₦airaland Forum

ENIMONEY:
loool! I concur. Nice choices, at least there is love

ENIMONEY:
If most people will answer correctly, we might discover the hard truth. Let's try to be sincere.
Why did you get married or want to be married?
1)LOVE

2)You are old enough and you feel its time

3) You want KIDS

4)TO avoid backlash from the society

5)So you can have a big wedding

6) For Money and security

7) Was betrothed

To avoid the sin of fornication

9)So you can eat home cooked meals for the men

10) To please Your Parents and not disappoint them.

ETC, state them..

I am sure to read funny responses.lol

Yomieluv:
I got wedded to my wife late October,since then till now,my MIL has visited more than 50 times.

She comes as she likes,both announced,and unannounced. At every little opportunity she's in our place.

My wife is her only daughter.

Today she came unexpected again,i was pissed off,cos the reason she gave was she tried her daughter's number and not going through yesterday,so she came to check on her.

She stays in the island,and shed a widow,and a retiree though. Her visit is becoming boring to me. Most time,i just have to leave the house to hang her with friends till she goes.

How can i stop at frequent visit to our place,cos her visit makes me feels like she's invading my privacy.

How do i tell my wife am not comfortable with her constant visit without hurting her. I dont want her to feel i hate her mum.

I Am not against her visit,am not just comfortable with the frequency of it.

MayowaOke:
I will be 30 this year, single....just starting my life in a small way. I stay in my dad's house though he's dead and mom stays elsewhere married to another man, so I practically stay alone in that house. My question is. Is it proper or improper to stay in my dad's house, and also get married there?..though I have plans in building my house in future as God's will prevails over my life.

deGovernor2024:
Am still waiting for a response from Mr Seun.

And aside that am here for a job.

Here is my experiences

I have 4 years experience as an Assistant store Manager and 5 years experience in Spare parts/Warehouse/Store management, 3 years in Logistics management.

My skills include;

Knowledge of warehousing processes and procedures.
Knowledge in logistic operation.
Excellent leadership skills.
Ability to present information to groups at all levels within the business.
Experienced in performance management.
Excellent communication.
IT Skill.
Problem-solving skills.
Positive attitude to change.
Excellent analytical and organizational skills.
Ability to think independently and handle multiple projects.
Demonstrated ability to lead and manage staff.
Demonstrated independent work initiative and sound judgment.

Cc Seun

LAjibade:
Hello everyone. Would anyone be so kind to give me the phone number of this place? This is were I married my "husband" and would like access to my marital records since I have lost my marriage certificate. Thanks in advance.

Timbuktou:
1. How many of the bitter women in this thread have houses or would love a man enough to house him indefinitely?

2. What happens to the man's respect if he has to squat in his wife's house? There's no dignity for a man squatting in his wife's house.

LAjibade:
Who can be so kind and give me the telephone number for this place please? And what is the telephone number of the marriage records office in this place?

ColinAdua:
They don cry tire!
I no call them o o.

I just wan take style encourage my naija guys to focus more in building their own good homes/houses than on women even wives, na I'm dey carry come.

The joy of buying land and building your own home to your peculiar tastes and desire knows no bounds.

Na im women lashed out at me.


I wonder why women are so crazy about marriage?

FTBoi:
stop discouraging her! what if he was kidnapped?

ColinAdua:
I SAID ITS FOR GUYS ONLY AND ALL OF THEM CAME HERE AND STARTED COMPLAINING, ONE OF THE THINGS I HATE SO MUCH ABOUT WOMEN.

THEY ARE SO CRAZY ABOUT MARRIAGE BUT LOTS OF THEM LACKS SIMPLE MANNERS.

ColinAdua:
Haha! Do you actually understand what you wrote?

Why are you contradicting yourself?

How can you wish me luck in staying single forever and still tell that the woman that will marry me?

I AM NOT MARRYING ANY WOMAN LAI LAI!

I don't desire any intimate relationship with anyone, human beings are horribly, selfishly wicked.

Lovelykate:
Good morning all, What i'm about to write is so real and serious to me that i had to create this account just for this purpose. I don't know where & how to start but let me start from somewhere & be as brief as I can.

