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"The three month-mark in a relationship is usually when you either take the relationship to the next level and become more serious, or you decide that love isn't going to grow and you break ties," dating coach, Anna Morgenstern,says

Although every relationship differs, three months is considered to be the average length of the first stage of a relationship. According to psychotherapist and relationship coach, Toni Coleman, LCSW, you should be ideally making that transition from "casually dating" to "exclusive" around that time. But again, this varies depending on how much time you actually spend together and how much distance is between you two.

According to Coleman, many believe that "losing interest" is the reason behind why some couples can't seem to make it past three months. But that's not entirely the case. "It's not so much losing interest in one another as it is making a decision that this relationship is not one they want to invest more in and deepen," she says. "They simply don't feel that the friendship, connection, attraction and interest are strong enough."

So will your new relationship make it past those crucial first 90 days? According to experts, if your partner hasn't done these things in that timeframe, it may not.

1. Be Consistent With Their Communication

At the beginning of a relationship, texting, calling, and messaging typically happen very often. There's a lot of back and forth flirtation, and you pretty much expect it. But if your partner is no longer predictable or consistent with their communication, licensed psychologist Dr. Danielle Forshee says, that's not a great sign. "In a new relationship, both partners should be mutually invested in spending time getting to know the other person," she says. "This should be equally reciprocated on both ends."

2. Be Their Genuine Self Around You

"The first few months are often all persona, all pretense," Caleb Backe, Health and Wellness Expert for Maple Holistics,says. "This is not a bad thing, per se, it is simply the nature of the beast." During those first few months, you want to present yourself in the best possible light. The more time you spend together and become more comfortable with each other, the easier it is to shed the persona and be your true self. But if your partner can't be their genuine self around you by three months, Backe says they may have deeper emotional issues that may need to be worked on. "Use your heart, your head, your gut, but be realistic about your expectations," he says. "Don’t be afraid to bring certain topics up. Now that three months have passed, it is starting to get real."

3. Invite You To Hang Out With Their Friends

If your partner starts making more plans with friends and isn't making the effort to include you, Morgenstern says, that's an early sign your relationship may not last. When this happens, the tendency is to cling onto the relationship for fear of losing it. You may text them more or request to spend more time together. But as she says, "that is the absolutely worst thing to do." Instead, let them be. Maybe they need space to figure out their feelings in order to move forward. "Plan a trip with friends for the weekend and have an amazing time reconnecting with your inner circle. Coming from a place of self love and inner confidence will save your relationship," Morgenstern says. "And if your partner does break it off, you'll be setting yourself up to walk away from the relationship as a whole person, not a broken shell of yourself."

4. Find Small Ways To Keep Moving The Relationship Forward

You shouldn't be initiating everything as your relationship goes on. So if your partner's interest in the relationship isn't strong enough to take it to the next level, they will take less of an initiative, be less affectionate, and show less physical closeness, Backe says. In short, there's going to be distance and you're going to feel it. "Some would say that this may be stemming from a fear of reaching that 100 days mark, so you need to take some serious personal and couple inventory (though you may not want to call it that), and see what it is that you have here," he says.

5. Be A Shoulder To Lean On

If your partner can't listen to you and be your shoulder to lean on in those first three months, Daniels says your relationship may not make it long-term. You shouldn't necessarily dump all your deepest and darkest fears to them right away. But if you're going through something at work or with your family, they should be there to talk and listen to you. "This kind of thing is what takes your relationship to the next level," she says. "It establishes a level of trust and strength for both of you to feel comfort when seeking comfort." If your partner can't be that for you, that's not a great sign.

6. Make Solid Future Plans With You

It's one thing to say that you should go away together for the weekend, and it's another to actually book everything and hash out the logistics. If your relationship is one that is destined to get stronger, Coleman says you will make solid plans for the future together. For instance, you may not meet their family within those first three months, but you can make plans for it. But if your partner can't even commit to making dinner plans for next week, that's not the best sign.

7. Make Your Relationship A Priority

"There is much more that goes into maintaining a long term partnership; it's not just be all about lust and pheromones," Susan McCord, dating coach and talk show host, says. "Relationships take work and need to be nurtured." As you go further along in your relationship, your partner should be putting a good amount of effort into the relationship. The "busy" excuse won't cut it. If someone wants to be with you, they'll make time. You will be a priority.

It's tough to realize that the person you're dating isn't putting in enough effort to be in a committed relationship with you. But as Coleman says, "You can't keep someone interested if they're not." Besides, why waste your time and effort trying to make a relationship happen if it's not meant to?

On the other hand, it's so easy to get hung up on timelines, especially when you first start dating. There's no shame in wanting commitment and exclusivity once you're realized your feelings. But just remember, every relationship is different. For some, life circumstances will only allow them to have two or three dates over the course of three months. For others, getting engaged after three months just feels right. If your relationship is making you feel anxious because you haven't done this, this, and that, by your third month together, don't panic just yet. If you and your partner can openly communicate about where things are at and where it's going, you're on the right track.

Read more: http://rayoonline.com/7-signs-your-relationship-wont-last-after-the-first-3-months/

I was in a Volunteer group last weekend ,you don't make conclusion based on your own personal life ...Ever heard of Kokun Foundation?? Concern Women group lots of Foundation are out there accepting Volunteers not to mention Church and Mosque SCOAN and a host of others,the list is long you need to be in the right circle to know all these.

Yellowdayzee:
I'm not in Nigeria... That's besides the point .

My question is do those things suggested even appeal to you

When last did u go volunteer ?

To many blogging success happens overnight! Far from it! You might have read many articles spinning from 100 ways to make profit on your blog to How i made $1000 a month blogging.The truth remains if you are not doing the right thing or haven't gotten to that stage,it would be difficult for you as a blogger to make anything from blogging.

Blogging from my own perspective is a process of consistency accompanied with hard work and great contents that impact your readers live positively.

Blogging Expert Renegade Said :

I learned exactly what brands look for in bloggers and influencers… because I was the one doing the looking.

So then, what the hell ARE they looking for? Well, although there are plenty of factors that go into partnerships between brands and content creators – and although each situation is unique – there are a few things that every good brand looks for in an influencer relationship…

1. A GOOD BRAND FIT

Number one. There’s literally no point in a brand working with a blogger if their core values aren’t aligned. Like a beer company working with someone who doesn’t drink alcohol. Or a luxury hotel brand working with a backpacking travel blogger – the brand message just isn’t going to reach the appropriate audience. And if a brand DOES approach you but isn’t a fit, don’t be persuaded even if they are offering a hefty budget – you could lose out on future opportunities from other brands who are turned off by a lack of authenticity.

2. DECENT REACH

Brands will always say ‘Reach isn’t everything’, but there’s no denying that it comes into play – at the end of the day, they want their product or service to be exposed to as many people as possible. That being said, don’t fall in the trap of those ‘Get More Followers’ apps – good brands will clue in if your engagement-to-follower ratio is skewed. If you’re struggling with reach, try these three ways to organcally grow your following:

Collaborate with fellow bloggers/influencers – you’ll tap into a whole new audience by being featured on their platforms.
Don’t stretch yourself thin over too many channels – focus on one or two that showcase your content best. If photography is your thing, Instagram is your best bet. If you’ve got a vibrant personality, let that shine on Youtube or in 140 characters on Twitter. And if you create how-to, service-oriented content, Pinterest’s search engine is your best bud.
Engage with other blogs/accounts. Leave comments on content similar to yours – it’s an easy way for people to find about about you and click through to engage with YOUR content. Which brings me to my next point…

3. STRONG ENGAGEMENT

This is huge, and often much more important to brands than reach. Brands want to see that your followers and readers are actively engaging with you, commenting on posts and giving positive feedback on the product featured. Are you responding back? Are your followers referencing the brands that you mention in the post? Are they tagging their friends? These are the things that brands will look for when choosing blogger partners, and in many cases, will give preference to someone with small reach but amazing engagement over another with massive reach and weak engagement (engagement pods do NOT count as strong engagement, friends). If you’re struggling with your engagement, try asking a question at the end of each post to initiate conversation with your followers.

