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Xeedorf:
SATISFYING A WOMAN AND DIE IN ACTIVE SERVICE*(men be warned, mi o le waku)
Every responsible man wants to satisfy his family and wife in terms of providing for the basic needs and also in bed. But doing this at the expense of the man's life is what I want to condemn.
It is a common experience this days that women openly talk about how bad their spouses are in bed, and most times the woman makes life difficult for the man by throwing abusive words at him.
It is also common to see a lot of products being advertised and marketed for enhancement of males sexual performance. A lot of women are responsible for their husband's death because of their excessive demands for sexual satisfaction, and in the bid to satisfy the woman the man take drugs that endanger his health.
And I ask, is sexual satisfaction the basis of relationships or marriage? Some times the woman even asks for a bigger joystick and my fellow man will be taking all sorts of drugs just to enlarge his joystick.
This is just mocking God who created you. At the end he dies SATISFYING A WOMAN. Why not ask the woman to reduce her vagina to size you instead?
A man's sexual performance depends on a lot of factors, such as stress, diet, medical conditions such as diabetes, drugs such as anti-hypertensives, relationship problems, etc.
*How do you expect a man who you nag, starve, embarrass on the streets, who you refuse to support financially, who sleeps for less than 3 hours in a day to satisfy you sexually?*
Most times women threaten to go outside for the so called satisfaction and you will be struggling to take higher doses of the drugs to satisfy her.
That woman you want to satisfy at the expense of your own life started having sex before the age of 12 years until the age of 25yrs or more when she got married.
Before this time she has experimented widely with men of different energy capacities. Unfortunately, she married a man with lower capacity, but she is already addicted to sex. So how can you measure up?
Don't die in active service. Don't die in the attempt to satisfy a woman sexually. Just do what you can do and leave the rest to God. If you die satisfying a woman definitely after your burial men will come and continue from where you stopped.
*Our dear wives and girlfriends, we are begging you to help us live longer. Help us financially, encourage us to do more not nagging, feed us well, give us peace of mind, allow us sleep at night, understand our health challenges, understand the side effects of drugs we are on, protect our weaknesses, and pray for us.*
Then we will live longer for you and your children. Our performances then will improve. Do not harm yourself in any way trying to prove you are a man. 7-13 minutes is OK, if you can go higher better but do not take drugs that will damage your heart.
Many have died trying to satisfy women. *THEY DIED IN ACTIVE SERVICE*

well said bro!!

to Dr F, I interested to know what medical text
he got his numbers from


to each his own..

IMHO, pre-intimacy is what's important and willingness to experiment in a self-less manner.

if the pleasure of your spouse remains uppermost, sex becomes love-making
and not a porn competition!!

its what you do with what you have: not the size or minutes you can drag!!


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centboy123456:
A Ghanaian footballer called Ni..Ordaty Lambty had an African wife back in ghana, had four kids with her, all are in their 20's , he married her while he was in Belgium playing soccer by the early and mid 90's but to his greatest surprise non of those children were his blood when he did a D..N.A test on them, but still the wife who cheated on him and had 4 kids outside marriage went and filed a divorce ..wanting to claim his properties. If not the judge who ruled against it, white or black...there are bad women everywhere

agree colour has little to do with a despicable character....

but you have to agree until recently before our melanin sisters open eye in the name of pseudo-feminism, this script/pattern was often noticed as an unsuitable match between a naive man from a developing country fortunate to get a football/ music/ boxing or professional career and a clever hawkish woman from the developed world with no huge income source other than being an "undercover madam" ...... same script over n over again---- like a black spider widow!!!

Tranquill:
I know people that married someone from their own village and they got worst treatment. Just pray for a compassionate (not good) woman and also be wise in your dealings. I used compassionate because there is hardly any good woman these days.

there are a few good ones around but simply not visible...
they are too busy working to earn a living and not live off men!!!
hence they are not very attractive...don't "slay" or appear "trendy"....
but keep a home, submit to the husbands they will

missionary position all year long but at least you are not digging the same cavity as your gateman or driver

they may not invoke envy from your friends but at least they are not exchanging sexual healing/ energy either....


will stop here as just upset as to how totally messed up world can be!!!

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PrecisionFx:
Remember that "For every successful man, There's a woman standing behind him"

a good woman ready to weather through thick and thin........

not a gold-digging belligerent fairweather human who would turn his children as instruments of emotional blackmail, away from him during difficult times

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azahmed:
Especially white women. No wonder Mikel no marry

any man should look at or examine very well his relationship...

if I was broke, would she be interested

outside of a resounding yes... its a no to marriage without an extremely water-tight pre- and post-nuptials!!!!

keep them as baby mamas if you have to procreate or get a vasectomy before she steals the rubber and actively inseminates herself!!

flipping the coin, would like to know on what grounds the divorce was granted!!