My previous relationship lasted for roughly 2 years. It started at a time I'll say I wasn't really looking forward to starting one, I was 23 then and 26 now. I had been in a few affairs that turned sour before now and wasn't convinced I should be in another at that point but I guess it was meant to be. I started dating my ex after about a year of platonic friendship, in the process we got so knitted together that letters cannot explain, we were madly fund of each others, it was such that we did almost everything together that you could mistake us for siblings and I knew I had inward peace having him in my life but in all these there were always issues from time to time between us which I saw as normal relationship issues. But these "normal issues" have rendered me shattered for the better part of 9 months & counting.

The plan for our future was mutual and we were on it when some time around April 2015 we had this misunderstanding that wasn't different from what we've been having previously, we had our different grouses. Among many others, he always complained about me not sticking to a particular instruction of his while on my part i felt i wasn't being appreciated. In the heat of this issues his project took him to a different state from me. Before he left he made some concrete efforts to reconcile us which entailed me seeing reasons with that instruction but i was too agitated to cooperate as i wanted my own demand to be placed above. It didn't work out that way and we gradually started drifting apart, i constantly started seeing things that pointed to the fact that i wasn't getting enough in the relationship & this gave me reasons why i shouldn't bother pleasing him again, i think i became fed up & maybe the feeling was mutual.

When he travelled I asked for a break with the intention that what we shared will make him appease me, drop his stand and hold on to us but he was truly unhappy and dissatisfied to consider such, I was too, we both had genuine complains i could tell & that was the beginning of the end for us. He travelled to warri for his project & on my part i did everything do away with the memories together which was quite tormenting. Fast forward, it's close to 10 months now, developing a closer relationship with God has made me see things from a different point of view, i suddenly began to feel more matured & stable to understand that i should have done things differently, (he is older with about 8 years plus).

I made my immediate elder sister who i live with support me & see reasons why i should be adamant but of recent but presently my new found way of life & opinions made her take a decision to reach out to my ex requesting that he gives reconciliation one more chance. The result of this effort is what has shattered me to shreds, we got to find out that his trad is second week of February, i had deleted every contact of his & family from my phone that i never got to know anything going on in his life & he didn't bother either, i guess he did the same too. I feel so broken with this development, this few months i realised that his love for me was 200% pure but i for once never thought he could move on within such interval, i guess i'm yet to fully understand the male gender. I'm writing this with a very heavy & confused heart, i jolt out of sleep daily praying this is just a nightmare, i never thought i could feel this way, it's a feeling you can tell until you get there, a lot running through me now, this is a position i don't wish for any female enemy of mine. My agitations suddenly look mundane to me now, this past months i've come to accept by revelation & understanding that he should be my life partner & he already was which is more disheartening as it seems too late. I never thought i will feel this way, getting over this totally in life looks impossible. I need help asap before i loose my mind. I'm quite known on nairaland that's why i had to get a new account just for this. My elder sister has suddenly become unconvincing in comforting me, my parents say i should let go but they have no idea of what we had. I wish I could undo a lot, i wish i wake up from a nightmare, i even wish the marriage is put off. I need your advice, where do i go from here, what do i do?

tofolo:
This is exactly as it is.

Richy4:
Lord we just thank you concerning your daughter. Before she was formed, you already knew what she will be

May you perfect your will towards her in Jesus Name..

You said we should call upon you in time of trouble and you gonna answer, we the NL family members are calling upon you now concerning your daughter..

what ever her heart desire is, let it be granted her. and what ever that is the problem, we do not really want to know... All we know is that you said we should cast our cares upon you and we should lay our burden down at your feet..... that is exactly what we are doing on our friend's behalf.

Just clean everything that she doesn't desire in her life. and let her cup overflow with peace and joy that only you can give.

