₦airaland Forum

Onegai:
Okay. But RCCG policy does not stop members from marrying non-members. Your last writeup is you trying to understand and give excuses. There are none. I had a relationship counselor (also white) who once said "it doesn't matter the reason why, but the fact that the man has broken up with you means he's just not that into you. And that is all you need to know". And that's the truth: I've seen interracial, interfaith, age-and-pay difference issues not stand in the way of 2 people who truly want to be together. This man doesn't want to be with you.

It's in your best interests to move on and forget.

And the reason why I may sounded judgemental is that I have seen this scenario play out, a lot. I had a male friend who had a foreign gf and she went everywhere with us and was friendly to me. Meanwhile, he was asking me to marry him and when I asked about her, he told me pointblank that if I agreed, he'd come with something to tell her as to why they could not end up together and one of the somethings would be "mama cannot accept a foreign chick". Rarely will a man have the courage to say to your face "I'm not that into you, we can't keep going on, I'm sorry", he would prefer to give you countless excuses (you dated for almost 2 years and your race and religion suddenly became a problem, he's been fine with you supporting him through his rough patch but now no more, you've lived together, discussed marriage, yet not only does he not want you back in his home, he wants you gone from his life?? Oh honey... )

Biko free her sis, she isnt intrested. She will fast for months and pray very hard and all will be well.

AnnaOyibo:
Hi to all of you whom have left comments on this matter.

First of all I am sorry that I did not reply to each one of you.. the reason why I replied to one comment is that he totally understood what this matter is about.

What I have described in my post is only briefly what has happen during a period of six to seven weeks and not the two years that we had.

I have lived and stayed with A and I am almost sure that I was not just a side babe to him. It is quite interesting to read the judgmental comments from certain people who only knows briefly the situation Im in.

First of all, A is a wonderful person who has always spoke to me in a respectful way. But it doesn't make him perfect of course.
What I did not mention in my post is that A is from a very strict conservative Catholic family. The fact that he has converted to the Redeemed Christian Church has lead to a lot of problems within the family.

A has been not succeeding very well in terms of job and money since he took his MA in IT. He do a job he don't like and of course it doesn't bring him the income that he desires.
I myself is a well paid professional who does a job where I get to travel a lot. Many times Ive been the bread feeder which I did not mind but I knew it was painful to A.

Another thing that I did not mention is the fact that I am white ( but of course you know because of my Nick) and I have since some time started to questioning weather that would be a problem for A...
My family has met A and they absolutely love him.
But I myself has not met his family since they are based in Naija and we did not get the time or chance to travel to visit them. A have also said he is not very close to his family and mostly just speak to his mother.

I know it might sound very strange but at least I know that no matter what, A has been a great guy, always kind and humble. I do not for a minute think I was his side babe and if it turns out that I was I´d clap for him, to have succeeded behind my back.

I honestly think it has to do with the color of my skin ( apparently it doesn't matter how well you cook egusi, bitter leaf soup, lol) because he knows it will not be accepted within his family, that he has already disappointed by converting.
Or it could be the fact that he is being "manipulated" at his church and because Im a Lutheran he see reasons why it won't work.

Madam please go ahead and fast and pray very hard too, afterall its your life and na you go marry the guy. If it works out fine best of luck, if it doesnt best of luck as well in facing it alone.

Most problems ppl face these days dont just pop up out of the moon, there are signs everywere we humans just ignore it and feel we can handle it. Its not only in relationships, its in our daily lives, business, friends we keep, even inside the married ones homes, also with our children, in schools and working places.

It's when the deed has been done our eyes dey clear. May God help us all

AnnaOyibo:
@bennyrazz
Thank you for your message,Im pleased to see that there is at least a few people out here who understand what A is undergoing.

don't be deceived lady, A is not undergoing anything. be wise and open your eyes. its written on the wall very glaring. what stops him from opening his mouth and explaining in details why lie to you that redeemer don't alow members marry except from same church why hasn't he ever allowed you attend his church so you both can become same member of the church and get married I am also a redeemer and I am married. beside last time I checked church weddings are done in the brides parents church and not the grooms, except both parents decides otherwise.

He just doesn't want to trow the blow in your face by telling you the truth being that you have lived together for 2 years like couples. my opinion though


the truth they say is bitter, better for you to swallow it now in peace before it gets to bitter to pass thru your throat.

Acidosis:
There is certainly nothing wrong with breastfeeding.

I'm just wondering and trying to see how the photoshoot promotes motherhood and breastfeeding. I don't think its proper to go unclad just to pass this message across to mothers.

If she had carried a baby boy, with same position, I'm certain majority on this thread won't find it funny at all.

well it all depends on individual opinions.

woo ooh and she deactivated. ...... Lmao what a life.

