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I feel sorry for the guy. He go learn the hard way. We always do. He should make sure he never goes broke. Shiorr. Funny enough the mama fit dey one side dey struggle to eat.

Auxtan:
Not yet.

For your previous message, how do I get you involved when you're probably not in the same state as myself. I'm in Eastern Nigeria.

I forgot to clarify, we dont necessarily need to be in the same state. All you need do is to provide me with the important information you need to be recorded. I would in turn process these into data that can be updated automatically on every sales day. So distance is not a problem and you can trust me to provide you with efficient service. All I need for you to do is to give me a trial.

So like this in your mind you sef fine? Naija guys dey really boost these girls morale. A lot of 4s walking around thinking they are 5 and above.

Auxtan:
Not yet.

For your previous message, how do I get you involved when you're probably not in the same state as myself. I'm in Eastern Nigeria.

Okay. It's still doable. All you have to do is present me with the information you want recorded and what not. This would be done on a daily, perhaps if you had someone over there to keep track of these things daily and they hand them over to me .I'll create a system where I'll be able to automate the process. Keep things updated at the end of every sales day. I hope you understand. I take it that you've got a sales boy or girl working with you ATM?

TUANKU:
Ok. I will email you ASAP.

please let me know when you do. Thanks.

TUANKU:
Ok. I will email you ASAP.

Appreciated. Anticipating. 🙏

TUANKU:
Good morning bro. I will be glad to help/assist you.
How do i get in touch with you? Drop your WhatsApp number/email address.

Thanks bro. Good morning. Here's my email. tennytoni@gmail.com once I get your email I'll send my number promptly. God bless you. 🙏

Auxtan:
I'm at the point in my business that accounting has become a big challenge.

Patronage is high that keeping track of debtors and other financial details have become a problem.

How can I solve this situation please?

Have you gotten a solution yet?

TUANKU:
This is one of the most sensible replies i have read on NL this year.
Well said. OP consider this and reflect on it. Let me add that it's not too late to turn your life around. I am also an introvert but i work from home as a penetration tester and a bug hunter, plus i still engage in social activities and keep in touch with friends.

Hi bro. Good morning. Please can you fill me in on this? I'll be grateful if we can have a private chat. How can I become one and does this take time to learn.? I really need a job. Thanks

Auxtan:
I'm at the point in my business that accounting has become a big challenge.

Patronage is high that keeping track of debtors and other financial details have become a problem.

How can I solve this situation please?

What kind of business are you into? And would you be willing to hire someone to help keep track of this for you? I can easily do this for you for very affordable fee every other month. How can one reach out to you?

Kaczynski:
Yes

all right. Thanks. Is it possible that we head somewhere more private. It's an issue that concerns work and development. I see that you're into programming. I would love to venture into it but I have my doubts and fears. First off, I'm not currently working and it's messing with my mental. How can we go about this privately please? There are stuffs i wouldn't like to type here please.

Kaczynski:
Bad idea



Art students should do little bit of science like math and science student should do little bit of art like philosophy

Hello sire. Good morning. How is it going? You instructed to quote you elsewhere. Hope this one is fine?

pocohantas:
Na she dey disturb that man.
The man dey his own jeje with his quiet lifestyle. She most likely knew and loved it for the peace it comes with. Since most of them are quite averse to infidelity. But now she is looking for snake-in-the-monkey shadow sex style.

She should go marry her crypto friends.
Let everybody rest abeg.

Gbam. my belle

Kaczynski:
Why are we lying to ourselves that two people can stay in love for the entirety of their lives? It's ridiculous.
All the stats support the reality that marriage, unless artificially enforced, just isn't appealing to people past like 5 years or so, on average.
I wonder if people are going to figure out how to raise kids without marriage and just see who they want to see. I think it'd be healthier in the long run.

Last week my gf threatened to break up with me because i don't have plans of marrying her even tho I love you , why do women like complicating matters

Senior man I've been trying hard to reach you. Abeg the least you can do is to hear me out I beg you. It is very important to me. Please...I'm losing my mind.

AntiChristian:
He did own slaves and also it was revealed to him that freeing slaves is a good deed that Allah rewards immensely!

Show us how Jesus encouraged freeing slaves in the Bible?

Have you heard of the slave Bible before?

fym now I'm gonna check it out. Do you have a PDF?

pocohantas:
You should have married one of your ambitious friends or some other ambitious man. You married your husband and now you remember you are a driven woman. He doesn't do this and that. So what exactly made you marry him? Even in LDR, you will definitely notice these traits. Were you given 6mths to marry or lose out of a family inheritance?

God bless you for this. I'm tired of all these marital issues. Why did she get married to him in the first place. I just dey vex. No be all these ones dey do me like this.

[quote author=Kobojunkie post=137101429]Red flag #3! Aggression and lashing out... definitely not good signs. Was this some sort of arranged marriage?

2. You obviously thought wrong since humans aren't judged by their silence but by their actions. Most of us have known this since we were kids, so why did you choose to go against common sense in these things?

3. Why did you marry this person again? [/quote

breadtoaster:
Please, those of you who are married — how do you cope?

I am married to someone I don’t think is my friend. We dated before marriage, but during that time, I had a very senior friend whom I always went to for advice, help with decisions, and assistance with things that required initiative or “manly” effort.

relaxed and unmotivated — and I don’t want that.

Before marriage, I had friends — both male and female — with whom I shared advice and ideas. I’ve always had male friends because they tend to be driven. From them, I learned about crypto, stocks, business ideas — they inspired me. But my husband doesn’t trust them or me around them. Since we got married, I can’t talk to most of these friends at home unless I’m at work. It’s affecting me mentally. I’m scared that my circle for growth and greatness is being trimmed down, and soon I might start behaving like him — with no ambition or hunger for achievement.