4.TARGETED DEMOGRAPHIC

Basically… who is reading your posts? Your readership and following make a big difference to brands, especially when it comes to location. At Contiki, we would send influencers on trips all the time – the Canadian office would look for influencers with a big regional following and our global office would look for influencers with a diverse reach. If you don’t have Google Analytics set up on your blog or Business Insights on your Instagram, hop to it – it’s an easy way to get an estimate of the people checking out your content at any given time. Brands will often ask what your demo split is, so keep an updated list of country, city and gender ratios.

5. A UNIQUE PERSPECTIVE

Whatever you’re shooting, whatever you’re writing, whatever you’re filming – chances are, someone out there is doing it too. How many times have you seen an artsy shot of a latte? Or an overhead of some girl’s legs with a random smattering of accessories around her? Like, a bajillion times. And I’m not saying you can’t grab inspiration from fellow creators – the difference is in the way you tell the story, the unique voice you put on your content. THAT’S what brands are looking for. If Instagram’s your game, opt for a witty caption over a boring ‘Love these jeans’ statement. If your blog is your pride and joy, use it as a means to tell a story of a product/service as it fits into your life, rather than as a review. If content is king, then originality is the muthaeffin’ queen.

6. BREADTH OF CONTENT

What I mean by this is simple – how much of your content is sponsored and how much is organic? Although interested brands will look at who you’ve worked with in the past, they’ll also look at HOW MANY brands you’ve worked with. If every post you publish looks and sounds like an ad… girl, bye. Brands aren’t looking to work with walking advertisements – they’re looking to work with creators who have a story to tell and a loyal following with or without branded content. I would suggest that maximum 20-30% of your content be paid material – so if you’re doing 12 blog posts a month, limit 3 -4 of them to being sponsored content.



7. GOOD ATTITUDE

At the end of the day, the most important part of any brand partnership is finding someone who is easy to work with. No one wants to work with a blogger that has a reputation in the biz for being an entitled crazypants (I have worked with those people and they’re THE WORST). Be gracious. Be professional. Be responsible. Respect deadlines. Know the brief and adhere to it. Lose the attitude. If you’re a pleasant person who can get shit done on time and to scope, you’ll get repeat gigs and gain a good reputation throughout the industry.

read more: http://rayoonline.com/7-things-brands-look-for-in-bloggers/

There are lots of Volunteer groups in Nigeria and lots of class that you can take to while a way time..That brings me to my question ..what part of the country are you cos that matters alot from the tone of your comments seem you live in a remote area ..no offence but all the things listed above can be done in Nigeria..still doubting you should know google is your friend

Yellowdayzee:
Oh so you take an artclass and volunteer after a break up ... Come on ... It's not backward ... It's just being realistic

When you've just gone through a painful breakup, it's natural if your first reaction is to want to hole up in your bedroom — lights off, under the covers, ice cream pint in hand.

But while wallowing immediately after a breakup is totally normal and healthy, there is such a thing as too much wallowing.

So how can you tell when it's time to turn off the TV, take a shower, and start looking for productive things to do after a breakup that can help you *really* start the healing process?

"You have to allow time to feel and heal, [but] where things get a bit dicey is when the wallowing is affecting your job, health and general well being," Lisa Concepcion, dating/relationship expert, founder of LoveQuest Coaching and creator of the 90 Day Post Break Up Detox says

"Being productive and structured gives you a sense of consistency and safety after having the upheaval of the breakup," Concepcion says. "Think about it, people break up and after feeling blah for a few weeks, something kicks in where they want to be productive. They want to take care of themselves. They start to look at their day and realize they have all this time and want to get stuff done!"

If you're looking for ways to fill your time after a bad breakup, here are seven productive things you can do that can set you on the fast track to healing, according to experts.

1. Spend Time Volunteering

When your personal life has you feeling down, one of the best things you can do is project your energy outward, and find ways to help others — which will wind up helping you feel better, too.

"Volunteering your time to help others at a homeless shelter, Habitat For Humanity, or some charity that needs some extra hands is always a way to take your mind off things," Susan Trombetti, matchmaker and dating coach, says. "You can also meet new people and feel energized by them and your good deeds."

2. Incorporate Exercise Into Your Routine

If you're feeling a lot of pent-up stress or anger after a breakup, exercising can be a great way to channel that negativity while becoming healthier and more zen in the process. Even if you're not super into fitness, something as simple as taking a walk in the park can help clear your head.

"Taking care of yourself now by going to the gym, walking, or running is important and healthy," Trombetti says. "Exercising gives you a rush of feel-good endorphins which is a must right now."

3. Do Some Traveling

Instead of feeling like you're stuck in a city that has reminders of your ex everywhere, try traveling post-breakup. A change of scenery can be massively helpful after a breakup, particularly if you're visiting a place that truly excites you and makes you feel alive.

"Experience another culture by traveling by yourself to some country you always wanted to see — [it] can be very liberating," Trombetti says. "You never who you might meet. It doesn't even have to be a [romantic interest] but new friends are always a plus."

4. Start Journaling

When you feel overwhelmed with negative or anxious thoughts and feelings, rather than giving in to the temptation to wallow, take the time to write down those thoughts in a journal instead. You're physically getting them out of your head, so they're less likely to come creeping back in when you least expect it.

"Getting worried about what's going to happen or why things are the way they are, will not help you," Varsha Mathur, dating & relationship coach and founder of KnowingLuxe Coaching, says. "Instead, consider writing in a journal as a means for reflection and healing.

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5. Hang Out With Your Loved Ones

When you separate from someone who was a huge part of your day-to-day life, it's going to be a jarring experience — especially because your now-ex is probably someone you leaned on a lot for support. Surround yourself with friends and family to remind yourself that a romantic partner isn't the only person who's capable of providing you with love and support.

"Be with people who already love you unconditionally," Mathur says. "This can be helpful because it will give you a sense of love and belonging that oftentimes breakups leave you lacking."

6. Take An Art Class

Another great outlet for expressing your post-breakup feelings in a healthy, productive way? Art! Even if you don't exactly consider yourself the next van Gogh, you can still have fun inviting your friends to a painting or ceramics class/whatsapp group (and laughing at the results).

"Participating in an art class can be a good outlet to express your emotion, especially after a breakup," Holly Zink, writer and relationship expert for Grapevine, says. "See if there are any art studios or Paint Nite events near you."

7. Discover A New Hobby

Whether you want to pick up an old, long-forgotten hobby or throw yourself into something totally new, having a hobby to focus on after a breakup can be a great, productive distraction.

"Find hobbies you enjoy that keep you distracted, make you happy, and may leave you with a finished product such as crafts, gardening, building something, or cooking," Kailee Place, a licensed professional counselor who focuses on young women who struggle with anxiety, relationships, self-esteem, and more, says. "Having a tangible finished product tends to add to the feeling of accomplishment."

