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Tymax:
In this country, most times when a gal wants to get married, her mother will ask her to bring the names of her boyfriends for prayer so that the prophet or seer will choose one. Imagine! They have legalized it! On her birthday, you will see different cakes from different guys. Each cake saying "happy birthday dear".

In my uni days, babes could never go broke; especially fine ones. They pimped their rooms like no man's business.

Gals have turned this thing into a viable business. What do they invest in? Soap, cream, makeup dazzall.

Well, Chris Brown has summarized it in a song.

Thats it bro, our parents indirectly teach and promote promiscuity.

And this tin dosnt stop easily even afta marriage.

Veneto81:
Who is Nigeria's greatest Number 9.




I think is Kanu Nwankwo ?

I dont know the best way to respond to your question Without hurting your feeling

Was Kanu a number 9?

Apart from the age group, U17 and U23 triumphs, can you think of any other thing Kanu did for the National team?

How many goals did Kanu scored for the national team?

Are you aware that Kanu Never scored a goal at the Nations cup?

Was Kanu a better number 9 in the national team than Yakubu, Obafemi Martins, Ike, Agali, Ikpeba, Ideye, Aghahowa and Emenike?

I think you should apologize to Yekini, Ikpeba, Emenike, Martins and Aghahowa.

If you are so young that you didnt watch Yekini and Ikpeba, didnt you watch Aghahowa and Emenike?

People like you will ask if Balloteli was the best number 9 one day.

The question i always have for women is this: Why is it hard for you to stay consistent to your fantasies.

If a guy of 22 asks a gal of 26 out, haaa, na wahala o, she would tell him how far she is from his class. She will turn him down in a disrespective manner most times, some might even go home tell their friends, laugh over it, cry about it. The point is, most of these gals reject and most times insult and disrespect younger men because, to them, they are not in the same league, they are not on the same level or equal wavelength and its un-African.

But 12 years later when this guy is 34 and she is 38, the same lady would say age is just a number, she would say love is what matters.

Most of them come to terms with the realities of life only when they cross 35 and jst like Ara they end of forgetting the desireable and accepting the available.

I pray soyinka or Chris okotie do not read this.

You possess the ability to wake Chinua Achebe from death

Why wud you want to destroy people's relationships, Pls leave gals alone

She only echoed what i have said for the Umpteenth time, any lady who destroys anoda woman's marriage will not have a happy marriage. If you make anoda woman miserable by distracting her husband, karma will catch up wit you.

I have come to realize that not everyone was destined to get married, some people have no business with marriage bt force themselves or were forced into it (by parents or the society).

Anyone who ranks his/her career ahead of the marriage, anyone who fails to fulfil his/her primary responsibilities in marriage, anyone who has the mindset of depriving the partner of wateva by every definition should have stayed single and would be better off being single.

Some people evidently refuse to draw the line between bf/gf relationship and marriage.

I also think our parents (the mums) failed in their responsibility of passing on virtues and morals to this generation, and that is echoed in the way most mothers of this age and time reason and act. Compare the way they dress, the way they handle issues, the way they stand with men toe to toe with yester-generation. Its getting out of hand.

How could you name these players among the greatest players that ever graced the premier league, haba

Peter Beardsley
David silva
Joe Hart
Scott Parker
Kevin Phillips
Tim Howard
Pepe Reina
David Batty

I think Balotelli and sanago shd make the list too

Im nt sure i saw Robin Van persie on the list

History has shown us that some gals prefer bad boys (just the way some gals like bad gals) but honestly i like it when these gals lament like Jeremiah. Please how do you even explain it that you prefer what u brand as being bad. The same gals at some point wud say all guys are animals, they complain ( or conceal) of abuse and molestation.

Isnt it better to go for a confident (i dont mean rude) and purpose-driven guy? Most of the logical things you want in the so called "bad boys" is enveloped in the word "confidence".

If you prefer something you called "bad" isnt it an indication that something is wrong that needs attention?

Ukutsgp:
That is the question. Is it possible for someone's destiny to be altered or truncated or not? What is even destiny?

Most chrsitians do not belive in destiny but muslims do.

Christians beliv you can decide wat u want in life. But let me quote a portion of the bible Ecclesiastes 6: 10

New living translation (NLT)

""Everything has already been decided. It was known long ago what each person would be. So there’s no use arguing with God about your destiny.""

The Message

""Whatever happens, happens. Its destiny is fixed.
You can’t argue with fate""

Living Bible

""All things are decided by fate; it was known long ago what each man would be. So there’s no use arguing with God about your destiny""

This verse and psalm 139 shd give you an idea of what destiny and fate is.

