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Abeg o Anty, Wait make I first marry my girl......No posion her mind for me

"your girl"🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣👏🤣

correctbae:
A married lady with kids took to Twitter, @ozzyetomi to advise ladies to stop getting married as the benefits in marriage can actually be gotten from your partner Unmarried.

She made the statement when an unmarried lady, @mochievous asked to know the benefits of getting married.

Tweets below:

@mochievous tweet:

As a young unmarried woman, I often wonder about the benefits of marriage for me. So far, my list is empty.
Married women, I’ll love to hear from you. What are the best parts of being married? Help.

@ozzyetomi tweet:

I dont particularly advocate for marriage simply because most things (listed) you can have with a partner but unmarried, maybe minus tax breaks (which doesnt apply in Nigeria same as most legal advantages of being married). Truth is advantages are few & far btw for women.
People choose to get married mainly for emotional and romantic reasons but the institution is generally not skewed in women’s favor. Personally i think all women should stop getting married but thats just me ��‍♀️

Source: https://correct.com.ng/women-should-stop-getting-married-most-benefits-you-will-get-in-marriage-can-be-gotten-unmarried-from-your-partner-married-lady-advice-single-ladies/

I love this advice. Ladies should stop getting married please. It will even favour us that don't want to get married.

EmmyMaestro:
He saw she came with her friends and he still went ahead instead of walking away immediately. Maybe he thought they were going to have foursome later

very stupid man. Him won impress.

Very useless thread

Karlifate:
No mind them.

So muvh ado about inconsequential things.

as in ehn.

kiddaz:
Lol I swear na the one major problem most guys dey make be that. The op thinks he's making sense when in reality he's still all about hers... Many men go still learn the hard way sha

dem think say we wey dey avoid women no wise na. Everything he listed was him still trying to impress her. I pity am

Omo. Women. Na who dey take Una seriously I dey pity. Very wicked and selfish gender.

Jorgenvava:
I didn’t even want to go for that birthday.

It was one of those last-minute invites from a friend who doesn’t take no for an answer. I had already planned a quiet night for myself, nothing stressful, nothing social. But somehow, I found myself getting dressed and heading out anyway.

The party was at Obudu Place. I had been there once or twice before, so I knew the kind of vibe to expect. Music, laughter, people moving around like they all had somewhere better to be but chose to stay.

When I got there, it was already in full swing. Groups formed in corners, drinks in hand, birthday energy everywhere. I did the usual rounds, greeted who I knew, smiled at who I didn’t, and tried to find a comfortable spot where I wouldn’t have to shout over the music.

That was when I saw her.

She wasn’t doing anything dramatic. Just standing with a small group, listening more than talking. But there was something calm about her in the middle of all that noise. Like she wasn’t trying to compete with the moment.

I didn’t go over immediately. I told myself I wasn’t in the mood for all that. But somehow, we kept crossing paths. Near the drinks table. By the entrance. Once when the music changed and people shifted around.

The third time, we both noticed.

There was that brief, awkward smile people give when they’ve seen each other too many times to pretend otherwise. I said hi. She said hi back. Simple.

We started with the usual small talk. Who invited you, how do you know the celebrant, that kind of thing. Nothing special. But it didn’t feel forced either.

At some point, the conversation moved away from the crowd. Not physically, just mentally. We stopped paying attention to everything else. The noise faded into the background.

She had this way of speaking that made you listen without trying. Not loud, not overly expressive, just honest. I found myself asking questions I didn’t plan to ask, and actually caring about the answers.

We laughed a lot. Not the party kind of laughter, but the relaxed kind that comes when you forget you’re surrounded by people.

Time did that thing again where it moves without permission. The birthday cake came out, everyone gathered, sang, shouted. We joined in, but even then, it felt like we were in our own small bubble inside a bigger moment.

After everything settled, we stepped outside for some air. It was quieter there. The kind of quiet that lets conversations breathe.

That was where it shifted.

We talked about real things. Not too deep, not too heavy, but enough to feel like we were past the surface. Enough to make it clear this wasn’t just random party conversation.

At one point, there was a pause. Not awkward. Just… still.

“I almost didn’t come tonight,” she said.

I laughed a little. “Same.”

We both knew what that meant without explaining it.

Eventually, it was time to leave. People were already calling rides, saying their goodbyes. The night was winding down.

We stood there for a second, like neither of us wanted to break whatever had formed between us.

“Can I see you again?” I asked.

She didn’t hesitate. “I was hoping you’d ask.”

We exchanged numbers, but it didn’t feel like the usual routine. It felt intentional.

On my way home, I kept thinking about how random it all was. A birthday I didn’t plan to attend. A conversation I didn’t expect to have. A person I wasn’t looking for.

And yet, there it was.

