NoLoveNoPain:
This lady was introduced to me last year December and we started as friends, we seldomly contact each other and we're not really into each other but all of a sudden things took a different turn and we became best of friends, always online updating each other how the day is going. I work with a filling station while she works as a hotel receptionist and we're in our late 20s, perfect age to start a family. She always ask questions on when I will be ready to have my family and I always tell her to be patient with me to at least get a better job that matches my B.Sc qualification or at least raise a seizable amount to start my personal business (Diesel Supply to Corporate business entities e.g. Banks, Hotels etc) while she also change her job.

Sometimes in June, during one my journeys to her pleasure island, I noticed a blister on her right nipple and she said i should not navigate to the area, I don't even bother to ask what happened to her. After that day, I discovered the blister refuses to heal up and I was worried. My mind said someone is exploring that arena but I don't want to believe those thoughts. One weekend in July, while checking music CD in her shelf, I stumbled on a HIV medical test result, pack of accurate (urine pregnancy test), though the result was negative but I was very disturbed, scared and worried. I asked her what was the motive behind the test and what is she doing with more that a dozen of test kit, she mumbling some excuses like "I sell those test kit to people who are ashamed to get them in pharmacy store etc.

I confided in my friend who said I should go for a test which I did and was negative.

I became very restless at work because I'm really into this lady. With no proof or anything to justify her wayward life, I took her phone and activated "automatic call record". I activated the call record on Sunday, I stylishly sent the recorded conversation to my phone last night (Wednesday) when I visited her because she's on a night shift, as I type, I'm heartbroken, the very first conversation I listened to open the lid of canker-worm, I've been dating/sleeping a prostitute since the last 10 months, the sad part is that I don't know how one of his customer knew about me because in two separate conversation, they made jest of me and most likely another man is with her at work as you read this.
I feel so weak......

So are you still into her?

This "into him/her stuff" is a proven temporal mental disorder, real love uses head not heart, its about decision and not feelings.

Anyway, thats the reality of our time, this generation had made a saint of sodom and gomorah.

Gone are those days of bad leadership, PDP is gone, those people who have suffered Nigerians just to make themselves feel good and promote their gracious outlook are gone.

How do you rate a father who rarely feeds his household but shares food on the street just to give himself a good outlook in the neighbourhood? Lamentably demeaning.

We should enjoy our power, the populace shouldnt suffer for whats theirs

The big question is; should you pay tithe?

If tithe was that important, would Jesus not have emphasized it? He only made reference to it once when criticizing the pharises strict adherence to the jewish law.

If tithe was that important, would Apostle Paul who publicized christianity this much not have emphasized it?

If tithe was that important, would all the Apostles and disciples not have preached it?

Instead, these people talked about giving to the poor and needy.

I have a question, are we old or new testament christians?

If we are new testament christians, it means GRACE has covered the old testament laws, there are many of them which tithe is one of.

So, why didnt grace cover tithe? In other words, There are so many things we refer to as old testament activities, and being new testament christians that we are, we dont do them because Jesus has come and died on the cross, thats what we believe and thats what out pastors preach, so why didnt grace cover tithe of all other laws?

Any pastor who wants to preach tithe should also preach the other old testament laws, there are over 400 of them.

Would these people have had tattoo if they were poor?

Why not delight God with your life and the comfort He gave you?

Why glorify the devil this much?

andyanders:


Listen, even some pastors can be addicted to tithe and offering. Looking at a woman lustfully is a sin just like taking her to bed when you are not married. Having to marry your job to the detriment of your family is a sin.

Anything you become addicted to, is a sin. When you are addicted to S3x even to your legally married wife, it becomes a sin.When you addicted to watching TV or video, it becomes a sin.

What of Churches that practice selling in the church- bazar whereby they can sell 1 goat of N10,000 to the highest bidder

"When you are addicted to S3x even to your legally married wife, it becomes a sin"

I strongly disagree with this, and im sure am not the only one who does

colormebad:
Is sport betting a sin?
Can one pay tithe from betting proceeds?

To some people, smoking, alchohol, fornicating, partying are not sinful acts, so also some people might not see betting as a sin.