However, it can be altered. The moment a child is born, the devil through his instruments do everything possible to truncate or alter the fulfillment of his destiny. Remember Job, what later happened in his life wasnt part of God's plan for him. It was on one of those occassions they gather to celebrate that the devil asked for permission from God to try him of his faith and sincerity to God.
Have you ever thought of what God meant when he said "" pray without season"".

You need to guard your destiny as much as you can lest you give the enemy the futile ground to determine your destiny.

Marriage has become much like calculus dis days, people live through it will logic, as a matter of fact, when that butterfly feeling or that organic chemistry we now view as love expires, something will see you through. Most of the married people you see around might be honest enough to verify this.

In other words, there are so many other things to look out for when considering marriage, love is just one of them.

With the passage of time, i have come to realize that when a partner start telling u the reasons why a relationship wont work, jst take ur mind off him/her. Most of these lines are familiar things they use

I cant think of speaking to a lady while she is with her friends, i wil rather wait until she is alone.

Ladies can be comical most times, her response and decisions then will be based on how she wud impress her friends

I like this part "Love isn't that butterfly feelings you have. Love is
all about making wise decision on who you'd
commit your heart to in love. This will determine
your peace of mind and happiness, now and in the
future. Look before you leap!"

Love has become one of the most confusing source of debate, people never agree abt wat the true meaning of love is, the "butterfly feeling" is what people describe when they talk abt love

uzolexis:
Yes it's a no no. What's the point of staying with someone i'm not attracted to. I would end up cheating on him so it's better I don't even go there at all.

I dnt understand hw people come up with this monumental demonic equation of " if i marry someone im not attracted to or someone i dont love, i will cheat on him"

Iv heard it so many times from ladies, hw do u create an imaginary avenue for cheating in ur future marriage, where do u gals get that orientation from?

This is getting out of hand now.

Almighy Yakubu will be back in the national team soon, he should score bags of goals against congo and RSA. Oh yakubu

If Nigeria will not qualify abeg dey should postpone it. It is better for Africa football

And he said he is 22, haaaa

A player who was the highest goal scorer in the Nigeria league in 2009, a league where it is difficult to find a player below 30years of age

Musa, anyway i like dat ur 2nd goal

Between Ronaldo De lima and Christiano Ronaldo, who is the real Ronaldo?

There is hardly a thing De lima did that Christiano had not bettered. As a matter of fact, i think the onlly interception between the 2 would be world cup and uefa champions league.

De lima won 2 world cups while Christiano has never played a world cup final match, the best he did was play a semi final match.

Christiano won 2 uefa champions league titles while De lima never won it.

So which of the 2 Ronaldos is the real one?

kolaawole:
This is a question that has been on my mind for days now, does love bring true happiness?
When you're not in a romantic relationship you feel you're missing out on a lot of things but when you finally get into one, you find out there 1001 challenges you need to overcome.
So what brings true happiness or is happiness another dream or illusion to pursue endlessy?

Happiness has nothing to do with love, and like you pointed out, many people think love is the end to all their problems, some think everything will fall in place when they get into a relationship or they finally get married but get to know the harsh reality when love comes.

The major problem we are having is this; a few people tell us wat is right and wat is not, tell us how to live our lives, wat the definition of things are which has in-turn been the source of unhappiness.

Some people tell us how to dress and when we come short of such status we become unhappy and all these have nothing to do with love.

I ran into a distant cousin of mine at the gas station some days ago and I was forced to ask why he was buying such large quantity of fuel because it is strange for a guy to think of buying 50 litre of petrol at a go, except he owns a viewing center or a beer parlor. Then he said it was for the church’s youth all night. Let me break it down, the youths were having an all-night on a Wednesday and it’s for the singles alone. Do you have an idea of what I am talking about? I mean an all-night for both guys and ladies who are still unmarried. So I have been asking this question, why would a group of people, say 30 guys and 30 gals, gather themselves in a church auditorium over the night to pray for a husband/wife when they can hook each other up. I mean why can’t they just pair up in 2s and stop disturbing God?

It’s the same case with guys and ladies who attend singles programs like the ones by Late Bimbo Odukoya, Pst chris Ojigbani and the likes. Guys and gals assemble in their hundreds and thousands to listen to marriage lectures and to pray for wife/husband without looking inward or giving a thought to the person they are standing/ sitting next to or the people they pass by every day in the hood. This can also be seen in offices, fellowships, compounds etc. Matured single men/women in the same block and domain refuse or let me say don’t consider the people they see every day for marriage but would rather look far into the sky anticipating that random person they keep praying would come from only God-knows-where.

Why is it so hard to allow God rest and look inward for a partner? Why is it so hard to listen to God and discover that what you are looking for in sokoto is in your sokoto (I mean looking far away for what is very close to you)?

