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sirjamesjnr:
There is no sure thing as a sexual quota. And there is no such thing as a ‘hoe’. Men that slut-shaming women are not mature to be in a grown-up relationship. No lady is not accountable to any man for her past. It's none of a man's business.

That lady A has one guy she sleep with when she was 15 till she clocks 30 and married, lady B has a body count of 100 before her 30th birthday. The truth is the two ladies have sex and they don't owe you any explanation.

If you are going to marry for 'purity" look for a virgin girl. Do not condemn a man who wants a team player, homemaker, companion, and someone who can resonate with him. A virgin girl can tick all the boxes agreed. If you found that virgin girl with these qualities good luck. There is a lady out there for every man. Time is hard, while the world is moving forward, the Average Nigerian man is talking about body count. Shouldn't you be worried about a lady who can build a great home with you so your generation won't abuse you? Whether you are wealthy or you are coming up, I will like to think you need a proper woman to build your home with you.

My time in this uncertain world, both in the corporate world and among great minds. What we care about are ladies with decent character, basic moral values, ethics, cleanliness, abilities to accept responsibility, and willingness to learn something good. Never for once within this circle of friends and learned mind do we care about what a woman does with her body. What you do when you are in a relationship with me is what matters.

To that man who is in a decent relationship:
I know how you feel. When you develop strong feelings for a girl, it’s hard to think of her being with other guys. Even though you can rationalize that her past relationships happened before you met, it doesn’t make it any easier to accept that there were others who had been intimate with her. But you can’t dwell on this. It will destroy you, and it will destroy your relationship with your girlfriend.

Unless your girlfriend is the kind of girl that is very flirtatious, and who loves all the attention that she can get from guys, you probably don’t have anything to worry about. If she were a “hoe” she wouldn't want to have a decent relationship. So how do you get over this? There are only two things that I know of that you can do:

1. Don’t torture yourself with the details. There is no reason for you to know with whom she did it, how many times they did it, what positions they did it in, how big the guys were, and if they were better in bed than you or not. As tempting as it is to ask her these things—don’t! And stop her from volunteering that kind of information. Knowing these things will not help you or your relationship with your girlfriend in any way. They will only become mental and emotional burdens to you—obstacles and barriers that you will constantly have to overcome in order to treat her the way that she deserves to be treated. You protect yourself and you protect your relationship when you avoid rubbing your nose in her past.

2. Change the way that you look at people. Start realizing that every one of us is screwed up in some way. There are no perfect people. Every single one of us does dumb things and makes mistakes in our quest to find love and belonging. Your girlfriend is no exception. Choose to see her through the eyes of love and compassion, rather than through the eyes of judgment and condemnation.

To our ladies. I have one thing to say to you. You don’t need to apologize for your past relationships, and you don't need to explain yourself to any man. Simply understand that all you need is to be loved by someone, and if it didn’t work out, move on and build your life. Hopefully, your next relationship will work out for you.

Me personally? I’ve never longed to be with a virgin except for an ex and my girl(I am not with her because of sexual purity). I prefer my sexual partners to already know their way around their own sexuality. That means they’ve gotten some practice. Now I understand that as a man you need some certain confidence that some of you may are probably still forming. But when someone says something derogatory about the woman I’ve chosen to love I don’t reconsider my love. I conclude the person saying it is an idiot and ignore them in the future. I have faith in myself which leads me to have faith in the people I choose as partners.

Ladies out there, know the class of men you allow into your life. Be responsible for your actions.

Do you really believe the stuff u wrote?

sharpsecret:
how many zone those Nigeria have?four region according to how the British created it and we are 3rd because of ,ESN...if not we would hav been first.....besides let me ask u this question..is ipob in those region that is first and second bloodiest

Every region has its own issues we used to be the safest b4 ipob. We don't want to become like the other regions do we.

sharpsecret:
as long as its Fulani there is no way to avoid more death from them unless u defeat them

And if you lose?
But then I must commend you. You are one of the few kanu supporters that has not insulted me for out disagreement.
Most kanu supporters would insult anyone that disagree's with them

sharpsecret:
so what do u suggest?.....do we fold our hands and allow our wife's and children to be slaughtered in their sleep?or do we fight