Gaborone:
You're the one who even had time to advise a grown woman who choses to annoy us with her annoying inquest and caustic character thus beautiful Sunday.

oh I thought I noticed her caustic character alone. Lol

Acidosis:
Ah, I never knew mothers and babies go naked while feeding oo. Would she do same if the baby is male? NO, right?

every mother MUST have done that at one point in time be it male or female baby. its not like it's a planned stuff. imagine a scenario when a nursing mother is in the baths and she hers the cry of her baby, just awaken from sleep, makes it better if they are home alone, the only thing on her mind is carrying her little one to breastfeed, not minding if she is naked or not. It's mother and child , thus as sure happened to 98% nursing mothers only that we don't go about taking pictures of ourselves.


THERE IS ABSOLUTELY NOTHING WRONG IN BREASTFEEDING ONES CHILD WHILE NAKED, EITHER MALE OR FEMALE BABY. THE ONLY WRONG IS IF THE CHILD IS NO MORE A TODDLER.

coha:
n how are u sure they my personal contacts madam knw all....am unserious cos I wrote smfyn pn NL?pls cut dat crap I knw my boundaries a few frnds dat knw me too well on NL wld tell u more abt me.pls e do.no be u dey pay my hse rent or dey cross me for road for phc.its ok pls...

how intreasting. enjoy yourself lady it's your life.

Acidosis:
I see two ero.tic les.bians. Quote me anywhere

hmmmmm see has you come take interprete the picture. nawa o how lesbians take enter this one. does that mean that a mother breastfeeding her female child of 2 years are prone to end up lesbians?

coha:
yea an oversized one oh! Wen it comes to lv matters

seriously lady I mean no insults whatsoever, going thru your previous posts makes me think you are an Un serious person. recently you opened a thread on sexuality section saying you need friends and you went ahead to drop your personal contacts to be reached on. You need some really serious counselling. your past posts and topics can't help but make every think you are unserious.

Her life her business. Her body her business. Her unclad pix her business. anybody not ok with it then go and sleep. EOD.

coha:
u are speaking in parables....

are you a toddler just asking

coha:
mind u they do d calling n I can' t be rude to dem.

oh really, you can't be rude to them? I smile in Spanish. hope you know the meaning of an EX. ride on girl and play Mrs good girl, your choice. After he marries sef visit him and settle disputes in his home and sponsor is wedding too. After all you don't want to be rude to them. Lol

so sad your eyes Is just opening to the fact that you have only been a side babe all this while. Unfortunately the has always been a MRS A all the while and he dis a good job hiding It so well for you.

No point praying and fasting over anything. simply dust your shoe and nd move on. life Is beautiful.

coha:
Merry xmas n a year full of favours come 2016, pls I nid sm candid advice.Most of us knws my story on NL abt my love life.i still talk with my ex's family n each tym I speak with dem, its one complain abt d new bae or d oda ranging from;nt knwing how to cooking, housekeeping blah blah,even to d extent dat my ex has become so aggressive.His elder sis went as as telling me to find every means of reconciling with d guy...honestly I want him bck yes....bt we hv nt spoken to each oda for like months now.

what advice do you want again. haven't you realised you are already back with your ex. I wonder why you see him as an ex when you still communicating with his family. why exactly are you constantly communicating with his family go and get married to him already and stop playing hide and seek. stop feeling more important than you are. eating your cake and having it at the same time isn't a good game.

edwife:
Tayour how are you?

Are we quarrelling i didn't know?

heeey omo Iya mi how you dey sweerie, how are you and all yours . complements of the season. haa quarrel bawo, ko joorr o no mind me jare, been busy ni o, looking for money up and down make body set well a. no, vex jare am so sorry love. lots of hugs for you dearie

Uteghe:
You are obviously fixated on the outdated ''high on something'' cliche; an expression you dubbed somewhere. Why are you so sure it's not mum and son? Haven't you heard of incest before? If women can bed their sons,how difficult is it to accomplish an expressive photo shoot in tow. If you got nothing to say,pick up your mascara. Unam Ikot.

for you to even believe this is mother and son in the first place shows the kinda person you are. grow up boy and stop playing about. am outa here.

Siena:
[color=Blue]With all the lies and inappropriate titles given to pictures on Social Media (especially Nairaland), I doubt this is a mother and her son. The title given to the picture was made up, which is why if you Google "Mom and Son Photoshoot" this picture will NOT come up in search results.

And I'm sure if you dig deep enough, you'll find this SAME picture elsewhere on the 'net, with a completely different title AND description. Nigerians and their filthy minds, lies and deceit are almost legendary these days. [/color]

perfectly said. Thank you jare better person. And to think this op believed the picture is actually mother and son. not surprised at all.

Uteghe:
Wondering what morals a mum is inculcating in her son with this pose?

