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EfemenaXY:
Ah!

Now you're talking, my sister.

My dear, wė're all good. Hope your xmas went well?

Oya, answer my last question na. How do you say, "you nor fit" in Yoruba?

My xmas went well o to God be the glory.

"You nor fit" in yoruba is " o too be e"

Choi I don kill yoruba finish oo. I no fit write in yoruba o and can't read much either. Pardon me. Abeg aunty chaircover come help me out here. *winks*

Yomieluv:
You said you are close with her,IMO,do you still need an invite before going by the closeness?

She sees you as part of her,whom she doesn't need to invite before gracing her wedding..

Pride makes us build fences around us,instead of bridges.

Gbam!!! EOD.

Same question I asked my cousin when she accused me of not personally bringing my wedding iv to her house and her hubby office.

Some people just make big deals out of nothing.

EfemenaXY:
Tut, tut, tut.

Taryour, that's sooo rude and totally unlike you.

Would you really do this to someone, say an elderly relative whose travelled all day via bus from the village, just to see you?

Say, one of either yours or hubby's grandparent? You honestly expect someone from that generation to even know how to use a mobile phone, much less book an appointment with you, oyinbo style?

Abeg, let's get real jare. You nor fit do am. Now how d'you say "you nor fit" in Yoruba?

Hmmmm my big sister I dey o,how are you and all yours? Haaa when it comes to my in laws or my parents I no fit o. Who born me but really they call me o cause they don't like it either.

I fit do am oo, have done it to my sister before. She called me and I told her I wouldn't be home,she knew I was lying so she came. I wasn't in a good mood so lied to her and when she came that was exactly what I did. I left her in the sitting room and went into my room. She slept off on the couch and when she woke up she ate and left.


I could be over friendly and jovial and at the same time very hard and cold. My staffs do say am too strict when its time for work,but the few ones that know me outside work know its fun with me.

Nobody likes uninvited guests and are not expected to be entertained. If you come visit me without my notice,I will let you in but you will almost regret not informing me of your visit.

First I wouldn't offer anything,not even drinking water. I would concentrate more on playing with my kids or browsing rather than gist or ask you any questions. Infact I wunt even ask the reason for your visit or ask about your family or business.

If I happen to be in a bad mood when you arrived,I will just leave you in the sitting room and go into my room with my kids. Am sure when you are ready to leave you will call my name to come lock the door. Gaskia!

SAMBARRY:
sointin like that. Why is efrybary haskin the same kweshon sef

Ok o I hear you,nothing do you. Have fun

aisha2:
Oh please get over yourself we know you are perfect and would have acted perfectly, she knew what she went through and her son has forgiven her and is willing to go to her GET OVER IT.

Poster, why dont you start with a weekend visit. Tell your people that you would like to visit your mom for the weekend, the worse they would do is quarel but you are an adult it is your right if you want to to meet your mother. Respectfully inform them and expect some opposition but still hold your grounds.

Good luck

And please where in my post or any post I have ever posted on this forum did I ever state that I am perfect

please and please respect yourself. If my opinion does not tally with your then please by all means KEEP MUTE.

I have only typed here what I can and what I will do as a mother, however I decide to act over my own children is non of your business.

EazyBoi:
Let me ask u a question, ma. Maybe u were in my mum's shoe and u came to take ur kid then ur mother in law cursed u openly wit her breast open, would u want to return there in the nearest future? They thought my mum killed my dad.

YES YES YES I WILL TAKE MY CHILD ALONG WITH ME. I will also return that curse with my opened bossom in which I breast feed my children with and also the same bosom her child sucked and cherished. As long as she is innocent of the charges then no curse is valid.

That as far as am concerned is still not enough reason to leave her child.

SAMBARRY:
abi o.s if I can be attacking someone unnecessarily who didn't first find my trouble

Chai you and coogar made my day, I don laugh tire for this thread.

Funny enough I no see tipia as a serious person oo,infact I used to and till date believe he or she is between the age of 12 and 14 years who has nothing to do with time.

Erhm SAMBARRY are you kulyie

@op, are you ever busy doing something else asides being on nairaland You go like gossip well well oo.

ogaprime:
Aint a gate crusher oo, am a gentle human being. I don't have any grudges against her, if I see her now we would talk but what is surprising me is that if we don't have chains of mutual friends so I won't know of her wedding until the wedding pictures gets to facebook. I have decided before now not to go, my girlfriend told me not to go, a friend too told me not to go. Its just de calls and messages from our mutual friends that's giving me confusion here...thanks you all for your contributions

Guy biko free this thing jare, I for one don't see any big deal in this. Maybe cause of my person and a very busy one. If you want to go please go,if you don't want to go biko stay your house and sleep or go else where.

For real I don't see any issue in this that you needed to open a thread. If someone invites you for a wedding fine,if they don't then fine as well,life continues.

Have you also considered she might have sent you text message or called you and due to poor network you couldn't get it.