Great question. We are supposed to be a thinking people. How do we avoid more deaths? What can be done to secure igbo land.
Clearly, war is only making it worse so it's out of the question.
I have so much to suggest but first step would be to denounce ipob and it's rhetorics. Build bridges.
The fulani issue is affecting almost every state. We can't use tribalism as a weapon anymore. In every state, there are people who want less of fulani domination.
We can't continue our paper or online war with yorubas, ijaw and every other group. That is a better way to go.

sharpsecret:
yes it has become worse since ipob because we took the fight to them...thr formation of ESN was a great achievement...now the herdsmen are being death with.. they sent their terrorists army so as to us the law to back them up... U see this nigeria..it has been sitting on a gunpowder for long and it is time for it to explode...there is no time this killings will notbspreadwas just a matter of time the killings will spread with or without ipob.....what of the people massacred in ibarapa Ibadan..is ipob there?the only hope we igbos have is that we don't share close border with the north like the middlebelts and some part of the west...so for them to get to us they need to overcome the likes of Benue and so on....Benue is almost defeated where do you think they head from Benue...Enugu I guess ...guy wise up....if u are really Igbo u can hate ipob

You took the fight to them and your people are dying in record numbers.
Only last month the southeast was the 3rd bloodiest zone. We are losing the so called fight.

Racoon:
BREAKING: We are not Useless – Nigerian Army replies UK paper

The Nigerian Army has said that it is a globally respected agency. This is in response to an Editorial by The Economist of the United Kingdom (UK) on Saturday where the Muhammadu Buhari administration was described as incompetent, and criticised for being ‘unable to curb corruption’. The piece was titled ‘The Crime Scene at the Heart of Africa’.

The publication also accused the Nigerian Army of selling weapons to insurgents, just as it pointed out that ‘insurgency, secessionism and banditry threaten Nigeria’.

But Nigerian authorities are thoroughly displeased with the report, and have fired back.

In a statement on Saturday by Brigadier-General Onyema Nwachukwu, the Nigerian Army Spokesperson, the agency said it is “certainly not what the so-called report by the Economist tried to characterize it”.

Read the Nigerian Army’s statement in full below:


https://politicsnigeria.com/breaking-we-are-not-useless-nigerian-army-replies-uk-paper/

The only time the Nigerian army is strong and brave is when they are beating up unarmed civilians.

duyox2004:
I hate it. I’m 41, never married, no kids.

I’ve been close…twice. But ended both relationships when they were caught cheating.

I’ve dated several men since then, most older than me, and they seemed to be in no hurry to even be in a committed relationship. Which is crazy to me that these men are mid-40s and still trying to hangout with the guys and party. I met a whole guy group of friends in Houston 2 years ago…all single, all 36–45 years old. They were throwing house parties during the quarantine…parties!! ��

When I was in grade school, I was told to get a degree, don’t get pregnant, just enjoy being single, make friends, keep dating, and the right man will find you.

Now that I have two degrees, traveled the world, developed hobbies, and avoided pregnancy…my doctors are telling me to just be a single mom because I’m running out of eggs as I type this message. �

I beat teenage pregnancy to be considering single motherhood at 41. �

Damn you, parents, counselors, pastors, and everyone who gave me that advice. I can’t get that time (or my eggs) back. I hate being single at this age!! ��

Stop blaming your parents and counselors. You are not the only woman with 2 degrees. Your mates that got married don't have 2 heads. Man don't want to marry you for a reason. So go fix yourself and stop blaming the world for your personal choices

sharpsecret:
do u know that there is an agenda to islamize nigeria!?what do u think will happen to those who will rather be an unbeliever..death if I can guess....what of those killed by bandits and bokoharam and the rest in their thousands ....do u think the death will be that high if it's an only Biafra federation?if we postpone this our children or great-grandchildren will still fight it one day...if u don't fight them u die if u fight them u still die...those killed in ebonyi Benue plateau Enugu kogi and the rest...what was their offence..their was no provocation..u just go at night and murder people in their sleep and u expect me to live with those people who see civilization as a crime...guy today na Sunday don't let me insult u

I don't agree with your premises. That was what our fathers thought before the civil war. We fought and lost 3 million people and all we owned before the war.
We have tried war, it failed why try it again?

sharpsecret:
without or without kanu that has always been the plan....militarize the south east.....ok take for instance before u transport ur goods from ports to ahiazu mbaise do u know how many military or police check point u will meet?recently they where quick to declare state of emergency in ananbara so as to bring in more military...what happened to the likes of zamfara and Katsina

you really want to tell me that it has not become worse since Ipob. What brought about python dance? As of last year, the southeast had the least murder cases in Nigeria. Now we have more cases than the other southern zones

sharpsecret:
so if u dont believe in Biafra why not allow those who believe in it to fight for what they believe in....if Biafra comes u will gladly join...see ur statement....

