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People aren’t always who they appear to be. After dating a guy for a little while or after getting to know a man for a few weeks, you may realize that he isn’t exactly what you thought or expected him to be. And in the dating pool, there are definitely some men that you want to avoid dating at all costs, here are 15 of them.

1. The player

No woman really wants to date a player, but for some reason a lot of females are attracted to them. Newsflash: a player has and wants no future with you. As the name entails, he’s doing nothing but playing you, wasting your time, and letting you go whenever he’s found a new lady to mess with. Players only want side pieces, and we’re all worth a lot more than that.

2. The jobless man

A man without a job should have no use to you. A man who is jobless obviously lacks a lot of ambition, skill, or maybe both. Unless you find that he has a good excuse, i.e. he just got laid off and he’s looking consistently for a new job, you’ll want to stay away from guys with no income. Unemployment doesn’t count and in the end he may try to reel you in and have you pay his bills.

3. The extremely insecure man

We all have our insecurities and often times we work towards them to help eliminate them altogether. Dating a man with a lot of insecurities is extremely time consuming and in the end, it can be really tough. You have to deal with a lot of jealousy, insecurity, trust issues, and so on. A relationship with an insecure man is bound to be a chore.

4. The basement dweller

Tough situations may require someone to move back in with their parents temporarily, and that’s an acceptable situation, as long as it’s temporary. However, if you come across a guy who lives with his parents, doesn’t pay rent, and has no motivation to move out, you definitely need to move on. There’s nothing attractive about a basement dweller who has to share his personal space.

5. The wannabe king

Ahh, a king without his crown. You may one day run into a guy who expects to be treated like royalty. He wants you to cook, clean, and do his laundry for him. All the while he isn’t helping one bit. A guy with such high expectations isn’t likely to be one who treats you right. You deserve to be treated like a queen, or at least like a princess, not the other way around.

6. The dad to too many

When a guy is 25 with three children by three different women, you better have a huge red flag going off in your head. Men with a lot of kids by various different women usually aren’t worth dating. Chances have it that you’ll get caught up in the already existing baby mama drama, and we all know how that turns out. Avoid the guy with several baby mamas, you’ll thank yourself later.

7. The bag man

Though women are mostly portrayed as the one’s with baggage, men have it too. Be wary of guys who seem to carry around a lot of baggage, especially relationship baggage. If he’s still lingering on his ex or if he brings up the past a lot, don’t waste much more time on him. Baggage will only cause problems later on down the road.

8. The narcissist

Dating a narcissist is never wise. There’s nothing worse than a man who is completely self-centered and unconcerned about anyone but himself. Though narcissists are likely to look nice and dress nice, they’re only worried about themselves. His care for you is more than likely non-existent.

9. The one-night-stander

One night stands can have their perks, especially if you’re in needy mode. But, dating a guy who wants nothing but bedroom time with you is a mere waste of time. What good is a man if he only wants to get you in bed and then find his way out of it as quickly as possible? If he’s having one-night stands with you, he’s more than likely doing it with others.

10. The overly frugal man

There is absolutely nothing wrong with saving money and finding deals. However, there is a line that should be drawn. If this man will only take you out to dinner to restaurants when he has a coupon or if you’re only allowed to order off the happy hour drink menu when wine is $5 a glass, it’s time to reconsider. Being frugal is one thing, but being cheap is a completely different trait.

11. The non-budger

He’s completely set in his ways. This guy doesn’t want to try anything new and he has no plans to make any changes to what he likes, knows, and does. Dating a man who is set in his own ways and refuses to budge will definitely lead to boredom on your part. It’ll also make for an extremely one-sided relationship.

12. The clueless man

When you ask him to make decisions he declines. He often answers questions with “nothing” or “I don’t know/care.” You ask him about his future and the slate is completely blank. Dating a guy who has no answers and has no idea what he wants is only going to be a huge headache. Save yourself the stress and avoid dating this guy.

13. The heavy drinker

There’s nothing wrong with drinking, especially when you know your limits. However, dating a guy who loves to drink and drinks almost every night will only smells like trouble..and liquor.  A man who lives to drink and drinks to live will be costly in the end. What’s the fun in getting drunk every weekend? Guys tend to act like fools when they’re drunk anyway!

