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Family / Re: Leaving My Wife And Kids To Travel Abroad by surdik(m): 4:30pm On Nov 10, 2023
You Nailed it
JamParkMe:
Traveling overases with just a tourist visa is like voluntarily hopping into a slave ship during the times of slavery. If you were a young and single guy, I can understand the risk vs reward but as a married guy with children, I don't think it's very wise.

You will basically have to start afresh, working menial jobs for less than minimum wage because anyone hiring an illegal immigrant will exploit them as they have no legs to stand on and are desperate for work. Your best hope of eventually getting papers would be to do a fake marriage with a citizen but that comes with very high costs, abuse from the citizen and risk of the immigration services denying such marriage after all the money and years spent.

How about your wife and kids? How is your wife supposed to get intimacy when you are gone for years? Don't you realize, intimacy like food and shelter is a basic human need? You will likely be cheating on your wife but woe betide your wife if she sleeps around. How about your kids, who will be the father figure they need at such tender age? Most of these cultists and armed robbers you see today had no responsible fathers in their lives.

I will say you should sit down and think outside the box for ways to improve your business or for new business ideas. Don't let the pressure of japa syndrome make you make a move you will ultimately regret. I too have felt the urge to abandon it all and relocate overseas, but the risk vs reward doesn't make any sense and there are no guarantees in life.
Travel / Re: Canadian Student Visa Thread Part 23 by surdik(m): 7:19am On Oct 19, 2023
I have a question regarding the submission of supporting documents for my application. Should I scan all the documents together and upload them in a single file under the ‘additional documents’ section? Additionally, I couldn’t find any option to upload a passport photo. Is it not necessary because I will be providing one during the biometric process?

Thank you for your assistance.
Travel / Re: Canadian Student Visa Thread Part 23 by surdik(m): 8:42am On Oct 18, 2023
Hello, i have paid my first semester fee, can i use my brother’s US bank statement as proof of funds and also as sponsor? please advise.
Crime / Re: Video Of Hushpuppi Being Arrested In Dubai Posted By Dubai Media Office by surdik(m): 2:30pm On Jun 25, 2020
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Romance / If You’re Truly Happy In Your Relationship,It Doesn’t Have To Be On Social Media by surdik(m): 2:36am On Mar 06, 2020
Perhaps, the obsessive need for online validation is part of the upgrades in the social media age. Back when my grandmother sat by the riverside waiting for her, ‘gentleman caller’, she didn’t need to take selfies and post it on Facebook before she’d feel like something official was going on between them – well, there was no Facebook.
Things have changed from those days when you’d use a picture of you and your partner as your wallpaper and they’d feel on top of the world. People seemed happier back then.

Nowadays, if you don’t regularly show them off on social media, you’d be guilty of avoiding commitment and this could cause a strain on your relationship. You could also be charged with not being proud of your partner or the horrible act of ‘two-timing’. Your online space needs to be buzzing with details of your relationship if you’re going to keep things checked on all fronts. Gone are the days when relationships were made official on the third date. These days, all you have to do is upload three ‘loved up’ photos on Snapchat and you’re all set.
Most people would argue that there’s nothing wrong with sharing details of their relationship online. We’re in the era of Instagram, Snapchat, Twitter, Facebook, and WhatsApp Status. A lot of people’s lives revolve around updating their social media accounts, so it’s only natural to show off the people they love and make them an emblem on such accounts.
You don’t need online approval to be happy
Thousands of people who are addicted to social media suffer mild to severe depression and social anxiety [1]. When you spend a lot of time surfing Instagram and following the seemingly exotic lives of other people, you’re at a high risk of falling into the line to try to ‘level up’ to others. You could end up living a life you can’t afford and staying in a relationship you don’t really want to impress your followers online. If a breakup happens, you’d painstakingly have to delete all the pictures of your ex across your accounts and explain the change to your followers when you find love again.
Your relationship is not a contemporary romantic movie. You can be happy right there in your feelings. People who are truly happy in their relationships don’t care whether they are on their partner’s page or not The most important thing is that they spend as much time as they can together, sharing in each other’s lives and growing together. A couple could have a perfect life on social media and be highly dysfunctional in real life. For some people, the perfect virtual life is everything – thousands of people can’t see what the real deal looks like.

A 2016 survey of 170 undergraduates in relationships explored “the relationship between online self-presentation and offline relational characteristics .” The researchers compared the behavior of those who were more Facebook-present and those who focused on making it work in the real world. They reported that offline couples were more likely to stay committed and happy in their relationships.

True happiness comes from being together
You shouldn’t get upset when your partner takes too long to upload your recent bombshell picture on their status. You should be more concerned that you two haven’t seen each other in a while. Your happiness should come from your real-life conversations and time spent in each other’s company – or time spent skyping if you’re in a long-distance relationship. Talk about your day, goals, dreams, and aspirations. Listen to your partner and bask in their love and attention. When you’re not going out of your way to get the perfect pictures for Instagram, you’d pay more attention to the things that matter.