However, if sin doesnt rule your life, your instinct will tell you whats sinful and whats not

softandmoist:


Isn't her husband 100% hers? My own husband is mine, 100%.
My own mother had a terrible mother in-law, my grandma. It didn't form a basis for my relationship with my MIL. Single ladies that want a late MIL are allowed to wish. It's free to wish.
And whatever it was you typed up there, well. I wonder why there's such aa huge stat on poor MIL/DIL relationships then. If its all about maturity then a lot of mothers are petty. It's what you've implied.
Sorry, have you eaten sallah meat at all?

Sallah meat ke? Iv spent all the holidays in the office.

Then if i have my way, i will educate christians not to eat the sallah meat

I like your mindset anyway, i know regardless of how wayward and retartded the society is, some ladies are still morally very sound

BISIXCLUSIVE:
Please your candid advice needed. No insult

People should be judged based on the content of their heart, the character they display and not on any status.

Anyone could have come from a broken home, it could be me, it could be you

softandmoist:


Bro leave out the percentage. African mothers are not the only ones who struggle to send their kids to school. The major cause is that DILs do not take time to study their MILs.

Here's an angle I view things from.
First, the holy book says a man will leave his family and cleave. As soon as you desire in your heart to marry that woman, your mom becomes secondary, even if she trekked from Golgotha to Calvary to make your education possible.
Second, people say blood is thicker than water. I totally agree. Your wife is your flesh, says the book. You have become one flesh. Flesh is thicker than blood. There are medical alternatives for blood products, but not flesh. Your wife is you, you're one. Your mom is your idol, so you both will respect her accordingly.
I am a mother, and in some years my son will get married. There are boundaries, and I don't plan to cross them.
If I sow any bad seed into the life of my MIL, may I harvest it bountifully when my son gets married. God forbid that any woman will not enjoy her son because of me, but then again, respect the boundaries!

Will you stil share this same view if your son marries a woman who has that mindset that her husband is hers 100%

Do you think its a joke that some single ladies openly wish to have a late MIL?

The discussion is about the unusually extreme cases, i dont think there is any matured person who doesnt know there should be defined boundaries

Joy1706:

What was ur father doing when ur mom was doing all these things?

Madam, we have different family setup. As God will have it, the pendulum went the other way.

Its one of those prayer points young people should strongly consider.

bukatyne:


Your wife did not fall from a tree, she has a family that laboured over her too.

Once you are married, you and your wife have gained additional families and you both decide How to care for them.

I dont really get your point but i was talking about those girls who believe a guy should practically abandon his parent once he gets married to them.

Everyone still has a family to take care of but a man as well as a woman should know how to balance the equation

coolviv:


My guy, the way girls go dey run from you no be here o...I have so many female friends who dey avoid 1st sons like plague especially d ones with many siblings who are still coming up. The fear being that they and their children will suffer for d sake of d siblings. And this has indeed been true in most of such cases.

You are very right, of a truth, it has affected some relationships, but it can be managed you know.

As long as a girl is not one of THOSE girls honestly there is no problem.

missmary:

Most People are scared of getting married.. Because of their mother in laws but what i don't get is.. Why is there bad blood between most of these set of people?

For God's sake why will A MIL slap her DIL?
Calling her a home breaker?
Why?

Some people secretly wish their husband's mother should die before they get married.. Awful prayer but they are saving their head... Why would mothers feel the wives are taking their sons away?...

Why do MIL like to show supremacy over their DIL?

Why?

Lets hear all opinions on this matter

There is this general knowledge that women hate each other, i dont know how true that is.

The truth is the issue comes from the DIL most times, 80% of the times. Its good to put yourselves in the MIL's shoe. Most modern day ladies expect their husbands to face them 100% without caring about how he takes care of his family.

Let me use myself as a case study: i am the 1st born, the only son, i have 6 sisters, my mum gave me a life, she gave me education, for my own sake she gave up her convinience, now i am fairly comfortable, i gave a sweet job. Now imagine how much i am indepted to my mum and sisters.

If i get married and my wife expects me to face her alone, isnt she asking for trouble?

And for those ladies who pray their MIL is dead before they even meet the man, You are inviting curse on yourself, do you kow what it means to eat the fruit of ones labour.

In a nut shell, its always about the MIL thinking the DIL is not making them enjoy their son or the DIL thinking the MIL is not making her enjoy the husband.

The guy should pray and learn how to balance the metre rule anyway

paul288yahoo:
God actually created everybody rich...but His definition of riches is different from our definition of riches......