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@ Op

nice thread

look forward to more updates

little more on work obviously anonymising sensitive data
3 months down, are you due an appraisal and how would you rate your input so far::

think along these lines, to carefully sell yourself to your line manager/ coy

I bring this up as we Naija work very hard but not necessarily smart:--- its the hustle overdrive!!! But you have to be very self-aware almost on the verge of being very self-centred!!! Otherwise you get no credit..

relationships can be dealt with later

with regards to contrary opinions, you may find some resistance to your mindset but cut them some slack

nervorum:
Hi everyone,

This thread is an eye opener for me. The argument on creditcard was informative.

I see a lot of diasporans (UK) here, so i thought to ask (no intent on derailing pls!).

Have 2 job offers presently; one in Eastbourne (east sussex) and the other in Redhill, Surrey. Please i'd like some information on both places in terms of cost of living etc

I'd appreciate any help, as i have a few days to finalize.
TIA.

Eastbourne is cheaper in terms of cost of living . seaside community, relatively small hospital:--- good landing pad to settle upon arrival

get ur exams out of the way quickly
do extra hours to increase income
if you have children, may look at private education as schools aren't top-notch

overall actively network via postgrad college in local areas n London is just 1.5 hr away on train, so good accessibility..

get good mentors and set targets_-- short and longterm with SMART objectives

can look to living on the Brighton border after awhile:--- loads of Naija in Brighton

hope that helps


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amahthelma:
Vanity upon vanity all still remains vanity.....she kept acquiring the whole properties and money but she never one day thought who will spend this whole thing after I am gone....if that bastard that stabbed ha was treated nicely I don't think he would be deceived to perpetrate such demonic act...and if those siblings she has are in a better position in life they won't be so jobless to think of who to take the highest share of the property......she shouldn't be late by now....she never enjoyed life because she was stingy she never helped her siblings....anyways that's their problem to solve ...if they like they shoould kill each other with dagger that is their headache not mine.....I rest my case

madam. e get as e bi for your assertions!!!

There is nothing to suggest she maltreated her maiguard... he had been in her employment for a short period of time.. so it was too early to determine the course of their relationship...
he had enough compassion after the crime to leave the AC on, would suggest regret. and not hatred on his part!!!

He appears to me to be an opportunistic criminal who felt his crime would go unnoticed as Madam didn't have people living with her or close by to check up on her.

regarding the relatives, the 2 principal relatives here are fairly well off...
the younger sister based in USA who could spend 9 million to lock up the older brother

the older brother who is a doctor and resides
with his family in a vicinity close by enough for him to be easily reached..... paid mortuary fees, autopsy fees, police fees to prosecute the perpetrator!!

madam your original reasons are not good enough to excuse away this lady's death and post mortem treatment; much less so given how relatively comfortable the antagonists are?!!!!


please will her estate to NGOs or reputable charities after a befitting burial!!!


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This is really sad..
no respect to the slain

dragging each other over someone else's property for over a year....

I hope she left a will leaving it all to charities, research trusts and NGOs!!!!

will serve them right and deter other greedy relatives!!!

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to the op

please start to look for a suitable accomodation elsewhere

I"ve got to ask... why the landlord wants fresh pple every year aside a marginal rent increase if there's no underlying sinister development

burning down the property/ destroying parts/ non-payment of rent is not a responsible nor mature way of handling things

Karma can be a biaaatcch, remember
moreso very quickly

tayooluwole:
Left to me, it is not proper. I know of an old woman in where I served, this woman relied on the people around before she could eat... she was always in tattered cloth suggesting of the absence of care from any children... One man told me all the woman's children were not around but in somewhere else struggling to make living. I asked the man, should been an hustler be an excuse to take care of one's mother ?

Behold, not long this woman died, the woman was buried in a semi-elaborate ceremony. Two cows was killed, beans cake was on rampage and some other foods.

Now the question is where did the money to float such an elaborate ceremony come out.

Why not using the money to give the woman a beffiting living when she was alive instead of beffiting burial...

He get some things wey we Africans they do wey no make sense at all...

I agree with the above...

but I have seen.situations where despite having enough, the old folks give an impression of poor upkeep by the children!!
an example of a lady who was building a 2storey building whilst seeking help n alms from anybody ready to listen to her "touching" stories, comes to mind.

