₦airaland Forum

givedemwotowoto:
While I doubt that GEJ will run again as I prefer we try PO, if GEJ decides to run, his presidency will achieve 2 things:

1. End Atiku’s presidential bid finally
2. End the calamity of 2015 when we put power into the hands of greedy, corrupt, tribal bigots who destroyed all the progress made over the years, for selfish gain

If GEJ joins the 2027 race, then I’ll ask PO to drop his political ambition. He can work with GEJ to help strengthen democracy for the next election

Other than that, it’s PO all the way

The north want someone from the south that can do only one term

thesicilian:
Naturally people will blame the federal and state government without taking a look at the school administrators who keep embezzling funds meant for facility renovations and upgrades

Your ceiling cannot get wet if your roof is not leaking.

The administrators will not embezzle if the state government is not embezzling and the state government is not going to embezzle if the federal government is not embezzling.

This is what Peter Obi was talking about when he said that if you're not corrupt, your wife is not corrupt, your kids are not corrupt and those around you are not corrupt then you will succeed in fighting corruption.

When the head is corrupt, the entire body will be corrupt.

Starboytwo:
I dont like that style.

Many years ago, I took a girl I like and we strolled. We reached an aboki and I bought suya, she promptly told me she don't want but i should give her the money for her own instead.


Although I gave her the #500, but I couldn't shake the feeling that I was scammed.

That N500 might be her tfare to somewhere tomorrow, might be her feeding money tomorrow.


I think she just prioritized her needs.

mysticwarrior:
you must be a lion in human form writing this.

😂 😂 😂 😂


What's this?

Damina attacks their message but they attack his person.

How about they counter him with scriptures?

I hate hyenas

There's nothing we no go see in this generation of mental health 🚶🏿 🚶🏿

Skooltynz:
Three days?
Ahhhh e too much na!
I dey manage 1500 for food say 700 per plate three fufu and one meat in the morning bread 400 beans 300 for Nighr, afternoon is sleep and press phone.

So how do you make money?

uncleck:
You took her out on the 1st date and she refused to order anything, She asked you to give her the money instead so she could buy food as there is no food at home, What will you do?

I’m going to spend much more than I initially planned.

I had a similar experience during COVID. I asked a friend to help me cook a particular soup that I didn’t know how to make. When she finished, I suggested we eat together, but she declined. Instead, she asked if she could take some soup home so she could buy fufu and feed her family because there was no food at home.

I gave her enough to cook a full meal for her family. I don’t joke around when it comes to my family, so when I see someone who cares deeply about theirs, it makes me happy.

But I couldn't give her just soup because I didn’t know how her father would feel if she returned home with soup from my place. It seemed better for her to cook something herself so everyone would think it came from her.

yoruboid:
For those asking what the importance is

Kano - Niger standard gauge can easily be extended from Niger to Abuja and also Abuja to Ibadan

This means an effective rail from Kano - Lagos via Abuja and Ibadan and also Kano to Warri via Abuja and Itakpe

Niger republic not Niger state

Ilamina:


I thought there will be no air and it will be horrible

But it will be almost like earth
It's just that we will be getting light from a different kind of source

I can't wait too go there

But I hope there will be TV and phone
Because I wanna watch some things I didn't watch on earth

And I wanna kiss my daddy and sister everyday. .imagine being in heaven
And you can't communicate with your family anymore

Na so.


If ordinary small headache worry you now you go visit 5 hospitals in 12 minutes 😂 😂 😂

folake4u:
I'm glad that you acknowledged that a man who asks his wife to abandon her career is selfish. However, this happens a lot.

@ the bolded. I thought Marriage was meant to be a partnership? There are lot of marriages that women contribute immensely to the family growth. And if he feels that she's not playing her role, it is something that can be discussed as a couple. Communication is still KEY.

As a matter of fact, I do not subscribe to the idea of a man telling his wife to quit her job because he "feels" she's not managing the home front well. If at all that should happen, it should be on HER OWN TERMS otherwise, there will be resentment on her part. It really isn't easy for a career woman to take a pause from her career to focus on the family, by the time she's spent substantial amount of years raising the kids and want to resume the work force, a lot of changes have happened and how is she going to explain the career gap to hiring agencies?

Infact all these talks about finances and responsibilities are part of courtship questions that many couples these days shy away from, rather they focus on chaff and not the wheat. It's best the talks start from this stage so you actually know what you're heading into.

If a man wants a house wife, I see nothing wrong with that actually. My own is that he should also find a woman who consents, is willing, ready and loves being a house wife. In simple terms, there's agreement on both parties and no coercion from a single party.

It is good for women to set their standards. And it is also good for men to set their standards and have preference. The point I'm trying to make is that let there be a consensus ad idem; a meeting of the mind with clear mutual understanding from both sides.

