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byvan03:
We are in a world where people now enter into marriage with Plan A,B, and C in place. What do you expect when they have already seen the end of their marital lives from the beginning? Only few people marry these days just because they want to spend the rest of their lives together.

I totally agree with you sis. There is no better way to put it. Happy New Year to you.

byvan03:
We are in a world where people now enter into marriage with Plan A,B, and C in place. What do you expect when they have already seen the end of their marital lives from the beginning? Only few people marry these days just because they want to spend the rest of their lives together.

I totally agree with you sis. There is no better way to put it.

patto23:
Pls am six month pregnant and my boyfriend says he is not interested in the baby, i do not want the baby either because am still in school, and i do not want my people to no about it. plz is there any agency or anyone that can help me take care of the pregnancy or adopt it? I really need help.

Young lady the deed is already done and its way to late for either of you to say you dont want the baby. Make sure you dont dump that baby after he or she comes. The blood of that child will forever hunt you.
Here is what i think you can do. If you are so scared of facing your parents to tell them then who can you tell? Your mother is supposed to be your confidant in a time like this. You can send her text while you stay outside her does when she reads your message. Go on your kness and wait for her to see you, she will sure be dissapointed in you BUT SHE WILL NOT KILL YOU. Her grandchild is on the way and she will be very happy later on.

And please spare me that bullshit that your boyfriend doesnt want the baby. You are both in this together and you will bear the brunt together not you alone. You do not have anything to discuss with him again. Go straight to his parents house with your mum or an elder sister if you have one ( thats if you still do not have the courage to tell your mum ). Let your boyfriends parents know you are expecting their grandchild, except they are irresponsible parents will they not accept you ( though at might accepting the pregnancy might not be in a friendly way ) but at least let them know you having a child for thier son.

It not the end of the world. There is always light at the other side of the tunnel. Good luck to you.

Is that all he got in his retarted brain to say? Haters club

Awwww she is so cute like her mother. God bless her.

Xsolutions:
ONLY MATURE post so far, not like the ones above who have only been married for 4 or 5 years. I think one should only take seriously the comment of those who have been married for 10 years and above...
God Bless Your Marriage more.Amen

Amen thanks and bless your home too.

ladenz:
Nice. 2 things

1. Please don't reveal your husband's identity on nairaland or they might try and snatch him.

2. What exactly did you do with the ice cream

Lol. Its a bedmatic course 401 for lovers. *lips sealed*

abisquare:
[sub][/sub]Rants of a mother in pains. Its been days. And it still feel like a magic like a dream I gave u a special name since d first day I felt u in me. A name befitting a prince that u re I loved you with everytin in me. A mothers pure undilitued love,knowing you were growing inside me gives joy. And I waited patiently to hold u in my arm.to cuddle and give u a mothers warmth and love. Alas it was all day dreaming I never get the chance to hold you. Before u sleep on peacefully. No amount of my tears could bring u back. Sleep on my prince. am a greiving mother. Bt I break to be strong again. Cos I know u re in a special place. U fought just as I fought. U re a macho man. My macho man. I wish I held u just once just once may be my pains will not be dis much. Ya allah ease my pains. Ease my pains. I love u ray, we all love you. Alhamdulilahi for everything.

Sis na lie... OMG let me call you first

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Wicked man. Why he wan kill the woman na because of politics, why not seperate from her if he doesnt want it. Yeye man as if he wunt join in choping stolen money.

But some women too like oversabi sha. Whats a woman going to do in politics sef? Iranu

SAMBARRY:
same to you my dear.wey my bokoto and catfish pepper soup

Abi no new year food

Still on fire omo iya mi, will be done sooner than you expect.

Nice thread,here is what works for me.
Firstly I went into my relationship with a statement on my mind(if my mum can remain with my dad with all the challenges they had which I also witnessed,then I can do better)
Ability to communicate effectively, while dating and up till now in marriage with 2 kids our communication has remained very very solid.
Communication has really helped my relationship a lot,it helps us both trash our differences amicably,there are somethings I can't say to my hubby face(cause I know I might not present it well and I don't want to be rude) so I put it into a chat and he understands me perfectly well. Each time we have our arguments,we make sure we apologise n trash it out before the end of the day.we do not go to bed in anger.
I have also learnt not to argue so much with my hubby,whenever he is angry with me am quite and let his anger subside then I apologise(even if deep down in my heart I know I wasn't wrong)I still apologise,I know how angry my hubby can get and I know better than to push further,we both have a bad temper but there can only be one leader,outside my home you don't dare mess with me,I will dish it to you very hot and spicy. I am the very aggressive type but hubby isn't,he is more calm than I am. I argue a lot too but not with hubby except in cases when we are gisting and having fun. Hubby loves football but I hate it with everything but what can I do I simply got used to it,my first son already took after him as a football fan.
We both understand ourselves perfectly,we have been together for over 10years now. We have had our ups and downs which has taught us to be more united and understand ourselves better.
Our sex life might not be has active as when we where still single cause of kids but we have both been active,we have fun anywhere in the house(of course when kids are asleep or in school).we try out new things and I sure don't forget my bowl of ice-cream when I want to give a special treat(call me a dirty woman/raw woman/sex freak/whatever) I care less,his my man.
We have remained each others best friends,we share gifts,watch movies together,shop together,hubby goes to market for me at times and cook as well, we gossip together and share news with each other. We are both social media fans(we actually meet on a social forum and started as friends before dating which led to our marriage). We don't hide anything from each other. He introduced me to nairaland and he is also a active member on nairaland.
We do not encourage 3rd parties into our affairs,it has never and will never happen. What ever happens within our walls die within our walls.we both help ourselves to remain strong in work life and business life. We support ourselves in every possible way we can with the help of God and for once I have never regretted meeting my hubby. If there is a next life,I would chose the same man all over again.
My marriage is not perfect cause there is no perfect marriage but I tell you,marriage is fun and am loving it all the way.

