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Going by the cooments iv read so far and my day to day observations, i can submit that

1) Gals are the reason for their protracted singleness. If you look around, you will discover the fraction of matured single ladies is alarming. Iv alwaz told them, they are their personal problem

2) Money and convineince determines the way gals define love, mr. right, respect, maturity etc

3) Gals are the reason y singleness is becoming something else. They are looking for one mr. right ( some rich guy) that dosnt exist, the guys are just standing there waiting for the gals to come back to reality

4) Gals hardly come out of their fantasy and narsicism until dey cross 33 or 35, at which point they jst want to get married to any "MAN". Thats the point when gals start saying " nothing is wrong abt dating a younger guy" " what matters is love" Guys dnt fall for this.

5) Most gals date married men and sugar daddies which wont marry them, then come back to the guys they once rejected thinking they were so dumb and blind to see their open display of e-prostitutionalism.
It dosnt take a Harry Potter to know such gals at 1st glance, by their tone, impatience, expectation and demands you shall know them.

This is something i have struggled to cope wit in many of my relationships. It beats me why a guy/gal wud seek emotional attachment with someone else when he/she has a relationship. Its nt something to be taken lightly, its a trait of promiscuity. Dont trust such people.

The problem is most people overlook this cancer while dating bt complain when the person in question starts full flegde cheating later on.

I specifically look out for this in relationship and when i see it, i am off. How do i cope with a gal who is sharing her time and attention btw me and some other guy. If she thinks im nt what she wants, no problem, she can move to the next guy. Only people with cheating tendencies wud eva have the nerve to cope with this or see nothing wrong in it.

I dnt joke with unfaithfullness, im sincere and i expect same from whosoever im dealing.

This emotional cheating is the reason why people misbehave big time in relationships. The reason why that ur guy/gal ignores or do not respond to ur calls and sms, dosnt talk to u dat much, is not loyal or commited enough, can spend a whole day without hearing ur voice, can spend a whole week or month without seeing u and dont really bother etc, is bcs he/she is getting emotional attachment from somewhere else, it might not be direct cheating by definition but he/she is attached to someone else

I will have to itemize the notable reasons for easy perusal

1) Education
2) Civilization and exposure
3) Over-sophistication/wildness
4) Money and convinience hunting
5) Societal and peer expectation
6) Religious allution
7) Disrespectfulness and rudeness

The unfortunate thing is this will only get worse with time bcs the economy is not improving and gals will keep geeting higher education, most gals are not even aware of these factors until at least they cross 33.

foxgiovani: why do married men chase after single ladies when they probably have a more beautiful wife at home?

I like d way one of the most decent ladies iv eva come across in my entire life put it.

She said men will alwaz come, they are hunters by nature, it is left for the gal to either accept or reject his ungodly and detrimental game.

Most times, its a form of karmer, u cant sow rice and expect to reap beans.

Any gal who dates a married man is digging her grave, there is no way it wont come back to hunt and hurt her.

When you date a married man, you make the wife go tru emotional trauma, u are sharing the husband's time and attention and you expect your own husband to give you his total attention when you get married? God is a just and perfect God, He gives you wateva u deserve/bargain for.

It might not be in the form of emotional or romantic relationship, but wateva tin you do, in wateva capacity, to divert a man from his wife, regardless of who starts the chasing, is a form of cheating that will come back to hit any gal who indulge in it.

The most unfortunate thing is you will hardly see a gal who had not or who is not putting hands in this gutter, and this explains why married men cant even understand or explain why they are so involved in chasing single ladies. They are fulfilling something.

My advice for single ladies is think more about the future, 2mr is more important than 2day. See it this way, lets say u are about 30, and u wish to live long as far as say 90, meaning u have only lived 1/3 of ur time. Shdnt u do tins that will benefit the next 60+ years of your life, instead of destroying it.

My advice for men is, dont destroy people's destiny, let ur wife enjoy u, build your home and family.

This must be a kind of movie

Saneie Masilela, 9 becomes world's youngest groom marrying Helen Shabangu, 62 .



NINE year old schoolboy Saneie Masilela has become the world's youngest groom after marrying 62-year-old South African Helen Shabangu at a formal ceremony witnessed by her children and grandchildren.
Dressed in a silvery tuxedo, baby-faced Saneie clutched the hand of mother-of-five Helen Shabangu, as they repeated their vows a year on in front of 100 guests at their wedding. At the ceremony, which took place at Ximhungwe village in Mpumalanga, South Africa, was witnessed by the brides' children who are aged between 28 and 38.
Saneie said he held the ceremony to make the marriage, which he entered into last year official but other villagers described it as sickening. Among the guests at the ceremony were Helen's long-term husband Alfred Shabangu, 66.
Mr Shabangu said: "My kids and I are happy because we don't have a problem with her marrying the boy. I don’t care what other people say.”
Both families claim the wedding is simply another ritual after Saneie was told by his dead ancestors to marry last year and his parents forked out £500 for the bride and another £1,000 for the ceremony. However the schoolboy wanted to follow South African tradition and insisted they have the second ceremony this week to make their marriage official.
Saneie, the young groom said he still hoped he would have a proper wedding to a woman his own age when he was older. He added: “I told my mother that I wanted to get married because I really did want to.
"I'm happy that I married Helen but I will go to school and study hard. When I’m older I will marry a lady my own age."
Recycling worker Helen, said: “I’m very happy that the boy chose me and my family support and understand that it is part of making ancestors happy."

