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Good to know our brothers love us that much,my sisters and i never got to stay around when our brother's friends came visiting back then,it was always "go to your rooms"commanded by our brother .

I wonder how he'll feel now if he sees any of us chatting with his friends.

Idowuogbo: u just forget my side abi? no worry,all no spoil base dey o!

Haba paddy,to forget your side is not possible,not even in another life,see eh we go talk well lerra, over busy dey worry me,na just addiction dey even make me log in any slight chance i get,no para for me abeg,you are my paddy till infinity. one love bebe .

hollas2jnr: LWKMD ooo... Wish I was there as a witness too.

If you were there,laugh will really kill you ,i pity the girl sha cos she felt bad but my cousin just couldn't conceal his shock and anger ,him still dey vex for the money and time he wasted wooing her.

neyostica: Thats what i thot, internet warrior

Yeah like i give a feck,choke on your silly thoughts.

Idowuogbo: Wetin happen? U for invite me since na, see as scapegoat dey enter u

Abeg letter bomb d excrembre joor!

Mama see o,the thing be say me no just get her time now,how far jare?

neyostica: U just dey yarn dust, tell us what u will do were you d op

Abeg fly,i don't have your time.

[quote author=Okija_juju]No time. . . Na the state of the condo be my own!!

PLUS!! I must see a babe without make-up especially in the morning when she just wake up before discussing marriage. .

I remember during my NYSC wey dem do FIRE DRILL around 3;30 am for early morning. . OMO!! See as babes run commot from room without make-up, my guy it as like the scene of a horror movie. . Some babes start to apply make-up for parade ground. . Talk about low self-esteem. .

I laugh wan die.[/quote]This post just reminded me of the first time my cousin's then girlfriend of over 3 months came to sleep over(it would be the first and only time they did it according to him)the girl usually wears heavy make up and looks kinda fine with it.

So that day na,they came in at night and did their thing,in the morning she woke up before him and came to join us(girls) in our common room where we usually gather for our gist of whatever must have happened in our yesterday's activities,i swear we didn't recognize the girl,it took looking like really focusing on her before we could tell she was the one,we all exchanged looks and carried her along in the convo.

Minutes later,my cousin woke up and was looking for her,he came to ask if we saw her,she was like "Baby I'm here" you need to see the shock on my cousin's face when he looked at her,we couldn't help giggling,he couldn't hold it and told her"nne ijoka zi this morning",i swear the thing pain am,you need to see where he was lamenting after she left,that was the last day i saw that girl,if you ask him about her,he just gets angry and warns you to respect yourself ,omo leave am,makeup dey do wonders.

ahonzi: Good heavens!!!! Is this a topic worth discussing? It makes no sense,first of all and then all you goons responding to it are no better. Imagine, she is a LovePeddler just cos her husband borrowed a car 4 a wedding. Now how many weddings have wives eloped with the owner of the cars used?cos I can assure u about 80% to 90% of weddings are done with borrowed and rented cars. Anyways,so o don't get caught in this crappy discussion; straight to the BULLSHIT zone quickly. Trekk,borrow,use ur car,fly, whatever, its a matter of choice,got it.so hush!!!!!

You responded to it as well that leaves you on the same place with the said"goons".

[quote author=Joel.]Do not complain. If you cant give them money then leave them alone. U can't tell if God really called them. U see car accident in nigeria has reduce in the previous years this people u are pointing out has really help to avert many road dangers but u wont knw. Real prophet of God are suffering if u dont knw. search the scripture and tell me of one rich prophet?[/quote]Hmm so its their preaching and prayers that have averted the road accidents? This is serious.


