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M M M:
op

u can buy luv anywere in d market.

I WISH THAT WHERE TRUE!!!
THE MOVIE STARS WOULD BE THE HAPPIEST AND MOST MARRIED IN DA WHOLE WIDE WORLD!! HAHAHA!

Mrs.Chima:
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hmmm, i know ur kind and im sure  alot of 'em populate youtube and although i have very strong opinions about ur type, i will keep it and save that for another day when i have more energy and in the mood for abstract feminist debates and the need for those discarded believes by white women that is now being used to control american, black women, college grads whose only goal in life is to destroy the black family, so
yes -some people do actually care, maybe not u, but people do!

you may think you have bull detector but like most coloured glasses and those who wear 'em, people who r full of bulls tend to see bulls everywhere

just saying. seen

Mr, Cork:
$tunna (m).  bro, 4get black women unless u want hypatension, trusss me.    been there done that!! 

you sound like some of my boys here who keep saying im just about to make the biggest mistake of my life,

i have had good love life always so, it makes me even more worried n family pressure is totally out of control now, ? not sure what to do at all, once any lady gets a visa to my country here, unlike europe, there is no way to take it back from her, and when i go to the gym, men whose heart have been crushed warn me not to even marry, just have one or two kids and pay child support. but i dont wanna be alone and have kids somewhere and just pay to care for them unless i have no choice but i do have a choice now

iice:
[color=#9900ff]Hmmm fishy.

Anyway. . .you marry you want to marry or in some cases who you're told to marry.[/color]

so, is this a standard response or is it sumthing that i said or did not say that made u say the whole thang sounds fishy??

how helpful in ur opinion was ur opinion

pls be a mirror n let me see what i said wrong that made my topic or request for advice fishy, aii, waiting to hear ur true opinion, assuming for a second that i am serious, aii

Sir-fly:
white gurls are only for sex, yes u should go home and get married to a cultured naija baby.

really, how do u figure?? pls explain

wow, i have not responded to anyone after i promised to do so, sorry guys, i was leaving home and since i have forgotten my password, i wanted to request a new one so that i can log on from my iphone but 8request later no link for a new password,

so here i am only now able to respond

Jah forbid bad thing,

i was always against this but since i don't know it all and other people may be right, i'm seriously considering to go back to naija and marry a lady as a lot of people have advised after the end of my last relationship.

i believe one can find a good woman anywhere and i have been loved intensely by women where i live but was not ready to settle down so they left!
i had a very serious relationship the last time i went to naija and my cousin who was also there and was just devoiced got a girl and married her and they r together now with kids but after two years of telling how happy he was with new madam, he now telling me all women r the same that he was wrong for advising me to go to naija all this years and all his advice now is for me to marry a beautiful madam so that i can be able to bear the attitude when it comes! lolz

is there something i need to know about black women as mates??
any experiences good or bad from people in the West?
what about naija men who sabii these women well well, any advice?

i know for a fact that white women are different from black women but that does not mean one is better but just different period. am used to white women and understands them and i'm not afraid of devoice but don't wanna wast time and money and stress to go home and bring a girl who come to try to show me attitude later!

should i ask for a prenuptial??

i need help and opinions shap shap and if more info is needed about me pls feel free to ask and i will do my best to provide it to help y'all give me advice!

i was always against this and i must let u know that the people who know me say even if i get a naija woman who stays with me till the end of time, i might pay a great price of unhappiness for it becos all i have dated is white women and they r the opposite of black women and some of these men r married to black women themselves, !

but im a black man y can i not be happy with a black woman if i really really try??

make una help O! b4 i go complicate my life more and im older and dont have time to be marrying and devoicing all over the place O!!

@ diggle

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SERIOUSLY WAT IS WRONG WITH NIGERIAN BOYS

[color=Black]I was gonna ask the same question, Kai what happened to the days of our fathers and grand fathers when men were men and took bold steps in relationships. Just like America, it seems women are taking over relationships in Naija they make bolder decisions while the guys r now weaker, is this the result of globalization or the end of the world effect?