Getting over a breakup isn't going to happen overnight, but if you're focused on you and doing things that bring you happiness — even if you sometimes still feel sad — you'll be able to learn and grow from the breakup and become a better, more independent version of yourself. Then, when you're eventually ready to start dating again, you can feel confident knowing that you're fine on your own — while still enjoying the process of finding a partner who's better suited to you.

read more: http://rayoonline.com/7-productive-things-to-do-after-a-breakup/

This post is Basically for matured minds !Falling in love is fun. Going through the early stages of communication and commitment can make you feel giddy and unstoppable. That is, until reality starts to settle in.


For casual relationships, to long-term partnerships, and everything in between, it's vital to check in every once and a while. And when you do, there are certain essential questions to ask that will make things all the more clear.

Here are 14 questions to ask each other to make sure you're on the same page, according to experts.

1. "What Does Our Ideal Sexual Agreement Look Like To You?"

This is one of the first things you should talk about with a partner, and check in about throughout the relationship.

"Many couples in long-term relationships never talk about their sexual agreement until they hit troubled waters," Kristin Marie Bennion, licensed mental health therapist and certified sex therapist, says.

"It can be so helpful to talk about how often each partner would like to have sexual contact, what their understanding of fidelity is, and other ways of staying intimately connected when having a sexual experience just isn't in the cards.”

So before you start to feel this issue coming up, bring it up. You won't regret it.

2. "I Want To See How You Feel Things Are Going"

This kind of open-ended question is a gold mine when it comes to communicating better in your relationship. "Whatever you do you do not want to ask a close-ended question," Carla Romo, dating and relationship coach, says. "It is important to leave it open-ended so you can get to know your partner's thoughts."

Asking your partner to describe what they feel is a really practical tactic, too. "These statements are important because you’re pointing out objectively the amount of time you’ve been dating and, without applying pressure,” Dr. Danielle Forshee, doctor of psychology and licensed clinical social worker, says. Just don't let your partner respond with "good," and move on.

3. "What Does A Balanced Relationship Look Like To You?"

Some couples end up fighting based on how each partner divvies up their social life. This can be prevented if you're open and honest, from the get go, about how to balance your relationship with the rest of your life (whether it's work, school, friendships, or family, that are also important to you).

"List some aspect [each, like] 'we share chores equally,' 'have one date night a week,' 'start to work out together,' and [more]. This will give you a blueprint of what each one of you wants from a relationship," the Mitchems say. Once you have each shared your priorities, you can see if you are aligned.

4. "What Could We Work On To Improve Our Relationship?"

This question may seem scary to ask, because it's opening the door to criticism. But how else will you gauge your relationship's future, if you're not really examining it?

"This question will shed more light on something in your relationship that may no longer be working and needs to be changed or a new skill that needs to be learned," the Mitchems say. If they tell you, for example, that your communication skills are lacking, then you've already opened the door to solving it. If they bring up something totally out of left field, then it might be a sign that you two aren't on the same page.

5."What Are Your Goals In The Relationship?"

Asking about your partners' relationship goals will get to the meat of whether they're going to want to commit to you down the line, while leaving the question open ended.

"This is a question that will have your partner stumped if they don’t see you as a serious partner and they will have great ideas to share if they do see you as a long-term partner or even 'The One.' So go ahead and see if they have given a lot of thought about your relationship," the Mitchems say. Plus, it puts your partner way less on-the-spot then asking, for example, "do you see us getting married one day?"

6. "What Is Your Idea Of A Healthy Relationship?"

You and your partner may have had completely different dating backgrounds before this relationship. It's important to honor that, but also check in on what they feel makes a relationship work.

"Everyone has different experiences of being in relationships," Romo says. "But it is important to discuss what a healthy relationship means to you and to your partner. This can help set boundaries for the beginning of a relationship and it can give you information of how your partner interacts in a relationship." Even later in the relationship, as life throws new things at you (a shared apartment, kids), you can keep asking this question, to see how they're feeling about the future.

7. "What Would You Like To Do More Of, In Our Relationship?"

Whether you feel that everything is going right, or there's something you want to fix, asking this question can help you and your partner figure it all out — together.

"When we are trying to figure out how to fix a certain part of our relationship, we tend to put our full focus on the fixing and completely ignore the right parts that are working," the Mitchems say. "So asking your partner what they think works and what they would like to see more of in the relationship puts the attention back on what’s working and making sure that you do more of that." Asking this question can be fun, too, especially if they say "more dates," or "more sex," and you've been thinking the same thing.

8. "What Do We Argue About The Most, And How Can We Find A Solution To That Problem?"

Trust in this one. It can be really scary to argue, and talking about arguing can feel even more daunting. But asking this question can help give you a little peek into the future of your relationship, beyond just the future of your conflicts.

"This is a question that will make both of you realize that you do argue and that you do have an issue that needs immediate resolution," the Mitchems say. "Figuring out why a specific problem is a trigger point for either one of you or both and figuring out how to get rid of it, will save you time, stress, and anxiety in your relationship." And if your partner isn't receptive to this kind of conversation, they may not be what you need in the long-run.

9. "How Does It Make You Feel When We Argue?"

Once you've asked the previous question about your arguments, you'll have a bit more of a grasp on the logistics of things. This question is more about feelings.

"This is a question aimed at your partner to see if they love to fight and fight to win or if they are arguing because you are arguing," the Mitchems explain. So if your partner feels like you (sad, anxious) when you fight, that's probably a good sign.

10. "How Can We Fix Specific Issues So We Don't Argue?"

After you've begun to conquer what you're already arguing about, you and your partner can start to talk about nipping future disagreements in the bud.

"Talk about your triggers and what makes you mad," the Mitchems say. "This is a great time to use clear and honest communication to talk to your partner about what issues you both have that need to be resolved." Even if you think you can handle a relationship issue on your own, bring it out in the open. If your partner is receptive, you're probably on the same page about where things are going.

11. "When Do You Want To Take The Next Step In Our Relationship, And What Is The Next Step?"

This question is a big one. Again, though, it's open-ended, so it'll be a lot healthier to ask than "do you see us moving in together," or something like that.

"This question will give you an idea of how seriously they view the relationship. Also, [you can see] if they are ready to take the relationship to the next level and get more serious," the Mitchems say. And if your partner hasn't thought this through, it'll be out in the open, and you can address that together as needed.

12. "What Are Your Financial Goals?"

Turns out, finances are a huge stress factor in relationships. One third of millennial couples have even broken up over financial differences. So it's important to discuss this issue openly and honestly.

"Finances are the number reason for stress and divorce in a marriage," Romo explains. "Even if it feels uncomfortable it is important to discuss finances. It is one thing to say I want to buy a house one day, and it is another to actually plan out how you would accomplish that goal. Discussing this can help relieve any current or future financial stress." So even if you don't think the two of you are ready to talk this seriously about cash, it's a good way to gauge whether you're headed in the right direction.

13. "Where Do You See Us In One Year, Or Five?"

Of course, this question is for couples who are already committed. But commitment can mean a lot of things, and this question can help guide you to how your partner feels about the idea.

"This is a fundamental question that allows you and your partner to explore the direction of your relationship, if you are both aligned on the future, and if they are serious and see you in their future five years out," the Mitchems say. If it seems like too daunting a question, you can also ask your partner, "where do you see yourself in five years?" If you're part of their imagination, that's obviously great, but you can also gauge what their ideas are about settling down, and building a family, as well.

