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vislabraye: That's true. Wait let it be Tonto Dike vs Funke or Genevieve vs Omotola or Ibo vs Yoruba it will be twenty pages. You'll see them writing a novel how one tribe betrayed another.

That's why I'm hardly here these days. Some of the people here are something else entirely!

MRbrownJAY: and yet you dont want to agree with me that you need time in order to know someone....so what is your solution? get married after 15days?
PEOPLE shouldnt care really about what he/she devils have done.......its all about YOUR own peace of mind. now, the important question IS: would you really believe you know someone after a few months of dating?! but hey, if you want to judge the actions of some few others in order to decide when to get married then, by all means, do that.

there are equally many people out there who have been married and got to know who their partner was, through extensive time spent getting to know one another (aka dating etc), finding what issues there may be, and work on these issues and decided to get married anyway.

here is my advice to anyone who think like you: spend valuable time to get to know that person, and when YOU bfully believe that you know them, then sit them down and (while looking into their eyes) ask them the important question/issues that you may have.......then make up your mind about if that person is the right one to get married to.

remember, there is a huge difference between finding (after marriage) that your wife has some temper issues, and finding that your wife's second name was Lucifer, lol!

I never said that you can marry someone after a few days. 6 months is enough for a full grown man or woman to make a decision as long as quality time has been spent during that period and you have been able to find out enough about the person's family background. I'm not married but I have seen many 5-8 year relationships go down the drain after less than a year of marriage. Such is life my dear. No matter how you plan for something, if God does not bless it, or if luck is not on your side, it will never work well. When you meet your soul mate, your spirit will tell you.
And as for difference between finding (after marriage) that your wife has some temper issues, and finding that your wife's second name was Lucifer, the truth is that there is no diff at all cos at the end of the day, you are still gonna be biting your fingers in regret!

@Sweetcheeks, thanks honey!

@freecocoa u ehn! Lol!

MRbrownJAY: ^^^^ bro, it is very easy for someone to PRETEND to be who they are not for a few months, and it also takes time for the true self of someone to come out. as much as you could marry someone after knowing them for a few weeks, AND BE HAPPY, i would suggest people get to know one another for a few yrs so they see if they still want to be with that person, when the sparks of that r/ship are gone.

also it all depends on how often you see one another...... if you live together right from the 2nd month of dating, then by all means, after a yr marry that person....... but if you live in Kaduna, while she is in Lagos then chances are a few yrs wont even be long enough to truly know that person.

My dear, manipulative people can decieve you till they get their aim. no matter how long it takes. And do you know that you can never totally know someone? What will you say about men who wake up one morning to find out that their wives of 10, 15, 20 years has or has had a child before the wives met them? You really will not imagine the lenghts a woman will go to keep such secret! how about woman who wakes up one morning only to find out that her husband of 15 years has done jail term?
Here's a more useful tip, Marry someone you CONNECT WITH, someone who makes your spirit feel at ease (after praying hard about it)

Flakeey: @Synthesis,
It seems you are not really ready for marriage with all these childish questions?
once you are fully ready to settle down, no one will tell you what to do.
you will definitely know...

Abi o!

snthesis: thanks TV01

what if i have all these but no job, will a girl i want to marry find me attractive?

You can FIND a girl to marry without a job but do not attempt getting married without a decent job. Your maturity level and willingness to make sacrifices are also important

I though to add this, the reason why most pretty girls snub guys when they approach them is because such guys did not have a very impressive approach or aura. men who talk like Isale_eko will make most beautiful women drool. Trust me. Little wonder he is married to one!
It's not always about money as most people will like to believe, but about sense of style, orative skills, proper use of words (I don't mean outright flattery) and charisma.
learn how to balance these and you will have them winking at you.

nitlad: lol.. Wait o, like seriously yhur actually crying? Lol

You don't know how painful this is. Really! I also meet people who have this sickening mentality in real life that's why I feel so bad about it

I don't know why but somehow, they look good together

Isale_eko: Hmm... I have followed this war of words and if I may chip in my bit. I am totally with Sweetlemon here. Tagging "most" beautiful ladies as dumb is already setting up a stereotype. When I graduated from medical school, the best graduating student was a hot lady and I mean hot; and she graduated with a distinction. The last person to graduate with a distinction from that school prior to that was 6 years before.

