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AntiChristian:
He did own slaves and also it was revealed to him that freeing slaves is a good deed that Allah rewards immensely!

Show us how Jesus encouraged freeing slaves in the Bible?

Have you heard of the slave Bible before?

fym now I'm gonna check it out. Do you have a PDF?

pocohantas:
You should have married one of your ambitious friends or some other ambitious man. You married your husband and now you remember you are a driven woman. He doesn't do this and that. So what exactly made you marry him? Even in LDR, you will definitely notice these traits. Were you given 6mths to marry or lose out of a family inheritance?

God bless you for this. I'm tired of all these marital issues. Why did she get married to him in the first place. I just dey vex. No be all these ones dey do me like this.

[quote author=Kobojunkie post=137101429]Red flag #3! Aggression and lashing out... definitely not good signs. Was this some sort of arranged marriage?

2. You obviously thought wrong since humans aren't judged by their silence but by their actions. Most of us have known this since we were kids, so why did you choose to go against common sense in these things?

3. Why did you marry this person again? [/quote

breadtoaster:
Please, those of you who are married — how do you cope?

I am married to someone I don’t think is my friend. We dated before marriage, but during that time, I had a very senior friend whom I always went to for advice, help with decisions, and assistance with things that required initiative or “manly” effort.

relaxed and unmotivated — and I don’t want that.

Before marriage, I had friends — both male and female — with whom I shared advice and ideas. I’ve always had male friends because they tend to be driven. From them, I learned about crypto, stocks, business ideas — they inspired me. But my husband doesn’t trust them or me around them. Since we got married, I can’t talk to most of these friends at home unless I’m at work. It’s affecting me mentally. I’m scared that my circle for growth and greatness is being trimmed down, and soon I might start behaving like him — with no ambition or hunger for achievement.

Women, how do you handle such relationship dynamics?
How do I keep my drive while being married to such a man?

Every Friday night, he’s already asleep. One time, I dragged him to a lounge on a Friday night, and he was dozing off there. I ended up dancing alone while other couples danced together. If there’s something important we’re supposed to do, he won’t take initiative or push for it.

For example, I suggested we start going to church regularly to build our spiritual life. One Sunday, he woke up first and went to bathe. When he finished, he didn’t wake me up, and by the time I opened my eyes, it was already late. When I asked why he didn’t tell me, he said he called me but I didn’t answer. For me, I wouldn’t act that way — especially when it’s something that helps build our faith together.

We also planned to pray as a family. We did it for two days, and then he forgot — and honestly, I’m struggling to remember too. I don’t know if our marriage is under spiritual attack or if it’s just his personality, but my mental health is suffering. I’m not happy. I don’t genuinely smile anymore.

He doesn’t know how to pamper me or show warmth. If I complain about something, he just lashes out. He didn’t date much before marriage; he was one of those “spiritual brothers.” I was spiritual too, but I thought quiet men were more romantic or deep inside. I was wrong. I feel like he’s choking the life out of me.

At home, I can’t even make calls freely — he gets unknowingly aggressive if I’m on the phone and says things like, “Don’t you have things to do?” So I can’t talk to the people I’d love to.

After our marriage, he had issues going to my family, claiming I blackmailed him because of earlier arguments. He would get upset about small things, like me dancing to Afrobeat music. He’d say I shouldn’t, then later deny he said it. Or if we go out to eat, he’ll say we should leave early or that the place will soon close, even when I just want to relax and enjoy being outside.

I feel alone, yet married. I miss home. I’m not sure what to do.

It even took us one month after the wedding to consummate our marriage. We were both virgins, but his manhood wasn’t functioning well, and we had so many arguments that our emotional connection broke down. I felt it literally fall apart. Now I feel like I’m just living with someone.

He often says, “We’re not aligned,” or that he trusts me only 60%. If I go out, he sometimes gets angry or accuses me of lying about where I went. I can’t stay indoors all day like him — I’d just die inside.

I need help. I feel like I’m losing myself. When I visit home, my mother’s voice feels loud or too much, my friends when i talk to them, it feels like they are talking too much — not because they are talking too much, but because I’ve been living in such silence that I’ve lost touch with voice, morelike in a graveyard.

I am even crying as I type this, and he is sitting somewhere on the other side asking me if my head is swelling or what is making me cry.

I’m just… tired. feeling so strongly emotionally starved tooo.

madam your eye dey outside. Just divorce the man and hook up with those your man friends you've been learning from. Come to think of it, why did you not marry one of them in the first place?


Abeg no lemme vex. Una go dey use Una wahala dey disturb us.

Kaczynski:
3 month ehh well tell him to learn how to code, learn python or javascript , then freelance. the internet doesnt care about swedish work permits, it only cares anout whether you can deliver if hes actually good he can make more in a month than flipping burgers for a year assumimg he can stomach the existential dread of participating in the gig economy

bros...abeg na.

Brahamimo:
Some of u talk like you're the masters of relationship and you have never in your life been cheated on by lady you're dating. I believe you don't have exes. And your first girlfriend is still the one you're with till date?

So, students don't deserve to be in a relationship?