OP my own is that i don't give them,I'd rather give the money to beggars on the streets than to someone who comes saying what he doesn't even understand in the guise of spreading the word.

vanitty: First thread in this nairaland that has made my blood boil.
Na wa.
I am convinced some people just talk abi type ni for shock reaction
Anybody that disrepect your wife disrespect you so you better know that.
Majority of the men talking here that you are at fault aare either not married or if married, did not marry for love, just simply tolerating their wife.
You are definitely NOT at fault, infact even if you are at fault nko? so the man had to embarrass you like that in front of her.
What a wuss of a man. Poster, please don't you dare apologise to anybody, this is a definite power struggle and that home is your territory. Bunch of shameless people.
They don't even respect you at all, imagine calling my phone telling me I should allow their sister to act anyhow in their brother's house. Which house? Did u beg him to marry you or what? I really wish you well poster. It is going to be tough but please stand your ground. If you allow it now, you will allow it forever. As I previously said, husband is a wuss sorry, I know it is impolite to abuse someone's husband but there is no 'nicer' word.
Read back to Pro1 I think advice, read davidylan advice, they are all men o and deduce what you can from it. Shameless sisters that refuse to stay in their husband house , now want to come dabaru your own.
Anyway poster, pele it is well.
I am on the train to work, so I am just typing my thoughts down, might be hard to follow. this thread pain me sha.

Thank you o my sister,for reals this thread is annoying,imagine that part of the call sef,just how some people read the OP's post and still blame her beats me,what rubbish?kai this one too much and God knows i can't take such.

woodcook: @op this may sound trivial but it a warning to everyone out there.

Did your husband at anything during courting told you about his family kitchen "ritual"? If the answer is yes and that it involves everyone dishing food themselves then I think you invited the trouble yourself for trying to stop the little girl. I believe in total disclosure during courting no matter how bad or petty you think the info are just let it out. SO that your partner will have a clearer picture of what he/she is getting into. For instance, while growing up we don't dish food neither do we ask anyone to dish us food. After cooking you only dish food for my parents and to the rest of the household you just tell them to go "attack" the pot. I remembered my sis friend spending the weekend with us and that decided to prepare dinner to her greatest suprised after cooking, she just left the kitchen to shower, before she was out of the bathroom we have dished our food ( me and my younger brother ) and she went "red" in the face immediately. In fact it was my sis that came to our rescue and explained stuffs to her. Since then whenever she is around she allows us dish for ourselves. Imagine if am to get married and my younger comes visiting, being that it is my house and their blood siblings, by default they would o after the food themselves. Though at this point I have to add that as one grows you are supposed to know that people are different and that at home you are allowed to do things in a certain way does not mean your brother's wife was brought up that way.

to be cont....

Please i beg to differ a long way from this your post.

FYI,your parents house can never be likened to your married brother's house,jesus christ! There's something called common sense and courtesy,once one is married and living with his wife,the kitchen automatically becomes hers(the wife's) so you and your siblings should know that you don't behave the way you would in your mother's kitchen in another woman's own(kitchen)except you grew up without any manners at all,how can you even come up with that example,just how do the two scenarios match?for petes sakes what do parents teach their kids these day?

[b]Dayokanu,just what part of this story don't you get?you are just so eager to prove that the lady is the one at fault here when its staring you right in the face that the SIL is a mini witch,forget all these your long talk in defense of the witch.

Bottom line is,she was very wrong to have disrespected the lady like that,even if they were at war before,nothing gives her the right to go straight to a pot of food the lady cooked without asking her first,to make it worse,the lady was standing right there when she stormed to the pot.

Let me tell you something,till tomorrow in my father's house,it could pass for a law that no one goes to the pot without the permission of the person who cooked especially just immediately after cooking,its always"come and dish for me or can i take by myself or i'll go and take by myself o"sometimes with a harsh tone sef if she's delaying in going to dish the food,anyhow you want to ask,whether by yelling or talking normal,the truth is you must ask or let her know you are going to the pot before doing so. I don't think you get how disrespectful it is to just walk to the pot of food cooked by someone you hardly or don't talk to,dayo walai e dey pain,the day my younger sister tried it with me because she felt she was grown and can keep malice with me and then do anyhow,i slapped her,collected the food from her and asked her to go cook if she wanted to eat since she no longer has respect for her elders,she reported to my dad and he told her she was wrong, asked her to apologize and then me to apologize for the slap,that was the day my father stamped it as one of his many laws.