Can you blame the children here:--- when Mama has more in her current account than multiples of their monthly household account needs and she will "dress tatterdly" to evoke emotions of pity and helplessness.!!

She still carries on despite several admonishments... who.do you blame??

Lets be careful before rushing to judge!!


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an omphalocele it seems

child needs a good work-up to rule out other problems such as cardiac malformations etc.

gender identity is not as immediate as surgery and aftercare as mortality is quite high!!!!


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nairametrics:
https://nairametrics.com/hot-money-inflow-into-nigeria-where-it-started/

that explains a lot....
its not trickling to the grassroots n job. creation is in negative figs


what is being done about it though??
and Emefiele n Adeosun's plans on this..


The gravy train can only last so long


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wisdom is profitable to all

as much as transparency breeds trust in relationships, money troubles from a varicious spender. lazy spouse can help set in cracks quicker than you expect!!

different strokes for different folks...

u know say na gold digger u put for house...
you have become honourable commissioner of housing for all his/her family members: minister of works n transport,, na u dey buy them motor and pay them monthly allowee: spouse will wipe you out in the event of a divorce..,. get wisdom n protect u na self.....


lot of hungry ravenous wolves looking for mumu buttons to press, sometimes dressed in Gucci/ Prada!! and appearing corporate.


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looks like you may be coming back wt a filipino bride, mate!!

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do update us of ur experience!!!

GogobiriLalas:
Men I feel your pain...I reside somewhere in the West and I observed that most businesses rely on a credit rating system....it's a metric system for measuring a person's trustworthiness...with a good credit score you can approach any commercial outfit for credit...with our poverty communal mentality, we will never be able to understand how one man's indiscretions reduces all of us...it's sad but we need to educate ourselves.

educate!!!
more like fumigate my man!!

its rancid... I know countless HNW pple who will politely decline to do business wt Naija... 419 reputation having heavily coloured their judgement!!!

its heart- rending when awesome opportunities pass us by because we rank poorly on the global competitiveness scale...

we have the numbers, potential economies of scale, consumer market, natural resources, academic/ technical ability with background tenacity, yet we behave like a snail rather than the giant of Africa that we truly are!!

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GogobiriLalas:
So sad...when you can't trust anyone business suffers...this guy will never invest in Nigeria again...ultimately, we all suffer for a few people's greed...we should all be collectively outraged.

totally agree!!!
times are moving

to tap into the coming wealth brought on by FDI, Fintech and other tech advances, the system has to be sanitised..

its a shame, the gentleman in question has been insulted and the scammers hailed as being "smart"..

this mindset makes me weep

when.are we going to get ready for the 21st century and tidy up our homes/ minds/ attitudes


reasons for his lack of due diligence and could include any of the below:-

we may never know why he didn't involve his family earlier:--- that's assuming he had one resident in NGR at the time??

or why he didn't come to see/ inspect :--- he might have been offshore or away on assignment for months!!

or how he raised the money:--- might have maxed out on his mortgage, thinking this was great deal and. given present circumstances, effectively homeless!!

I agree with the maxim :--- if its too good to be true, it probably is fake!!

but the extent of PR / packaging done to get him hooked on the deal shouldnt be overlooked as the estate agency seemed legitimate enough: ---office in an upmarket area with possible overseas affiliates
and the price wasn't marked up either,
....so its a deal that would have been quite attractive with all the markings of legitimacy




but what has been.lost is TRUST!!!

and with that, the country loses a lot of opportunities.

Real estate in major cities of the world is purchased through the internet/social media/ phone calls and funds transfers in minutes!!
and these purchases are genuine!!!

when are we going to step up and get our acts together

when??




I really hope the funds are returned/ repartriated without any loss of life...
speedily too!! and be made public for other victims to learn from!!

But I can imagine thousands/ millions of would-be investors who will walk away on reading this sad narrative!!


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UBGG:
Do You not sleep? Lol.

on viewing ur reply
was wondering the same.....

didn't realise you were that keen to exercise the brain cells
not expecting a reply now

UBGG:
My thoughts are...it depicts how our perceptions about life tend to change the older we become OR how dogmatism can make you one day become an old man, filled with regrets.

hope you had a good day.....

reading your surmise

interesting!!
interesting!!
interesting take or summary but more interesting is the specific vocabulary in use.



"........the vibrancy of youth
how abundantly productive yet ephemeral!!
intoxicating, empowering yet yielding
but within it as a dark thread in.a cloud
it carries disdain for the strength of the sage, which was made stronger with age......"