Famouspecky:
You might be experiencing difficulty in moving your relationship forward due to lack of understanding.
The reasons a times is not far fetched. understanding comes with maturity.…………
Maturity sometimes come hand in hand with age. the age of your Man can also determine the level of assimilation of what it takes to have a relationship that works.

As a lady looking for love an some sort of commitment towards a relationship, u need to learn on how to move away from your present spheres of age mate.
Reasons on why u should date an older man is…………

#1 The understands u, from the youthful exuberance to the little mama girl the knows how it goes.

#2 They always try to make u happy; yes an yes u need something new, don't worry u will be simple satisfied

#3 They are business minded; U don't need a Man who whiles away a huge part of his day on social network to be serious with marriage or even commitment towards relationship

#4 They are go getter; constantly searching on how to multiply their resources, no time to idle on empty talk e.g football argument

#5 They are gentlemen; yes this is unarguably

#6 They are committed; Since there isn't time to waste on friend zone" the easily hook u up in marriage

#7 They are straight forward; no time to lie an lie.
their aye is aye an nay is nay



Thinking committed relationship, try older men

Doesnt dis explains why some single gals date married men?

Go ahead, bt when karma catch up wit you pls enjoy it.

Count it all joy when your husband go after younger gals

zboyd:
Why do some single men/women think it's acceptable to have affairs with married people?

What's worse, some of these shameless ones brag about it and tell all who'll listen how they 'bagged' the married person, how good they are at bedmatics, how many gifts, money, etc. they've received, with the cheated on spouse none the wiser.

Why can't single people 'just say no' to married people?

With all the other single people running around, why have an affair with someone you KNOW is married - many times with children?

As for adulterous married people, why did you get married, if you didn't think you could commit to one person, 'til death do you part'?

Why do you think it's acceptable to cheat on your spouse?

I have come to realise that this thing is a form of karma. What goes around comes around, you reap whateva u sow.

Of a truth, most married persons should just take this thing by fate, if they look inward, they will discover they are eating the fruit of their hands.

I will say it for the zillionth time, ANYONE WHO DATES A MARRIED PERSON SHOULD NOT EXPECT A SUCCESSFUL OR HAPPY MARRIAGE.

God is just, he will always give reward according to what we do.

Young people, leave married men/women alone.

Apart from ''African queen", non of these songs deserve to be on the list.

Its the greatest Nigerian songs of all time we are talking about and MTV and its teenage audience didnt deem it fit to include songs produced before year 2000. Isnt dis an insult to our music legends both dead and alive.

Who and who prepared this list, to start with?

As long as sowing and harvest time exist, as long as the moon and the sun still hang in the sky, love, sex, relationship will always go as a team.

Gals want money

Guys want sex

Both want relationship

Pls do the permutation and combination.

[quote author=SexyFox post=/post/26830193]I was standing in a line to withdraw money in a bank today, I raise my head looking for a spot to snatch for myself so I can withdraw and leave the bank. That was when I saw the most wonderful smile I have ever seen. As soon as our eyes met I quickly remove my face. The moment when I was looking at him, I felt the time pause, my legs shaking and my stomach doing some funny movement. Through out my time in the bank I kept glancing at the banker. I believe that was love at first sight.

Have you ever experience something similar?[/quote]Thats the repercussion of watching too many nollywood movies and soap opera.

A mental picture had long being created in your mind which had formed the basis of ur feeling, emotion and the definition of wat love is.

You are not the only one in this boat, love is one of the most confused word of our time.

Spend some time research the difference in love, lust, lost, and infactuation.

[quote author=Tomis14 post=/post/26829688]MTV Base Africa has released their 20 greatest Nigerian songs of all time.

Which song do you think is missing from the list?

Source:http://www.toniaodili.com/2014/10/mtv-africa-releases-names-of-9ja.html?m=0[/quote]None of these songs was released before year 2000 and you called it the greatest Nigeria songs of all time.

Does it mean songs produced before 2000 are rubbish?

HisSexcellency: When will his tenure expire as CAN president. I need fresh air abeg.

Iv been asking the same question too, is it a lifetime rigime?

I think CAN should vote in a new president, the kind of controversy the present political president generate is unbelievable.

5 Interesting Facts About Pastor Ayo Oritsejafor

As soon as it was learnt about the involvement of the pastor Ayo Oritsejafor’s into the $9.3mln cash seizure in South Africa, the interest towards the cleric’s figure increased.

Pastor Ayo Oritsejafor

We have gathered top 5 interesting and, in some cases, controversial facts about the president of the Christian Association of Nigeria (CAN).