Women, how do you handle such relationship dynamics?
How do I keep my drive while being married to such a man?

Every Friday night, he’s already asleep. One time, I dragged him to a lounge on a Friday night, and he was dozing off there. I ended up dancing alone while other couples danced together. If there’s something important we’re supposed to do, he won’t take initiative or push for it.

For example, I suggested we start going to church regularly to build our spiritual life. One Sunday, he woke up first and went to bathe. When he finished, he didn’t wake me up, and by the time I opened my eyes, it was already late. When I asked why he didn’t tell me, he said he called me but I didn’t answer. For me, I wouldn’t act that way — especially when it’s something that helps build our faith together.

We also planned to pray as a family. We did it for two days, and then he forgot — and honestly, I’m struggling to remember too. I don’t know if our marriage is under spiritual attack or if it’s just his personality, but my mental health is suffering. I’m not happy. I don’t genuinely smile anymore.

He doesn’t know how to pamper me or show warmth. If I complain about something, he just lashes out. He didn’t date much before marriage; he was one of those “spiritual brothers.” I was spiritual too, but I thought quiet men were more romantic or deep inside. I was wrong. I feel like he’s choking the life out of me.

At home, I can’t even make calls freely — he gets unknowingly aggressive if I’m on the phone and says things like, “Don’t you have things to do?” So I can’t talk to the people I’d love to.

After our marriage, he had issues going to my family, claiming I blackmailed him because of earlier arguments. He would get upset about small things, like me dancing to Afrobeat music. He’d say I shouldn’t, then later deny he said it. Or if we go out to eat, he’ll say we should leave early or that the place will soon close, even when I just want to relax and enjoy being outside.

I feel alone, yet married. I miss home. I’m not sure what to do.

It even took us one month after the wedding to consummate our marriage. We were both virgins, but his manhood wasn’t functioning well, and we had so many arguments that our emotional connection broke down. I felt it literally fall apart. Now I feel like I’m just living with someone.

He often says, “We’re not aligned,” or that he trusts me only 60%. If I go out, he sometimes gets angry or accuses me of lying about where I went. I can’t stay indoors all day like him — I’d just die inside.

I need help. I feel like I’m losing myself. When I visit home, my mother’s voice feels loud or too much, my friends when i talk to them, it feels like they are talking too much — not because they are talking too much, but because I’ve been living in such silence that I’ve lost touch with voice, morelike in a graveyard.

I am even crying as I type this, and he is sitting somewhere on the other side asking me if my head is swelling or what is making me cry.

I’m just… tired. feeling so strongly emotionally starved tooo.

madam your eye dey outside. Just divorce the man and hook up with those your man friends you've been learning from. Come to think of it, why did you not marry one of them in the first place?


Abeg no lemme vex. Una go dey use Una wahala dey disturb us.

Kaczynski:
3 month ehh well tell him to learn how to code, learn python or javascript , then freelance. the internet doesnt care about swedish work permits, it only cares anout whether you can deliver if hes actually good he can make more in a month than flipping burgers for a year assumimg he can stomach the existential dread of participating in the gig economy

bros...abeg na.

Brahamimo:
Some of u talk like you're the masters of relationship and you have never in your life been cheated on by lady you're dating. I believe you don't have exes. And your first girlfriend is still the one you're with till date?

So, students don't deserve to be in a relationship?

Relationship expert, well done

I've never cheated on a partner before Oga. And if I'm cheater on, otilor if I catch them red handed

You go dey date student, ontop of that social media freak. Oboy turn that girl to your fwb jare. Serious relationship lol listen to yourself. Na only you dey reason am so

Kaczynski:
Nigeria dimwitted contrivances are in full flower, and her poisonous petals of diabolism are blooming all around us.

Hello sire...mind if I had a word or two with you?

dhiqson:
Asin ehn! Covertly excuse the lady who's the one that spread her legs wide, with a sprinkle of bible nuance
Then blame the man
Isn't that y'all usual rhetorics?

Anything new?

with a sprinkle of bible nuance...how do you mean pls

AntiChristian:
How many slave did he own when he died?

he owned slaves or did he not? Why are you being defensive..just answer the question.

favor914:
Absolute Nonsense.

I hope you'll be able to keep up this energy when it gets to your turn. And you'll be able to sing the praises of these evil leaders when you meet your Waterloo. Shalom.

favor914:
Sorry, no one can help u, u will remain were u are.

I hope Nigeria doesn't happen to you. Then your eyes would clear. There are certain things even your so called richies won't save you from. You think being rich ultimately makes up for everything. You all should continue supporting nonsense a day of reckoning is close. Insha Allah

SadiqBabaSani:
Beautiful, I am glad it was built before the emperor of Lagos Tenure, else boasting would have started

Them go say na him build am. Very anyhow set of animals.

Goodlady:
Moderarors see derailer.
Handle him with proper care.

leave that ancient one with his obsolete mentality.

AntiChristian:
Hope it wasn't involved in Trans-atlantic slave trade? People should know their history!

The Anglican church has a complex history with the slave trade, including direct involvement through investments and plantations like Codrington College in Barbados, and ideological support for slavery. It also had members who opposed it and worked towards abolition. In recent years, the Church of England has apologized for its historical links and has pledged significant funding to address the legacy of slavery through investments and research. Goodlady

But your prophet mohammad owned several slaves to his name na. Abi this one sef na lie?