14. The overly emotional man

A man who readily expresses and shows his emotions is rare to find, but an overly emotional man isn’t such a great pick. Men who are overly emotional tend to go the extreme with lots of crying and a lot of anger. Usually this men will tick at the drop of a pin. A man who has no control over his emotions isn’t usually a good guy to date.

15. The overly-controlling man

He expects you to abide by his rules, and what he says goes. He doesn’t want you to have a lot of male friends. After your first date he urges you to delete your dating profile and change your Facebook status. These are all signs of a man who is very controlling. This type of guy will only lead to a lot of trouble.

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potentials: i simply doubt the possibility...or z that the anus too smal?

And i simply doubt you read the story!

toluleke: All bad news are either from CHINA or NIGERIA. I don't disturb my self again

Lool, especially china, so much weird news

john1632: I no c any yansh pix here o.

And of what interest is a baby's yansh 2 u?

Firstly, i think his friends must have talked to his head, its not also easy being a Man, to be in dat position he is now, considering d fact that it was d other way round before, it affects his ego, his tots, actions, self esteem.. And the wife too is not helping, she just stated dat dis is her perfect husband, i see no reason why she can't give d whole salary she earns 2 d man, and let him be d man and dictate, it will ease his burdens, afterall its not like he'll mismanage it, 4rm what she stated i can conclude he is a responsible man, so y cut im off after he got a job paying far less. She's definately not sending him d right signal and message.

D best thing is for her 2 b submissive, ur husband comes first, he was dia b4 u got d job and who knows 2mao, you myt loose ur job or he gets a far far better offer, so she should act wisely, let d man dictate things, let im av access, act as if d money blongs to you both and see it that way, guess that will help, dats my 2cents!

You did beat me in posting dis, but you have 2 do a better editting!

Friendship is one of the most important relationship we could form in our lives.

Whether good or bad, our friends affect the way we think and who we are.
See some interesting and confusing facts about friendship below;

1. "We hate it when our friends become successful," Morrissey sang, but successful friends make us more successful.

2. Many romantic couples will celebrate a year or even six months together, yet many friends do not even acknowledge the milestone of a 20, 30, or 40-year friendship.

3. Parents are obsessed with whether or not their teens are with the "wrong crowd" yet rarely question whether or not they themselves are.

4. Some complain to friends that if only they were married, they'd feel less lonely. Yet friends relieve loneliness more than spouses.

5. Friends are the focal point of school for teens, yet they are rarely taught about friendship.

6. If you describe your sibling as your " best friend," you are giving her an emotional promotion. If you describe your friend as "a sister to me," you are giving her an emotional promotion.

7. The more work and the more children you have, the less time you have for friends -- but making time for friends makes you a better worker and a better parent.

8. We feel put out by a friend asking a lot of favors, yet hurt and rejected if we hear that she has started asking someone else for favors.

9. A friendless child can't learn social skills "on the job" and is thus more likely to remain friendless, while socially-skilled kids become even savvier as they navigate more and deeper relationships.

10. We feel too tired to meet up with friends, yet energized after seeing them.

http://m.naij.com/news/42560.html

Relationships, just like life, have their own stages. And these stages are like tests that check your compatibility with each other.

You may have been in several relationships in your life, and all of them may have been very different from the earlier one. But there are a few traits about every single relationship that binds all relationships along a similar path.

Wondering what relationship stage you’re in right now? Here are the 9 relationship stages that all couples go through, no matter how the love starts.

Stage #1 The infatuation stage.
This is the first stage in every relationship. It almost always starts with an intense attraction and an uncontrollable urge to be with each other. Both of you may be intensely sexually attracted to each other, or both of you may just love the cuddles and each other’s company. In this stage, both of you overlook any flaws of each other and only focus on the good sides.

Stage #2 The understanding stage.
In this stage, both of you start getting to know each other better. You have long conversations with your partner that stretches late into the night, and everything about your partner interests and fascinates you. You talk about each other’s families, exes, likes and dislikes and other innocent secrets, and life seems so beautiful and romantic.

Stage #3 The stage of disturbances.
This stage usually forces its way into a happy romance after a few months of blissful courting. Do you remember the first fight or angry disagreement you and your partner had? For the first time ever in the relationship, both of you confront each other over a conflict, even though it’s sorted out quickly.