1. Pastor was allegedly presented with a private jet in 2012 by his congregation, as he claimed. Interestingly, the registration number of the jet with cash seized in South Africa is different from that one given to the cleric as a gift. Can it mean the clergyman possesses one more aircraft?

2. Oritsejafor’s figure was used for one of the episodes of the political comedy puppet show “Ogas At The Top”.

Ayo Oritsejafor’s puppet made for the comedy show “Ogas At The Top”
In one of the scenes the pastor holds a special thanksgiving service for President Goodluck Jonathan to mark the wedding of his daughter.
When given a word, Jonathan starts praising the PDP. However in the comedy piece PDP stands for “Praise Di Papa” and not the abbreviation of the ruling party.
Thus the creators hint on the close links of the CAN head with the country president and his administration.

3. In 2012 Oritsejafor, the leader of the Pentecostal Fellowship of Nigeria (PFN), came out against another famous cleric, pastor T.B. Joshua, doubting the idea if he really was a man of God.
He lashed out that T.B.Joshua’s healing and miracles are not yardsticks to admitting him into any of the religious group, CAN or PFN (it was believed Joshua wanted to join PFN).
Oritsejafor also said that Joshua should show who tutored him as a pastor “before he said he was called into the ministry”.

4. Several months after the news about “private jet gift” had caused hot discussions in the media, Oritsejafor’s wife was allegedly spotted coming out of a luxurious white limousine, which resulted in fresh criticism by numerous Nigerians.

Ayo Oritsejafor’s wife coming out of the limo

5. Oritsejafor’s official website says in 1972 “the Lord saved and miraculously delivered him during a crusade”, after which he enrolled in the New Covenant Bible Institute in Benin.
According to the cleric, during his studies in college God showed him the vision of him preaching and said: “Take my Word to the World”.

Source: Naija.com

Onyiridike: I am a Nigerian lady with a lot of experience about life especially when it comes to relationship and marriage. Experience is NOT just passing through a situation but what you did with the situation.

Obviously, our young ladies always list ridiculous criteria that a man they will date/marry MUST possess. Among those ridiculous criteria, height is always a priority. Gone are the days when character is placed above physical appearance.

When I was an undergraduate, a certain young man approached me and told me how he loved me and wanted to date me. He is an enterprising young man, very intelligent and handsome. However, he is not very tall; just 5ft. 7 inches in height. Of course, young ladies don't take decisions independently. This is why they are easily influenced by friends and relatives. My friends then said: "Never! My man MUST be 6ft and above, so tell him capital NO". I rejected the young man.

Today, he is happily married with a lady who is by far more beautiful and talented than me. I almost shed tears on their wedding day. Meanwhile, all the so-called very tall men that I dated are ONLY interested in my vagina.
So far I have learnt the following:

1. Most tall men believe that their height is a 'master' key to every ladies heart and therefore, their ONLY achievement is ' I am a tall dude and ladies are dieing for me'.

2. Most tall guys are NOT caring because they have this notion that a lady should count herself lucky to date them.

3. I am yet to understand that unique or remarkable thing about tall men.

Fortunately, I repented because it occured to me that all those times, I was ONLY playing my friend's script. I wanted to feel among and brag that my boyfriend is equally tall. I gave a guy who is not very tall a chance and I started enjoying my paradise on earth. We are married now. All my life, I have not come across such a wonderful person. He has it all:

1. He is God-fearing and generous.

2. He is handsome and a great orator

3. He is educated and intelligent

4. He cooks for me when I am tired (caring)

5. He satisfies me sexually ( oh! What a heavenly feeling)

6. He got a good dress sense

7. He is social

8. Among others

I am not in any way trying to say that tall guys are bad. As a lady, I am only advising other Nigerian ladies to see a man beyond height. The height issue is over-hyped and even unnecessary. You may NOT get a second chance like me.

Finally, based on my experience, I have come up with a quote:

"A man is NOT known by his height but by his heart (bravery) and meritorous achievements".

Lady, you deserve a golden medal. Honestly, you have stolen my respect, I don't give it out easily.

The thing is, this realization comes with age and experience. Would you have had this same view if you had been lucky the 1st time? That's a very serious question.

I say it over and over again, most of the experiences we go through were predestined by God, to make us understand that he does whatever he wants without being queried and to accept people the way they are.

People have laughable fantasies, not just gals. But where do those fantasies come from? Are they from God, do they please God?

A lady told me yesterday that if a particular kind of guy woo her, she would go home to cry. This is the mindset of most gals, and it explains why there are so many matured single gals.

Why cant we accept people the way they are? Why must we always fall for those beauty-pageant mental picture criteria?
Do we bother to check the lives f those people who rule our lives, those people who set the criteria we bow to? Do we bother to check how happily married they are?