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fineberry:
Guys Have you ever been in a relationship where she smokes and drink, infact, where she was just too worldly wise than you and for your liking lol....Let share.

That kind of life ain’t good for a mom.
Although some women put a stop to it when they have kids but Abeg na bad omen.

lilvicky68:
As a woman make sure you put condoms in your husband's pocket to avoid STDs..

Husband and wife should start using condom when they start suspecting each other.

Anything that would make you put condom in the pocket of your spouse should be divorce.

Bedrooomsecret:
Men are most times the culprits here.
Our society and traditions restricts women from having extra marital affairs.
Once you notice your spouse is no longer faithful, its best to insist on condoms especially when you guys are done with childbearing

absolutely supported
Same should be done if a man suspect his wife too

McEphiks:
Not too long to read. My babe actually prefer I give him the money to get an apartment so I’ll do just that since it’ll save me the stress.

And I didn’t do it cos of what tomorrow hold. I just didn’t think it was right to repay evil with evil.

Thanks for your submission

The bolded is flawed, help him but
Keep distance from him as possible.
You have been warned

Candycrushy:
He has what it takes tho, except for the social life, yunno the fun of life, he has it zero

if he is a person with an open mindset then you can only be the one not ready.
Men at older age can still produce heathy children, so.....

McEphiks:
So I’ll make this short. I was in Ghana working until last year February when I decided to visit my dad. Covid and border closure didn’t allow me return.

March this year I was able to come back. Starting again I was putting up with a friend who in less than a month ask me out cos he was expecting a chick. Lol. Well, I was jobless but my partner was supper supportive. She got a loan at work and I secured an apartment.

Fast forward to about a week ago my friend who sent me out is having accommodation problem. He came begging for me to host him for the time been. Well, I concurred and my babe said “Someone who sent you out cos of a girl and now you’re helping him, you’re a weakling and too soft”

I don’t think I am; I am just choosing not to repay evil with bad. The tables of life turn unexpectedly these days.

Have I done anything bad?

Lalasticlala
Mynd44

Life is too complicated to know exactly what to do at every-time.
Just because he sent you packing does not mean automatically you should meet with same action at sight because at a point he allowed you in.
This exact scenario happened to me back in school but now we are on opposite side of the table now.
Not like he stays with me but I am currently helping him on how to get a job.

Now here is it.
I don’t and will never trust him, I work with him with just a lot of vigilant eyes and guard. We don’t go out on hangout and we keep our space.

Now in your case the idea of you don’t know tomorrow mentality as an excuse is not making sense.
If you want to go such route then you should be accommodating even beggars and mad men, together with thieves and kidnapper all in the bid you don’t know tomorrow.
Your reason for keeping is flawed and that is your only mistake. And not basically your actions.

Here is my judgment, you should simply start eating with friends who are not actually friends with long spoon, in other words keep large space and distance between you and them no matter what, do everything possible so as no to allow them close except they prove otherwise with their actions later on. Allowing him into your house temporarily is fine but try to get him out as soon as possible even if that means giving him a one off financial assistance to leave you alone.

Enemy need close distance to struck you and please you shouldn’t go so close to save a person who you aren’t sure he is a friend

Sorry for the long story

Jaycobbs:
It is blindingly obvious to me that all the people on this thread in support of going the baby mama route don't have any experience whatsoever in it.

Their entire argument is based solely on assumptions gotten by reading other Nairalanders' comments or from Twitter.

Let someone with real experience come out and the rest should just get out. You people are vexing me.

The one in it are really not proud about it. And even if they share it doesn’t speak the mind of everyone in it.
Many baby mama and papa came to existence not through agreement. Many mistakes, some shit happened and they realize they can’t make any more commitment and another reason is that some men/women are very randy and it must happen. Nothing would prevent it.
There is no recognized institution for baby mama and papa anywhere in the world it is just a big shit that people have to accept because the child has come to stay.

Redpill must embrace babymama or polygamus marriage. it is the only way their doctrines can survive.

BRATISLAVA:
You need to see them dedicated to visiting pages, blogs and watching videos that train them to be red pill alphabets. That energy in reasonable activities could turn the country around. But it seems gender superiority is more important that applying sense.

The fact that they need to be trained and drilled in how to be emotionally available to women, how to fight for leadership, how to be "men" is shameful and unnatural.

Rather than them learning from their elders they all sound the same like parrots who can't think. The future of manhood is already failed if these red pill types are what want to become adults tomorrow.

This last statement sounds like earthquake

BRATISLAVA:
You've nailed it.

