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No 1. CAPITAL NO. I will never do such. All I will do is to assist her in the kitchen and with other house chores. I should appreciate and respect her her territory.


No 2, NO I wunt like it one bit, but I will condone and persuade her to let me continue, worse is if my hubby is at home at that moment I wunt feel comfortable with it at all.

aridude:
I visited my extended family in the village and I couldn't help but notice the frames of my deceased grandparents(RIP) still hanging in our living room. I thought it was strange but what do you think guys??

There is no wright or wrong in it. Its your choice,your MEAT is another man POISON.

ucheheart:
I moved into an apartment, the land lady and her family welcomed me very well as their new and only tenant.

We lived peacefully for quite a while until they offered me food during xmas which i bluntly rejected. Since then, i am their worst enemy.

As mountain of fire members, they now pray 'die by fire' every morning for me which they were not doing before i rejected their food. While i pray for God's blessing upon their life. Na who God go answer?

Shake my head for african mentality.

Op I don't remember you stating here that your name is DIE BY FIRE.

As far as am concerned you are the one here who doesn't have a good or friendly heart. According to you,you are the ONLY tenant and NEW in that house. The welcomed you with open arm and extended love to you on a special day and you bluntly rejected it which is very bad. Whatever happened to love in sharing.

Now you conclude their morning prayer DIE by FIRE is for you. Now I am shocked, why on earth in the first place would you ever think they want you Dead because you refuse their food

Do you know the meaning of death or its gravity? And you are here shaking head for African mentality and YOU have no mentality at all.

@op. I have never seen/meet someone so clueless and unbalanced in this life. Chai tipia, your own is damaged beyond repair. Shior!!!

red101:
What a topic.
I know we Nigerians believe in miracles and have a lot of faith but I hope we can also be more realistic and practical in approach to this situation. Esp for those talking about flying this young man to India. I don't think that is a realistic idea. too risky ( plus imagine all the confusion and drama that will come out of it). I like the idea of focusing on quality of life care for him at this point or following doctor recommendations.

Maybe when this is all over, THeN should come up with a concrete mission statement and strategic plan to guide in ways to make the organization more efficient going forward. this is important because people will stop contributing their hard earned money if they don't see results. or if they thought that their previous contributions went to waste.

Maybe it's just me but I don't like the idea of emergency fund raising esp on a very large platform as this. It leads to issues. it's better to have a pool of funds already (through yearly general fundraisers etc) and then with a clear head, one can choose good candidates (the criteria should be laid out in the strategic plan which should be drafted by board members). assess their needs (I think patients should already have a diagnosis or needs that are clearly articulated before coming to THeN for help. again this is a criteria that should already be created) set a budget, timeline and go through with helping them. This will lead to less worry about money or being defrauded by doctors or getting new diagnosis updates that leads to surprises about the amount of money needed, lack of information that leads to panic and confusion etc.

Overall, this is a really great effort and i'm very impressed by Nairaland. WOW

BRAVO!! This is like the best post I have read on nairaland. Am so in on the idea of making preparations/donations for future cases. Very good idea. This case for example, when the issue arose I was broke and couldn't make my donations early. took me a while before I could play a role.

Please TEHN crew take note of this sir's/ma's.
By the grace of God I would be willing to assist.

Caracta:
@emmysexxy, I don't know if you saw DJ last year especially with the bloated stomach. I don't know if you physically saw the initial shape he was in. Nobody would see him and not feel for him. Maybe you saw him for the first time and thus the surprise. I don't know what you saw or what prompted whatever you said.

I've sent 4 mails with no reply from you.

I don't know the info you are holding back.

If you are right, you don't need to be intimidated by anyone here. But every word on sensitive issues should be laced with wisdom. And no, it wasn't what you said that prompted the update...contrary to what many believe in.

You probably don't know the damage you have done already. Whatever rocks your boat. We can go on and on about what you said and how you could have said it...but it doesn't matter now.

You are a medical student yet you made such statement. Tomorrow is monday. You promised to visit and give us updates. Please don't forget to visit your neighbour, talk to his doctors, and if it's not against the ethics of your profession, give us updates. You seem to be the messiah many would prefer to hear from. So please do the needful. Thanks sweetheart.

SWEETHEART please come give me a hug. You are filled with intelligence and I don't regret knowing you or doing business with you. God bless you REAL BIG.

God bless TEHN, God bless Nairaland. God bless Djdola.

EfemenaXY:
Ooops!

Late comer like me (again)!