Lol. Kanwuliajara Happy new year to you sis. Good to see you in 2016.
Sambarry happy new year to you too.

cococandy:
ladies are not smiling

LMAO.. Is that for real The wife who did this must be a joker and a learner to think this will solve her problem

uwadia79:
Nairalanders,happy new year, let's hear from u guys.Is it really a sin for a married woman to use contraceptives?

NO it is not a sin. It becomes a GREAT SIN when you use it without the mutual agreement between you and your husband.

phlamesG:
Ur papa buy apple 500k but una no fit paint una house

Xmh

lmao. chai some people get wicked mouth for this nairaland sha. Lol

cococandy:
as in eh.
Every small thing. even in clear cases they will still ask "what should I do."

Lol. no be nairaland. nairaland of comedy where anything can happen. lol.
happy new year sis.

ifyalways:
Iya cake, same to you

Thank you for everything.

Lol @ iya cake. thanking you more sis for being part of my blissful 2015. God bless you.

ifyalways:
So you drove big trucks for 8 years and none of your colleagues or even 4 of them cannot lend or dash you 4000 ngn each?

If you actually need a job and not trying to play on people's emotion, you could connect with your colleagues and join in "loading and offloading" goods.

You want cut grass and instead of going out to the real world,you are refreshing page,creating threads on nld as if grass and money grows on the Internet.

Like I said, it's 2016.

Happy New Year Sis.

espionagesavvy:
Dear Cynthia,

I have a 36 year old single very distant cousin living with me. He asked to spend days in my house but it been two years and he is not planning to leave. I have discussed so many times with him, and told him severally to get a place of his own but he simply is not batting an eyelid. I live in a two bedroom flat, so he shares the room with my teenage daughters. The worst thing is that he doesn't knock while entering the room and my daughter's have complained of him entering the bathroom while they are in there without knocking, also he has no job and is always boasting. He calls me mummy with my kids, I am 39, not very much older than himself but he joins my kids in calling me mummy.
Please how do I get rid of this parasite.

Imabong from Crossriver..

wait a minute did you say you are 39 years I seriously doubt that madam. you have a grown up man sharing same room with your daughters, who badges in on them in their room and bathroom for 2 years haaaaaaa mogbe, woman are you under a spell or what just asking though.

send him out ke. Maka why now, it's not yet time to send him out o. Please wait until he rapes and terminate 4 pregnancies each for your teenage daughters and then badges in on you too while you in the bathroom and give you 3 rounds forcefully then your eyes go clear.

Yeepee !!! We made it again HAPPY NEW YEAR !!! I Love You All.

SAMBARRY:
are you asking AN obvious question.in Nigeria a woman was born to marry even if she's going to be the 20th wife

abi o, I no even sabi why the thing shock me like have never heard the thing before. orisirisi.

Dyt:
Haaaaa
Anti boash

haaa wot I do na? lol well am taking from my own kinda body o. 2 weeks at most. who doesn't like enjoyment na. winks

Trendition:
Got married two years ago to a now 34year old man, and I am 26. Met him through my mum when he came into the country 3years ago, so we dated for about 9months. We got married but he had to remain in canada while I stayed back.


Truth be told, I never loved him. He's rich, okay-looking, charming and all but I just do not love him. I married him cos I kinda saw him as a clean slate, a chance to start anew cos I have lived life, done things that I am not proud of, gotten heart broken. And I just don't want kids with a man I do not love. They say u can fall in love after marriage but not here, I just admire my husband.

Hubby comes home in December and stays through to february. I kept d pills in an empty bottle of multivitamins but never thought he'ld look closely at d inscriptions on the tablets cos I had gotten away with it the past years. No one has been on my neck about getting pregnant though.


He was so angry I thought he'ld throw me out that night. He's been sleeping in d guests', doesn't eat my food, he says I am a selfish and wicked woman. I'm sooooo scared he'll call my parents, I'll just die.