My own blood cousin accused me of not bringing my wedding iv personally to her house, and guess what? I called her bluff. Yes I did cause I dint expect such from her, we where very close and I expected her to understand better, her mum who is my mum sister already is among the planner and her sisters as well so there was no way she wunt get all the info 100 percent,yet she still wanted me to bring iv personally to her house and her hubby office.

so bone all this and be a man abeg,except if you have secretly admired her all this while and can't open up. That will be the only reason for acting like this.

EazyBoi:
To answer some of your questions:- I'm 19yrs old now and my mum is not remarried. I have her contacts. In fact, we speak on phone almost everyday. I have her current home address with me. The only problem is telling the people I'm currently living with.

Since when did you both start talking on phone ALMOST EVERY DAY? Cause according to the 3rd and 4th line of your first post you said you have just gotten back in contact with her.

How did you both loose contact in the first place? Are you comfortable where you are now or they mistreating you? Are you feeding well and how is the state of your education? What was your mothers excuse for the loose of communication? What has she been doing all this while you both dint communicate??

I am a mother and I know and see what women do for their kids. I WOULD fight tooth and nail before any soul would separate me from my kids oo

adebayour26:
If I may ask?

What are the reasons why you were separated from your Mum?

What is your age range now?
I mean how independent are you now?

A yoruba adage says: Tí owó eni kò bá tí te èku idà, a kìí bére ikú tó pà baba eni.

That is, if one's hand has not gotten hold of the sword, one does not ask for the cause of his father's death.

Very well said.

@op,to add to the above.
What is your mother stand over this issue? Is she willing to take you back as much as you wish to return to her.

You said you have been separated from her for 12 years and YOU JUST GOT HER CONTACT recently. Does that mean in the last 12 year you both haven't communicated or seen in all these years of separation She never payed you any visit/called/send money/buy you gifts/clothes/provisions e.t.c

If your answers to the above questions is YES then am sorry to tell you this which is the very bitter truth,there is no point going back to your mother o. Stay were you are and focus on your future abeg.
Your mother must have remarried and moved on in life. I doubt if she did be interested in having you back now if she hasn't looked back in the past 12 years ( no excuse what's so ever justifies such action) except otherwise you both communicated and she visited you,which I doubt cause you dint mention any impact or role she played in your life in the past 12 years you where separated.


I stand to be corrected IF I am wrong.

Nice thread. Following

wierdpsycho:
CAVEAT EMPTOR

NEVER TAKE ADVICE FROM ANYBODY HERE, A WHOLE LOT OF THEM ARE SNIVELLING HYPOCRITES.

BE WARNED!!!!!

And you are so pained and having a migraine over this issue. Sorry oo.

Good morning nairaland family. Trust you all had great xmas celebration. Mine was fun too but not as I wanted though. Happy boxing day to you all.

@ Ewuro4 where you waka go all this years Good to have you back. How are you and all yours? Complements of the season to you sis.

aameyah:
I really appreciate your answers.

Her dad and mum are aware of some of his minor inadequacies. And her dad told her to count her losses and move on.
But what they are not aware of is all the major drama and all the insults.Because her dad washed his hands off the issue when she refused to listen. He started having his reservations right from when they started preparing for the wedding.

I think I have to talk to her to tell them. Maybe a family meeting is the way to go.

My friend is a good girl. Very hard working and all. She's also an excellent cook to booth and unlike most women who got married as virgins is very open with her husband sexually. If only he would approach her with love. I wouldn't call her frigid. How do you enjoy seks with a guy who doesn't touch your body during the act not even once. He doesn't kiss her. He doesn't caress her.
How do you enjoy watching intimacy with a stranger? When he plays it, they both sit apart watching silently. When finished, she undresses and bam, finish!

He stands up and leaves her. C'est finite.

When she cooks he eats and calls a girlfriend to tell her what he is eating. I don't know again ooh. Her parents I think are the best to be of assistance.

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Seriously I really don't know why you still here typing oo. As far as I am concerned your friend doesn't need help or assistance from anyone oo. Its so annoying when grown up adults can't read the writing on the wall.

This case is not a case of a good husband turn bad after like 5years of marriage which can still be repaired. This case is totally different.

And please enough of this no sex before marriage oo abeg,which kain kasala be this na Your friend doesn't need to tell her parents anything or seek advice from anyone. Let her decide herself if she wants to be happy in life or continue like this.

The only help she needs is someone to help her carry her heavy box and bags of clothes out.

Na new year we dey enter oo.

funmi4love:
Story story! but u would have summarize it

Wahalai you no go enjoy the story o, try reading it. Complements of the season.

The funniest part was when they found teju holding the drivers shirt on one of the thumbs,still insisting on him taking her to her destination. LWKMD.

Foolish girl,she see death she no run, she come meet devil one on one,she dey fight. Abeg na who she dey show power

Chai the 3 of dem for gang up and give her the beating of her life after they return to their base, alakoba oshi untop 2000 naira.

@op nice write up,very interesting and funny story.

sadguy:
I don't have schizophrenia

Remain strong man. And for all the insults,I take them back.

sadguy:
Thanks for removing the post. By the way,you make nice cake
For you and those clamoring for me to seek help. You might assist me by dropping the address of any good psychologist you know of. This is Nigeria,Its not like I would just walk up to a random person.