Stage #4 The opinion maker.
In this stage, both of you create opinions about each other. As the months pass by, both of you know what to expect from each other, and you make an assumption about your partner’s commitment towards the relationship.

When these opinions and expectations about your partner differ now and then in real life, it can either leave you ecstatic or depressed.

You don’t expect your man to buy you flowers, but he does. You feel ecstatic. At the same time, you expect him to pick you up from the airport on time. But he arrives an hour later because he forgot all about picking you up. It depresses you.

Stage #5 The moulding stage.
You have your own expectations from an ideal partner. And in this stage, both of you try hard to mould each other to fit your own wants in a perfect partner. This stage is a lot about give and take, and both partners constantly try to subtly convince each other to change their behavior towards the relationship. This is a power struggle, and one that can end the relationship if both partners are domineering.

Stage #6 The happy stage.
If the relationship survives past the moulding stage, both of you may have changed equally for each other and understood each other’s expectations. In this stage, the relationship cruises along perfectly and both of you may be blissfully happy with each other.

Almost always, this is the stage when both of you feel like a perfect match. You may even decide to get engaged or get married. This happy stage is also the stage of attachment when both of you truly feel connected to each other and love each other intensely.

Stage #7 The stage of doubts.
It’s been several years since both of you have been in a relationship with each other. And somewhere along the way, doubts start to creep in. The intensity of the doubts depend on how happy both of you are in the relationship.

You start to think of your past relationships, your exes, and other prospective partners. You tie your happiness in life with your relationship. If you’re unhappy, you blame it on the relationship.

In this stage, you start comparing your relationship with other couples and other relationships. Would your relationship survive this stage? It definitely could, as long as your relationship isn’t monotonous and repetitive.

Stage #8 The sexual exploration or bust stage.
This is the stage when your sex life starts to play a pivotal role. Both your sex drives may change or one of you may get disinterested in sex.

In this stage, you either give up on passionate sex or constantly look for ways to make sex more exciting. If sexual interests start differing here, one of you may end up having an affair. But on the other hand, if you find creative ways to make sex more exciting, your relationship could get better and bring both of you a lot closer.

Stage #9 The stage of complete trust.
This is the happy stage when both of you love each other and trust each other completely. But at the same time, the unbreakable trust in each other could also turn into taking each other for granted.

In this stage, both of you know the direction of the relationship and both of you are completely happy with each other and find it easy to predict each other’s behavior and decisions. But with stability in love comes the urge to take each other for granted.

By: Elizabeth Athur

So hillarious a thread!

Thread created in 2010 and now in 2013, we still av same Mr. Cork, same lines, different culprits.

Sanboy needs 2 c dis

freecocoa: When I started going through this thread I promised myself I won't comment on it but the way you were crying about being banned made me check out the threads you were banned for creating.

Tbh if I were in the position, I'd not only ban you, I'd even ban you IP, ban your fingers, ban your empty skull and everything 'bannable', I'd really and sincerely want to make sure you never post on any social media again. Dude you are disgusting, you are sick, you need psychiatric evaluation, you should not be allowed to come near human beings cos you are worse than a useless animal, inshort you are despicable.

I know there are sick, dark twisted people like you all over the world so I'm not surprised but what baffles me is that you have the guts to even defend your perversion, the fact that you are not ashamed of it is a cause for concern, to think that you are openly fighting to be allowed to pollute everywhere with your sickness is sickening.

Just imagine the kind of things you post and argue to be romantic, my god! Please get help urgently and I hope you don't go near children o, fecking hediot.

Sexkillz you people should look for a way to keep filth like him off this forum, he is just too sick and dirty.

Ezioku! I L♥√ع evry part of dis post, calling a spade a spade!

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Hlo guyz! Tis bin a yl, guess am back! My shout out goes 2 all ma pals, buddiez...

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author=-Mr Cork-]..Mr Cork
<<<<<<Official Bad boy..nyanshed over 672
babes! [/quote]dia names pls, and the number of times so we can add ur name to d hall of fame!

~Sissy~:
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Thanks!

ogugua88: No problem.