Do I just walk out now and risk my parents knowing what really happend? Will I find such a gentle man again? Do I get pregnant? will I love my kids? He's such a wonderful man but I don't love him!!!



PS: I never cheated on him

Sorry am going to talk from my opinion here, From this story you are very very wrong, though its your choice and your body. On a second thought you are kinda right so i wunt blame you too much. Still Better to prevent than do worse thing by cheating on your man. You need to apologise to your man asap.
Secondly please and please come out clean with this man and free him and free yourself as well. Whats the point staying married to someone you dont love and dont want to have kids with For the money or what I dont get. You don try sef for 2 years, well i guess its easy for you cause you dont live together,could have been a diffrent story if otherwise.
Go on your kness and beg that man for wasting 2 years of his life due to your selfishness before things get to big for you to handle.
For your own good, invite an elder when telling him, just involve a 3rd party. ** tell him when you 2 are alone at your own risk **

WORD !!! May God help us all.

Sard:
While I don't know how this question will sound to people, I think it is okay if I ask.
How long should married couple wait to have sex after the woman has just given birth?

There is no fixed time. It all depends on how fast the body heals. Different body for different humans. Some 1 week, orthers 2 weeks and orthers 1 month.
For normal birth, its between 10 - 14 days EXCEPT the woman isnt ready oo. ** my opinion **

Alhaji my foot... Na God save the woman o. What a life, she was willing to become a 3rd wife at age 20 .

Ewuro4:
TV, you hurt my feelings but I forgive you coz that's what Jesus would do. You posted right after mine hence the 'struck chord'

1. True, You didn't refer to anyone in particular but your blanket statement where you made reference to posters ( myself included) as Christians without deep convictions and Faith, did.

2. Again, I already posted prior to your post in question . So it got to me.

3. My relationship with God doesn't have anything to do with my reaction to comments that questions my Faith. I have the right to react to any inappropriate statement(s) about my relationship with him, I'm only human.


Why was Transformation required? ... I don't know. Maybe you can shed more light to that aspect of different kinds of Christianity. And how born again Christains are superiors and guaranteed Heaven recipients. While others aren't fit for heaven because they didn't renounce their sins and accept Christ as their personal Lord and saviour in church. My spouse was born into baptist and still is, that doesn't make him non-born again. Lutheran & Catholic Churches don't preach cohabitation/sex before marriage so Mr.A just postulated Yeye grounds to dissolve the relationship instead of changing his immoral way of life with his girlfriend and move on.

RCCG, Lutheran , Catholic, CAC, MFMite, Alliance, Pentecost... Let God Almighty be the Judge of whom will enter His kingdom , or isn't that what we (believers/ Christ followers) Seek and thrive for?

Aunty Ewuro4 you are sighted oo. Happy New Year sis.

To all my nairaland family, clients and loved ones.. This is a special appreciative message from me to you all. God bless and bless you richly.

And here we are again ! Rouding up 2015 filled with joy and hope. Its just 2 days from 2016 and as i look back at the begining of 2015 i am excited and greatful to you all.
Tru it all, you have been there. In the trying moments when i think of your support, love, encouragement, your comments and likes, they kept me strong and spured me futher.
I cant thank you enough neither can i find words to truly express how appreciative i am.
THANK YOU ! THANK YOU ! THANK YOU ! THANK YOU ! And THANK YOU !

You all have been awesome. Without YOU there is no Boash Cakes and Events.
Lets do it again come 2016 and we assure you of the very very best.

Remember * Boash Cakes is always meeting your demands at all times and exceeding your expectations exceptionally *

HAPPY NEW YEAR !!! I LOVE YOU ALL.

Ginaz:
You love me? thank you too

yes Boash Cakes and Events does. Thank you.

To all my nairaland family, clients and loved ones.. This is a special appreciative message from me to you all. God bless and bless you richly.

And here we are again ! Rouding up 2015 filled with joy and hope. Its just 2 days from 2016 and as i look back at the begining of 2015 i am excited and greatful to you all.
Tru it all, you have been there. In the trying moments when i think of your support, love, encouragement, your comments and likes, they kept me strong and spured me futher.
I cant thank you enough neither can i find words to truly express how appreciative i am.
THANK YOU ! THANK YOU ! THANK YOU ! THANK YOU ! And THANK YOU !

You all have been awesome. Without YOU there is no Boash Cakes and Events.
Lets do it again come 2016 and we assure you of the very very best.

Remember * Boash Cakes is always meeting your demands at all times and exceeding your expectations exceptionally *

HAPPY NEW YEAR !!! I LOVE YOU ALL.

JustHere2Observ:
This afternoon, I dished out jollof rice for my 8 year old nephew adult portion oo, with chicken. First he lament on how the chicken drumstick was small
After eating the jollof rice which was served with adult portion, he said it was just a snack
I feel for my aunt because she is raising a big eater. With the high incidence of child obesity and this one eats like a grown man. Hian

And you had to open a thread for this SMH