Wow so your story is for real I feel for you honestly, but I don't know anybody. Don't worry bro help is on the way. And please do no stop in your search for help,its a good thing you opened up.

It is well with you.

sadguy:
I see you have finally subjected to the fact that what I posted might actually be true. But most importantly just delete that quote.
Although you have insulted me in most of your comments you seem kind of intelligent, I would give that to you. I normally have this believe that most ladies are unintelligent but I guess you are an exception. The thing is I am not the best of talkers so whenever I write I just kind of overdo it a little.

Hmmmmm not really,just calmed and having a second thought giving you a benefit of doubt.

bodashee:
Best way to handle stubborn people. Especially children, is to put them in charge of others in the area where they misbehave the most.
As dining hall prefect in secondary school, I tamed the worst noisemakers and latecomers by giving them my job to do.
I'd just take off my badge and give it to the perso "congrats, you're the dining hall prefect for the next one week". And I take the place of a normal student.
After one week of going through the rigours of the job, you find that they even start warning others of the horrors of being caught talking in the dining hall.
Because of this, the dining period became so organized that the headmaster used to bring parents to the dining hall to see how well behaved his students were.

Same tactic can be applied in every other sphere of life.

This is so so true. Chai,made me remember my days in boarding school. Fggc owerri and fggc shagamu. Nice trick *winks*

sadguy:
So you think I just made this up. I admit that some of my earlier comments were kind of immature but I guess I just wanted to be interesting at least for once. Why would I just imagine what I posted first. Come to think of it wouldn't it be me placing unnecessary causes on myself. This is the reason I have never told anyone because they won't believe anyway. I think that's the difference between nigeria and countries like US.
And one more thing, if you noticed I deleted my post (the one you quoted) referring to that site. Pls delete the quote from your post, I just posted it to prove a point to you alone. I don't want someone falling prey to such things. I know how such has affected me. Even if you don't believe me, which I don't actually care about, I believe you should have at least the slightest bit of wisdom to do the right thing

True, post modified.

sadguy:
So you think I just made this up. I admit that some of my earlier comments were kind of immature but I guess I just wanted to be interesting at least for once. Why would I just imagine what I posted first. Come to think of it wouldn't it be me placing unnecessary causes on myself. This is the reason I have never told anyone because they won't believe anyway. I think that's the difference between nigeria and countries like US.

Hmmmmm come to think of it,what the hell are you still doing here if you story is TRUE

On a more serious note,if you are REAL log out now and waste no more time in getting help. Do you have an uncle you can talk to? Or a friend? There should be a grown up matured person you can open up to. Do so ontime and be free.


THAT'S IF YOUR STORY IS REAL ooo.

KanwuliaJara:
Help me praise una GODIOOOOOOH!
I made one sensible post in HIS YEAR 2014AD! . . . .After killing his ONLY beloveTH soN 2014 years later!!!!
Hallelujah!!!!

A miracOOOO indeed!

*Mtcheeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeew*

LWKMD ooo.
Complements of the season to you ma'am

sadguy:
Download the about 3 videos and watch them. These are the only type of videos I can get pleasure from watching

Only the likes of you watch videos like that. So catch your fun while it last. Pele sogbo, waec go soon release your result and I pray you pass oo so you will get busy rather that run around imaging stUpiD things.


Or better still,download it and send to your mum to watch,so she will see what her precious son whom she carried for 9 months,went tru labour pain,breastfeed you for months amist sleepless night,watched you grow,payed for you day and night.

She will hug you and kiss you and say you "weldone boy".

Now clap for yourself.

I think that medical profession you reading (if true) isn't your way oo, you should be a writer.

Oniranu oshi.

DBestDoc:
Not at all, from his first post i knew he was bored

Yea right, funny enough I almost believed he was real o from his first post and I was like wow and was silently praying to God to please save the females coming close to this guy and cure him o.

But the yeye lazy AsS kept coming back and typing rubbish. You know na,a lot of secondary kids awaiting waec result on nairaland. I don tey small for this life na, no be today.

KanwuliaJara:
Really?
There is hope then.
Some parts of my brain work ONLY SOMETIMES!

Chai kanwuliajara no go kill person with laugh for this nairaland oo.Lol

This thread got me crying this morning. God bless you guys and merry christmas to you.

This threat got me crying this morning. God bless you guys and merry christmas to you.

sadguy:
You seem kind of rude. Funny enough I derive greater pleasure when thinking about strangling rude and proud ladies

Go and start with all the whole females in your family including your extended family,then you will be discovered. Useless MoFo.

zeb04:
So you only get attention when you see a lady stabbed,wounded etc but am pretty sure you dnt get these attention when your mom or sisters are in harms way rubbish.

I seriouly think you should be put in a cage or just locked away from normal people.

On a flip side, everyone has their demons they have to overcome everyday I think I might get an "attention" if I see you mobbed btw where do you live? I might just be of help.

GBAM!!!