Happy Wedding Anniversary madam CC. Hope you all celebrated in style? Re: the bolded, are you sure you don't want to branch Kew Gardens? Or the Chelsea Flower Show? I hear the tickets are now available for purchase...

Anyway, I saw this on YouTube and have been stitches ever since! Why oh why do I think the lady with the green hair is R231's latest babe?

Oya, in no particular order, make una come judge matter:

CC
Naijababe
Damiso
Edwife
Chillis
Cococandy
Carefreewannabe
Ile
Aisha2
Sambarry
Taryour
Modisweets

And anyone else jare.


https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=gcc03A-oqDI

LWKMD. Good evening house. And happy new year to every one.

Been so so busy and settling down. Trust you all are doing great,families and businesses as well. Wishing you all a productive and blessed 2015.

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ernie2007:
thank you all for your advise but i think it is better not to tell; his conscience is killing him right now and he is having a slow day. I just wanted to be sure which approach to take, telling and not telling has advantages and disadvantages but i think in the end it is better not to tell so he can be closer to me and i will make him understand that what he did was wrong. Growing up; talking to me was the worst form of punishment my dad gave me. Truthfully i preferred the times he used to beat me cos in my heart it will register as punishment served but talking to a child has better effect on a child. The mother will not disbelieve me but she is this sort of mother that thinks her sons cant do any wrong. I have seen her wrath and how over protective she can be for her sons maybe it comes with the single mom thing. So am not telling but will keep advising him. In a month's time or two i will count and keep money carelessly just to tempt him, so if he does it again after my advise i will report.

Your choice bro. But bear it in mind that if such should repeat itself in another place and his mother finds out and also finds out that he had done same in your flat and you dint tell her,you wouldn't like the outcome. She would hate you more then than now if you open up and might probably put or label you a bad person/companion who taught her son or encouraged her son how to steal.

Yes you will correct him as a big brother BUT let the mother correct him as well, na she born her picking. She looks up to you has a good person whom can mentor her son,don't prove her wrong.

At the end of it all,its your choice. Clear your conscience,if someone does that to your own blood and hides it how will you feel when you fine out

Do unto others what you what done to you.

Aunty chaircover and oga jaybee3 oga oo,this your cat fight nawa o. Aunty cc that cat look like ******* cat oo *winks*

@ op, am sure you are the elder brother in question,biko free your brother let him have his own new laptop oo. The one you are using presently might not be your brothers choice of laptop. And like someone posted above,you went to the market and got it yourself so why wanting to give it now

You are kinda selfish and not satisfied with what you have. Thank God for your own oo,some just pray to have a father or even one to buy them shoes but don't have the privilege.

And NO,not all elder brothers and sisters are like that.

ernie2007:
I am the only unmarried guy in my compound and there is this single mom in my compound that always tell her sons to come close to me, though i am closer to the youngest who i think is in jss3. The mother said she sees in me what she wants her sons to become, i have thought them how to cook, knot a tie and any manly skill i think an elder bro can teach a younger brother. Yesterday i was low on cash and wanted to go out so i counted the money in my wallet so i can go to the atm. The youngest was playing metal gear solid v on my ps4, when i showered and came out, i noticed that the money in my wallet was 1k short at first i did not want to believe but i was sure i counted the money, i asked him if he took it and he said no so i left him. This morning, i called him and told him that hope he knows you can record with a playstation camera and i lied to him that the camera recorded him taking the money; i told him that i will call his mother and show her the video, he still did not say i thing so i was convinced he took the money, i told him to go bring it and he went and brought it. the money may not be much but stealing is stealing right?? i know i did some things growing up, we all did but i never stole from a neighbour no matter how close we were, SHOULD I REPORT TO HIS MOTHER? or advice him on my own. I have never been a parent so my parenting skills sucks her mother trust that i am a good company that is why she always wants them around me. Please need your opinion on this.

Please tell the mother as soon as possible so he can be corrected earlier before it gets out of hand. He is still young and be corrected early. And also plead on his behalf oo make him mama no beat am finish oo. If the mother is wise, she will thank you and appreciate you for coming to her directly.

Some pple will just keep quite and wunt say a word to the mother buy will use it to insult the boy calling him names which will make the mother worried and scared of where and when her child went wrong.

So please open up. The boy might avoid you for a while,leave him and let him be. You can call him later,sit him down and explain reasons why you had to tell his mum. Its all for his sake and his future.