The motivation is just sex and trying to demean women, but it has its repercussions on the male child they always think is disadvantaged. While white men are developing the world, these ones are hating women and looking for superiority contests.

Most of them are embittered misogynists. If they cared, they wouldn't want to become like African Americans.

Some of them are products of father's who went the way they want to go. They're scared to blame their fathers as men, so they look for where to pour the hate. The red pill and mgtow are the things destroying modern men, but they don't want to accept it. It's better to leave them to seek what they think is enjoyment.

Their message is a lost cause. No matter the money a man makes, he will always seek validation from a woman. The cycle continues.

One other very funny thing is that many of the self claimed Alpha learnt their redpill online and foolish them want to grow children using baby mama. They speak against how women are turning men into weak men yet they subscribe for babymama.
Now if this the deal it means most of their children would grow up with their mother and that would leave more room for mother fostering weakness they so fear into their children.
But no worries the children will come to Nairaland and read about the redpill by U.bunja miseducation

alBHAGDADI:
If you had a tattoo before you became a believer, it won't be counted as sin once you become a believer. This is because your sins have been washed away by the Blood of Jesus. Once you get your perfect body on the day of resurrection, the tattoo you currently have won't be there anymore.

If the case is that you are a believer and you want to get a tattoo, it means you want to knowingly commit sin despite knowing God's commandment against such. If you go ahead to draw the tattoo on your body, God may punish you for it. But can that sin stop you from going to Heaven? No. Sin can't prevent you from making heaven if you believe that Jesus salvation is permanent and can't be lost. That doesn't mean you should abuse it, even though if you do you still won't lose heaven. For example, if you know your mother will always love you, should that make you want to always treat her like trash? If you know God will always love you, should that make you treat his commandments like trash?

Reference a part of the Bible that speak how tattoo is a sin.
You may want to reference Leviticus but let me wait

ogbonti:
Abeg no mind the OP my brother. Who says marriage provides comfort, happiness and long life in all circumstances? Nah it doesn’t folks.

1. Some married guys here in America that I know don’t even get regular s ex from their wife anymore because they feel they got the man is caged already and if he leaves her, (divorce) - then financial calamity will befall him with regards to alimony, child support, splitting the estate and other drag on here and there.

2. The nagging too na helele. I have had one or two friends just before the pandemic who were almost living with me - they come in on Friday and leave on Sunday just to escape an irritating and over entitled wife from running up their blood pressure unending. You need to see the excitement on their faces when they arrive my place for the weekend and my wife initially didn’t understand why these guys were doing this but with time she got the picture, and she even validated my conclusion about the awkward complacencies most women display after securing the marriage vow from a man - “for better for worse - love and to cherish, till death do us part..... bla bla bla”

3. There is a reason some companies here in America and even in Nigeria seldom hire permanent staff. They hire on contract basis. Now, I know someone may say what’s the difference if both contract and permanent staff can both be fired. However, it is harder to fire a permanent staff without incurring legal and financial liabilities. Same with marriage, when you tie yourself up with legal complexities just to cling to one individual for life, then you must be ready to go through the headache to untangle yourself when things go sour, and it surely will over time - because every man has his price and every dog has it’s day!

4. It takes 2 people in agreement to get married, but it takes the consent of just 1 of the 2 to destroy everything. Any human being can change, over time - because change is the only constant thing in life - and every human being is a sucker for one or multiple things not life - only known to that individual.

For a man - some of us can not resist a very beautiful woman and brilliant woman. Now, when she is the one initiating flirts with you, it becomes a level playing field between her and your wife for the battle for your love, affection and attention. If the beautiful woman respects you, cooks good for you and doesn’t nag you as a side chic, then your wife is in for a real fight going forward because every man appreciates peace of mind and sweet food. If she is good in bed and your wife over time has become a boring, entitled and nagging sister at home, then calamity has come knocking on the marriage and a divorce is imminent.

Same for the woman, if she is a sucker for money, sweet talks, material things and good looks, but somehow got married because her biological clock was ticking and she is getting pressured at home to get married by her parents - then whatever is available (which is you becomes her dream man at that period) . However, when all dust settles and she is no longer on the edge about her biological clock because she now has a kid or 2, and a man who she exploits financially in a marriage, she is now in a vantage position to use positive screeners to find that which her mind truly yearns for and whenever she finds it and that person is a willing collaborator, she will turn 360 degrees against you. You will keep wondering what has gone wrong? Nothing went wrong foolish husband- your wife has been dealing with you as an alternative to her real dream man. Now she has found him and she sees you as a mistake she urgently needs to correct.