As I read this post, I noticed you even threatened death on fulanis. That is something Nnamdi kanu would do.
But let me ask you, if there i's a war right now which tribe would suffer the most? We have much more to lose than in 1966.
So let's stop the kanu way and use our big igbo brains to work things out.
We igbo are the best business negotiators, I see no reason why we should be lousy political negotiators

sharpsecret:
how can u get me biafra?that is my own....if u don't have anything to offer let me follow kanu pls....ok u said Biafra agitation has been there since the 70's....if they did it right why haven't we got our Biafra...kanu is doing his best...every people in the government are now talking about negotiation with ipob...u cannot ask me what kanu has achieved because he is only fighting for one thing freedom...

So you agree he has failed? I have no right to stop you from loving kanu but really what has his movement brought to igboland?
It has brought more military presence, less business opportunities as businesses wouldn't invest in an unstable environment. It has brought more insecurity and deaths. Didn't we learn anything from 1966?

sharpsecret:
that's ur own version of kanu.....many will lay down their life for this same man u critizize...how has he brought sorrow to igboland?all he ask for is referendum...he feels his people need Biafra and if the FG feels they like one Nigeria more let a vote be conducted...simple....kanu has really done much....in the past we don't remember our fallen heroes in the civil war....5million plus people died...but today nnamdi kanu has set aside a day for them....is kanu the one sending Fulani herdsmen to massacre people in ebonyi and Enugu or Benue.....nnamdi kanu has taken Biafra agitation to another level...there is no part of the world u won't see people talking about Biafra...but bro wat are ur plans for the Igbos...if u have good idea u can bring it to the table ..we will follow as long as u are fighting for Biafra..

You are right many have laid down their lives for him. They have brought sorrow and mourning to their families and loved ones because of this man.
You asked a great question. 'How has he brought sorrow to Igboland? My answer is, all those that died for his failed cause, Believing he would get them Biafra. You say he has done much, Pls mention any of his achievements so far. You believe setting a day for our dead is his achievement then, we have a problem.
Before Nnamdi, there was Biafran agitation. He only added a violent angle to it. There has been Biafran agitation since the 70s but the only thing Kanu added was insulting every other tribe and increasing Igbo hate through radio Biafra. Today, the Igbos and not any closer to achieving Biafra than prior to Kanu. Let's face it, no country is taking our cry for Biafra seriously.
So it would be wrong to say he has brought any good to our land.
I believe in the Igbo spirit but not in Biafra. I would be happy if there is a Biafra but that cannot be my priority. We Igbos are very smart people. we have done ok compared to other tribes. Kanu was just a distraction.

sharpsecret:
ok let the real Igbos tell us the fake Igbos how we can achieve Biafra....as Igbo don get fake too....what are u doing to get us Biafra?

I don't need Biafra. I just need my business to keep growing not minding the country where I stay. I am more intreated in my business than in a war fought before my birth.
If Biafra comes, I would gladly join but I wouldn't pretend it would solve all the problems of the Igbos.
And I would take part in a losing war.

sharpsecret:
Israel has fought so many wars to be free.....right from the Bible days of Egypt they have fought till today....why are they fighting?to be free from their oppressors...imagine finding urself in the middle of jihadist countries like Nigeria...what do u think will happen,..they will either kill u for not being part of their religion or kill u for drinking beer...we Igbos don't value that kind of life..we like to enjoy our life...if we decide to be part of Nigeria they will still kill us or ask us to be part of their religion....