You must be high on something outa this world to even think thats a mother and a son. What a freaking mind you have.

Hmmmm. Number 2 though.... Good concept

Seun:
Santa Claus is coming to town.

oga Seun, biko let Santa claus reach my door step too o. wouldn't mind a gift from Santa o. merry Xmas to you.

Acidosis:
You're a s illy poster.


I know two able graduates (my clients) that work with LAGBUS (BRT), I'm sure you'll also call them unskilled people.

They both have their MSc's', and they don't drive. Not all LASTMA worker control traffic.



Some people just choose to be stu.pid for NO reason. Haven't you seen Police ASPs on the road? Do you think they are as dum.b as your illiterate grandfather? These guys are BScMSc certified.

this your level of para no be here o

cococandy:
So you notice am too?

I thought I was the only seeing that.

naaa them boku for nairaland na, no be today. Make him no worry, him market go soon finish.

how you dey jare, merry Xmas and a happy new year in advance.

pelusi:
My wife boldly told me that the only thing that made her marry me and keep the marriage is because of the strong thing i have in between my legs and how i bang and fully satisfies her on bed,that i neither have money nor a handsome guy and character wise not i that i am not average.She said that her past relationship is not as strong as mine bedwise,and that having known that she is sexually active and atimes prefers it more than food and consumes more, hence she needed a strong man that can meet up her demand and since she confirmed that mine is big strong,reliable and 24/7 dependable,so she stick to me irrespective that i dont have money or handsome,thats all.I responded to her as if it was a shocking statement to me but deep inside me,i know that what she is saying is true because some ladies i dated before equally confirmed it.Most times,people find it difficult to believe that i am the one marrying her or how this lady accepted marrying this man-she is very beautiful,very sexy,well learned,hardly can she pass any man than that man will not look back to her again.She can be likened to the type that if big politicians set their eyes on,they are willing to spend anything money to have her,behold that is the kind of lady that fell to me.The number of men that eyes and toasts her despite being married because of her beauty is so worrisome that atimes it gives me sleepless night.She is a queen and an epitome of beauty and a lot of people will begin to think whether i used charm to hold her,but its only me and she that knows the secret.However,my concern is,is her statement not a costly one? does she truly love me or the love is based only on my banging efficiency? and is this a true love or lust ?,can this affect the union? and can good banging induce true love?

nice way of advertising your business (Gigolo ) . don't worry you will get clients sending you pm. Pele shoogbo, e remain small.

ifyalways:
Thank you madam Boash!!! All recipients called to confirm the goodness of your work.

Thank you! Thank you!!

yeeepeee thank you so much sweerie, God bless you real big. for your trust in us and for your patronage. merry Xmas and happy new year in advance ma.
lots of hugs.

Onegai:
Lai lai!! I have refused to learn, several times. I'm a cake eater, not a cake maker

My strong point is design and painting and moulding, not the baking itself. Which is why most of these images I put up were fondant designs, because that's what I got asked, "how do i mould and paint more realistically" or "how do i execute this? "

interesting. still you can if you have a passion for it. There lots of bakers out there who don't know sugarcrafts so they just bake and take to professional sugarcrafters/cake decorators to do the finishing. lol

Onegai:
No I'm not. But I've had some bakers ask me for tips on decorating or ideas. Maybe they think I know something

yea right. maybe you'll venture into it though, you seem to have a spot for it. just saying.

Onegai:
For cake decorators, may I suggest that you take a basic Drawing and Painting class? It will help you understand how to make your designs neater and paint more realistically and understand how to use your paintbrushes and colours better (rather than laying a flat colour). Also, to learn moulding, if you don't want to waste fondant practising, why not try plasticine and practise then when you get a hang of it, execute the design in fondant.

very good tips and very lovely pictures you have up there. Sorry to ask sis, are you a baker? just asking.

idontaya:
I can't even focus now sef! Gosh

Remain focus and dont be in a haste. Labake might end up being a big laibility and a terrible nagging wife and i tell you that will kill the love you both share. ( Building a good home is not only about LOVE ).

The other lady on the other hand is good but there is no feelings for her ( what is the essense of a good relationship is there is no TRUE LOVE ?

Best of luck in your choice

Timbuktou:
I thought it was autocorrect for Xmas or something.

Timbuktu is an ancient cultural city in Mali. Just like how it sounds is all.

Abi o my phone acting wonders. I bin dey think say na sleep dey my eye wen i type am o.

Oh nice. Thought it was like 3 names together. Howdy? Complements

Kimoni:
Aunty tarrrrryouuuurrrrrrrrr

**covers eyes**

Eyan mi nothing do you jor. Open your face jare. I perfectly understand o. Trust me i really do. How you doing and all yours? And * Y * also.

Idowuogbo where at thou
Complements of the season to everyone in the house.