One of the greatest quote ever said

You deserve a medal

frankolett:
He was recently employed as a supervisor in one hotel at alimosho LGA Lagos State. According to him, the work load is tedious because apart from supervising, he also handles their account. He was surprise when his MD says his salary will be 15k for first 3moth after which it will be increased to 20k. Going off will be twice in a week and his house is Stone throw to the hotel. How can he possible accept this offer as a graduate of Accounting . Pls advice

I wont advise you to take this 15k/20k job offer.

2 days off per week? And the daily work will be for how many hours? If its an 8hrs work, lai lai

You shouldnt view it form the angle of " its better than nothing", this kind of job will affect your chances of getting another job, applying for other job offer might not be as easy as you thought once you start this kind of job

It depends on you anyway

Engrpj:
I don't actually know the reason why female folks Tends to develop the habit of beating up their rivals(I mean a Lady whom their boyfrnd seems to be dating). that is if they have d ability to do so...

This unfortunately has nothing to do with joblessness, thats how the female folks are wire. They are competitive in nature and they tend to do anything to feel relevant and any threat or impediment will never be brooked.

No! They are a set of Godly ladies

Another reason why some ladies will clock 38+ before getting married. Most of them will start thinking " its either these qualities or nothing"

These kind of post do not help people in the long run

octopusfreaky:
[size=16pt]all the five issues are valid and should be addressed but one major reason is because we are far away from God,and we don't even want to listen to his voice,,imagine God telling you that man is for you but deep down you don't like him or maybe you feel his not your type.. [/size]

God bless you my sister. Thank you for bringing up this

If God speaks to us personally and show us who he destined us to marry, how many of us will accept it.

The grand question is, how many of us even believe in God?

When you look around, the kind of things people say and do will tell you they dont believe in God, including our so called religious leaders

Timbuktou:


My friend, shut up your mouth. You sound like a biitch. That's why many Nigerian men raise children fathered by other men, because you've given them a free rein to cheat and get away with it. You don't sound like a man with a brain, you're disgusting.

Thanks dude, but i dont insult people. Everything we say and do reflect our age and u just acted your age.

Anyway, my point was direct, if we keep testing ourselves we might all fail.

Your claim was that she accepted ur friend's offer. Now, how many of us do not fall for better offers? Women deserve more respect than what we give them most times. We think they are angels who shouldnt bow to irritability meanwhile, we are all guilty of what we accuse them of in some ways.

If you look around, we all bow to anything named " better". Dont pastors and churches fall for money and better offers or if you get a better employment offer than what ur current employers are offering, wont you move? If this same girl test u with something that has to do with money or sex, u might fail too.
So i personally do not concur with the testing stuff

There are better ways of disagreeing with an opinion than insulting people.

Pchidexy:
I met this girl when I was a teacher in a private school five years ago. She was a teacher as well. She was a hell of beauty. We both had feelings for each other but there wasn't anything serious. We lost contact when I left the school to pursue business. Five years later, in 2015, we met again. This time, we got really acquainted to each other. We were rolling!

The Test:
I purposely gave her number and details to my friend who is a real player. He scooped her and she fell. She was money conscious as she demanded Samsung galaxy and some money from my friend. He never gave her any of those things. Just by promising her marriage she willingly opened her legs for him. All these while, I was updated by my friend. She never knew I knew about her escapades.

If you were in my shoes what would you do?

As for me I see her as worthless and only use her to quench konji.

"She was a hell of beauty. "

Did you hear the saying that the same fate awaits the man who married a beautiful woman and the one who plants an Apple tree by the road side, they may never have peace.

Now to the issue at hand. People do this test stuff and even parents encourage it, bt the fact is, if we keep testing each other we will all fail, lets stop this testing this.

Teeboy15:
Hi ya'll, I'm a first time OP (whatever OP means) so please apologies on any typo error or whatever.

Though this post is coming when the movie is already old but i just felt the need to create the thread afterall.

Ok enuff talk lemme get straight to it. I think the movie 30 days in Atlanta was unnecessarily hyped for the following reasons;

1. Ay was not fit for the role; Ay does not have that rugged n razz personality to play the role of Akpors. He seemed too serious for the role, more like forcing himself to be an Akpors personality. A Bovi or Charles Inojie interpretation of the role would have made more sense.

