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TUANKU:
Ok. I will email you ASAP.

bros good afternoon...be like you don forget me 😢

IyaTola:
"When Good Is Never Enough: My Experience With Ungrateful People"

There’s a heavy kind of heartbreak that doesn’t come from romance — it comes from helping people and getting slapped in the face for it.

I’ve always believed in helping others rise. If I have access to opportunities, why not share them? If I have skills that could help someone grow, why hold back?

But along the line, life taught me a tough lesson: not everyone you help will be grateful. Some will forget. Some will twist your kindness. Some will even resent you for doing what they couldn’t do for themselves.

Let me tell you my story.

The First One: Tunde

I helped Tunde secure a job — a role that came with accommodation. That alone changed his life in a small but meaningful way. He stayed for a few months, then moved on. No word. No thanks.

Still, I didn’t hold it against him.

Later, he needed help with his CV. I did it for free — even though I normally charge between ₦10,000 and ₦15,000 for that kind of professional service. I took time out of my schedule, sat down, and did it for him like a brother.

Again, silence.

When I got a remote job I couldn’t fully manage due to my workload, I reached out to Tunde. I offered to split the job and the pay 50/50 — he would handle the day-to-day tasks while I managed the account. He said no.

In fact, he accused me of trying to use him.

Imagine that.

Days later, he came back and accepted. No apology. No explanation.

Even then, I let it go.

I went ahead to help him promote a training he was organizing — posted it for free, no charge for adverts. I even invited him to sit on a professional interview panel to help him build credibility, but he couldn’t make it due to a personal emergency. Fair enough.

But what truly broke me was what happened next.

He once told me he had an interview in another state. I didn’t have much — just ₦15,000 to my name — but I gave him ₦5,000 to support his trip. I didn’t have to. But I did.

Only for me to later hear he was mocking me behind my back.

He told people, “Imagine, I told MC I had an interview, and all he could give me was 5k.”

That one stung. Deep.

This was someone I constantly sent internal vacancies to, remote and hybrid jobs… someone I went out of my way to support. And that was how he repaid me.

The Second One: The Complainer

Then there was another individual I’d also been helping. I sent him jobs — verified jobs, not just random links. I shared confidential vacancies with him directly.

One day, he messaged me in frustration:
“All these jobs you’re sending me, they’re fake. None have worked.”

He didn’t just complain — he accused me. As if I was trying to deceive him.

The last straw? He insulted a job I had just sent, calling it another "fake one."

Guess what?

He was invited for an interview for that exact same role.

Did he come back to apologize? Nope. Did he acknowledge he was wrong? Not even a word.

A Hard Truth About People

Sometimes, human beings can be the worst investment.

You pour in your time, money, energy, and goodwill, hoping to see someone grow. But instead, they repay you with entitlement, betrayal, and gossip.

I’m not saying everyone is like this — but you'll be shocked how many are.

Helping others is noble, but it has to be done with discernment. Not everyone deserves your sacrifice. Not everyone values support unless it comes wrapped in gold and praise. And some will resent you just because you were the one who helped them.

So What’s the Lesson?

Help people — but don’t lose yourself doing it.

Be kind — but be smart.

Give — but don’t overextend to people who don’t even say "thank you."

And most importantly, never feel guilty for setting boundaries. It’s not bitterness. It’s self-respect.

Because the harsh truth is, sometimes the people you help the most… will be the ones who turn around and act like you never did anything at all.

Two ungrateful persons. It is well OP you're doing your part, God would reward you for it eventually. Btw I'm searching for a remote job. VA...entry level I am willing to learn on the job.

PUNANI01:
i have a real dating app but you must pay for it. Girls will be chasing after you like say tomorrow no dey.

Rest.

Ojagun:
I don tay for this website
I know all their tori for this side
That mama get 2 very notorious monickers before but i no go mention dem.I no wan chop ban like my last username

lwkmd. Nawa. Things dey sup for this place

Ojagun:
Lol

I dey always laugh people especially males wey dey go back & forth with that mama

She is in her mid to late fifties,twice divorced and also bipolar

Pesin wey don snap foto of her amu post am here before

Are you serious right now?

Allsmilez999:
"who you marry is entirely up to you and out of my control".

Did he lie? No.

If he had said instead "No babe, don't marry someone else, can't you see i am hustling for us?" , would that stop her from going with a rich available man? No.

A babe that truly loves you will not cry at that response but encourage and reassure you. That's what i think.

nice POv. I just learnt something. Thanks. You're right concerning the bolded

Dpsychologist:
it just takes practice.