Please don't push the boy away,remain close to him and keep giving words of advice,he isn't your blood but in somany ways you are important in his life.

coogar:
no moi-moi?
carry your sympathy comot here then. take it to chibok & mubi - it's more needed there.

ROTFL. No vex.

coogar:
i will not return to this thread if you can promise me 12 wraps of moi-moi.

**faints** sorry bro I no fit share this moi moi o,na my marle cook this one specially for me o.

Infact my oga sef go vex if I give you moi moi oo

coogar:
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Chai you guys aint nice at all. Coogar and Sambarry e yaff do you oo. Abeg no let me vomit the moi moi I chop biko. I don laugh die.

kreamidiva:
Ileobatojo, your head dey there. Even though she might get married and still want to be shinning that guy's Congo. I no trust the lady at all and op's hubby is equally interested in the lady. The only reason they have not "shinned Congo" is just distance.

That's if they haven't shined congo already,with this back and forth game they playing like tom and jerry.

@op don't be 100 percent sure yet oo, you are on a long thing cause it wunt be so easy for your hubby to open up and tell you he already had s3x with her after your marriage.

A month to your wedding you saw signs and traces of infidelity and yet you went ahead with the marriage now you here complaining.

I no even sabi wetin to type again abi which advice to give. Make I just sit down watch and learn.

r231:
Happy last sunday of the year to you ALL!!!

Oya make una come enta mak we go 2015 space plenty oooo



Madam Ewuro....good to see you

Compliment of the season

LWKM. Na you and who go follow this kain bus enter new year?

Happy new year in advance to everyone in the house.

chival:
@taryour: this your pregnancy was one chopping galore. Kai! Begging for corn in the bus. Pregnancy is one funny business. Remember u from the pregnancy thread.

@1one, glad I could make u laff.

@efe: no be u gist us dat ur corn in the market episode?

Yes o my sister I chop well o after the first 3 months.

Did I also add that I hated the smell of ward rope? Chai OMG once I open a closet filled with clothes,off I go vomiting. So I just cover my nose when picking clothes to wear.

aisha2:
Awwww, am sorry. I worked in social services for a while so I am sometimes over sensitive on the things single mothers and widows go through, they face so much judgement, condemnation and other in humane treatement. Worse still they start to hate themselves feel inadequate, takes a lot of counselling most times for them to understand that the death was not their fault, the break up and abandonment was not because they were not patient enough as others may tell them.

Worse still is when they powerlessly loose their kids.

On that thread I felt perhaps wrongly that you were going on so much about the mother looking for a way to hang her, my protective instincts kicked in because most times when faced with judgement from in laws the women are to scared to talk so I am used to doing mother hen.

I apologise for going off on you, please forgive that, it wasn't about you but about a system which is very unfair to women.

Sorry again

Awww trust me sis its nothing really. You are well appreciated. Lots of hugs for you ma. God bless your handwork and strengthen you.

EfemenaXY:
Biko, Taryour, let's not go into all that, abeg.

You two are my favourite ladies here. Don't want to be caught in the middle.

Okay, I love you both but I'm out of this thread....

Ok sis no vex jare, make I just respect my self jejely and be quite.

EfemenaXY:


Na wa o! Take it easy o...

Oh you saw that too? I intentionally quoted her and waiting for her to quote me like she quoted me on another thread earlier today saying I am acting perfect mum. But here and some other threads she is miss know all.

1one:
@taryour.

OMG!!! I could just picture the sight of you staring at that woman eating corn.... E go just be like say make she dissappear *poof* and leave the corn all to yourself.

Your experiences were reaaaaaally interesting and fun to read...Gave me a serious laugh

Thanks for sharing

I tell you bro, I silently with my mouth watery watched her eat the first,second then the 3rd. She had almost eaten upto half way when I voiced out o,I was at the verge of crying but the corn gave me so much relief after eating it.

To thing the woman sef wasn't so neat and sweaty,very obvious she was coming from market but who cares anyway?the corn in her hands was a life saver.

aisha2:
Go and die

EfemenaXY:
Ladies (Aisha2 & Sambarry), I'm not picking on either of you - far from it.

I'm simply highlightening the fact that some actions are easier said than done and a lot more difficult to carry out when family is involved.

I daresay, this exclusion might even be extended to very close, but long, lost friends too.

Hmmmm very very true o, to be very realistic if I hear my doorbell and open my door to see a long time friend I haven't seen in years, I would be so damn excited and scream the whole house down. OMG we humans sometimes mostly don't how we will react to things till it happens o.