The SIL was wayyyyyyy wrong,she belittled the lady to the core and the witch without a brain went to sleep on her bed,nna menh for what na?inshort her husband is a big s\t\u\p\i\d f00l i tell ya,this story dey vex me for reals. [/b]

[quote author=BABE!]You've heard what I said/typed. You don't own NL. Quit crying about the topics on the Home page. If this topic had sat here without anyone noticing it and commenting on it's "Senselessness", what use would it be to Seun? Would it have generated as much traffic? Nope. Their heads don't need to be checked. [/quote]BABE just STFU and go find someone to FBI on cos i see you idle,i think killz is Dayokanu running two ids,how bout you go dwell on that and "expose" him,you are so not making sense now,i don't even know what's your own in what i typed sef,am i the only one who said something about the thread and it being on the homepage? Abeg go attack someone else,i want to do a little studying now,au revoir.

[quote author=BABE!]What is your business with what makes the front page? Do you own Nairaland? NL is privately owned, remember? The owner(s) have the right to handle the front page the way they want. The topic is BS to you, and it makes sense to others. One man's food is another man's . . .

The owner(s) are not here to satisfy you. They are here to make money. If you're not satisfied with the content of the front page, you know what to do.[/quote]See this one,notice me,welcome i don see you,btw last time i checked you don't own NL too so i don't get why that post should be your business abi seun don give you the job of attacking anyone that mentions his name too?

The story is utter rubbish,bullshit,nonsense,jargon,gibberish,unintelligible and overly meaningless to everyone that has commented on it so far,so i wonder what you are on about,please let that your prefectship end for where e suppose dey,don't just bring it near me abeg,mscheeew.

Meristem: @op. i hav to tell u d truth. many women enter into marriage feeling like warriors dat have come to beat his family in a fight. dats d easiest way to play urself out of d game. some will descend on their husbands mother n turn dem to shoerags while expecting deir husband (HER SON) To watch and applaud. no!!!! It doesnt work. u must first see urself AS PART OF ur husbands family...not as a super duper fighter who has come to take over. wallahi if u were not with a child u would have been in the back of a pick up truck by now. home bound! If u saw urself as part of him u wuld have complained to His(yes his) parents not urs. take time o. i will pray for u sha.

Nna eh,thank God you can't slap someone from a computer screen if not many nlanders would be deaf by now.

She shouldn't complain to her parents when almost all her husband's people and her husband are against her?so cos she got married now means she's no longer her parents child?wonderful.

Where did she say she fought anyone in the story? I just wonder why people will see the truth and refuse to say it,that SIL is a trouble maker simples,if i've not experienced something like what OP narrated that would be a different thing.

The OP is too soft sef,let the SIL come and try it with people like a friend of mine,no be person go tell her,mscheew nansense .

clintwine: @op, honestly u handled the whole thing immaturely. You were trying to stamp your foot down and in the process of drivin your selfish ambition as the madam of the house, u have created a greater problem.
You've embellished the truth, your husband never hit you, he carried you to the room and dumped you on the bed several times and that would probably be because of your stubbornness
Nothing is more annoying and frustrating to a man than a wife who doesnt listen and want things to always go her way and never diplomatic

WTF is this one saying now?seriously do people now reason with their nyashes or what?

Its comments like this that annoy some people here and when they talk,una go say them don talk again,why won't someone get mad at this type of rubbish?mscheew.

freshmoney: Reading this, I asked myself, 'Is this girl married?'

If I am mistaken, which I am sure I am not, are you married?

One thing, you can't solve violence with violence,and in Nigeria, a man is the head of the family. Lots of woman that do not exchange blow for blow with their husbands are not obtuse, you know?

Don't mba nu me, OK?

I'm not married and that's cos i asked him to wait for sometime,btw this isn't about solving violence with violence,for crying out loud,how can a SIL come to take over my house,my baby and even my bed,yet someone expects me to fold my hands and watch that happen?