Open-ended questions can be a great way to get to know your partner better, and keep track of whether you two are on the same page without guessing. Very few questions will end in obvious dealbreakers, but almost all of them will end in more clarity than you started with. And that's romantic.

14. "What Are Your Personal Thoughts On Kids?"

If you've gotten to this question, the two of you are probably already on solid ground. But even if you're just getting started thinking about a future together, figuring out whether you're on the same page about having kids is really important.

"If you see a future with your partner it is important to discuss the possibility of kids," Romo says. "You never want to expect or assume your partner wants kids. But it is important to discuss because that could be a deal breaker for staying together or not. Or if you both want kids, you can talk about how to plan for that." Unfortunately, if your partner is on a completely different wavelength, it'll be really clear after they give you an answer.

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Getting back into the dating game can be tough, especially if you just got out of a long term relationship.

From the very beginning, you're stuck wondering if you should try to become one of the many online dating success stories, or meet someone "organically" like your parents and grandparents probably did. When you finally do land the all-important first date, you'll probably spend a lot of time wondering if you're saying the "right" stuff or if the other person thinks you're as awkward as you feel.

Whether you're gearing up for your first date with someone or preparing to take things to the next level with a person you've been seeing for a while, it's always good to ask yourself what you really want out of this.

It's completely up to you to decide what you can tolerate and what constitutes a deal breaker, but no matter what, you should be armed with the information you need to make an informed decision about your love life.

1. Their Current Relationships With Their Exes
The obvious reason for this is that you don't want to be involved with someone who is still hung up on someone else. The less obvious one is that how a person describes the people they've previously dated says a lot about them. Occasionally, people do have really bad luck with relationships, but more often than not, when a person describes all their exes as being "psychos" or "bitches," the exes weren't really the problematic ones in the relationships. If your person of interest says something like "They're a good person, just not for me," or, "This one cheated on me, but I'm actually still on decent terms with that one," then it's a good sign that they're mature and are emotionally ready to start dating again. Just try not to bring this one up on the first date.

2. Their (Short-Term) Plans For The Future
You don't need to talk about baby names the first time you hang out, but you should know if the person you're interested in is going to move across the country within the next three months before you get emotionally involved. It's perfectly reasonable to work together to accommodate your lifestyles to fit your relationship once you've been together for a while, but when you first start seeing someone, you need to make sure that your future and their future are going to be aligned long enough to actually be able to get to that point.

3. Their Day-To-Day Schedule
There are loving relationships that succeed despite one person working the day shift and the other person working the night shift, but they are few and far between. If you're hoping to start a relationship with someone whose schedule is completely incompatible with yours, you'd better be OK with spending lots of time apart from your new beau. There are some couples who do really well with only seeing each other for an hour every week, and there are others who would prefer to spend every waking moment with their partner. Just make sure you know what you want before committing to anything serious.

4. Their Stance On The Things That Matter To You
It's pretty much impossible to find someone who agrees with you on every subject. However, if you know right off the bat that you could never date someone who believes that your dogs shouldn't sleep on the bed with you, then you should probably figure out their opinions on pet co-sleeping before you get too emotionally invested in what you have going. After all, chemistry is great, but it becomes irrelevant when you and the person you're dating disagree on fundamental issues.

5. Their Criminal Record
Are you going to discover that the person you're seeing is actually running an underground league of supervillains? Probably (and unfortunately) not. Are you going to discover that they have a bit of a reputation for domestic violence or sexual assault? Maybe... and that "maybe" is a good enough reason to check. It's your call to decide whether or not you'd want to date someone who was once arrested on a serious drug charge or has a habit of not paying their parking tickets, but if you think you're going to be spending a lot of time with them, you should know what you're getting into first. Lots of the time, a background check will come up with a squeaky clean record,  you could do yourself a big favor by running one just in case.

If your country does have a system for that ,you could simply do a little ask around from friends of friends who probably haven't met you on social media ,work place neighborhood etc.Trust me it would safe you so many trouble.


6. Their Physical Activity Level

As someone who has been both the lazier and the more active partner in relationships, I feel pretty confident in saying that if there's a massive exercise disparity between two romantically-involved people, things will usually not work out in the long run. It's not an issue of weight or physical appearance, but how you spend your time. A person who spends hours at the gym every day is going to get frustrated when their partner, wants to spend all their free time watching TV, and a person who hates to sweat is not going to get the same enjoyment out of an all-day hike as someone who constantly wants to be moving. If you're willing to change your whole lifestyle for someone you're dating, more power to you, but most of us will prefer to date someone who neither holds us back, nor leaves us in the dust.


7. Their Relationship With Their Family

Despite what many people think, you can figure this one out without getting all Freudian in the middle of a dinner date. It's important stuff to know, too, because the way a person interacts with their family is a good way to gauge how they'll interact with your family... and with you. For example, someone who calls their mom every day is probably someone who will treat your mom with respect and help out if (dare I say "when?" you have kids of your own. But someone who still brings his laundry over to their mom's house every week is one that will expect you to treat them the same way that their mother does.

8. How They Treat People In The Service Industry

Some people like to shoot down restaurants as being a cliche first date, but I pretty much insist on going out to eat the first time I meet someone. Reason number one is obviously because food, but reason number two is because I can pretty much always tell whether or not I'd be willing to go on a second date with someone based on how they treat the server. You can learn a lot about someone based on how they treat people whose job it is to do whatever the customer wants, and even if your date treats you like a princess, it's important to remember that a person who is nice to you but isn't nice to the waiter is not a nice person.

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The event which took place at a compound in Akure Ondo state has since been talk of town .
The elder bride is rumored to be a retired Naval officer . Luck shining so hard on the groom lol

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In what seem a new online brawl,two popular Nigerian media personalty Kemi Olunloyo and Linda Ikeji who have time pass been known to be sworn enemies have refreshed the memories of readers with new escapades.

Earlier this week Linda ikeji had shared a baby bump photos and the media went agog.

People surprised at how she could have hidden that for so long and some not appealed as the media mogul has in time past preached celibacy to young single Nigerian girls,Many had looked up to her as a mentor and with the latest development ,they feel nothing but been let down .In a cruel response,Kemi Olunloyo who's known for her online rascality and ambient attitude took a swap at Linda,calling her all manners of names and inflicting certain curse on her.

She (kemi) is actually angry because Linda had done an interview with punch paper stating she helped Olunloyo out of prison. Anty Kemi has not taken that likely as she mentioned a few people who did same gesture and reminded Linda how she (Linda) had ruin so many lives in time past.This fight is taking new turn daily as both party are willing to talk .

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Now I officially confirm Nairaland mods are witch hunting, having posted this story first here and surprise it was deleted with no trace , so are other post I made been ignored too , anyways your days are numbered

Controversial Nigerian Senator Dino Melaye had tweeted yesterday that some operative of SARS arrested in the airport while awaiting a flight to morocco.

In response to his tweets , his followers had turn out Enmass with ridiculous comments see below lol



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In what seem to be a murder scene, as posted by a Facebook user with name Divine Kelvin.

The deceased known as ube sharp had been rumored dead until pictures of his body surfaced online.


A close look at the pictures suggested he was either shot dead or beaten to death by assailant .