If you can reeaaaaallllyyyy humour me, What are your thoughts on Domenico Piola's. painting ...Allegory of youth

We can do Caroselli's later if you are still up for it.

a little more detail --- medium and materials used, symbolism, a brief history of the painter and that period in history


I expect this to be lengthy so kindly mail me


will yarn later


have a productive Sunday (....apart from getting this project report in....)
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UBGG:
"...someone thinks the light shines from my neither regions......."

LMAO. I like to blow sunshine up peoples arses at least once a day. My way of giving back to humanity.

You're welcome.

by the way....
what are your thoughts on Allegory of Prudence by Titian??

await your musings!!

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UBGG:
"...someone thinks the light shines from my neither regions......."

LMAO. I like to blow sunshine up peoples arses at least once a day. My way of giving back to humanity.

You're welcome.

sorry bout typo...
no.mail received though

have a gd day
cheerio

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UBGG:
" hmmmmmhhhh

thanks for the "dissing"!! enjoyed turning the tables.. "

Lol. You're alright.

" once slept very poorly in a room with Dali-esque pictures, I mean Dali on a dark day/ night --- you choose....I swore never to do that again!!"

Lawd!!! I don't care for it, day or night.

Ok...I am still finding it hard to believe I found someone like you on nairaland. It's like finding a unicorn, truly. Lol.

"have a great day ahead!!"

You too!

howdy!!
superbusy yesterday
will mail later... access issues

have a great day...
made mine, got an extra plate this am after bragging ..
"......someone thinks the light shines from my nether regions......."

worked like magic!!

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aye aye...

atta girl!!!

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Mynd44:
Some problems will arise here though.
1. Insufficient teachers
2. Doesn't this cause some inconsistency with WAEC which gives stidents a chance to choose? Perhaps they intend to make it compulsory in class but when applying for WAEC, students can drop it but it will increase the workload of students
3. In Unis, it should not carry any unit but it must be passed.

My thoughts anyway

you are right....
another reason to avoid state owned tertiary units!!

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UBGG:
" I'm like she is sure dissing me now!!"

LMAO. I was.

I thought, here's a man who either likes the sound of his own voice or believes he's got a lot to offer intellectually but never seem to find the right audience.

"I'm easy-going, ....to be described as having the gift of the gab as per a brilliant orator as personified in that painting is an overstatement.......
although. eeeerrrhm maybe not"

See? LMAO.

You know, if I wasn't sure my partner wasn't on nairaland, I'd say you're him. He's also a narcissist. Lol.

"Germanic expressionist art is a little sombre for me... from a quick perusal !!!
forgive me if I'm.wrong"

I forgive you.

" maybe a little....
Picasso, Renoir, Matisse and Klimt my naughty man!! ...."

I've been meaning to have a framed picture of klimt's 'the kiss' hung up on the wall of my bedroom for a while now but I keep forgetting. I consider it to be quite soothing.

hmmmmmhhhh

thanks for the "dissing"!! enjoyed turning the tables..

everyone, depending on co-variables, will exhibit some degree of narcissism :-- that's life... but a narcissistic personality, I surely don't have!!

prefer my walls bare... need my solitude and peace... funny that!!... no clutter on the wall!!

once slept very poorly in a room with Dali-esque pictures, I mean Dali on a dark day/ night --- you choose....I swore never to do that again!!

have a great day ahead!!

gee....thanks for the homework!!

Ist glance at The Orator with my sub-functional phone... a story for another day....
was this sombre dark roudy mesh of human bodies... I'm like she is sure dissing me now!!

Then another look at the painting in the light of Zeller's biography, got me "intellectualizing"... forgive my grammar... we are on Nairaland, we would be forgiven !!! !!!

I'm easy-going, ....to be described as having the gift of the gab as per a brilliant orator as personified in that painting is an overstatement.......
although. eeeerrrhm maybe not.



Germanic expressionist art is a little sombre for me... from a quick perusal !!!
forgive me if I'm.wrong

Renaissance art is more my thing!!
Da Vinci, Titian, Botticelli

maybe a little....

Picasso, Renoir, Matisse and Klimt my naughty man!! ....

thanks for your kind assessments though!!

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UBGG:
Lol.

Magnus Zeller, he is one of my favourite painters. I imagine men like you inspired his painting 'the orator'. Look it up if you can.

happy birthday madam!!

I hope you've had a lovely day and wish you many more happy and productive years ahead... on behalf of the 1.8million nairalanders... as this post neva reach frontpage and e go soon nak 12 midnight!!!





ooooppppsssss my bad..... seems I'm a day late!


seriously hbd in arrears and wish you folks a happy married life... its lovely to see how well ur hubby speaks of you!!