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OlabodeTECH:
Hey guys!

I truly wish I could be anonymous with this funny but troubling challenge.... lol

My family recently moved to another part of the country and the kids changed school. We've all settled down but my daughter is yet to.

She's having a hard time making friends in her new school. She just started Primary class and daily complaint from her is that her peers call her 'a Baby' because she isn't chubby like them.

The other kids appear to be what Yorubas call "Agric"

Please note my daughter isn't skinny. She eats well and has a good stature/height for her age.

She is very confident, smart and outspoken but I feel scared she may start experiencing inferiority complexity at this tender age. No evidence of bullying though based on my discussions with her.

What can I do?

Xj2020:
He is a very principled man. Very religious and doesn't play with his God been a devoted Muslim. Extremely rich and bless with four grown up children with the second of his children getting married in a month time. He retired from the bank 2 years ago having risen to the pinnacle of his career in the banking industry having served in different capacities for almost 35 years.
Yes, the wife is uncultured and ill-mannered. He knows already and has been managing her all these years.
He is presently in court seeking to divorce his wife and has vowed that nothing would stop him from divorcing his wife.
My question is what could possibly make a man thrown in the towel and walk out of his marriage after so many years together? I will like to know.

Klass99:
I agree, but in cases where we don't know the full story or details about a family's situation, but people make all kinds of assumptions and jump to conclusions about them - it is extremely annoying.

What in her narrative even suggests that the child was spoilt and not well trained? There's nothing to suggest that, yet people will open mouth waaa to criticize what they have no facts about.

Is it the educational training overseas which they provided and his return to start misbehaving in his parent's home that motivates their erroneous claims about the parents?

Can you see how silly they sound and look, when they go on the attack with baseless criticisms?

Klass99:
It really doesn't matter where they (children) are trained. Pikin wey no wan get sense, no go get sense and sometimes you can do everything right as a parent, train them in the way to go and they still turn out to be a real nightmare. Because, they have a mind and a will of their own, like her son is displaying.

@ OP, I'm sorry about what you're experiencing, you and hubby are doing what you know best. Maybe it's time to try a different approach? Though I honestly don't know any other approach short of military like force to reset your son's brain - I don't even know what I am saying sef.

I'm not a parent but I feel you, nothing breaks a parent's heart like a child's continuous rebellion, considering all the sacrifices you make for their sake.

Modified to add: As usual they are blaming the mother for spoiling her child and not training him, when they don't even know that for a fact. How are some people so naïve and oblivious of the reality that children will exercise their God-given free will, to do what pleases them, irrespective of quality home training.

Most of you criticizing the OP know the 10 Commandments and were taught right from wrong, good and evil by your parents or the Sunday school teachers your parents drove you to. But, when you wanted to steal, lie or have sex/fornicate you still did anyway and even rebelled at your parents in other heart breaking ways. Will you now claim your parents spoilt you and didn't train you as well?

ITK people I hail o!


Your points are alright but I want you to know that in some cases, the fault is from the parents as a result of their negligence.

Klass99:
It really doesn't matter where they (children) are trained. Pikin wey no wan get sense, no go get sense and sometimes you can do everything right as a parent, train them in the way to go and they still turn out to be a real nightmare. Because, they have a mind and a will of their own, like her son is displaying.

@ OP, I'm sorry about what you're experiencing, you and hubby are doing what you know best. Maybe it's time to try a different approach? Though I honestly don't know any other approach short of military like force to reset your son's brain - I don't even know what I am saying sef.

I'm not a parent but I feel you, nothing breaks a parent's heart like a child's continuous rebellion, considering all the sacrifices you make for their sake.

Modified to add: As usual they are blaming the mother for spoiling her child and not training him, when they don't even know that for a fact. How are some people so naïve and oblivious of the reality that children will exercise their God-given free will, to do what pleases them, irrespective of quality home training.

Most of you criticizing the OP know the 10 Commandments and were taught right from wrong, good and evil by your parents or the Sunday school teachers your parents drove you to. But, when you wanted to steal, lie or have sex/fornicate you still did anyway and even rebelled at your parents in other heart breaking ways. Will you now claim your parents spoilt you and didn't train you as well?

ITK people I hail o!

BlizEmmy:
Is my mom's hard earned money she saved with me after selling her house, pending when she is able to get another better house. I have not even eaten 1 pin frm that money. That's what this man is spending

Karlman:
I called my senior bros yesterday and he listed all that culture demands from me which included Goats and yams and palm wine and beer...three big goats to be precise and each from 35 to 40 k

Softboy001:
....life has been difficult to say the least, ever since I moved to lagos after finishing my nysc in March, I thought hoped things will be better but it only became...
Well let's leave that. I just want advice, that's why I am here.am currently squatting with my elder brother and his fiance in a room and palor self con. They are getting married by December. I have alot of burden to them, they don't need to tell me I know. But what will a man do. I forgot to add am 27 years old. I studied mechanical engineering (HND). My hands are really tied right now. I left a crazy job(30k/months) that I was using to sustain my self. Don't judge me, am not lazy. I left because of security reasons. Plus It was a slave kind of work. Presently am hooked. I don't know where and what to do. I currently don't have up to 5k in my account self. As I no gree do yahoo aka jazz. Na wetin my eyes dey see be this.

...any way my gist is getting to long. There is an man that has always been a father to me. He helped me through school. I really thank him. As in he has done alot. The man just like me for no reason.and has been helping me since I was young. Anyway he called me and then after explaining to him how things has been for him.

He called again after a month. He said he has a deal for me.

The deal is that, he wants to sponsor me to go to canada. I forgot to add, he stays in Austria. Him and his family. So the deal is about 2.5 million naira, so he said he going to work everything for me that includes international passport,visa, airplane ticket, accommodation and also the package includes work also. but the deal is that. He will pay about. 850k. To get me there first. Then when am there and have started working I'll pay 1.8 million to the agency $4k.

So that's the deal. The 850k he is just using that to help me.actually he himself he paying 650k to the agency and giving me 200k as pocket money. Then when I get there I can work and give the agency the remaining 1.85 million.

So please guys, what to do you think. My fears is going to a country I don't know anyone at all, there is so much risk involved canada far o and will I be able to pay up the money. I don't want to owe gbese that I can't pay back.

What do you guys think?
Should I go ahead? Or remain in naija?

I have so much fears, that's why am scared of going, what if I go broke?

I have from now till Monday to decide, the processing is starting on Monday