Funny how sometimes you don’t find anything when you’re searching, but the moment you stop, life just places something in front of you.

Now, whenever I hear about a party there, I don’t just think of music or crowds. I think about that night. The one I almost missed.

So tell me, have you ever gone somewhere just because you had to, and ended up finding something you didn’t even know you needed? 😄

God won punish this one?

SixSeven:
Men provide financial security and physical security. While women fantasize about emotions and Mr Prince and those things, reality is harsh. What is love?

women fantasize about romance but only as the receptor of the gestures. Very wicked, selfish and ruthless gender. I wish I knew more bout their conniving nature earlier. When I see a woman, first thing that comes to my mind is, how diabolical is this one?

If you check well na only 2 terrorists dem kill for that air strike. Very ineffective Nigerian army.

yungpowers:
What's their age gap?
This is my first time seeing a full grown ass man singing choruses after a failed relationship abi marriage

he's singing like a canary bird.

fergie001:

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=-2POQnsu8cQ

Abdulfatai Abdulmajeed

your tears just dey start. Be like terrorist Neva reach where you dey yet. Muntu.

kiddaz:
As a man if you like make you no guide. Dey snap pre wedding shoot and holiday pijamas to match.. dey form caring lover of the year. You go cryyyy

even if you guide sef no lose guard. These women no get heart. Very heartless and ruthless things.

kiddaz:
Impossible! They never learn until it's too late like a headless chicken

I like their confidence ehn. They be like, my wife cannot do this to me. My wife is loyal. She's classy. mumu them. Dem go learn well. Sha make dem come entertain us with their miserable story.

Nelochukwu:
Even Mama dey sell pikin. Na God oo

wahlai.

essentialone:
Smiles. Why is it worst advice?

allow the right woman love you and you would have a change of mentality" as if women dey capable of love. 🤣🤣 Even the one wey e dey with go soon give am shocker

Merry100:
There are absolutely no life lessons to be learned from this narrative. Stop projecting such nonsense onto me; such assumption doesn't apply me, save them for those your desperate femaIe relatives. I don't see men as something I need to survive. My happiness is my priority, whether married or unmarried.

okay na.

ogashman:
Yes, allow the right woman love you and you would have a change of mentality. Don't always be on the defensive but no lose guard.

worst advice ever.

Meteng:
I no need woman to love me. As long as she makes me cum with a nice scream, I’m good

shikena. As if dem get capable of love in the first instance.

Lastpharoah33:
Feeling unworthy?

Who's raising these things?

Omo I weak when I see that line. Girl wey no dey bring anything tangible to the table o.

Emmy000seun:
Spiritual man jam spiritual woman 👠😆🤷....make una do fast engage jawe..you don see the bone God made out of your own bone... But if she later show you her true color hope you go fit bear ham 🤷🤷..no justice for anyone now ooo 😂

no mind am. For him small mind e don bone of him bone

ReasonYourz:
I am dating this girl but she is so much younger than me in age. I do like her but ever since I dated her I have been attracting little favor in life. Is kind of weird and hard to explain. She has no idea and I want to tell her. Like she just randomly came in my life out of nowhere and I feel so unworthy. This girl is younger than me. Are age gap is crazy but we met in a weird way.

you must be a novice. Tell that girl and watch everything crumble. You better not tell her.

After all these, dem go still leave your ass go sleep with who no even reach you by quarter. Una too rate women sha.

Dtruthspeaker:
These threads prove you are a liar.

https://www.nairaland.com/4155106/why-more-nigerian-girls-becoming#62035529

https://www.nairaland.com/1146407/men-blamed-female-gold-diggers#13607224

https://www.nairaland.com/2985435/counter-thread-why-lagos-ladies#43701461

And where before you said that women should be financially prepared to come to the table now you are trying to defend gold diggers. And you were saying that not all women.

As I always, na phu dey biliv woman

leave that one. E go learn the hard way. Dem no dey tell person.

As a man don't even date a single mom. They are useless.

AntiChristian:
A man was asked:

Would you marry a single mom?

And he answered:

Men was created to start a family not to join.

https://www.youtube.com/shorts/4MF7PGWZop8

This guy. 😁😁 Even though I'm not a fan of allahu and his wicked ways, I don dey gbadun you nowadays.

https://lifestyle.thecable.ng/roby-ekpo-how-mayowa-deceived-me-married-another-man-after-11-years-together/

Omo women wicked o. I hope one foolish man in love learns from this.

Your wife is different abi. I'm sure he said the same thing to a friend who meant well for him

As a man knows this, and knows peace. The only woman you fit depend on na your mama. Your wife doesn't love you.

Una still believe say women today mean Una well? Una go learn.

The man just dey make me laugh. I hope he's learnt his lesson. Foolishness in love. Men are playing love while women are in business.