[/color][quote][/quote]well i thought american girls where out of control until i spoke to naija girls and could not believe my ears what come out of their mouths:

1) one said to me when i asked her what kind of man she wanted to love, that she wanted a man who knew when to shot up!!!!

2) another told me that she had a year planned for me to marry her and bring her to america and that if i had a different plan than she did- she wanted to let me know that even if that my plan worked out at the and, that she will still be unhappy at the end!!

they both have university degrees and i was like, r u ladies for real or just retarded, you will not talk to me me like that, !! wtf lolz

true story
oh, plus they say to me, u must go to church!! hahahaha

another good guy fighting a lost battle with a bad guy, !?

trust me, your bad guy friend will win this fight over and over again and she will always chose the bad guy over you,

be wise now or pay later with endless heartache from this girl; besides, why do u want ur boy/s Ex, hur??

smh

respect the p.u 5 5 y b4 it swallows ya, k

now lil Miss,
tell me, do u see how hard it is to stop a simple thread you started on a news group??
if you derailed ur own life by a simple mistake, it will be way harder to stop it ie a bad marriage! lolz

hope this helps and gives ya something to think about

@190

9jafetish is male

checked her IP

Her name is USMAN ADAMU

im not sure what you have just done is very smart becos she already told us her parents pay for her internet service, so it will be safe to assume that the service is on her father's name, so, unless u have a better reasoning to surpport ur hypothesis, it should be discarded!

just saying

lolz

she actually does sound like a clueless 19 year old from one of the advanced countries, they drop out of college to get pregnant or married only for the guy to bolt after a couple of years, n they just then chose a second baby father and become welfare queens!! lolz

words like its my parents who buy my internet shows this clueless-ness, but sound plausible!
at a much younger age, i had a girlfriend who dropped out of university to get married because im the only one who cares about school school school, now that im gone, hell, she may as well just quit and get married: she warned me about this reality but i did not take it seriously but she however did took such action, so, yes western young girls do pull stunts like this young lady is talking about! her boredom and suicide talk r also clues n her 'time hortims' talk was what 1st alerted me that she is a western gurl who have ties to canada

i hope the parents let go a lil bit so the rope dont get too tight and break
wish u love and good luck and just remember always that it will get better real soon, so that if u change ur mind to getting married again tomorrow - u will have something to think about - it will get better soon if u stay single for another 3years, k boyfriend is okay too but bring him home to ur parents and use protection so u dont get pregnant!

i know u said its done but im sure when u get real bored or upset again with ur parents, the idea may pop up again but i hope not,

im sure there is kids help line in England that you can call if ur parents r being very unreasonable, just to talk or ask for advice.
you will be very glad in 3years if u dont get married now and yes, im aware of ur claim about the cancer situation in ur family, if ur mom is still alive, then u will be fine too and by the time u r 40 there will be better medications and treatment for cancer then, so while i believe that it is hard to know what u know now, its not wise to live in fear or act out of fear, k lil miss!

everything will work out great in the end and again good luck

the worst airport or thieves-port on earth!!

1)when i was checking out of that place once, a lady i told i have no more local currency to give demanded i hand her my BTA as she put it i dey forbid dollars even if u dont have any more naira to give me??

2)a man said the last time he does not accept coins after i gave her the remaining 7 Euros i8 had on me!

3)a tout grabbed my biggest laugauge at the arrival lounge there once even though he looked like he had never let that land one,

4)the agents of the European Airlines i bought my ticket from tried to force me to pay hundreds of Dollars after people begging for money made me miss my flight, even though i payed extra for an open ticket and had my American destination reconfirm my ticket for the nest day, the agents told me, welcome to nigeria and we promise you u will be stranded here in nigeria for weeks if you dont pay up and we dont care if your american agents have reconfirmed u or not!! they only relented when i asked for their full names and employee numbers, and they fear for their jobs and changed their tunes after 24hrs of being stranded in the airport,
people who work for my airlines turned against me who was their customer??
my agent in american was shocked when told the story and felt so sorry for me and insisted i should have had no problem since i payed extra for an open ticket, but i was like this people think i was gonna just hand over my hard earned dollars to them or what - fools!!

so what im saying is that im not surprised at all at the above information about the airport's state of lack of care or repairs since i remember the info screens looked like they have been set on fire and someone said they have been that way for many years, !