5. Money, power or fame or spiritual superiority can’t tame any partner in a marriage. We have seen that with Bill Gates, Micheal Jordan, Brad Pitt, Chris Okotie, Chris Oyakhilome and even Aso Rock’s own Aisha Buhari here in Nigeria where she feels very comfortable staying away from her husband in Dubai for half a year. So what are we not talking about ?


6. I honestly don’t believe a man will ever stay with one woman and not stray for maximum one year and I don’t believe a woman can be committed to one man and not stray for 2 years. If she is not straying then she must be an ugly and irritating sit-at-home-all-day lady that nobody wants. IF if he is not straying, he must be a dirt poor loner who lacks basic confidence to initiate and hold a conversation with a lady for even 30 minutes.


With all these being said, baby mama comes from the freedom it affords both parties (the man and the woman) to stop breathing on each other’s neck and give each other the space and opportunity to keep excelling without the suffocating complexities of an irritating spouse

And who says products from a baby mama can’t be great? Barack Obama is one, and he is one the greatest black men to ever walk on the surface of the earth and a role model to hundreds of millions of people world wide. I know someone will say but his father married his mother - yes, they did just to take pictures lol, because the father was off before Barack even turned 3 years old and since then his (now late) mom and her family took care of him

So, OP stop propagating neediness, insecurity and lack of capacity for adults to stand their ground and hold on to face the vicissitudes of life because you want them to desperately cling to another human to bail them out with pity parties when life throws them a curve? nah- Instead I will encourage everyone to get on their A game and enjoy their life, independent of any other human being’s perpetual manipulation and psychological slavery.


As for kids born out of wedlock, they will be fine. A baby daddy can support the welfare of the kid as the spirit leads him because even kids you raise in a marriage sometimes will turn against the you their father and give priority to the mom when they grow up because right under your nose, the indoctrination was taking place whenever you are away to work and you didn’t even realize it


So baby mama or marriage is ok for anyone- it all depends on what you are comfortable with

I rest my case!!!

No baby born out of wedlock is fine. Stop talking nonsense.

BuddhaPalm:
Many marriages end after a few short years.

And every single thing he listed there can happen to the "married man".

Ubi Franklin's marriage for example. Gbenro Ajibade's too.

Hehehhe hehhehe wahala be like okirika suite.
Baba mama is like a company hiring contract staff. You can never trust a contract worker with internal affairs. Due to this contract workers especially for very solid jobs need to sign some agreement to ensure things work accurately.

Well currently there is no such thing in our constitution right now for baby/mama and papa so in other words it like hiring contract staff without any written document.

It means no one can be trusted. Assuming we have a working country I advise anyone man or woman to arrange for a wedding court and state consequences and responsibility he/she wants in a union.

Baby mama and papa is very dangerous for everyone. Children especially

BuharFulani:
I thought you said goodbye just now

Good bye

BuharFulani:
I actually knew you were an empty plate making the loudest noise.

So touched to think that you thought I'd take your suggestion seriously

Oh it wasn’t obstructive marketing rather
“Intrusive marketing”

I know you would think I am against you but it’s fine

BuharFulani:
ok... So how do I market properly?

Search this on Google
“Intrusive marketing”.
Good bye

Nonexisting:
He is trying to help you simps from daughters of Jezebel and you said he wrote rubbish. Are you sure you are okay?

An online presence. Who knows what is best for people

BuharFulani:
E choke. E quit.

Being first born is a heavy task that few people ever realize

Please learn how to market properly, you can’t market a book. Yet teach people how to woo women shior

@Mikester
You have spoken well. The redpill echoing baby mama with all their life are nothing but hypocrites.

Let leave the women alone.
What does redpill advise men against having several children from different baby mama and not taking care of them.

All they do everyday is speak about men not having enough sex. They wouldn’t tackle more pressuring societal issues. We see a lot of poor children hovering the places without no parent(papa nor mama) concerning about their well being. Both are busy looking for pleasure of life and how to be free from responsibility. Papa is looking for more pussy and hiding from fees. Mama is looking for how to get along and sleeping around.

What does the Redpill say against the plight ravaging the country?

RichAbujaGuy:
Chairman Davido go carry American passport. Baby daddy/mama land.
But jokes aside his kids no dey suffer and his baby mamas are not reckless from what I see in the news and on social media.

you are not seeing anything. When last did you check the last baby mama profile.
And as for Davido let us talk about his recklessness.
As you know men are allowed to be reckless, since it is the new sickness in redpill

grossintel:
Op, all the things you wrote there is rubbish. If you're filthy rich please settle for baby mama so you can live long!
Especially if you live in the West, because it will definitely end with divorce and your wealth splited in half.