We Igbos do not follow unintelligent leaders. Kanu has only brought sorrow, tears and blood to his followers. He has no game plan. With men like kanu biafra would never come to pass.
We need men wit wisdom. Not men who tslk too much and do very little

sharpsecret:
it is because u already have hatred for him before u listen....a real lover of truth can never hate a man and also hate his message provided that man is saying the truth...a real Igbo man knows why he love kanu...after the civil war Igbos lost respect for each other..their was no unity amongst us..we lost hope on Biafra ...we thought it was out of reach...until mnk came and he gave us back that belief that we can still be free people

Not all Igbos love Kanu.. some of us know it's not wise to follow a man that only leads his people to death.
He has nothing to offer. Since the coming of Kanu how much close are you to achieving biafra?
The real Igbos know that kanu is fake

ObiOfOnistha:
Tiwa is enjoying the fame you are writing rubbish

Boss why don't you also release your sex tapes and become super famous.
When people become so desperate that they release their sex tapes for attention, we should know something is wrong.

sharpsecret:
yeah no doubt their was massob b4 ipob.....they have done a good job but it now ipob....see for Ur information an Igbo does not care who leads the struggle...what we care about is Biafra.biafra.biafra......get that into ur thick skull

for your information not every Igno cares about Biafra. And some of us are tired of men who only lead people to death. We need smarter leaders

[quote author=sharpsecret post=106971132]do u really want to know?....I don't have that time but if u have data u can listen to his past broadcast on radio biafra[/quote
I have listened, he is always boasting, insulting and being aggressive. I don't think that's what you meant when you said he showed you the way

emae009:
you go dey alright. If something as simple as "going by your logic" you can't comprehend then there's no point in this conversation.

I actually comprehend. You have the same talking point as CNN. I just don't agree.
I don't think companies should have as much power as our social media giants.
Anyway. It was nice exchanging ideas with you.

emae009:
Guy make we reason man to man... what exactly do you want
I've explained this shit over and over again but you don't read to understand. You just want to prove your point and be right.
oh!kay... you've won, happy

PS: Going by your logic, Treason is the act of betraying one's country. But if you make an attempt on the life of the President, you'd be charged with treason. Is the President the country
At this point my tired is tired

Honestly I don't get your point.. are you saying disruption of Congress and violent behavior is treason?? LI keep seriously
Someone punched the French President the other day, should he be charged for treason? The man was jailed for 4 months. I am sure the French don't give 4 months 4 treason

festacman:
First, no private school would want to lose a student because doing so is losing money. Schools always protect pupils and wouldn't hesitate to fire a bully teacher. But if Mercy Johnson in her glory had gone to see Head Teacher and the "bully" teacher wasn't disciplined immediately, then it could be that Mercy's daughter has poor attitude.

Second, the alleged seed of hatred for Mercy may LIKELY to have been sown by Mercy's superiority complex display in the past. Mercy is not likely to be a favourite figure among the staff but this particular "bully" teacher is a hot-headed radical that decides to stand up to Mercy. Even from afar, Mercy looks like a stubborn personality and success complicates haughty attitude.

Third, personally I won't allow my child to stay in a school where I am loathed. It is dangerous for the child. There are many good schools though a child or a parent with poor attitude will always have problems even in the best school.

From a far mercy looks like a stubborn personality. Human beings, from the comfort of your home you can tell mercy personality.
You have now become a professional judge.

gasparpisciotta:
Ill mannered celebrity sorry ‘‘yeyebrity’’

Some other parents whose kids attend the school have countered your claim of bullying rather the gist is that she is raising a brat.

Gossip mill claims that the girl has been evicted from different schools as a result of the uncultured attitude mother and daughter.

You are into gossip mill?

emae009:
you dey move all over the place... read and understand first not rush to reply. It's not about the people, it's about the act. You can't understand that then I don't know how to explain further

2 things here, violence and disrupting a congress section and the insurection.
Insurection means taking over government.
There is zero evidence of insurection. For insurection to happen, there must be planning and intention. Are you saying that Trump or the rioters planned to take over the American government? This is 10 months after and no one is found guilty of insurection yet. Haba

emae009:
You're missing my point.
I said Trump was a figure head while BLM never had such. Trump never issued a direct order so there's no way you can say he's guilty. More than half of the people that were charged for the Jan 6 insurrection said they were responding to their President's call.
I still don't know why people don't get this simple act. Whether they were an army or a group of students, that the break in while Congress was in session and carrying out a constitutional duty amount to the same thing. If they had succeeded in stopping the confirmation of Joe Biden as the elected president there's no say he'd have been inaugurated. Doesn't that sound like hijacking a government
Did you know if you cause a disturbance in court while it's in session, you can be charged either obstruction of justice? you don't have to carry a weapon for that. Democracy isn't only about the President. All 3 arms share the same importance!
Facebook is incorporated in America not Nigeria so they have more civic duty there than here.
Like I've said, don't only look at things from your own perspective. No matter how you want to look at it what Trump did was wrong and so for his action there was consequences

