian men only see ladies who made it via sugar daddies..
They hardly recognize the legit ones.

Btw, I am a medical doctor.
I work in a federal teaching hospital.
Hence, its only normal that I pay my bills without depending on any man.

I remember when I relocated to a new state to start my new job.
After months of squatting with colleague, I decided to rent my own apartment.
The landlord upon realizing that I could afford to pay for a 1 bedroom flat, said " Abeg ooo.. I no want ashewo for my compound ".

To him... Only a prostitute could have money to afford such apartment.
I didn't blame him. As I quietly walked away, the agent who happens to be an old school mate admonished him and told him what I did for a living.
Landlord immediately changed his mind and called me back.

What I am saying is : Nigerian men do not like independent women. For obvious reasons :Either, you are a wh.o.r.e or you are "proud" and won't be easy to manipulate, hence no feeding of male ego.
I have gotten to the stage that I meet a guy and pretend I don't have a job.

That's what they appreciate.

Elder001:
It depends on his mentality.

You saw the reply a man gave me in the fourth page, he said if you marry a woman who wouldn't be scared of leaving the marriage because of her financial status then you as a man i useless.

That's the mentality of the average Nigerian man.
You can't blame him.
Traditionally, men were meant to be providers and women receivers.
A lot of men DO NOT LIKE women who can provide.
The same way, women DO NOT LIKE men who are receivers.

CrazyPros:
Valid argument, though according to you there is still 10% that value independent women.
So will you prefer to be dependent?

My financial status depends on who I am dealing with.

To my parents and siblings, I am independent.
To the "average,typical Nigerian man",I rather act dependent.
I once picked my bill on a date.. Dude sent me an SMS saying "You insulted me today. I asked you out on a date,you ordered an expensive wine and paid for it, to show me you don't give a damn about me. ".
That was how it ended before it even started.
My friends blamed me.

My ex left me because according to him, I was too independent. I earned only 10K less than him. My salary was more regular.
I could afford to do things for myself (shop for groceries, change my hair, buy airtime, clothes, etc) without asking him for money. And that was quite "UNFEMININE"..It made him feel he was dating a fellow man. Women were not created/meant to be independent else what would they need men for?
He later got married to an OND holder who was teaching in a private nursery school.

She became a full time housewife after the marriage.
The funny thing is :On social media, he is part of those guys who abhor dependent women but encourage women to be financially stable... Meanwhile, he dumped an independent for a dependent one who needs him for everything including drinking water.

I don't understand why this topic is still an issue.

Social media and reality are 2 different situations.

On social media, Nigerian men claim to love /prefer working class, independent women who do not have to depend on them for anything.
They say they prefer women who can pay their bills on a date.

In reality, Nigerian men prefer to marry dependent women.

Many jobless broke dependent ladies are married while the working class independent well to do, financially stable ones are single and avoided because they are seen as too "proud".
They are tagged "ashewo, olosho " and other unprintable names because the Nigerian man doesn't believe that a woman can be financially sufficient without selling her body to men.
In Nigeria, every financially successful woman must have been involved in some form of prostitution before she made it.

Even married women are seen this way, how much more a single lady??

As a lady, try taking up your bill on a date... That man will never want to have anything to do with you any more. In his mind, "what kind of lady pays her bills? If she can afford to eat without my money, then what can I offer her? "

That's the reason why some of us are advised not to show that we have money so that "men will not run away from us".
Society advises us "Do not buy a car while you are single"...

It's very easy to type and argue gibberish on social media but we all know that in reality...
If you put Miss A, probably an undergraduate or a jobless graduate or low-income salary earner
And Miss B, a working class well paid, business owner, financially stable lady...

90% of All Nigerian men would rush and go for Miss A.

A dependent woman is the Nigerian man's ideal woman. Nothing feeds a man's ego than woman who depends on him for "survival".

Such woman is easy to manipulate, use, disuse, abuse, maltreat and she won't bait an eyelid.

The smarter and more independent you are, the less attractive you are to men in reality.

We are finished.

delugajackson:
The beauty of Akwa Ibom women is second to none. I used to tell people that the best kind of women are found in Akwa Ibom state. They are precious and pure, as beautiful as the light of a thousand stars. Celestial beauties endowed with brains and the best, agreeable body features you can ever find.

That Blessing Joseph is a confirmed 100 yards of wife material. I can't help but admire her hard working nature. Even now, her smiles still penetrate my very soul. Shout out to the beautiful Akwa Ibom women both home and abroad. You all are the best and there's no debating. Akwa Ibom Isoñgó!

Well said.
Proudly Akwa Ibom

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