At the above post I posted earlier will like be done to a persistent person who never listens.

Nitefury:
My neighbour's last son ain't his. After about 15 or so years being married to his wife and 3 kids that look like clones of the man (big lips and ish), the fourth one came out looking neither like the man or his wife but like their pastor. Both couple are dark skinned just like their first, second and third kid.

This boy is light skinned, stubborn as a goat and everything like the pastor (transferred now). Boy was even nicknamed pastor.

Now this came after about 10 years of marriage. Yes they are still together and i believe this is only because the man is disabled. His family couldn't do anything because she still complimented him in more ways than one.

It takes a second to destroy trust built on years.

so all those saying why marry who you don't trust, please take a chill pill. No one prays for a cheating spouse, but with the issue of randy bosses and colleague at places of work, with most ladies having hot pants for their exes, a DNA test becomes necessary

*Modified*
A friend of mine who got a girl pregnant denied it. As soon as i set eyes on the baby's picture, i told him to go get his baby. My other friends swore the child ain't his just to make him feel good. Even when he wanted to accept, his mum would have none of it (probably because she had him outta wedlock) The girl eventually gave the child to another man who eventually married her. But i know karma has a way of balancing issues.

Good for the lady but best for her to open up and tell her husband the truth about the father of her child.

And I hope that your friend who isn't man enough wunt go and start claiming father in future o? Hmmm

Nice thread.

My first pregnancy wasn't funny at all o, spent first 3 months at the hospital. In that 3 months I dare not talk to anyone in the morning before I brushed my teeth,I would vomit the whole day. I onece asked my mum if I can just vomit the baby out to relieve me off the stress.

Very early in the morning I would mix a whole jug of water with a spoon of milo and take it one spoon after few minutes interval to help with the taste in my mouth. I couldn't eat much in the first 3 months cause I was really sick and vomited a lot.

After 3 months was OMG, I got a lot of energy and would do so many things. I would walk when I was supposed to take bike, I would at the bustop waiting for cheap ridiculous buses,not that I dint have enough on me oo. Lol

My cravings oo, after each anti natal visit,I go to a road side shed and order for a plate of abula( amala,gbegiri and ewedu) then top it with a bowl of ice cream. I will be so tire when I get home cause of intentional long stay waiting for bus. I just lie naked and direct the ac straight to my head.

Oh I loved boiled corn with chilled coke, I could eat over 400 naira worth at a go. Infact I begged a stranger in a public transport for boiled corn.the woman wasn't surprised,she just handed over. You needed to see how I rushed the corn like I had been starved for years,I was so happy. I had hungrily watched the woman eat her corn jejely until it got to the last piece,I couldn't bear it anymore I wanted to cry I just had to open up and beg for the corn.

Then my crave for ofada rice was something else, I could go up to 1 or 2 hour drive to get it o,with all this lagos traffic. Where ever I go, once I site it I will stop and buy oo and do take away, I even tell my hubby to get for me on his way,I will describe to him where to get it and call him to remind him so he doesn't come home telling me forgot and drove pass.

Another craving of mine was stewed snail or with vegetable,I would finished a whole pot sitting on the bare floor in just rapper alone. Then cat fish pepper soup. Ha God bless my hubby, he over tried sef.

Second pregnancy,no sickness but vomit,cravings too but more energy and experience.

Preggy is great fun. When you see your baby,nothing on earth can be compared to that joy.


*Modified* forgot to add that I hated the smell of ward rope? Chai OMG once I open a closet filled with clothes,off I go vomiting. So I just cover my nose when picking clothes to wear.

EfemenaXY:
Ah!

"O too be e" eh?

Gonna use that on my sagalicious Sagamite next time I see him. Thanks!

Lol. You and this your shaggy bobo. That Sagamite is one hell of a funny guy.

Have fun sis, nothing do you.

EfemenaXY:
Babes, abeg it's different if the person in question is your blood relative. You're allowed to gate crash. Infact, you're expected to gatecrash.

But this dude isn't a relative. He's not of the same sex either. This is/was a boyfriend/girlfriend matter and the babe didn't want him pouring sand in her garri, but was too polite to spell it out to him.

Very true sis,accepted. But really I don't know what's the big deal for this guy o,can't he just read it out bold on the wall. Like I said earlier in my post,except he has been secretly admiring this lady and can't open up.

For me when it comes to friends I don't take things to serious and personal o,I just overlook it and let it go. Am way to emotional to take things to heart, before I start crying like a small baby.