You don’t owe any online follower proof that you’re actually happy. You don’t need anyone’s validation or approval to make your relationship official. Most online couples only have an illusion of happiness that thrives on the virtual space. In the real world, they’d usually find it difficult to hold up an intimate conversation.

Building a strong relationship – here’s what you can do:
Plan dates to each other’s favorite locations – You don’t have to go to the most exotic rooftop in town to kick things off. Find out where your partner enjoys hanging out and set up a date at this spot. Spending time at your favorite spot is great, but what’s better is being at this spot with someone you have feelings for. Your preferences don’t have to be the same, but it’s important to get comfortable with each other’s lives and share in one another’s interests.

Communication is everything – A relationship tends to fade into the background when there’s a lack of communication. Be open with your partner and talk about everything. Sharing details of your life and plans will let them know how important they are to you. Talk openly about your problems and try to find solutions before they strain your relationship.

Honesty – It’s easy to get trapped in one’s lies and shatter a hold of trust. Tell the truth from the start and be completely honest with each other. Don’t lie about your career, your finances, your sexual preferences, your age, or even trivial things just to match your partner’s taste. Be who you are and if they don’t love you that way, then they are not meant for you.

Apologize and forgive – No relationship can be completely perfect because human beings with different personalities are involved. Fall-outs are bound to happen now and then. Learn to apologize when you’re wrong and forgive when your partner tries to make things right. However, if your partner is a serial cheater or abuses you in any way, it’s best to make a quick exit from such a toxic relationship. You deserve better.

Celebrate each other’s achievements – No matter how little these wins are, let your partner know that their successes are your successes too. Be genuinely happy for them and insist on celebrating their achievements. The celebration doesn’t always have to be in lavish parties or exotic dates. You could celebrate over pizza and a few glasses of wine. Graduation, a new job, a new car, a promotion – just let your partner know that you’re rooting for them.

Your followers online would gush and post lovely comments on your photos, but the same people will make shameful fun of you when things go south. True happiness comes from being present in each other’s lives and creating a mutual support system that the other person can always lean on.

https://theheartysoul.com/if-youre-truly-happy-in-your-relationship-it-doesnt-have-to-be-on-social-media/?utm_Source=PPV
Travel / Re: General South Africa Visa Enquiries by surdik(m): 3:54am On Jan 06, 2020
No doubt, SA is a very beautiful country. If you want to see the black south africans.. just take the 99 trains from cape town train stations. Majority of the blacks reside in Khayelitsha.. also thats where you will find SA babe with big booty grin but be careful of your belongings coz you might get robbed.
cucumbar:
I passed through camps bay yesterday was just shouting Jesus under my breath. The place fine die. The scenery is out of this world.

Visited the botanical garden, birds and monkey sanctuary, and one other place in Hout Bay.

I hope to visit as many places as possible before I leave. In fact, I’m spoilt for choice.

I booked a five days tour ticket, with about 70 attractions to see.

Abeg, where the blacks dey? I hardly see blacks. I see mostly whites and colored people, except when I visited one shanty part today on tour.
I’m beginning to think that the population of whites and other races in South Africa are more than the blacks

Their clubs on long street are like European clubs with whites everywhere. I’m not getting the vibes I got in Nairobi, as per clubbing.

If I had known, I would have come to Cape Town straight , instead of stopping in jo’burg for 3 days.

As per migration, Make una find me one Southy chick to marry. grin. I can take care of her.
Travel / Re: General USA Student Visa Enquiries-part 15 by surdik(m): 12:32pm On Jun 14, 2019
pierre92:
Visa approved today at Lagos Consulate at 7:45 am.
VO: Pass your passport please
VO: So you are going for a graduate degree in Pharmacy?
Me: Pharmaceutical Sciences, Yes
VO: So you’re going to Washington State University?
Me: Yes
VO: You are currently working at xxxx Pharmacy?
Me: Yes
VO: How long have you been working at this Pharmacy?
Me: 2 years
VO: Are you going to pay for anything using your personal funds?
Me: No, I have an assistantship that covers tuition, health insurance and living expenses.
VO: Do you have any particular area of interest that you wish to research in
Me: Yes, Improved detection and treatment of Cancer utilizing pluripotent stem cell models.
VO: Ok, I will approve your visa. You can pick up your passport in....
Took place within 5 minutes with a lot of typing in between.
Congratulations. Please did you write any standardized test?

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Travel / Re: General German Student Visa Enquiries Part 4 by surdik(m): 7:51am On Feb 16, 2018
Hello guys please how much those it cost for the certification of school documents at the embassy?

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Travel / Re: General German Visa Enquiries Part 3 by surdik(m): 7:14am On May 19, 2017
Pm me for uni-assist payment.
Travel / Re: General German Visa Enquiries Part 3 by surdik(m): 7:35am On Apr 04, 2017
holychic:
Does anybody have euros for sale, I need 1900euro. Pls pm if you have. Thank you
i can only offer you 500euros
Travel / Re: "My Nasty Encounter With South African High Commission" by surdik(m): 8:19am On Mar 02, 2017
Nonsense.. why not ask them to emulate your own embassy in pretoria..