*speeds away in mod car*

dis got me cracked up! hope ur mod car do have a break, do not mistakenly jam Mr.cork or Reality 101.....or else you'll av a story 2 tell

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Anyone here ?
[/quote]yeah! tis bin a yl, seeing sm new monikers in hia. u all wlcom into da house, jst a brief info, we are all frends hia, no fighting, and we only av one bad guy...Mr.c**k, lol!

Dats wickedness!

wow! love wan tin tin. Me sef go love oo, waiting 4 sm1 2 sweep me off ma foot, and d guy will be ma date on NL 4 a week.

Wow! So happy sanboy is back! missd ya so much! @ mr.cork try again later, no one believes you.

Mods dominique and sissy kindly pls recommend for homepage https://www.nairaland.com/1355132/30-health-tips-everyone-must

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mr_man: Reminds me of my neighbours 6yr old daughter who stole her mum's 12k. She bought sweets for all her friends and when the money refused to finish, she dumped the rest into the waste bin. She spent 410naira before she got tired.

Lmao! Could that be true?

LAGOS — A three-storey building at 29, Oloto Street, Ebutte Metta, Yaba Local Council Development Area, LCDA, Lagos, yesterday collapsed killing no fewer than seven persons with 14 others injured.

A one-year-old baby, a couple, identified as Bukky and Lanre, and a pregnant woman, a nursing mother, Iya AbdulBarki and her son were all pulled out of the debris dead.

Also, an 80-year-old Alhaji Ganiu Salami lost his life and has since been buried according to Islamic rites, while his daughter-in-law sustained injury.

Vanguard gathered that the 14 persons who sustained injuries when the building caved in at about 2:00 am, have all been admitted at the General Hospital, Lagos Island.

It was also learnt that the owner of the building identified as Alhaji  Dimeji, who also owns two other distressed buildings is on the run.

Mr. Ufuoma Ekpere, a resident who alerted other residents about the imminent collapse said: “I came back from work at about 11:00 pm. But on getting home, my wife was asleep. So I had to go to the kitchen myself to prepare what I wanted to eat. On getting to the kitchen, I discovered that some rubbles from the building had fallen off. But I didn’t take it serious. So I went to bed.

“At about 2:05 am, I woke up and discovered the entire building was cracking. While trying to alert the landlord, I discovered that the crack was getting wider. Then, I alerted other tenants and rescued my family. Immediately we came out, the building caved in.”

Community rescue team

Mr. Hakeen Adeyemi, a resident who also helped in the rescue operation, said: “A large per cent of the recovered bodies were women.

“The baby was recovered in the company of his two siblings who, however, survived and have been admitted in the general hospital. Those rescued were rushed to the hospital while some died before help could come their way.”

Another resident involved in the rescue operation, Mr. Sikiru Azeez, said: “If the equipment had come early, the number of casualities would have reduced. I know this because I was involved in the rescue operation since 2:10 am. I had to use my rechargeable lantern to search for the victims. And I assisted in recovering three bodies and rescued two persons.”

Families of the deceased

Sulaimon Shiaba, a brother to Bukky, who died in the collapse, said his sister was in her early 30s and traded in local and foreign fabrics.

“Bukky was sleeping in the house with her husband, Lanre and Juwon, my brother. She rented the apartment four years ago. And when she rented the place, I was her guarantor and there wasn’t any crack on the building but all we could remove from the building were her cloths and jewellery.”

I thought rapture had taken place

Another occupant who simply gave his name as Oluwaremilekun said:  “I had just finished watching a movie and was trying to doze off when I heard some cracks followed by a loud noise. At that point, I thought rapture had taken place and I started praying for mercy.

“Before I knew it,  I discovered that the floor was sinking and thought I was going to hell. I started shouting ‘have mercy Lord!’ Before I knew it, people started crying and shouting. I can’t tell how I managed to come out before I realised it was the building that collapsed. I am grateful to God for sparing my life because I am not better that those that died.”

A 28-year-old man identified as Olayinka Mogaji who resided in the ill-fated building said he was on their third floor apartment with his mother, his sister and a friend when they heard a loud noise, but before they could ascertain what was happening, the building came crumbling down on them.

“The walls fell on my mother before she could run out. It took the intervention of neighbours to save her. I thank God everyone in our apartment survived. Three of our neighbours on the second floor were not that lucky, as they all died.”