Being rich is one reason you can opt for baby mama. Baby mama is a high maintenance thing. Infact so so so so high that many times Mama and papa get so so tired. Papa may run away at the end of the day. Children are left to suffer.

SerikiFulani:
[s]Advantages of Babymama

1. You can date/have sex with whosoever you want at any given time.
2. You get to eat your babymama's coochie once in a while, infact she can bear you another child in the process.
3.Not much liability...Just your kid...As long as you take care of child support monthly,you're good to go.
4. You get the time to hustle and think clear.....No unnecessary nagging from one scorned woman[/s]

All I see is this....
A man who is afraid of been caught in a corner. He dont want to stay in a locked room. He fear he might be caged. He wants to be free forever.

Well this thinking comes to how you view marriage.

NaijaGoBetter20:
Bad news everywhere..... Time to stop coming to nairaland fot news update

Staying away from Nairaland would not stop the reality. It is better you park out to a safer country. Else lack of information in a dangerous country can be a ticking time bomb. You have a false sense of security.

iammo:
Soldiers are not trained to arrest or conduct investigation, they need to hand them over to DSS, NIA or Police

Very correct, I don’t know where Nigeria armed forces has missed it. They seem not to know their job.
For God sake Soldier should concentrate on more demanding and defensive task and leave investigation to people who are skilled in it.

post=101511924:
What a sad story!
All kidnappers, terrorists, thieves, unknown gunmen, ipob terrorists, the evil ones among the Fulani herdsmen, Boko Haram will all be gunned down las las and end miserably and terribly in life.
All people causing violence, deaths, sorrow years and blood in this nation will never witness the end of this year.
Along with their enablers, sympathizers, and supporters.

Yesss, including all the aforementioned.

Only criminals, fraudsters and devil's incarnation, AKA Children of hate, frustrations and perdition will have a problem with this simple prayer.
Anuofias, Oloriburukus dem

This empty words don’t work.
What will the administration do is more important.

Xenry:
Wow, nice input! Thanks for that.
Yes! About the gay guys stuffs, they are here, there's no doubt about that. And they're mostly the ones claiming Redpill with hatred for women.
A genuine Redpill thread or post would never talk about hatred, instead it would focus on being more productive, in control, more positive, ... , it would as well reveal the true nature of women and other stuffs, but hatred would never be one of them.

Yeah bro
You have a nice personal quote.
The more one appreciate himself the less he need external validation to know he has value.
Showing hate and insulting to massage ones ego is not part of them and this is what many people seem to learn from the redpill they spend many of their days reading.

For me I feel the infiltration of romance section by some unknown online presence is real and redpill is the next thing on Nairaland for them to find solace and become a super star, so everyone are clinging on it. Even the one who are losers in real life, they try to empower and crowning themselves kings.

Even the main redpill thread ain’t different, they try to cajole with words like
Bitter pills,
Weak men,
Only real men know this,
Beta,
Omega,
Timid.

Why are redpill a lot about using this words.
It is synonymous to people who would say “only for matured minds” the moment they want to start dirty talk.

The redpill contains some practical street smartness no cap but it is a now a meat with a lot of bones. The need to preach insult and hatred is much more of a priority than helping men.

ABANGWABOI:
My boy, why are you crying nah ??
What happened??

I am crying because I am simp

officialtommy:
Pls: i need a 4gram and above laptop from 15k-20k
good one abeg
location: porthacourt
contact: 08103369970
help pls!

Be careful what you wish for.
Although good things don’t have be cost
Yet Good things don’t come easy!!

Westernlove:
Shut your stinky mouth, I'm an Alpha Male and I don't beg females except the female has "Super Qualities" a normal female doesn't posses....

It is on Nairaland that I start seeing men self-crowning themselves alpha males.
How can an online presence be an alpha male

ABANGWABOI:
I know you love this type of thread, I say make I show you your brother

No qualms just don’t use those marketing words.
It’s irritating.

thatthickgurl:
Know the basics and create simple sites

Then it’s simple
Those stuff you mentioned there are about 50 of them and more but you were not looking at something.

They were made with just one language.
JavaScript

So here is the idea, you need thorough understanding of JavaScript, html and css.

Like you need to sit down and slowly read through this languages and understand a lot of concepts.

If you do understand them a lot. You can learn those tool one per week trust me