no shame

@ Mr richeard10

The father has every right to cry out if his son life is in danger,haba even prisoners can not be killed anyhow in prison,i am one who doesnt tolerate corruption but like i have always said 80 percent of the people writing here will do worse than bankole,we need to a total overhaul of our moral system as a nation,my staff are always trying to cheat me out of my money infact most of you guys writing here if you meet this bankole in person will ask for his own share.the father has every right to cry out

abeg make u be quiet and dont come here and presume u know us all! ur workers want to cheat u, but r u not one of those useless employers who rather than pay fair living wage to their employees, instead spend all the revenues from the company on a 2nd wife, a 3rd car they dont need and a 4th house and a 5th girlfriend

coming here to call everyone a thief just because you are a thief urself and defending an accused thief not becos you think he is not guilty but becos you think the rest of us are thieves too?? which school of logic u go??

yeye son from a useless father!! BANK OLE!!
How many Nigerian youths go and die from HIV they got from prostituting themselves for pennies overseas and yet, how many die on their attempt to escape the country you and your son and people like you have held hostage to ur greed for generations now, hur?

they wan kill ur anointed son(?) - foolish father!!

you and people like u have Bastardize the mind-set of our people due to ur endless, insatiable, shameless greed and the only lower level of existence than unadulterated greed is cowardice! pls cry us a river, even b4 ur son dies!!

AS A WOMAN, EVERY TIME U TRY TO TELL YOURSELF THAT THERE IS NO DIFFERENCE BETWEEN MEN AND WOMEN, THAT WE R ALL THE SAME; ASK YOURSELF THE LAST TIME YOU HEAR A MAN COMPLAIN BITTERLY ABOUT NOT FINDING A SUCCESSFUL WOMAN TO MARRY AS WOMAN DO COMPLAIN INCESSANTLY ABOUT, !

men marry down as a rule but women marry up, so keep this in mind always when as a woman u program ur life to run like that of a man! many tears will be shared by u over such life, men and women are not the same, and oh, the american lady saying to have ur career, kids and then the man will come - its a lie! you think its hard to get a man as a single 30year old, come to american and see women with 3kids from 3baby daddy/s - not even a daily church visit will help u then!

[color=Black]OP your friend is just being scared of financially indenpendent women because he knows how scary they can be.I know this guy who depends on his woman for everything and this woman takes pleasure slapping him in public if he does something wrong and he also washes her pants and bra and cooks for her.Nigerian women can turn into monsters when they are the ones bringing the daily bread into the home[/color]

im from a different society and 1st thought i would not comment until i saw the above:
120k is not a lot of money but it appears to be in naija but her lifestyle still does not add up because its strange that a boss would dash her a car and so she should tell us how long she work there and what her educational background is to earn such a gift at such age,
men used to make lots of money and go find a younger woman of lesser status to marry because youth matters to us men more than a woman's worth in cash! But here in North America, women now make as much money or more than a lot of men and then set out at the age of 35 to look for men who still make more money than they do but there is a problem:
1) men who make lots of money at age 35 will wanna spend it on a much younger woman
2) these women r humans and want to control a man if she makes as much money or more than the man and the man who makes as much money as such a woman will say hell no! and finally,
3) these women now generally end up with jobless men because they can easily control or think they can control these men as successful men do not care about a woman's money and therefore will go for youth,

these r the reasons her and socalled successful women like her r having problems, us successful men do not want or care about ur money, we prefer youth and u will never hear us complain that a young beautiful wife who loves us has no money of her own - its not an issue, not enuff education- not an issue we will give her more; but for a woman, she was built differently but now wants to act like a man -get cash and try to buy a husband, so u will have to settle somehow for a man who did not make it or who is yet to make it,
there r 6billion people on earth so men r usually not intimidated by women instead they run when they think u r not sexy or they think u r somehow shady
my sister, if u r a young professional woman thinking after u have made all the money u will then find a husband ur age and who makes more money than u still, remember that such a man will want a much more younger and less successful version of u because its the way we r built to think n act, youth youth youth, a successful man will chose a younger lady over ur cash

nuff said

On a serious note, finding the answer to ur question is same as finding the answer to the secrets of this life! as a lot of the responders have said, men and women are not much different in what we want and as others have also pointed out most of ur view in this life are coloured by your experiences and your experiences are as a result of the choices you make in life as an adult!

a lot of black women go after bad boys as seen on BET and then complain bitterly later in life as to where all the good guys have gone when they actively and have routinely rejected decent men as being square during the best years of their lives!