Oga Sexkhillz (apologies if I got the spelling wrong), how do you react when Australians and Malaysians tag Nigerians as mostly 419 people or drug dealers? Do you accept that stereotype sitting down or try to let the world know that it is not true.

Another example here is my wife who is a perfect combination of beauty and brains. She gets at least three toasters every single day even with wedding ring on her fingers and she is as homely as they come because I can proudly say that I married the best woman in the world. Maybe you should go through some of my posts and you will see the post of a man who is happy with his marital life.

Summary: the tag that most beautiful women are dumb because they can open doors with their smile and so on is baseless and dependent on your sentiments and views about life. Until you have carried out research analyzing at least 50 beautiful women, your opinion remains just that, an opinion and not a fact or the truth. For all we know, you may just have the talent of only jamming the beautiful ladies that are dumb.

I'm actually crying right now. Thanks so much sir! It is real men like you that are able to keep and COMMAND the respect of beautiful women. God bless you sir!

bittyend: Put you down to get you? You're a joker! You think I care about you and your average looks? I deal with real beautiful women, and my personality and oratory skills are enough to get any girl I want. I don't even need to blow my trumpet on how I look.

Get over yourself and stop showing your low self-esteem. Who cares about what you look like? And judging by what you have got on your profile, you can't even compete with the girl next door to me. Are the girls in Nigeria that ugly that you have to blow your trumpet everywhere? Take a deep breath and hit the bed, you need to take a nap, mate.

*whispers into bittyend's ears* " 'Get to them' and 'get them' have two diff meanings"

bittyend: Yawnnn!

Arguing back and forth about who's beautiful or not. Most Nigerian girls are not even beautiful, so how can you ascertain that most beautiful girls are dumb when you are judging from the Nigerian perspective? Can some of you post pictures of these "beautiful and dumb" girls?

And sweetlemon, who lied to you that you are all that? You are just the girl next door, nothing special. I won't give you a second look, if you walked past me. Get over yourself and stay humble.

You obviously do not understand what I am saying here and that is why you have concluded that I am not humble. You do not know me personally mind you. Mayb you are one of such guys who play the game of putting pretty girls down so they can feel bad and therefore making it easier for you to get to them. Well, such childish non-sense does not work on me. Sorry.
I won't be replying anything you say after this

sigmundfreud: Well...we were talking KIM K and Michelle O before u monopolized the discussion, personalizing peoples' opinions,selectively abstracting comments and interpreting it as an affront on all beautiful-drop-dead-gorgeous-over-the-IQscale-intelligent women, of which you are their self- appointed representative!
We get it! You are beautiful (or so you think!!) but your comments here av really put your intelligence into question!

Please go through your previous comments before I came in sir. I can see your desperate attempt at making me look or feel dumb but it's not gonna work and we all know that I have made some strong points here even if you guys will rather kill yourselves than admit them. But's ok, like I said, I will let you hold on to your pride as tightly as you wish. I only beg of you to drop this your "most pretty girls are dumb campaign" until you have interacted closely with at least 5 beyonce, halle berry or ashraya rai-like beauties. That's all I ask.

Claus: Sure thing. Your above comments do not reflect the intention of my post so I'll explain using Kim K and Michelle O as appropriate examples.

I consider both to be naturally beautiful in their own right. However, one of them feels the need to make use of practically everything the cosmetics industry has to offer in addition to wearing outfits that leave little to the imagination. The experience of most guys is that girls like that have little to offer intellectually. So there, simple, two beautiful women, one decides that the natural beauty still needs all the enhancements it can get.

If we now also want to talk about the ugly girls that try to oppress us with their fake hair, nails etc, that's a WHOLE new conversation. :-)

Hopefully, my point is not cryptic like flotus.




I understand. It was a cheap shot. I wouldn't call it "slangs" (sic) though.

Anyway, 3 vs 1 is unfair so having made my point, I'll bow out at this stage.

Peace!

That is not the Kind of beauty we are talking about Oga. And kim K's looks are 95% natural FYI.
And I'm not advocating for her

sexkillz: [color=#000030]Do you look like Halle berry?
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Do you know me personally? And please stop trying to avoid my question

slimyem: he never concluded anything..
He speculated..
He opined..
Same way i did!
You disagree..and its okay!
Simple!
Hian!

What is the diff btw forming an opinion of smth and concluding on smth? Is it not when you have concluded that you form an opnion?
Hello?

sexkillz: [color=#000030]I mentioned the emboldened in my first comment on this thread. . .