Relationship expert, well done

I've never cheated on a partner before Oga. And if I'm cheater on, otilor if I catch them red handed

You go dey date student, ontop of that social media freak. Oboy turn that girl to your fwb jare. Serious relationship lol listen to yourself. Na only you dey reason am so

Kaczynski:
Nigeria dimwitted contrivances are in full flower, and her poisonous petals of diabolism are blooming all around us.

Hello sire...mind if I had a word or two with you?

dhiqson:
Asin ehn! Covertly excuse the lady who's the one that spread her legs wide, with a sprinkle of bible nuance
Then blame the man
Isn't that y'all usual rhetorics?

Anything new?

with a sprinkle of bible nuance...how do you mean pls

AntiChristian:
How many slave did he own when he died?

he owned slaves or did he not? Why are you being defensive..just answer the question.

favor914:
Absolute Nonsense.

I hope you'll be able to keep up this energy when it gets to your turn. And you'll be able to sing the praises of these evil leaders when you meet your Waterloo. Shalom.

favor914:
Sorry, no one can help u, u will remain were u are.

I hope Nigeria doesn't happen to you. Then your eyes would clear. There are certain things even your so called richies won't save you from. You think being rich ultimately makes up for everything. You all should continue supporting nonsense a day of reckoning is close. Insha Allah

SadiqBabaSani:
Beautiful, I am glad it was built before the emperor of Lagos Tenure, else boasting would have started

Them go say na him build am. Very anyhow set of animals.

Goodlady:
Moderarors see derailer.
Handle him with proper care.

leave that ancient one with his obsolete mentality.

AntiChristian:
Hope it wasn't involved in Trans-atlantic slave trade? People should know their history!

The Anglican church has a complex history with the slave trade, including direct involvement through investments and plantations like Codrington College in Barbados, and ideological support for slavery. It also had members who opposed it and worked towards abolition. In recent years, the Church of England has apologized for its historical links and has pledged significant funding to address the legacy of slavery through investments and research. Goodlady

But your prophet mohammad owned several slaves to his name na. Abi this one sef na lie?

All these northerners and raising kids like puppies. Na Una no get money na Una go dey born anyhow. Dey train recruits for terrorists. Spits. The way I detest the lifestyle of people from that part of the country ehn. Make dem divide the country, greed and selfishness on our leaders part no gree dem.

franvincoop:
Normal normal Nwabali ticket no fit cut, na over 0.5 or over 1.5 goal Nwabali dey bet with Super Eagles.
Sure odds.

if the national team don tire am. Make e resign. Ogun won kill am ni

Samantha125:
Your sweetest? Seems like someone is being very cautious so as to not receive a life ban...😂😂😂

Making sure not to offend the queen, I see...

dawan sef dey. The banning thing is very annoying tbh. It kills morale.

dominique:
What's the highest cause of divorce in this climes if not domestic abuse?

smiles. Well, you have a point. But it takes two to tango, other times olojukokoro no dey allow certain spouses concentrate on their marriage.

spiceadole:
Before nko?
I married up.
He is a medical doctor too,a senior colleague.
And we are both based in Europe.
That's the least I could have settled for.

Okay. Sounds fair enough. Happy married life to you both. May the marital bliss in your union continue to blossom as it was in its early stages.

LoneSoldier:
If you were given two options to choose one, which one will it be, Marriage or 50 Million Cash?

For me I choose 50 Million Cash.

Note: You can only choose one, if you choose 50 Million Cash you won't marry, and if you choose marriage you won't get that amount, so choose wisely.

Give me the wad of cash please.

dominique:
And if a woman dies in a marriage, it's still this same sets of people gaslighting women to stay in bad marriages that will berate her for dying because of marriage. Not all marriages are worth fighting for. Al

you conveniently deleted the part where it is said "unless in the case of a domestic abuse" 😀 wth has been going on with you lately? Our sweetest Dominique? E ro ra o. Good morning to you.

I hope the butterfly continues to fly in their tummy after two years. Make dem getat.

Inspirer1:
They observed that most of his throws were to opponents and that error that almost cost us 3 points, no serious attempt to run back to ensure the ball doesn't go in...as in it was just somehow

make dem kick am out of the team. He should be investigated. Get hungry keeper from the local league.

Dogalmighty17:
That match was a disaster. That goalkeeper was paid to cost the eagles the match. He plays in the South African league after all. I have never seen such incompetence from a goal keeper before.

The eagles will not qualify for the world cup and I am fine with that. The team is mediocre and has no future. There is no way the eagles can beat Benin.

My thoughts exactly. Bro knows what he's doing. He should be dropped.

Inspirer1:
The guy should just calm down, I saw some comments on X already suspecting sabotage

They are not far from the Truth. It's almost like it's premeditated

dominique:
Onana is doing well in his new club. Nwabali needs to step up his game, he's making too many costly errors

You guys are missing a very important observation. Una sure say the Nwabali no put something for the match? Cause his mistakes were too comical. It's almost like he knew what he was doing conjuring up those silly mistakes. Na dem Sabi sha. I don't expect them to qualify. I just dey pity Osimehn.