AS A GUY ALREADY TRIED TO TELL YOU, YOU ARE NOT ASKING THE RIGHT QUESTION! YOU WANTED TO KNOW WHAT THE KINDS OF MEN YOU ARE ATTRACTED TO WANT!!

if you watch too many Nigerian movies and r looking for the way we r as leading men in those movies, its gonna take u several life times to find one, but if u r looking for a considerate, effective man to share ur life and love and the challenges  of life with, then we are everywhere!

, always remember to be nice to even men that are not ur type since the harshness you show those guys will be re payed to the girls who do like those kinds of guys and that way, other girls will be nice to the kinds of guys they may not want but realizing another woman ie you will have to deal with the consequences later if those men are treated like hacks who should be ashamed of their existence as humans! just pay it forward  and love will one day come ur way too

, are you really sure you wanna know??
We want Power, lots of Money and lots of sex without any responsibilities!

There, i said it!!:-P

there are basically two kinds of women in this world; Mary the Mother of jesus and mary Magdalene the prostitute!!
problems come whenever a man tries to turn Magdalene into jesus mom! its never gonna happen - ever!

a man can never turn a hoe into a house wife, because thats essentially what u want if u wanna go to a high-end hotel for free sex from women from lower economic status than u r from so that at the end of the day u go back to ur riches and they to their miserable lives, it dont work that way!

sex is never free, it never has been and never will be, sooner or later, someone has to pay!
once u accept this truth, then u can play and be happy!
i can sympathize with the guys when it comes to naija girls becos they are very bold about it and it can be quite shocking when it comes to the way they ask u for money if u have never experienced it b4!
examples abound but those who have experienced it knows, so no need to go into details, n it dont matter where u may meet them, high-end hotels or introduction by a Cousin from New York, same shit

it is what it is

Gurls all over the world love bad boys,

it's only two ways, either you are spending your money on same girls or they are spending their money on you!
if u want 50/50, then get a girlfriend or marry

your lives in nigeria is modelled after that of life in north America so it most closely reflects the very worse in America! but its different in Europe for various reasons!
you sound like a playboy and every playboy knows beautiful gals come with a price! some black girls here in america will ask u if u drive b4 they even decide weather to say hello to u or not!

white people mostly have sex for fun becos they have long moved past the daily struggles of what to eat so, the attitude is different
at some future date, ordinary girls in abuja will be able to go to the places u go to and not needing u or men to take them there and buy them drinks and when that day and power that comes with it arrives, then the situation u r describing in ur post will greatly reduce, but some girls will continue since they have been told all their lives they are beautiful, they see themselves as objects to be sold and bought by the highest bidder, nothing will change that, no amount of gripping will! lolz

well, hello people
, i think a lot of people here already have made the most points that needs to be made!
if you live like a baller or wanna live like one, you gwan have fans, and you must bring up their standard to urs or they'll demand for it!

you are only able to change ur behaviour not those of others, that's if u don't like wut u see
go out looking like gold and you will attract gold diggers

, and oh, it's not only in Abuja - black kids in Toronto refuse to go to school so they work all week selling drugs or working minimum wage jobs to buy a $250 bottle service on a FridayNight Club and have 5 girls or 6 girls who themselves are pretty university students to party with!

its even worse now with the divorced 45year olds former Sub-Urban  housewives who have 19year old daughters partying next door and they themselves only wanna hang out with 27year old construction worker dudes with the 3 or 4 bottles on the table - price tag for those{?}$700 t0 $800 or your N120000 plus
but i understand, complaining is also a part of the game since u will be back for those gals another time still so, have fun and be safe! it's ur time!
rock-stars and thieves and kings and ballers have had beautiful women throughout time and it cost money! be happy that u can afford it!