Sweetlemon, no one is against you. Just understand the difference between "all" and "most" and you are good to go, nne.
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And if only you will understand the implication of using the word "most"! I ask you again, how many halle berry or kim k look-alikes have you worked closely with or lived close to in person? how many? And can you say it is enough to conclude that "most" are like that?

sigmundfreud: You dont even know who is on ur side, u are just fighting everybody!
He agreed with u and then expressed his 'opinion' on girls being artificial.
Thats all.

And we are talking about beautiful women here and NOT artificial women. They are worlds apart! two diff issues entirely!

sigmundfreud: *faints*
I thot his post was self explanatory!
U ve been ryt all along the problem is...COMPREHENSION!

What do you mean by self explanatory? Did you not see what he wrote clearly about the elaborate fake hair and too much make up? how does that classify a beautiful woman please? Are we talking about beautiful women here or are we talking about artificial ladies?

AmBeautiful: will you kids stop fighting

I am standing up for beautiful women like me who have been labelled with all manner of unfair tags even before we are spoken to. Iv had enough and that is why I'm doing this so let me because I don't want another man to look at me again like, "hhmmmn she's hot, let me get a taste of that juice" you never can tell, I can meet someone here in real life and that is how the person will start thinking "she must be this, she must be that" just by looking at me

Claus: Sweetlemon, the way the other poster referred to Michelle Obama as flotus and the context in which she kept using the acronym made it quite obvious even to non social network addicts.

You have some good points though.

I admit it wasn't obvious to me, and I will say again that it does not devalue my university degree cos it's just a slang. I'm not very good with slangs and I'm not ashamed of that cos learning all the slags in the world does not make you a Michelle Obama or a Queen Elizaberth. I concentrate my mental energy on other things

Claus: I actually agree with Sweetlemon a bit here. I don't think most pretty girls are dumb. I've personally never seen any correlation between brains and (natural) beauty.

However, as I've stated before, the super fake hair, excessive make-up, overtly sexually dressed (you get the picture) girls tend not to engage in the most meaningful and intelligent discussions, hence the deduction that a lot of guys make.

Interesting! so you r saying girls with super fake hair, excessive make-up, and overtly sexually dressed are actually what you will call beautiful are you saying you haven't seen ugly girls wearing elaborate brazillian weaves or obviously done mary kay make up Please enlighten me

Chrisbenogor: Even a dead clock is right twice a day, I am very sure this is one of em "dead clock moments"
Take a chill pill jare, why are you arguing for someone whose IQ is not up to that of Mr. Ibu, abi dem cut something give you from the 5 million dolls give me my share and I would change so fast you would think usain bolt was a tortoise.

Don't you gerrit? I'm not arguing for Kim K! I'm arguing for the other beautiful ladies who fall into the "most" category of dumb bimbos you guys have classified us into! wow! didn't you guys study comprehension passages in secondary school?

sexkillz: [color=#000030]Neither have i seen flotus as well previously. But since it is not an English word, i knew it was an acronym. . . A very obvious acronym.
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LOL! is that s'pposed to make me feel dumb? LOL!
It's Obvious only to social network addicts! Do you know I sitll don't know what LMKWD (did I get it right?) is? that's cos I am not always on social sites. Nairaland is the only forum I have ever commented in and I'm not always on face book

Chrisbenogor: Why you dey make matters worse now, comprehension has been the problem.

The guy does not just want to admit that he is wrong. But's Ok cos I'm sure I drove home some points even if he'd rather die that admit it.

sigmundfreud: Sigmund:strike! Go for the jugular!!
Me: relax! Shez still angry..its the brain faster than finger thing.
Sigmund: nah! I think is the blond effect or is 'flotus' an English word?!
Me:c'mon evrybody knows FLOTUS is first lady of the US...
Sigmund: and when did u start thinking for people?!
Me: i think for u, at least!
She missed * I dont believe*
Sigmund: get out of here
Me: my thots exactly!

To be frank, I never knew what flotus meant till now, But you know what? It doesn't reduce the value of my university degree cos it's just a slang brother!
And until you can tell me you do not know up to 5 plain-looking ladies who do not have sugar dadies, or 5 super hot ladies you personally know who are like intimacy gadgets, biko metuonu!

vivian chinaza: @chRisbenogoR: bia nwokem shift kene biko.......... I already addressed the thread imo! That write up addRessed the notion that most supeR sexy beautiful women are vain. Biko activate ur comprehension skills or look for a translator! Ikpokwam afam ozo mu na gi ga ese ezigbo okwu!