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Different things happen when stars meet, in the post done few minutes ago by ace Nigerian Producer Don jazzy , is a video of comedian Lasisi Elenu and the duo doing a shout out

Don Jazzy wrote :
' met my favorite funny person today , he didn't know I was star struck more blessing bro'


The video has since had over 2k view in the first 5 mins



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The governor of kogi state Yahaya Bello , yesterday stepped out in crutches as he attends NEC meeting. This picture has got many talking ,see below :

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The picture below was shared by an online user with name Anifowose Oluwatobi, he wrote :


"Someone was seriously begging us to cloth them but I said no let them swim "


The comment above sounds sarcastic as to what he meant though




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If there's one downside to powerful computers, it's that they're too damn big. 

Luckily, that's about to change. At least, if IBM has anything to say about it. 

March 19 is the first day of IBM Think 2018, the company's flagship conference, where the company will unveil what it claims is the world's smallest computer. They're not kidding: It's literally smaller than a grain of salt. 
But don't let the size fool you: This sucker has the computing power of the x86 chip from 1990. Okay, so that's not great compared to what we have today, but cut it some slack — you need a microscope to see it. 
The computer will cost less than ten cents to manufacture, and will also pack "several hundred thousand transistors," according to the company. These will allow it to "monitor, analyze, communicate, and even act on data." 


Don't worry, bitcoin bros: It works with blockchain. Specifically, this computer will be a data source for blockchain applications. It's intended to help track the shipment of goods and detect theft, fraud, and non-compliance. It can also do basic AI tasks, such as sorting the data it's given. 

According to IBM, this is only the beginning. "Within the next five years, cryptographic anchors — such as ink dots or tiny computers smaller than a grain of salt — will be embedded in everyday objects and devices," says IBM head of research Arvind Krishna. If he's correct, we'll see way more of these tiny systems in objects and devices in the years to come. 

It's not clear yet when this thing will be released — IBM researchers are currently testing its first prototype. 

But one thing's for sure: The future is here. You just might need a microscope to see it. 


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The News Agency of Nigeria (NAN) reports that MMA2 terminal is operated by Bi-Courtney Aviation Services Limited (BASL).

An Arik Air flight to Port Harcourt on Saturday took off from the Murtala Muhammed Airport 2, (MMA2) Lagos, signalling the end of a 10-year rift between the airline and operators of the MMA 2 terminal.


The News Agency of Nigeria (NAN) reports that MMA2 terminal is operated by Bi-Courtney Aviation Services Limited (BASL).


Arik had since February 2008 shunned a directive to move its domestic operations to MMA 2.
This led to litigation between the airline and BASL until a recent agreement brokered by the new management of the airline appointed by the Asset Management Company of Nigeria (AMCON).


Mr Murat Ozcan, Vice President, Ground Operations, Arik Air, said on Saturday that the airline was delighted to move its daily Port Harcourt flights from the General Aviation Terminal (GAT) to MMA 2.


According to him, the decision to move all outbound and inbound Lagos-Port Harcourt flights to MMA2 is informed by the need to enhance passenger flying experience.


“The MMA2 offers spacious ticketing and departure experience, modern and functional escalators and lifts.
“The terminal also has automated check-in, generous waiting space, lounges, restaurants and shops.


“We are daily reviewing our operations in order to give customers value for their money and enhance their travel experience.


“By moving some of our operations to MMA2, we are delighting customers with seamless travel,” Ozcan said.
Also, Capt. Abdullahi Mahmood, Chief Pilot, Arik Air, said the passengers of the airline were guaranteed better services because of the facilities available at the MMA 2.


“As an experienced pilot who has flown to a lot of countries across the world, I can say the MMA 2 is a very standard and modern airport and Arik Air is delighted with this partnership, ” he said.


On his part, the Chief Executive Officer of BASL, Capt. Jari Williams, assured the management of Arik Air of seamless passenger facilitation at the terminal.


“MMA2 remains a safe, secured and efficient passenger-friendly terminal to provide exceptional services to Arik’s guests to Port Harcourt and the best destination for other flying passengers and shoppers.


” We want to assure all the passengers who will be flying Arik Air from this Saturday of seamless facilitation as we welcome all of them to our terminal,” he said.


Williams, represented by the spokesperson for BASL, Mr Steve Omolale, said with this move, Arik Air had joined Dana, Aero, Med-View, Azman and First Nation airlines, which had been operating scheduled flights from MMA2 over the years.


NAN reports that the high point of the ceremony was the presentation of 15 Economy and five Business Class Tickets to the first set of passengers who checked in for the three flights scheduled for the day.


Source : http://rayoonline.com/arik-air-ends-10-years-dispute-with-mma2/

Popular Nigerian singer Tiwa Savage has allegedly filed for divorce from her estranged husband Tunji Balogun, a.k.a TeeBillz.

According to media reports, all attempts by the couple to resolve their differences have failed, and Tiwa has decided to formally call it quit, citing ‘unsolvable issues’ as the reason for the decision.


However, Tiwa a.k.a ‘Marvin Record First Lady’, is yet to confirm nor deny the divorce issue.
The embattled couple have not been together since their marital crisis in 2016; Teebillz made their marital issues public as he wanted to commit suicide by attempting to jump into the Third Mainland Bridge in Lagos.


The duo then engaged in ‘war of words’ on the social media, as Teebillz alleged infidelity, among other accusations, on the part of his estranged wife.
Tiwa, who shares a son with Teebillz, in turn granted a 45 minutes video interview to debunk the accusations.


However, fans and industry watchers had assumed all was now well with the couple when many of their friends, colleagues and family members intervened, urging them to reconcile their differences.


Tee Billz had to testify on social media that all was now well with him, after he went through rehabilitation process in the hand of a seasoned life style coach, Lanre Olusola.


He said: “The way I handle things now is completely different from how I acted in the past.
“I do better now because I know better, and If I had gone through the experience before now, it probably wouldn’t make sense to me until I go through some challenging situations.


“But I thank God that I have been able to overcome all those through the guidance of my coach.

”
However, it seems things had taken a different turn as the estranged couple who were said to be resolving issues, have finally given up on each other.
Savage signed a recording contract with Mavin Records in 2012, also signed a management and publishing deal with Roc Nation in June 2016, which she later confirmed via Instagram.


She co-wrote the track “Collard Greens & Cornbread” off Fantasia Barrino’s Grammy-nominated album, Bact to Me.


Savage was featured on Solar Plexus, a compilation album released by Mavin Records.
Her debut studio album, `Once Upon a Time,’ was released on 3 July 2013.


It was supported by the singles “Kele Kele Love’’, “Love Me (3x)”, “Without My Heart”, “Ife Wa Gbona”, “Folarin”, “Olorun Mi” and “Eminado’’.
Savage’s second studio album, `R. E. D’, was released on 19 December 2015.


It produced the singles “My Darlin’”, “African Waist” and “If I Start To Talk”.


She is a recipient of many awards including, MTV Africa Music Award, The Headies Awards, Channel O Music Award, Nigeria Music Video Award, and City Peple Entertainment Awards among others.


NAN




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The world has seen beer spills, pizza dough spills, syrup-coated highways, entire sandwiches, ham-related traffic jams, and even a truck full of eels accidentally dumped on to an Oregon highway, but a recent runway accident may have caused the most expensive spill yet.

A plane was taking off in the Siberian city of Yakutia, accidentally dropped gold, gems, and other precious metals all over the runway, including at least three tons of gold.


The Nimbus Airlines plane took off for Krasnoyarsk carrying 9.3 tons of gold and other precious metals, according to a statement from the state Investigative Committee, reported by CNBC.