Oga are you really serious, comparing the crowd with a trained army. And so far, no one has been foundone guilty of insurrection. I guess disrupting congress is a more accurate way to define their act.
Their is no evidence that they were there to topple the government so let's take it easy on that. And yes no one said they are innocent.
You keep saying Trump is not guilty yet you believe an innocent man's account should be ban. I don't understand that.
You excuse Facebook by saying they are an American company then let's experiment.
Go on Facebook and claim that civid 19 is not real and the vaccine could leado to complications. Let's see what would happen to your account. I guess your account is Nigerian.
You keep saying what Trump did was wrong and at the same time, he is not guilty. You need to stick to one.
If what Trump did was wrong, then I would be the first to say let the law hold him responsibility not twitter.
Remember you said that Trump wanted to reduce the power of social media. Now you see ita not have been a bad idea

blamingthedevil:

For decades, the anti-choice movement has attempted to brand itself as “pro-life,” but it’s not hard to see through their charade. As “pro-life” Republicans remain focused on criminalizing abortion, it’s not lost on Americans that this isthe exact same Republican party that is hellbent on harming women and families with their regressive policies.

It’s pretty hard to call yourself “pro-life” when you’re actively working to:

Imprison or execute women who access safe abortion care.
Tear babies away from their parents and lock them in cages, with no plan to reunite them.
Silence doctors and strip reproductive healthcare away from millions of low-income people.
Stand by while the maternal mortality rates skyrocket and women—especially Black women—die in childbirth.
Deny affordable healthcare coverage to people with pre-existing conditions.
Cut programs that feed hungry kids.
Block access to HIV testing and treatment across the globe.
Incite far-right violence with lies about abortion.

Are you confused? What does Benin have to do with USA.
Also, what about the rights of a child to life?
At what age is it OK to kill a child?

Fahdiga:
Legend in the mould of Nelson Mandela and Martin Luther King

Mandela and Martin Luther were well breed tactical leaders. Nnamdi is just a loser.
Say no to Kenyan prostitutes

sharpsecret:
he is just relaxed cos his assignment is done...it is now left for we young Biafrans to continue ..Biafra is bigger than kanu..it is an ideology engraved in every biafran heart

Pls what was his assignment? What has he achieved for his people?
Before him, we had Massob. Like him, others will come and go. He is just another distraction.

sharpsecret:
he has done his part by enlightening us...and we say thank u to him for showing us the way...it is now left for us the people of Biafra to carry on....freedom or we die trying

He showed you the way to where biko?

emae009:
I'd just use this to reply your two post.
- BLM didn't have a figure head, people were arrested but that didn't stop the movement. But in the case of the Jan 6 incident, after Trump suspension, everything died down? notice the difference? I didn't say there weren't prominent people on BLM, the influence was concentrated on one person rather it was decentralized.
- You said Hillary Clinton and a whole bunch of people made reference to stolen election in 2016. All I said was that Social Media policy in 2016 wasn't as strict as it is in 2021. So saying Trump was silenced while Hilary wasn't is overlooking that very point just to prove your case. Trump wasn't "silenced" until the Jan 6 incident. Action consequences.
- Did you know Congress was in session during Jan 6? Democracy is made of of what 3 tiers of Government that overseers each other, The Executive, The Legislature and The Judiciary. It wasn't the first time protest had been held outside Congress but that they broke the barrier and gained access into the chamber while a Legislative proceeding was taking thus stopping the process and you say the didn't threaten America's democracy. Democracy isn't only about the President. Read it up.
- how did you know about Hunter Biden if it was censored
- insulting the President is a prove that you can post anything (which is the freedom you want right). A lot of people died from cyber bullying which led to calls for the tech companies to do more to stop it.
I think that about covers it but I feel there's more. I'm not saying anyone is a saint or not.
But whether we like it or not the freedomyou want online will only lead to chaos in real llife. There's no two ways about it. To make online a safe space, a comprise has to be made.