Double high 5s sister!

sexkillz: [color=#000030]Pls go and check the previous pages. You would see that i came in after i saw that you misunderstood what was going on. And i am not guilty of nothing, since i am a firm believer that there are exceptions to every rule. . .

There are Kim look a likes, even hotter than Kim that are pretty smart. And there are Michelle look alike that are pretty dumb!. . . Exceptions.

Here, it is KIM K vs MICHELLE''s ATTRIBUTES!!!
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And when you came in, you poured fuel into the fire by saying clearly and precisely that "MOST pretty girls are pretty dumb". How would you feel if I said that most men from your village are pretty usless in a thread that says "Mr X Vs Mr Y" if Mr X comes from your village? how? Even if Mr X is actually useless, you will feel insulted that I said most are useless just cos of Mr X.

sexkillz: [color=#000030]And again, the thread is not measuring the general attributes of super hot ladies, but THE ATTRIBUTES OF KIM K VS MICHELLE O AND WHICH OF THOSE ATTRIBUTES GUYS AND GIRLS WOULD RATHER SETTLE FOR!!!!

Don't you geddit?
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That was supposed to be the title of the thread! But you guys turned it into another "most pretty girls are pretty dump" crusade with your comments and that is why I came in!!!!!!! And please don't pretend that you are not guilty of this.

vivian chinaza: What's all these rants about Michelle Obama sef..... She is Flotus for crying out loud! The way she carries herself is what is Required of her as flotus! Kim is a hollywood celebrity and being sexy and hot is requiRed in that sectoR! And that's why every body like heR (celebrity) strive to be sexy and hot..., cos in hollywood sexiness pays period!

And about this super sexy beautiful women are dumb? Yea a lot people are under that impression! And I think its ur duty to prove them wrong. I'm a beautiful woman and when people see me they think life is so easy for me......that I get everything on a platter of gold just by smiling at men but when they come closeR to me they will find out that I stRuggle just like eveRybody else.....I work my butt off to put food on my table and I don't depend on any man oR smile at any man for favour! WhateveR good thing that I have now is a product of God, dedication, hardwork and perseverance! I'm a combination of beauty and bRains period! But if I had chose to be a celebrity trust me I will do everything to be hotter and sexier than Kk....! And if a guy sees nothing in me other than the sex symbol, it will be moRe of his pRoblem than mine!

High 5 sister! But I don't think Michelle is that way just cos she is flotus o! she posseses an eloquence every woman should try to have

Chrisbenogor: LOL you are beginning to crack me up, look at the title of the thread again this is about women with the attributes of Kim K as against those with the attributes of Mi Obama.
I use celebrities because you and I could relate to them! If I use a hot girl I know how would you understand or are you having a blond moment?
Am I really supposed to answer and say hey Sweetlemon I know 1 million hot women? Give me a break abeg.
[size=4pt]Is there no Michelle I can argue with [/size]

Console yourself! the poster here is adressing ladies in general and not just Kim K and Michelle. besides, comments here such as yours directly or indirectly say that most super hot ladies are not wifely. Btw, I didn't ask for a million examples of hot ladies you know personally, I said just 5 as in five (1, 2, 3, 4, 5)

sexkillz: [color=#000030]Saying most is not the same as saying all. Don't get it twisted. Speaking for myself, i don't judge people before i meet them. What i have stated here is my personal experience with hot ladies.

Kim's life is there for all to see. She is a bimbo, a intimacy gadget. The thread is actually about "intimacy gadgets vs wifely materials" ably represented by Kim and Michelle. Two prominent figures. . .

Pls wrap your mind around the fact that there are exceptions to every rule. Personally, i am an exception to most rules about guys, and that is why i am able to spot the difference when guys are generalized, and when someone says "most" guys are this and that, i use myself as an example and lend credence to that statement.

I expected you to say you are Hot but then unlike most hot girls, you are this and your are that. But No, you went about it all wrong. . .


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That is Kim K! Kim chose to be that way the same way with some other plain looking girls I know who will sell their own souls to date Dangote! Now do you comprehend my point
STOP USING KIM OR OTHER T.V XTERS AS A YARD STICK FOR MEASURING THE GENERAL ATTRIBUTES OF SUPER HOT LADIES. PLEASE!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!