These and many more we asked through Christ our lord. and may the peace of God that passes all Understanding rest and abide with you always. Amen

kehmeh:
Kemi. thank you

LAjibade:
Hello everyone. I have a question and was hoping you could shed me some light in a matter. I am in America. I went to Nigeria in 2011 and married my husband. I petition for him in 2012 and he arrived to America in 2013. Three months later he left. He is here in America, just not with me. He just left once he received his social security number, his permanent visa and a job in two months of being here. I haven't heard from him nor seen him again. I been wondering for a long time if my marriage to him is valid. In the marriage license it says it expired in 2013. I don't understand that. Was our marriage set up or arranged to be temporary? I don't really understand Nigerian law or customs concerning marriage. (I am not Nigerian) I know my husband was rushing me to get him here before that expiration date. I am very confused. I also went to the office of public records here in America and they couldn't find any marital records of me and my husband, nothing. On the back of my marriage license issued in Nigeria, there is a website of marriage records, I entered my name and his name and didn't find anything. It just says no records found. Am I married to him or was it all fake? Can you please help me find out? I'd appreciate it. Even if it was all a scam, I still have Nigeria in my heart and will never have anything against Nigeria and Nigerians. Just my husband. Thank you in advance. [color=#006600][/color]

Miami11:
How many people are deceitful everyday, should those people be castigated or frowned upon because they withheld information,

Why act as hypocrites, what if you all walked into the marriage trust fully then husband wanders and bam they both get infected with hiv

Maybe the moment people shun hypocrisy this Africa will be a better place to live.

There are many couples living that one is positive and one negative, take example from majic johnson

Miami11:
Ignorance kill more than Ebola

Hiv is no longer a death sentence, a little education will help you all learn that you can live all your life time healthy with Hiv

I watched a girl born 30 years ago with Hiv and she is still alive and kicking.

Educate yourself my people.

chocolateme:
They have done their introdutions and other things and fixed the wedding/traditional marriage to 3 (three) months time.
Yesterday my colleague at the office came Complaining bitterly to me that her parents especially her dad has insisted that that wedding will never take place unless the husband to be and his family converts to Catholics and that the condition for the marriage to go ahead including that the wedding must be at the catholic church. The guy attends Redeemed with his entire family.
I asked her if people of same religion can be talking about conversion and she said no. I asked her the difference between the two mentioned churches, she said nothing then I told her that her father is more interested in the chaplet and his status at the church.
Her fiancé's parents would not hear of it. Wonder if her dad didn't ask all these before receiving the bride price. Well she is in dilemma now.

cococandy:
Get him a personal man servant or two.
One will always follow him around to catch his flying socks and pants whenever he's about to dump them on the floor, hand him his belt and tie when he's dressing. Better still even dress or maybe scrub his body when he's taking a bath.
The other will wait on him while he's eating and do miscellaneous stuff like pick his teeth or clear the table for him etc. of course all paid for by him since he's a mighty provider. Rolls eye.

After enabling him to be lazy you're here asking what to do.
The same way you refused to add washing cars to your duties is the same way you can refuse adding his dress up routine to your early morning hustle while you're taking care of the kids. It's not rocket science.

Raffa:
Tank my lady @ tayo

Cutehector:
cuz it's d best answer.

Cutehector:
Urm I think u should drink poison.

Raffa:
Am 20 year old but My mother do give me problem anytime shes around with me at home cus we stay together, she make life harder for me... And she started dis act since november i came back from sch cus am done with my (ND) Pls what should i do

cutebobo:
I have a friend who is currently experiencing problem with her dad all because of her step mother. She just finished ND 2 but due to the fact her step mother doesn't want any good for her, she stayed back in the house she rented around her school. Her father's mind have been turned against her but the funniest part of it is that this so call father doesn't play with children but now everything is just different. Things are really getting difficult for her.

Back to the question, as a mature mind, will you mind staying with your step-mother/father when ur real parents are still alive?

BridalAssistant:
Really sorry about your experience. However this doesn't always have to be the case. Like I said, before choosing a vendor, one needs to have samples of what they have to offer. Have food tasting sessions with your caterer and baker, let your photographer show you shots he's taken with his camera, ask the decorator to put together a simple styling in two or more designs so you'll know what they're capable of presenting on the Big Day etc etc. If proper briefs are given, each vendor will be made aware of what is expected of them without words being minced or misunderstood. If one isn't satisfied with their offerings, then one can move on to the next vendor. Screw ups come with both new and experienced vendors; the length of time a vendor has spent in the industry isn't always a reliable determinant of their abilities to deliver excellent services.

cococandy:
Yes cheating is bad but this reaction is worse.
Better still the offended partner should depart from the offender than inflict such bodily harm on them.