Look for the person that wants what you want as well. Period!

There’s a lot I could talk about here, but let me zero in on the emboldened.

You can’t have everything in life. Sometimes you win, and sometimes you lose. My grandfather always said that when you’re chasing something important, you must pass by other important things along the way.

Marriage isn’t something you just do because you feel like it or because everyone else is doing it. Before you tie the knot, you need to realize you’re starting a small society of your own, and that comes with sacrifices.

If you put your family first, your career might take a hit. If you put your career first, your family might suffer. Sure, some people manage to balance both, but let’s be honest—they’re the exception, not the rule. Whatever you choose means you’re giving up something else. If you don't want to have a gap in your career and there is no other way to go about it then focus on your career and leave having kids. Life is easy, na Oliver twist spirit dey complicate matters.

A man’s primary job is to provide for and protect his family. It doesn’t matter what else he has going on—if he doesn’t do that, he’s not fulfilling his role. And the same goes for a woman; if she doesn’t handle her responsibilities within the family, she’s falling short too.

That’s why I say if you’re not ready to put in the work to raise kids who’ll be a blessing to society and not a burden, then maybe it’s better to just enjoy your life and skip the whole parenting thing.

Some people try to have it all by hiring help. That’s fine and might even be necessary, but it’s not always ideal. They often say they’re working hard to give their kids the best, which might be true, but let’s be real—sometimes it’s also about fulfilling their own desires.

In some sad cases, the kids they worked so hard for end up getting swallowed by society because they weren’t properly prepared for life. The parents prepared life for them without preparating them for life 😂 😂. If you can’t make the sacrifices needed to raise good kids, maybe it’s better not to have them at all.

Now back to the topic, If a man is fulfilling his responsibilities in the family, but the woman isn’t because of her job, and he ends up paying for the help she needs to manage the household, then what value does her job really add to him?

Why should he respect her career or feel obligated to support her professional growth if it doesn’t contribute to the family's well-being?

Na question unah no wan answer be this.

pocohantas:
Why not marry the one that doesn't want to work? I don't understand why they go for working women and make them resign.

Isn't this wizardry? I am sure that man is related to Tallesty.

😂 😂 😂 😂


You just dey find trouble

Sonnobax15:

Op, are you a novelist?

Cuz how can someone whose wife is frustrating have the time to be constructing grammars like Patrick Obayaigbon when his mind isn't at peace?

When you don dey serious,we go know.....Cuz na warri langua you go use explain your predicament by then

If by the touch of love every man becomes a poet then it's possible that a good dose of frustration can make a man a novelist.

folake4u:
About the bolded, we've seen times without number that there exist some men who aren't comfortable in women earning more than them because of ego issues. Also, some men have stated their preference about their partner being a full time house wife, making the woman abandon her budding career.

I'd still stand on my word that there are some men that feel insecure around women that are doing well for themselves.

Dressing the part for self esteem is a confidence booster, and it should be imbibed by both gender.

About dressing to outdo the next woman? That I cannot say because it doesn't apply to all females. Matter of fact, it doesn't apply to one gender alone. Men size their fellow men to gauge their level of wealth and sometimes in secret competition with each other.

There, I said it.

A man who asks his wife to abandon her career is acting selfishly; he wouldn’t have chosen her if he were truly insecure or intimidated by her financial success.

Men and women typically seek different qualities in a partner. Regardless of a woman's financial status, she often looks for a man who can provide. On the other hand, many men don’t place much value on a woman’s money because, in most cases, it doesn’t directly benefit them.

There are situations where a woman earns a good salary, but the man still shoulders the financial responsibilities. For such men, the woman’s job, money, or career holds no value in their lives.

If a woman is working but not contributing financially, and the household isn’t being managed properly because of her job, the man can tell her to quit or leave.

In some cases that they hire help because she’s working, it’s often the man who pays for it. After all, her money is considered her own.

If a man wants a housewife and is fully prepared to provide and protect, there’s nothing wrong with that. It’s simply his preference, just as some women prefer men who can provide and protect.

The real issue is that women set their own standards, but when a man sets his, he’s often labeled as insecure or intimidated.

But that’s not the case at all.

folake4u:
@ the bolded. You getttttt!!! We don't find it necessary to add such to the convos or brag about it.

They always complain about "broke" women, oya change your environment and people you hang out with? Noooo. Some of them feel insecure around women that are doing well for themselves.

Na their type dey give their understanding girlfriend 1k to do all back from January to December but side chick go dey use deep curl 20 inches wig.

This is not entirely accurate, and you know it. Or maybe you believe it's true because many people are saying it.