Something went wrong with the cargo door, causing the plane to dump its cargo all over the runway and the surrounding area.
Per CNBC, authorities shut down the runway and have recovered 172 gold bars so far, but since the gold was spread over some 10 square miles, treasure hunters will undoubtedly be out in force looking for lost cargo for some time.


Or this is simply the plot of the next installment in the Ocean’s franchise.


It's -21C in Yakutia, sunny, we expect showers of diamond, platinum and gold…


Plane loses its $368 million cargo; gems and precious metals rain over Russia’s coldest region as police and secret services stage emergency search

https:///NsUeOWxZf5pic.twitter.com/8OXd6Al9is
— The Siberian Times (@siberian_times)

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The All Progressives Congress (APC) in Rivers says it will not participate in the Local Government Councils Elections scheduled to hold on June 16, 2018 over alleged illegality of the Rivers State Independent Electoral Commission’s (RSIEC).


The Chairman of APC in Rivers, Chief Davies Ikanya, made the assertion at a news conference on Wednesday in Port Harcourt.
The RSIEC Chairman, Justice C. I. Uriri, had on March 13, informed stakeholders at a meeting that the commission would conduct councils elections because it was worried over the vacancies.
Ikanya said that it was shocking for the RSIEC chairman to express worries that there had not been local government elections in the state on the grounds that the law abhors vacuum.



He said there was no vacuum in the leadership of the local government councils since the term of office of the elected chairmen and councillors had not expired and was a subject of litigation before the courts.
“Uriri, who served as a Judge of the High Court of Rivers should have known better that there is no vacuum and advise the state government to stop putting Rivers in the news for bad reasons.


“The local government leadership case is a subject of litigation before the Federal High Court, Court of Appeal and the Supreme Court in Suit No:
PHC/PH/CS/84/2015, Appeal Nos:
CA/PH/338/2016 and SC/536/2016
respectively,’’ he said.


According to Ikanya, until the cases are decided by the courts, any action by RSIEC and the Rivers Government on the subject matter is an affront to the rule of law.


“Based on this, the APC will not partake in the contempt and sacrilege of Gov. Nyesom Wike and RSIEC over the local government elections in the state slated for June 16 because it’s an illegality,’’ he added.


The Rivers APC chairman said the RSIEC in 2015 issued a notice in accordance with the RSIEC Law to the public and called on political parties wishing to sponsor candidates to present their candidates.
He said the Rivers electoral umpire successfully conducted the Local Government Council elections in the state on Dec. 23, 2015.


“The Peoples Democratic Party (PDP) took an action by way of originating summons against INEC, RSIEC, Governor of Rivers, Inspector-General of Police and the State Security Service before the Federal High Court presided over by Justice Lambo Akanbi.



“The PDP also filed alongside the originating summons, a motion on notice on Dec. 27, 2015 for an order of mandatory injunction setting aside the LGA elections conducted by INEC and RSIEC.
“Justice Akanbi delivered a ruling on July 9, 2015 in favour of the PDP and the elected chairmen of the 22 LGAs filed an application before the Court of Appeal for leave to appeal as interested parties.



“The leave was granted o June 20, 2016,’’ he said.
Ikanya said the APC and the 23 LGA chairmen had earlier approached the Federal High Court to challenge their dissolution by Gov. Wike.



He said they also sought to be joined in the matter in a motion on notice filed on their behalf on April 22, 2015 in Suit No: PHC/PH/CS/84/2015 as necessary parties.


“This is to enable them file and serve their counter affidavit in opposition to the motion seeking to nullify that election.


“The motion also prayed for the trial court to stay its ruling to enable them file a counter affidavit in opposition to the motion seeking to nullify their elections.


“Justice Akanbi, formerly of the Port Harcourt Division of the Federal High Court, refused to fix it for hearing and did not even issue hearing notice to the 22 LGA chairmen.


“Dissatisfied by the decision of the lower court, the 22 LG chairmen appealed to the Court of Appeal where the Rivers governor filed an application for a stay of ruling on the matter,’’ Ikanya said.


The APC chairman said the Court of Appeal, however, ruled against Wike and PDP prompting their move to the Supreme Court.
“Delivering its ruling, the Supreme Court struck out the matter, dismissing the entire prayer of Wike and Rivers PDP.


“The apex court ordered the Appeal Court to admit the elected 23 LG chairmen as parties, so the Court of Appeal is expected to proceed with the matter and deliver judgment,’’ he said.
Ikanya also said the constitutionality of the RSIEC Law 2018 was a subject of litigation before the Federal High Court between APC and INEC & Ors. in Suit No: FHC/PH/CS/13/2018.


“It is just but laughable that RSIEC as currently empanelled is engaging in a wild goose chase of conducting an election which RSIEC as a party is aware that the matter is subjudice.
“That is, the case is actively before the courts and, the belief is that, any words or acts that are likely to influence the case could invite prosecution for contempt of court

.
“The APC and the 22 LG chairmen will approach the Court of Appeal with these facts and ensure that Wike and the PDP are not allowed to benefit from their brazen impunity and lawlessness,’’ the chairman said.


NAN


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A lot has changed in the life of Richard Appiah Akoto in the fortnight since he posted photos of himself on Facebook drawing a Microsoft Word processing window on a blackboard with multi-colored chalk, to teach his students about computers—which the school did not have.


. Akoto, 33, is the information and communication technology (ICT) teacher at Betenase M/A Junior High School in the town of Sekyedomase, about two and half hours drive north of Ghana’s second city, Kumasi.


The school had no computers even though since 2011, 14 and 15-year-olds in Ghana are expected to write and pass a national exam (without which students cannot progress to high school) with ICT being one of the subjects.


The story of the school and Twitter pressure from prominent players in the African tech space drew a promise from Microsoft to “equip [Akoto] with a device from one of our partners, and access to our MCE program & free professional development resources on.

”
To fulfill this promise, the technology giant flew Akoto to Singapore this week where he is participating in the annual Microsoft Education Exchange.


Richard Akoto at the Microsoft event in Singapore earlier this week
He posted on Facebook [where he goes by the name Owura Kwadwo Hottish]: “Just arrived in Singapore for the Microsoft Global Education Exchange Summit.

Looking forward to learn something new.”

The spectacle of Akoto explaining how computers work—without computers prompted a slew of promises to donate computers to the school.

A benefactor at UK’s University of Leeds donated a brand new laptop and this was followed days later by another donation of five desktop computers for the school and the gift of a laptop for Akoto’s personal use by NIIT, a computer training school headquartered in Accra, the capital of Ghana.
Many have called for Akoto to be given Ghana’s ‘Best National Teacher’, an annual award for teachers that among other things comes with a prize of three-bedroom house at a location of choice.
While Akoto has been described as an inspiration for teachers in Africa, what he does is symptomatic of an under-resourced dysfunctional public school system.

Across the continent, many poor parents are forced to choose private schools over free public primary schools due to this lack of resources in government-owned schools.





Source:http://rayoonline.com/ghanaian-teacher-who-drew-microsoft-office-on-blackboard-has-got-a-lot-change-for-him-for-better-read/

On the last morning of their lives, Charlie and Francie Emerick held hands.

The Portland, Ore., couple, married for 66 years and both terminally ill, died together in their bed April 20, 2017, after taking lethal doses of medication obtained under the state’s Death with Dignity law.