Una don start.. okay. What kind of books do you read and what do you do to get better? Abeg no ghost me. 😢

SpencerForbes:
I don Commot hand boss😂 yesterday I been get time, today I’m back to work 💯 Her last point sef come show say she’s not in our world. I for like take am out so I go know the reasons behind some of her thought processes cos it’s baffling.
🚶‍♂️

lol you get time. That person dey live in a bubble. E think say life na black and white. She go learn.

SpencerForbes:
Only her body😂
with this your thought processes, I’m not surprised why this generation has high rate of baby mamas and single mothers than our parents and I don’t see it stopping soon.

When I have to give you money, time and everything and the only “thing” you can bring is intangible.

My only pain is when your gender start shifting blames to men. Expecting pity meanwhile you’re the main culprit.

bros why you dey entertain this person? You get time sha. My threshold for BS no solid like this. Lol.

Dpsychologist:
Swipe left. Swipe right. Repeat.

For every one genuine-looking profile on Tinder, you’ll find fifteen more selling something — a fantasy, a body, or a lifestyle. Let’s be honest: what used to be a dating app has quietly evolved into a digital marketplace.

A guy once said, laughing,

“Bro, na hookup site be dating site now.”

And he’s right.

Because these days, “Let’s hang out” usually translates to “Pay to play.” Conversations that used to start with “What’s your favorite movie?” now begin with “What can you offer?”

The romance has been replaced by negotiation.
The affection, by transaction.
And the connection? Well, that’s usually temporary — gone as soon as the bank alert hits.

Hookup culture has flooded the streets — and the screens — so badly that genuine dating feels like a lost art. Everyone’s performing; few are connecting.
You’ll see bios that say “No hookups” but read like price lists in disguise.

It’s a strange new world where beauty is currency, and emotions are collateral. People are no longer dating — they’re bartering.

And yet, no one seems surprised.

Maybe it’s because we all secretly know that the line between “dating” and “deal-making” has long disappeared. What we’re left with is a culture where affection has a price tag and love has become a luxury item few can afford.

So the next time someone says,

“There are no real dating sites anymore…”

Don’t argue. Just smile and ask,
“Who did this to us?”

Cc nlfpmod Dominique seun

👏👏👏 I wanted to write about this same topic but you beat me to it and you did an amazing job. I enjoyed every second taking it in. Love the way you write OP abeg teach me nau. 😢

Allsmilez999:
For her to ask such question, she’s seeing someone else or already has it in mind that you are not enough. she just asked that question as an excuse to end things. You fell for her trap!

Her question didn’t involve finances but your reply involved finances. Think about it, doesn’t she already know you are financially handicapped? Why degrading yourself like that with that response?

what should have been the better response?

TUANKU:
Ok. I will email you ASAP.

Hello sire. Good evening

correctguy101:
Every man should endeavor to never go broke.

You know wetin ya eye go see if you go broke?

As for the second bolded. That kind fool plenty among men. Their mama and sisters and brothers never bellefull, dem go dey invest in one "biabia bank"... Dem forget say biabia bank, na bank of no returns.

[b]There were times I had it tough, I don't look for friends to help me, I have my lovely sisters. They took care of me until I got back on my feet as na me be their sure osusu bishop. Until today, if one kind business enter, na family meeting straight, I'll summon everyone and we'll gather and enjoy ourselves. Na so I use dey live my life o. [/b]Although, the mothers of my children joined in the last time we had a gathering, it was still fun.

you be correct nigga. May God continue to bless you man.

Mrexcell:
Doing all these for a nigerian lady is very risky most white ladies will never betray the man a nigerian lady can easily cheat on the man for any stupid reason.

God bless you. I'm hundred percent certain that she's gonna cheat on the guy. They cannot help themselves

correctguy101:
Every man should endeavor to never go broke.

You know wetin ya eye go see if you go broke?

As for the second bolded. That kind fool plenty among men. Their mama and sisters and brothers never bellefull, dem go dey invest in one "biabia bank"... Dem forget say biabia bank, na bank of no returns.

There were times I had it tough, I don't look for friends to help me, I have my lovely sisters. They took care of me until I got back on my feet as na me be their sure osusu bishop. Until today, if one kind business enter, na family meeting straight, I'll summon everyone and we'll gather and enjoy ourselves. Na so I use dey live my life o. Although, the mothers of my children joined in the last time we had a gathering, it was still fun.