NEMA confirms

Confirming the incident, the information officer of the National Emergency Management Agency, NEMA, Mr. Ibrahim Farinloye said: “We received the alert about the collapsed building at about 2:35 am and we arrived at the scene 10 minutes later. Immediately we arrived, seven bodies were recovered.

“Among the seven bodies were one-year-old child, three women and five men were rescued from the debris.

“Affected were those who lived on the first and ground floors. It would have reduced if it wasn’t at night. But despite that we responded swiftly. Uptil 5:00 am, none of the agency had tuned up. If there are more people trapped in the building, we will know.”

NEMA spokesman arrested

A mild drama unfolded at the scene of the collapsed building after spokesperson for NEMA, Mr Ibrahim Farinloye, was manhandled and arrested by policemen attached to the Rapid Response Squad, RRS.

His arrest, as gathered, was on the order of a senior officer of RRS, following Farinloye’s  attempt to  prevent the policemen from chasing away some residents who were involved in rescue operation before the arrival of rescue agents.

Men of the RRS arrived the scene at noon while NEMA and other rescue operators were still rescuing trapped victims from the debris. The policemen went into action by first sending away residents who were helping out. Journalists at the scene were also sent out.

At that point, Farinloye was said to have stopped the policemen from sending the youths away, explaining that they had been helping out in the rescue operation even before their arrival.

An unconfirmed report, however, quoted Farinloye as saying the senior  RRS officer who gave the directive for the residents to leave the scene was stupid. Apparently angry at the utterance, the officer reportedly  ordered Farinloye’s arrest.

Attempt to prevail on the officer failed as Farinloye was bundled out of the scene.

His arrest temporarily marred the rescue operation, as NEMA officials protested the arrest of their boss and thereafter, abandoned the scene.

Farinloye, as gathered, was taken to Denton police station where efforts to effect his release at about 4pm failed, as report had it that  the Commander of the RRS, Mr Akeem Odumosu, insisted that Farinloye would be charged to court today.

Not even entreaties by the chairman of Lagos Mainland  Local Government, Oladele Olakanye to Odumosu could change his mind on Farinloye’s release.

However, Vanguard learnt  that Farinloye was realsed at about 5.50 pm

http://www.vanguardngr.com/2013/07/7-die-14-injured-in-lagos-building-collapse/

lollar j :
at least he could have started a business with d money a lá Dangote

Lool @ start business

buchito1: Nawa ooo! All dis journalist dat write dis tinz ehn! Dey don dey lie 2 much
When i was 10 yrs old i neva knew wat a sport bicycle was...I neva even knew wat 45 gand was... Abeg sofrri sofrri dey lie!

I don't think its a lie, when you were ten years old do you have a girlfriend? I guess d answer is no!
Its not a new thing amidst children of that age group nowadays.
The fact is change is inevitable! The world in itself is changing and very competitive, we are in a jet age, pple are desperate 2 av money whateva d means not even dependent on age. Hope you understand better now!

A 10-year-old boy (name withheld) has been arrested by the Jigawa Command of the Nigeria Security and Civil Defence Corps (NSCDC) over alleged theft of N500,000.

Mr Muhammad Gidado, the NSCDC Commandant in the state, told the News Agency of Nigeria (NAN) in Dutse on Thursday that the suspect was arrested on Wednesday in Kiyawa Local Government area of the state.

Gidado said that the money was stolen from the suspect's mother residing in Jahun Local Government, adding that it was a contribution by some of the residents, which was kept in the woman's custody.

He said the boy was arrested following reports by members of the community on how the suspect was spending money extravagantly.

The commandant stated that a new sports bicycle worth N45,000 and N250,000 was recovered from him.

Gidado said that investigation into the matter was continuing.

http://pmnewsnigeria.com/2013/07/11/boy-10-arrested-over-n-5m-theft/?utm_source=feedburner&utm_medium=feed&utm_campaign=Feed%3A+PmNewsNigeria+(PM+News+Nigeria

http://www.vanguardngr.com/2013/07/boy-10-in-nscdc-custody-over-alleged-n500000-theft/

http://m.naij.com/news/39859.html

badoist: Nice and cool, learnt some new things. Front page material!

†нªηкs!