It doesn't have to end with violence or getting physical i will so deal with them that they'd be asking what hit them,mba nu again,adighi eme ya eme.

Eh OP you say wetin?

In which house?my own baby?my pot of food wey i cook with my own hands?

Mba nu,it cannot happen na,kama kwa anyi etinye ukwu na ofu trouser,nna mehn for what na?abeg stories like this one annoys me,who is that one asking her to apologize to a man that beat her up and embarrassed her in the presence of his siblings?you need your head checked for reals,what nansense.

What rubbish?like seriously muki and seun you both need your heads checked on the kinda trash you move to the front page,BULLSHIT OF FIRST CLASS ORDER.

OP that's one freaking blatant lie you just told in form of an annoying story,mscheew.

freshmoney: OK madam. Then use that thing well well, make that destined man enjoy am well

Trust i will.

freshmoney: 'Too young and misguided', Tola said.

"Not that young and obviously got her head in the right place" My papa said.

OP I advice you move on with your life cos obviously you can't handle being"just friends" with her.

I've been in that place where one of my very good friends was in love with me but i couldn't reciprocate cos i was into someone else,after a while i noticed he was growing cold towards me,i asked him what the ish was? and he said,he couldn't take being that close cos it was killing him slowly,i had no option but to let him go.

I even noticed his love for me was interfering in most of what he did for me and that wasn't just fair cos it was as if i was taking advantage of his love for me,all that contributed to my letting him go,i missed and still miss him but hey it was for the best.

See the truth is that you can never be" just friends" with her as your love for her will always get in the way of that,you won't be able to treat her like you would an ordinary friend,so just let go and you just may find your own love when you ain't even looking. Cheers.

obotia: Hello readers,
my name is Hannibal smith,i want to testify the goodness of Dr Obotia for helping me to recover my ex and my job back,i must say he is indeed a great spell caster.
Please help me thank him on his emai: templeofthespirit@yahoo.com and also if you need his help.
Please sir keep your good work because people need your helping hand

,chei which pattern will these yahoo boys not use? Kai see format,abeg how much will you pay us for thanking him? Reply abeg let me know how to compose my own "thank you" letter on your behalf to him, oloriburuku ,no go learn vulcanizing take dey manage your life,dey there dey wait for "thank you" letters .

blank: The ending was not as interesting as the beginning. It started out ok but lost it as it went on. Was reaaly pissed when i read the end. So annoying.

,what's annoying about it na? The story ended quite well to me o.

Mhismole: LOL! Why are only men commenting on this topic?

I had the most intense crush on my English teacher mehn. Choi! Dude had pink lips and one very selzy dimple

We were friends sha, used to sit on his table and gist with him for hours...

...until one of my classmates went to show him one letter I wrote about his 'long' thing

Omo many nlanders spoil quick o,choi .

chucky234: Nne no Akuko for there,abi no crush the OP
I sure say you don go look my pic maybe you sef don get crush on me,abi

Just checked your profile,so you are feeling like a fine boy with that your pic?omo if i crush on you cos of that pic that means i'll die for my beau na,you are sitting on a long thing.

chucky234: In secondary school I was a cute lanky ebony dude full of ego and never really had the time to admire any female teacher but 6 corpers were all over me between SSS1 to SSS3 but I wasn't able to give them attention because of my GF who was the meaning of beauty.

Akuko

[quote author=~Bluetooth]Ok. . . .Ramirez and drogba then cuz it seems you like them black. [/quote]No oo,take your ramirez abeg,drogba don do me.

kilimanjaro: No money with u baby, if bar ca win, i yawns u. Way do u say?

You ain't serious dude,what will then happen if chelsea wins?

[quote author=~Bluetooth] that one pass my power.O ya take drogba then. [/quote]Kai but i for like deal with Andre small o,okay let me keep drogba well for 2nd leg.

kilimanjaro: Camp nou will justify the means. No story. I can bet with anybody that barca is going to final.
Who will bet?

Don't bring any money,just tell me how much you want me to bet with,Barca win you chop. No jokes.