Francie, 88, went first, within 15 minutes, a testament to the state of her badly weakened heart. Charlie, 87, a respected ear, nose and throat (ENT) physician, died an hour later, ending a long struggle that included prostate cancer and Parkinson’s disease diagnosed in 2012.
“They had no regrets, no unfinished business,” said Sher Safran, 62, one of the pair’s three grown daughters.

“It felt like their time, and it meant so much to know they were together.”
In the two decades since Oregon became the first state to legalize medical aid-in-dying, nearly 1,300 people have died there after obtaining lethal prescriptions. The Emericks were among 143 people to do so in 2017, and they appear to be the only couple to take the drugs together at the same time, said officials from Compassion & Choices, a national group that tracks aid-in-dying, and End of Life Choices Oregon.


They did so in the assisted living complex where they had lived for the last years of their lives, without informing the management.
When their illnesses worsened, they were grateful to have the option, family members said. “That had always been their intention,’’ said daughter Jerilyn Marler, 66, who was the couple’s primary caretaker in recent years.

“If there was a way they could manage their own deaths, they would do it.”
They allowed Safran and her husband, Rob, to document and film their conversations and preparations right up to their deaths.

It was supposed to be a remembrance only for the family, but they ultimately decided to have the clips edited into a film that could be shared outside of the immediate family.


The result is “Living & Dying: A Love Story,” a documentary that details the background of the Emericks’ final decision and their resolve in carrying it out.


Their goal was “to help people change the way they think about dying,” says Safran, allowing others to share in the mostly private and sometimes clandestine moments leading up to assisted suicide.

While it’s an increasingly legal and common practice in the U.S., assisted suicide remains mysterious to many.


The Emericks didn’t tell anyone but their doctor and their daughters about their plans. “I thought it was brave and beautiful,” said Carol Knowles, 70, a member of Francie’s book club, of the documentary.

“You could see the care with which Charlie and Francie had made that decision.”
The Emericks met as college students in Nebraska, married on April 4, 1951, and spent years in the 1960s as medical missionaries in Miraj, India.

Charlie’s career took them to Southern California and then to Washington state, to India and ultimately to Oregon, where he was chief of ENT at a local hospital, all while raising three girls. Many years later, in 2004, they moved into an apartment in a retirement community in Portland.
That’s where the Emericks died on a cloudy Thursday last spring, six days after a family celebration that included their children and grandchildren — and, at Francie’s request, root beer floats.

The gathering was happy, but bittersweet, family members said. “There were moments that they expressed great sadness at the goodbye that was coming,” Marler recalled.
Charlie was diagnosed with Parkinson’s disease in 2012, after dealing with symptoms of the disease for years. He suffered from prostate cancer and heart problems and learned in early 2017 that he had six months or less to live.

In the documentary, he described his thoughts as he pondered whether to use aid-in-dying.
“You keep going, Charlie, you’re going to get worse and worse and worse,” he explained to Safran, in a quavering voice.

“The other can’t be worse than this.”
Francie, who handled marketing and public relations for the hospital in India, appears vital and articulate in the video.

Her daughters, however, say that her energy was fleeting and that it masked years of decline following multiple heart attacks and cancer.
In the video, Francie acknowledged that she could have survived a bit longer than her husband. But, she said, she didn’t want to.

“Charlie and I have a rather unique relationship in that we have done and been so much to each other for 70 years,” she said.
Sher and Rob SafranA still image from Sher and Rob Safran’s documentary about Sher’s parents, Charlie and Francie Emerick of Portland, Ore., who exercised Oregon’s Death with Dignity option — together.
The pair carefully followed the specifics of the law, which requires examinations by two different doctors to determine a prognosis of six months or less to live, multiple confirmations of intent and the ability of patients to ingest the lethal drugs themselves.


The process takes a minimum of 15 days. “We do want it to be legal,” Francie said.
The Emericks sought help from Linda Jensen, a veteran team leader with End of Life Choices Oregon, a nonprofit agency that supports people seeking to use the state’s Death with Dignity law. “They were pretty well informed,” said Jensen, who has assisted with dozens of deaths in 13 years.

“What they wanted to understand was what a planned death really looks like.”
Jensen explained to the Emericks two days before they died that it would be nothing like dying on TV. “You do not lose control of your bowel or bladder. You do not gasp for breath,” she explained. Instead, she said, they would simply go to sleep.


The Emericks went over the plan: no breakfast, just pills to calm their stomachs at 9 a.m., followed by the lethal drugs an hour later. Safran and Marler were calm and determined as they helped finalize their parents’ arrangements. “There was a lot of grieving ahead of time because we knew it was coming,” Marler said.
Some members of the family disagreed with the couple’s decision, but the Emericks were determined.

“You two have never wavered?” Safran asked her mom. “We have not,” Francie replied.
On their final morning, Charlie saluted the camera farewell as he was wheeled down the hall, Safran got a tearful last hug from her mother, and Charlie and Francie clasped hands after they swallowed the drugs.
“It just takes such a huge amount of internal strength and self-knowing to face that choice, to make that choice and then bring along all the people that love you and are going to miss you,” Jensen said.
There was no funeral.

The Emericks had donated their bodies for research through a program at the Oregon Health & Science University and any remains wouldn’t typically be returned for two or three years, a spokeswoman said.
In the interim, the video has become comforting and precious to the family, said Safran. “It’s very lovely, just to hear their voices,” she said.


Another member of Francie’s book group expressed concern when she viewed the film, saying her religion prohibited any efforts to hasten death. Knowles, Francie’s friend, said she plans to take the documentary to the retirement center’s social worker before showing it more widely. “We want to do it in a way that will not scare them or make them feel uncomfortable,” she said.
Stephen Drake, research analyst for the disability rights group Not Dead Yet, had serious reservations about making the video public.

He worried that presenting aid-in-dying in a positive light “changes the expectations; this romanticizes the idea of not just suicide, but a double suicide,” Drake said.
Safran said she expects strong reactions — including criticism — for chronicling her parents’ final days. But she said the documentary honors the Emericks’ belief that, if possible, everyone should have a say in when and how they die.


“We have a faith that says life is not to be worshipped,” Francie said. “It’s the quality of life that counts.

”
Kaiser Health News (KHN) is a nonprofit news service covering health issues. It is an editorially independent program of the Kaiser Family Foundation that is not affiliated with Kaiser Permanente


Source : http://rayoonline.com/in-death-together-read-story-of-couple-who-died-together-by-assisted-suicide/

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Body been wrapped up by Lagos Environmental unit

A woman yet to be identified was at about 9:20pm Saturday run over by an oncoming vehicle around Palmgrove area in Lagos.

According to information gathered by our reporter, an eye witness at the accident scene who prefer to be anonymous narrated the occurrence .

He said the deceased had alighted from a BRT bus at Palmgrove when she attempted to cross the busy road , an okada man who was over limit knock her down instantly causing an oncoming vehicle to pick up her helpless body dragging it over a distance of 50m .


According to his statements the okada rider Fled the scene while the hit and run driver made away after he was seen jittery.


Men of the Nigeria Police attached to Pedro division Lagos state are presently at the scene .


The Lagos State environmental unit is presently at the scene taking the duty of the LRU
.

A Concerned citizen at the scene reportedly said LASAMBOD and the Rapid response were called and no response for over 3 hours.

The deceased was a resident of 15 Abiodun street palm grove Lagos.


At the time of filing this report the Husband to the deceased has been contacted through contacts found in her purse .