Gosh I feel like crying already

Dynamicboss:
Don’t pity the guy but subsequent guys that will date her. The guy in question works in offshore and their salary and benefits is mega huge. Those spending won’t affect his pocket one bit.

By the way, the lady is very shallow and shameful.

most naija females fall under the same category. Most.

Dynamicboss:
Don’t pity the guy but subsequent guys that will date her. He guy in question works in offshore and their salary and benefits is mega huge. Those spending won’t affect his pocket one bit.

well you have a point. Naija girls are enjoying sha.

I feel sorry for the guy. He go learn the hard way. We always do. He should make sure he never goes broke. Shiorr. Funny enough the mama fit dey one side dey struggle to eat.

Auxtan:
Not yet.

For your previous message, how do I get you involved when you're probably not in the same state as myself. I'm in Eastern Nigeria.

I forgot to clarify, we dont necessarily need to be in the same state. All you need do is to provide me with the important information you need to be recorded. I would in turn process these into data that can be updated automatically on every sales day. So distance is not a problem and you can trust me to provide you with efficient service. All I need for you to do is to give me a trial.

So like this in your mind you sef fine? Naija guys dey really boost these girls morale. A lot of 4s walking around thinking they are 5 and above.

Auxtan:
Not yet.

For your previous message, how do I get you involved when you're probably not in the same state as myself. I'm in Eastern Nigeria.

Okay. It's still doable. All you have to do is present me with the information you want recorded and what not. This would be done on a daily, perhaps if you had someone over there to keep track of these things daily and they hand them over to me .I'll create a system where I'll be able to automate the process. Keep things updated at the end of every sales day. I hope you understand. I take it that you've got a sales boy or girl working with you ATM?

TUANKU:
Ok. I will email you ASAP.

please let me know when you do. Thanks.

TUANKU:
Ok. I will email you ASAP.

Appreciated. Anticipating. 🙏

TUANKU:
Good morning bro. I will be glad to help/assist you.
How do i get in touch with you? Drop your WhatsApp number/email address.

Thanks bro. Good morning. Here's my email. tennytoni@gmail.com once I get your email I'll send my number promptly. God bless you. 🙏

Auxtan:
I'm at the point in my business that accounting has become a big challenge.

Patronage is high that keeping track of debtors and other financial details have become a problem.

How can I solve this situation please?

Have you gotten a solution yet?

TUANKU:
This is one of the most sensible replies i have read on NL this year.
Well said. OP consider this and reflect on it. Let me add that it's not too late to turn your life around. I am also an introvert but i work from home as a penetration tester and a bug hunter, plus i still engage in social activities and keep in touch with friends.

Hi bro. Good morning. Please can you fill me in on this? I'll be grateful if we can have a private chat. How can I become one and does this take time to learn.? I really need a job. Thanks

Auxtan:
I'm at the point in my business that accounting has become a big challenge.

Patronage is high that keeping track of debtors and other financial details have become a problem.

How can I solve this situation please?

What kind of business are you into? And would you be willing to hire someone to help keep track of this for you? I can easily do this for you for very affordable fee every other month. How can one reach out to you?

Kaczynski:
Yes

all right. Thanks. Is it possible that we head somewhere more private. It's an issue that concerns work and development. I see that you're into programming. I would love to venture into it but I have my doubts and fears. First off, I'm not currently working and it's messing with my mental. How can we go about this privately please? There are stuffs i wouldn't like to type here please.

Kaczynski:
Bad idea



Art students should do little bit of science like math and science student should do little bit of art like philosophy

Hello sire. Good morning. How is it going? You instructed to quote you elsewhere. Hope this one is fine?

pocohantas:
Na she dey disturb that man.
The man dey his own jeje with his quiet lifestyle. She most likely knew and loved it for the peace it comes with. Since most of them are quite averse to infidelity. But now she is looking for snake-in-the-monkey shadow sex style.

She should go marry her crypto friends.
Let everybody rest abeg.

Gbam. my belle

Kaczynski:
Why are we lying to ourselves that two people can stay in love for the entirety of their lives? It's ridiculous.
All the stats support the reality that marriage, unless artificially enforced, just isn't appealing to people past like 5 years or so, on average.
I wonder if people are going to figure out how to raise kids without marriage and just see who they want to see. I think it'd be healthier in the long run.

Last week my gf threatened to break up with me because i don't have plans of marrying her even tho I love you , why do women like complicating matters

Senior man I've been trying hard to reach you. Abeg the least you can do is to hear me out I beg you. It is very important to me. Please...I'm losing my mind.