Women shd be natural managers while men shd be bad spenders, dats d default configurations, but d table had been turned around ova time. This days, women can manage their own money prudently bt when its nt their money chei, if a woman follows u 2 a restaurant, she will wreck ur pocket, she can order 4 upto 5000 worth of items, bt if she is going there on her own, she wont spend more than 500.
May God help us

Above all, women like and respect proud men, if u are humble and considerate, women will rob u of ur ego

A gal who did this has a lot to prove, imagine if ur man is to introduce you to his parents.

Or as a parent, your son brings such a gal home to you as his wife to be

biladama143: pls guy can some one explain me how to start romancing my girl friend

Which do you prefer? Rice or beans?

Enegod: i bet u she's probably not prepared for
marriage and besides, at that age, most girls
dont know what they really want...

Even at 35, most ladies dont know what dey want and even when they spell out what they want, its all fantasy.

Its so shocking that most gals take relationship either as a job opportunity or proffesion.

So we pay for using the internet, pls check up the meaning of prostitution in the dictionary

These discussions explain why there are so many matured single ladies.

And these so called female celebs are the role models for our young ladies, doesnt this then explain why most gals act, think and dress the way they do?

Its a sign that you are disinterested, can you yawn at gun point?

Love is that state of temporal mental disorder in which an individual FEELS he/she believes the other confused entity has close to 100% of his/her acceptance and loyalty. As long as this individual still bows to mental retardation, he/she is said to be in love, but as soon as he/she returns to the right frame of mind that temporal feeling will become a mirage.

Immatex: As an Engineer, am so used to having a back-up plan that I dont see myself cancelling or postponding my wedding if there happens to be good reasons to cancel the first engagement. Kindly switch to 'plan B'. I will always have a substitute fiancee who will be duely informed and arrangements fasttrecked even if its on that wedding day and the occasion will still hold with little or no noticiable change.
THIS A JOKE OOOOH.
But on a serious note, having a 'plan B or a back-up plan' is important, just in-case.

Waaaat! substitute fiancee? Guy u are a genius. And you expect a happy married life? People like you have up to 20 gals at the same time and even in marriageits same.

Any of these jerseys is beta than the gown and tactlessly designed one they are wearing

Una wan hear fact?

Never trust a gal who keep only or more male friends, Never!

1.You are not the 1st gold-digger in town and you won’t be the last, most gals are and your story is a testament that mothers are the architect of what ladies turn out to be in life. It’s shocking that mother didn’t pass on what they learnt from their own mums to the next generation and it might go on like that until our values and morals finally decay.

2.If you don’t have any skeleton in your cupboard, why should it bother you that your husband is trailing you? The fact that you are disturbed means you have something to explain. Trust is earned, not deserved. You probably have betrayed his trust and have a lot to prove. The eggs are in your basket, what will you do with them.

3.This is almost the way most marriages turn out to be, fantasy at first, reality later.

4.It is no gainsaying that most gals marry for convenience, all a gal looks out for is convenience and the level of convenience.

5.Now to the question, you ask what you can do; convince this guy you are trust worthy, shikena, and pray very well, thats all

God is great

Yakubu

Chei, this Nigerian lady put on iro and bubba, nawa o

You need to face your studies, when is the common entrance exams coming up?

JMOI: Move over to Chelsea. Maybe you'll become the new Drogba.

As soon as he moves to chelsea, he career dwindles

Harbosede02: so wat r u trying 2 say??dat we sud start preparing 4 marriage wen we don't even knw wat d husband luks lyk.

So u wanna start preparing for marriage afta u meet the guy, do u start preparing for exams when u see the question paper.

samffizy: Hy buddies...I ve got some worrisome issues 2 share wit fellow nairalanders...I ve experienced dis wif over 3girls nd its quite weird...y is dat aftr been intimate wif a girl....she start cryin nd bcomes shy of lukin at u..she gt angry wit u nd she walks out on u angrily as if it wsnt a mutual agreement btwn u guys...nd shez nt jst herself at dat period of tym nd may evn brk up wif d guy...ladies plz I need 2 knw wats behind weird habit...tanx

You wan hear truth?

She get spiritual husband and most of them do

The gal has a spiritual husband, like 6 out of 10 gals do.

Remember Sosoliso

What of Rita Dominic? In the world of Rudeness she is a queen

Too hot ke? It shd be too cold for them

I am not supposed to comment here as it appears the thread is for ladies, but i noticed something which i should give my opinion on.

Is it safe to say the people commenting for now are unmarried? This is for you then.

Marriage only works when you dnt attach any condition to it. The reason why most marriages fail is bcs divorce had been seen as an option right from the word go, when you start up by telling yoursef if A happens, B wud be the resort. If he dos this i will do that, its just a question of time, the marriage will crumble.

Academically, failure dos not start in the exam hall, it starts from the very day one resumes in school. In marriage too, failure/divorce dos not start at that point when he slaps u or when she goes to a club wit anoda guy, it starts at 16, it starts when u were in school, it starts when he was toasting you, it starts from when you were pinging instead of adding values to ur life.

Young people, prepare for marriage now that you are still single. The fact that you are still young and single means you can still work on those things that could give birth to divorce or bitterness in marriage.

For a start, if you marry a guy who slaps you after wedding, who are you gonna blame for it? Dosnt it mean that you didnt prepare for the marriage properly? And the fact is, such negative act will only get worse, gradually a slap will morph to spanking. If you prepare very well, shd you end up marrying a wife-beater?

Please, if you care for a successful, happy, peaceful and fulfilled marriage prepare for marriage properly.


The devil is doing everything to destroy the marriage institution, something God created himsef.