Here’s the reality: women don’t see men as competition because they aren’t. A woman might tell a man that she wears expensive clothes and hairstyles to look good for him, but that’s not the full truth. They say this to get money from him. Deep down, women invest in their appearance for two main reasons:

1. Self-Esteem and Opportunities: Looking good is good business. It boosts self-esteem, confidence, and how they carry themselves. It can even open doors.

2. Competition Among Women: Women dress well to outdress each other, not because they’re doing it for their men. It’s more about outshining other women.

Similarly, a successful woman doesn’t intimidate a man or make him insecure because men and women aren’t in competition. Sime men don’t value a woman’s money, so it doesn’t matter to them. In reality, one of the things that stops a broke guy from dating or marrying a very successful woman is competition from other wealthy men, not the woman’s money.

If ten broke guys are vying for a wealthy woman, none of them will be intimidated by her wealth because there’s no one outdoing them financially. The one who might feel intimidated is the one who’s both broke and unattractive.

It’s not the woman’s money that’s the issue, but the attractiveness of his competitors.

Nazgul:
You're lucky you're not my girlfriend. Na mallam (gorimapa, skin) you go de barb.

I go buy olive oil way you go de use run am so that it would shine very well and bring out your inner beauty.

When a relationship is built on what each person can do for the other, it's destined to fail because the foundation is inherently toxic.

Relationships thrive when both individuals take care of their own needs independently. This way, whatever you do for your partner comes from a place of genuine desire, not obligation.

That's why you see men taking on responsibility of a parent—because if they don't, they're afraid she'll leave.

Just look at these blind date shows online. There's always that ridiculous question: "How much will you give her monthly?" Why is he expected to provide her with money every month? Are they searching for love or someone to adopt them?

Relationships these days are seriously messed up.

How much my woman spends on her hair is not my business but I am not paying for it unless I feel like.

Nazgul:
5k na Nigerian money na. In the 80s my dad told me he bought a car for less than 5k.

So no be rubbish money. Your people go hold am first, when Peter Obi won e go get value I swear. 🤕

Your proposals is fair enough, if she do anyhow lemme know make I give you her uncle's number.


That one dey ready to collect tu thousand pipe hundred

loffers:
Please can this be used to pay for Apple music?

I don't know sir.

I got it new and have only used it on Alibaba

AutoManual:
what is their limit cap on?

Daily or monthly?

edogu:
More details please.

I was using Eversend initially and the charge was always around 1690, someone told me about Providus card and gave me a contact.

I chatted the person up and he asked for the normal docs required for opening account in Nigeria.

I was charged 5k for they card.
You must make a 100k deposit that you can withdraw anytime.

The card was delivered to me via DHL

It was from the 100k that they deducted their 5k charge for the card.

I have used it twice this week and the rates is fair.

Chat him up. 09059000627

AutoManual:
does it work on google and aliexress? What is their rate like?

I use it on Alibaba.

1605 as of two days ago

skultrick:
No be to dey shout very good rate. What is your rate today lemme compare it this Chipper criminals.

Chipper put exchange at $1787 when it is $1590 in black market. If you now want t to withdraw the dollar you funded at $1787 they will pay $1585.

This is pure daylight robbery. To even pay for services go dey fear you.

Open a providus bank account and get their card.


You will thank me later.

Their 23Million is our 2Billion

pocohantas:
Then she stops getting the 2m wigs and makes do with whatever the dispatch rider offers. If anything, if would prove Nigerian ladies marry for love. The girl dances/influences on TikTok, I think the guy does too.

E no get when you no get wetin you go talk.



Leave me abeg.

Sapasenator:
You should engage in a lot of pre-intimacy for about an hour.

God forbid

Oloki:
One get the 1k but you need to swear affidavit before you can get it.... Na so girl life be. No free food in freetown

You guys need to think a bit deeper sometimes.

She’s asking for 1k, which is likely what she believes her friends can afford.

If she’s asking for just 1k, it’s safe to assume she’s probably broke. And if she’s broke, it’s likely her friends are in a similar situation, as their responses suggest. So where are they supposed to get the money from?

Women share money here sometimes, abi those ones don't count?

DaddyCoool:
My friend you don't know the relationship between her and the man. Nowhere does it say he's a stranger. The way he called himself innocent and she jokingly countered him with "who dey innocent?"
How you jumped from that to armed robbers and kidnappers beats me.

She begged for data on her status.



That's disrespectful to herself and husband.

JobAndVacancies:
condolences isn't solely used to sympathize the bereaved.
It can be used when sympathizing with someone's misfortune.
Btw Gloriousgbola developed a heart attack and was rushed to the hospital by his girlfriend and fellow nairalander Ishilove, we pray he survives it.
Omo 42 million no be small money ooo especially for people like him that was so accustomed to poverty

This is funny to you?