2. Story line was poor; Like seriously what was he trying to portray, that Akpors is just a local Warri boy who got lucky, went abroad and couldn't behave himself in a cultured way? Seriously?

3.His comedy line in the movie when he got employed as a part-time comedian was terrible; Ay like seriously u could have done berra than that. Dat was whack. If na so ur shows dey be u for no get one kobo for account.

Let me state that I'm not in any way hating on the successfull comedian's effort (before Nairalanders go start their own wahala), for what its worth it was a good movie but constructive criticism also sell movies.

For those who haven't seen the movie make sure u get a copy of it and let us know what u think. U can also add ur opinion for those that have already seen the movie.


CC: lalasticlala, tosyne2much and co abeg help me park dis keke for garage

Exactly the same opinion ( and more) i had when i watched it. The 1st thing i said when i finished watching it was, thank God i didnt buy it.

The issue is, criticism is not welcomed in this part of the world. The majority of our society are so stereotyped in such a way that they see proffesors, superstars and anyone that appears on the podium as an alpha human who can never be wrong.

I have said it over and over again, AY is not a comedian. Is he really funny?

Yea, i commend his intelligence in assembling natural comedian

How comes no one had mentioned the MayWeather approach?

The Lamentable responses ive read on this topic is pitiably expected, and im always forced to fear for our generation

The BIG question is, what responsible "lady" takes pics in an hotel?

If you dont have a reservation about going to an hotel and you even have the boldness to tell the whole world that its nobody's business what you do there, then something is fundermentally wrong with your consciousness and i cant imagine the kind of family you will ever raise. What kind of future are you expecting/building for yourself?

Everything that has breath knows what goes on with our ladies so why defend this?

Some people have this knack of defending questionable things but it can be likened to the reaction you get when you criticise lesbianism in the presence of a gay.

INTERMAN:
Is it right i think a lady would prefer to go for an ugly guy just because he is tall than those short handsome guys. Ladies now prefers what the environment demands than looks. Ladies nowadays don't care much about guys looks again but height.

Look, People, not just ladies, do what the environment demands, only a microscopic few are different.

Most people would rather impress others than do whats logical

In Nigeria, and I'm sure, in some other parts of the world, most people would rather follow trend than do what's best for them and what will make them happy. Its always about how other people view them, most people are more particular about impressing others.

Its quite shocking that most of those people who say you shouldn't impress others are the principal societal impressers.
If you look around you, everything is about trend. The only winning mantra is " go with the flow, go where the wind blows". The choice of cloths, hair styles, shoes, cars, careers, and everything, is about following trend and impressing others, so its same with marriage.

Most people will rather impress others in their choice of who to marry and face the consequence than marry who will make them happy.

double0seven:


your view and perspective is anything but balanced. what sort of judgement or conclusion is that; so one sided; so skewed in favour of the absurd.

You will do yourself a good service to go check the MEANINGS of balance in a dictionary.

You are not being honest then. You are still viewing this from your angle, im sure if ur uncle or dad was one of them your view will be different.

IamDaniella:
@ sunnyt1, It is copyright protected so the own needs a backlink. If you want to read it.. visit and read.

I am confused please I need your help. I`m a lady of 24 years, I started dating my fiancé 2 years ago and we have been through so much together as a result our love have grown strong, our wedding is coming up in a month’s time.

We were together on the 28th of may when he dropped me home after a while his mood changed and when he left I called to check if he had reached home but he refused to pick my calls and I can`t remember doing or saying anything that caused his attitude. Since then, he does not talk to me, when I text he does not reply and am getting tired of calling.

I don`t know what to do and our wedding is coming up next month, am afraid he won`t show up. Please I need your advice.


Isnt this the whole story?

Women have their own too, it might not be in the form of erectile dy-anything.

Pray you dont know what they go through every month, some women almost die and wake up monthly

Then women are more prone to and affected by STD and toilet diseases, you no go understand bro

Haaa, subuhanalilah

You can lie o

I am one of the most balanced and unbiased dude you will ever come across and i will be very frank about my response.

Its easier to crucify these senator because their envious but lamentable escapade do not affect us directly.

If your dad or uncle were one of them, would we still be saying the same thing?

If you cant post everything here without refering us to any linkk FORGET IT