Source : http://rayoonline.com/unidentified-woman-killed-by-hit-and-run-driver-in-lagos/

In what seem to be a midnight raid at the Ifako Ijaiye Area of Lagos on 2nd of March 2018 at about 1:11am men of the Nigerian Police terrorized bystanders causing oppression and applying brutality in arrest .

As an eye witness to the incidence I can categorically say these men acted desperate and untrained.


Tucos place is a popular club , bar and lodging center along Ijaiye road , Agege area of Lagos .And according to reports regular harassment and intimidation of bystanders at night is a common thing done by men of the Agege police division .
Tonight's incidence was an eye sour and an immediate action by the Inspector General of police , Area Commander , Division Police Officer is requested .


To imagine that a young boy who had earlier begged me for N50 because he has not ate since morning was molested and harassed by men of the Nigerian Police was uncalled for.
The man you see in this video was putting on a round neck cloth with 'Hustle' crested on it.

He was seating across the road adjacent to where I was standing having a cup of Nescafé .

The police patrol van had parked and some boys referred to as late nighters including girls took to their heels.

I was in my former position observing the whole scenario , I wasn't harassed though and that made me question the actions of these men , if the way I was dressed clouded their judgement RIGHT

We can't all afford nice apparel but the less privileged doesn't deserve to be treated meanly.
Applying caution and avoiding suspicion I couldn't cover much of the ugly incidence but this act needs to stop in out community.



Watch video :
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=OjF-djGGMRI

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Asian countries are increasingly challenging their European peers in terms of passport power.

As of early 2018, Germany has for five years in a row been ranked as having the world’s most powerful passport.

However, the country just ceded that title to Japan and Singapore, according to a real-time ranking compiled by citizenship-planning firm Henley & Partners released yesterday (Feb.28).
Citizens of Japan and Singapore now have easy access to 180 countries, compared to Germany’s 179.

Among the countries that have made it easier for citizens of Japan and Singapore to travel there is Uzbekistan, which recently relaxed its visa requirements to give citizens of seven countries visa-free travel for up to 30 days.


Henley & Partners calculates the accessibility of passports based on the passport’s ability to travel visa-free to other countries, or apply for a visa on arrival, a visitor’s permit, or an electronic travel authority (ETA).


Here’s the list of the most powerful passports ranked by Henley & Partners, at time of writing:
A similar index, compiled by global financial advisory firm Arton Capital, ranks both Singapore and South Korea first, followed by Germany and Japan.

Source: http://rayoonline.com/surprisingly-the-world-most-powerful-passport-belongs-to-2-asian-countries-checkout/

When music titan Jay-Z goes out, he goes big.On Sunday, the rapper and businessman took out Roc Nation Sports president Juan Perez for a birthday celebration in Manhattan, along with a group of Roc Nation executives, Page Six reports.


The group ended their night at Playroom, a nightclub in Inwood, where Jay ordered 40 bottles of Ace of Spades champagne.
Although Jay-Z owns the brand, he paid full price for the bottles, racking up a bar tab of $80,035.

With an included 15 percent gratuity of $11,100, his total came to $91,135.

A representative for Jay-Z did not immediately return CNBC Make It's requests for comment.



Jay-Z's not the only big name doling out massive tips.

Retired NBA star Shaquille O'Neal once left $4,000 behind.
But the reason for his generous gratuity wasn't a five-digit bill.

When he gets good service, O'Neal asks his server how much they want—and he delivers.
"

When I'm at restaurants, I am a big tipper," he told Jimmy Kimmel in 2017. "I like to show people my appreciation.

So when they come up to the table, I say, 'The quicker I get my order, the bigger your tip will be.' And then the food will come fast.

Then, when we're getting ready to leave, I'll ask them: 'How much do you want?'"
Venture capitalist Chamath Palihapitiya tips well too.

He leaves 100 percent unless he had bad service, he tells CNBC on "Squawk Box."



"If it's bad service, no, but most of the time [I tip 100 percent].


Because they just have such joy on their face and it's wonderful," says the sharp investor, whose early investments include Slack, Box and SurveyMonkey.

"Look, I got lucky, so I feel like I should just pay it forward."

Source : http://rayoonline.com/big-boy-jay-z-lavished-n29m-on-ace-of-spadesleaves-n4m-as-waiters-tip/

In the Matrix series, Keanu Reeves wears futuristic sunglasses to look cool when fighting against machines.


But in China, police are now wearing sunglasses equipped with facial-recognition technology to catch criminal suspects.


Railway police in Zhengzhou, a central Chinese city, are the first in the country to use facial-recognition eyewear to screen passengers during the Lunar New Year travel rush, Chinese state media reported (link in Chinese) this week.


The devices have already helped nab seven fugitives related to major criminal cases such as human trafficking and hit-and-runs, and 26 others who were traveling with fake identities.


This is not Google Glass, but facial recognition glass connected to Chinese police database.
Deployed to a Zhengzhou railway station 5 days ago, it has detected at least 7 fugitives and 26 fake ID holders.

#surveillancepic.twitter.com/eXrzRgORam
— FAN Wenxin (@xinwenfan) February 6, 2018
The glasses are connected to tablets that contain an offline database that can match passengers with suspected criminals.


Unlike fixed cameras with facial-recognition capability, the wearable allows police to act more swiftly before their targets disappear into the crowd.

Beijing-based LLVision, which developed the glasses, told the Wall Street Journal (paywall) that the device was able to identify individuals from a 10,000-person database within one-tenth of a second during tests

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A basic, video-only version of the glasses retails for around $630, and has been sold to countries including the US and Japan, according to the company.
China is leading the world in the use of surveillance technology, with plans to install 400 million new CCTV cameras (video) nationwide in the next three years, and to build a facial-recognition database that can identify any Chinese citizen within three seconds.


The far western region of Xinjiang, where authorities are increasingly tightening surveillance around the majority Muslim population, is turning into a laboratory for testing high-end spying technologies (paywall).

Read more: http://rayoonline.com/chinese-police-now-wear-sunglasses-that-recognize-faces/

The Independent National Electoral Commission (INEC) has debunked the rumour that ongoing Continuous Voter Registration (CVR) would end on Jan. 31, 2018.


Prof. Mahmood Yakubu, Chairman of the Independent National Electoral Commission (INEC)
Head of Publicity of the commission in Lagos State, Mr Femi Akinbiyi, said in a statement on Friday “it has come to the notice of the Commission in Lagos State the rumours going round that the CVR would end on Jan. 31, 2018.


“We, therefore, wish to inform the people that the Continuous Voter Registration is still on

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“In line with the provision of section 9 (5) of the Electoral Act (as amended), Continuous Voter Registration will be temporarily suspended 60 days to the commencement of the General Elections scheduled for February, 2019”.


According to him, all eligible voters in the state, who has not registered before are encouraged to register at all INEC offices in the 20 local government areas in the state.


Akinbiyi said that concerned residents could also go to other officially designated areas within the state between 9 a.m. and 3 p.m. from Monday to Friday every week, excluding public holidays, for registration.


“In response to the citizens’ plea to have centres closer to their domain, the Commission in the State has rotation plan for some Registration Centres within the Registration Areas (Ward) in each of the local government areas.



“Also, the names of those who registered in the first and second quarters have been uploaded in the Commission’s website.

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Meanwhile, Akinbiyi told newsmen on telephone that the rumour had made eligible persons to besiege registration centres daily, to register.
NAN