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Travel / Re: General German Visa Enquiries Part 3 by surdik(m): 12:52am On Feb 20, 2017
rudyislife:
i am sir whats up?
which course?
Travel / Re: General German Visa Enquiries Part 3 by surdik(m): 11:51pm On Feb 18, 2017
Anyone coming to Ulm Universität for summer holla at me!
Travel / Re: General German Visa Enquiries Part 3 by surdik(m): 7:46pm On Aug 12, 2016
For those who are about to open a block account at the embassy.. PLEASE TAKE NOTE OF THE FOLLOWING.
The amount of the initialy transferred funds has to be at least minimum the amount of the blocked funds.
- If the funds are not transferred by yourself, the sponsor must be specified by its full name.
- If the funds are not transferred by yourself, the statement of the sponsor has to be presented.
- If the funds are transferred by several sponsors, statements of all sponsors have to be presented.
- The bank statement(s) must show at least minimum the amount transferred in Euro or its equivalent in foreign currency.
- The bank statement(s) must be issued in German or English.
- The bank statement(s) may not be older than 3 months.

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Travel / Re: General German Visa Enquiries Part 3 by surdik(m): 1:51pm On Aug 08, 2016
cupid007:
Good morning all; pls those who have gone for the new format of opening blocked Account should share their experience(s), are we still paying the embassy as well as tendering a Prepaid courier envelop.
Your replies are eagerly awaited.
yes you will pay the embassy #7200 depending on the exchange rate and also you have to go with prepaid envelope.. #11500 at fedex at the embassy and 14500 @dhl
Travel / Re: General German Visa Enquiries Part 3 by surdik(m): 5:55pm On Aug 02, 2016
for those that have filled the block acct form what should i write under the tax relevant information..
Travel / Re: General German Visa Enquiries Part 3 by surdik(m): 6:00am On Aug 02, 2016
ifemi555:

Thanks a lot bro.

Is it possible for me to get the one at the embassy (FedEx) the same day of my appointment (Appointment time is 8am-10am)? I mean Is FedEx office very close to Germany Embassy?

Thanks for the visa appointment info. You don give many of us Hope.



how much did you get the prepaid envelope at the embassy? and is it possible to get same day of your appointment.
Travel / Re: General German Visa Enquiries Part 3 by surdik(m): 3:14pm On Jul 25, 2016
chinok97:
the embassy doesn't know what d old form looks like anymore as from today grin,.. new form regime started dis morning.
thanks for your input.. And how about the prepaid envelope can i get it at the embassy and bank statement?

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Travel / Re: General German Visa Enquiries Part 3 by surdik(m): 2:43pm On Jul 25, 2016
anyone who visited the embassy today should please give an update regarding opening of block account.. is the old form still accepted?
Travel / Re: General German Visa Enquiries Part 3 by surdik(m): 7:26am On Jul 20, 2016
namebdis4:
Check you email I have send you a copy
thanks
Travel / Re: General German Visa Enquiries Part 3 by surdik(m): 3:51am On Jul 20, 2016
Nosky247:
Drop ur email or WhatsApp number. I'll forward the old form to you.
please forward a copy of the old form to me. thanks.
Travel / Re: General German Visa Enquiries Part 3 by surdik(m): 3:39am On Jul 19, 2016
smiley
Travel / Re: General German Visa Enquiries Part 3 by surdik(m): 6:08pm On Jul 10, 2016
Hello everyone.. Please do I need to booking an appointment for opening a block account.?
Business / Reason Why Blacks Are Behind Economically by surdik(m): 5:46am On Mar 20, 2016
Agree Or Disagree.?

Webmasters / Re: Tutorial On How To Create A Blog - Start To Finish by surdik(m): 11:00am On Feb 27, 2016
please is it possible to create a blog without hosting it or buying domain.?
Career / Re: 6 Mistakes You Will Likely Make Between Age 20-30 AS A Young Nigerian by surdik(m): 4:36am On Oct 17, 2015
Very inspiring..

social network has done harm than good to our teem youth, most of our youth are mostly engaged in social network, and these has affected our reading habbit.
Family / Re: How To Become Emotionally Strong by surdik(m): 10:34am On May 20, 2015
very insightful and educative... thanks for sharing.
Politics / GMB Watches How Card Reader Rejects GEJ by surdik(m): 12:52pm On Mar 28, 2015
AFter Accreditation GMB watches how card reader rejects GEJ.

Nairaland / General / Re: Hurray!!! Nairaland Is 10 Years Today!!! by surdik(m): 9:06am On Mar 10, 2015
Congrats Seun On These Milestone Achievement.


Long Live Nairaland.
Islam for Muslims / Re: The Importance of Tawakkul in the Life of a Muslim by surdik(m): 6:46pm On Mar 06, 2015
Thanks for sharing. May Allah continue to guide and protect us. AMEEN
Education / Re: 9 Things You Need To Stop Doing If You Want To Be Successful by surdik(m): 8:22am On Feb 14, 2015
Very Educative post! Thanks for sharing!

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