Your point is that because the rioting stopped after Trump was suspended, he must have been guilty? How about the fact that the rioters were arrested or kill and many went into hiding because they were wanted? If Trump was the cause of the riots, His supporters wouldn't just stop simply because he was taken off Twitter?
Now you say Facebook and Twitter did not censor the Hunter story? You need to read more on that. There was a congressional hearing because of that you can read more about it. They also censored covid info, you can also check that out.
And about January 6th, If anyone is serious about destroying the American democracy he wouldn't do it with a bunch of poorly armed rioters.
Only a joker would believe Trump's plan was to use his mostly unarmed supporters to take over the US government.
Remember, all the 5 that died that day were among the rioters. A cop, Brian D. Sicknick suffered two strokes and died of natural causes a day after the rioter so let's stop acting like this was a deadly army that was going to take over the US.
Everyone including Trump condemned what happened on that day.
Now let me ask you a question, the Nigerian election in 2023, would facebook also close any account for protesting against the election results?

emae009:
none of what I said was an excuse. You insinuated that some group of people control what we post online using Trump as your defense. All I pointed out was that Trump was saying a whole lot since after the election but his accounts weren't suspended. only after the Jan 6 incident.
Who was the figure head of Black Lives Matter?
as of 2016 did Twitter have the "censor tag"?
At least judge was both sides before coming to a conclusion not choosing a side and then not open to hearing the other party

Do you say black lives matter has no head? First big tech took it upon themselves to pronounce Trump guilty of causing a riot. About hearing both sides, I listen to CNN every day so I understand your side.
Let me ask you, why did big tech censor anyone talking about Hunter Biden's laptop including the New York post around this time last year?

emae009:
Remember when Trump threatened to make social media liable for posts made on their platforms and a lot of his followers were in support?
If you look at the other side for a little bit you'd see the Twitter during that period updated their privacy policy, introduced the censor tag and all other policies.
Every twitter user was asked to review and accept the new policies and I believe a lot did.
So when you go back to Hillary Clinton, the policies are not the same. The last election threatened the fabric of American democracy so unverifiable topics are given extra look.
People should be able to say whatever they want? do you know how many people have died because of cyberbullying?

My point in all this before you say the Big Tech are bad, have a look from their own perspective too then make an independent conclusion. Not having a stand because someone you admire has the same stand

If you understand American law, the president does not have the power to regulate social media.
The last election did not threaten democracy in any way. can we stop pretending that so disorganized rioters were going to topple the US government? Can you explain how the last election has made America less democratic? If anything, it only affirmed America to be a very democratic country where a bunch of rioters can have no impact on election results. Pls, explain how Clinton's 2016 election was different.
I am just you know, many Americans including many in CNN and top democrats claim Bush's 2004 reelection was rigged in Florida. That's the beauty of democracy.

Who is to decide what constitutes cyberbullying? So many Americans for instance insult their presidents online each day, would we call that cyberbullying?

This is not about my feelings for trump. If they can do it to a former president, who can't be touched. By this time last year, big tech censored every post about Hunter Biden's laptop. So they are not the saints you paint them to be.

And yes, it might be right to break down their powers for the sake of freedom.

emae009:
so who decided that you post your comment here in such a quick time from the billions of comment in the world right now??
At least when you want to take a stand, get all the facts right and make an independent stand that you can defend.
Since the creation of Social Media isn't the same people responsible for what we post?
Trump lost the election since November right, wasn't he still posting on social media? weren't those people around then or did they take a sabbatical and only came on in January.
Leaving all that aside, find a quiet location, build a large hall and host a lot of people every day and night planning how to break into Aso Rock. Tell me if you won't be dinning with the DSS in a such period of time.

If Trump had broken the law, he would be arrested by now so your Dss example holds no water. Your excuse was that they waited from November till January also does not make it right. Even if it took 10 years...

When Trump won in 2016, there were protests all across the US. The people were screaming, "Not my president"
George Floyd's death led to one of the deadliest riots across US yet not one took down Black lives matter or from the internet.
Property worth billions was lost. It was many times deadlier than the Capital riots. Who are we fooling? CNN supported the riots. The said "where is it written that protesters should be peaceful" CNN still has all their accounts up and running.