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Dimples0303:
I think you might be talking about one's character... I don't understand the enemy part. Maybe it's the misunderstood version. If that's the case, then go and understand the understood version, and then make a decision for yourself but not for others.

This version you grasped should be avoided, that we can agree on.

Hehe I will really like to know about that feminist agenda to reduce the male population to a controllable 10%, I heard fermistst are killing male children and aborting the male child too. Me I have a problem supporting anybody who supports or abort helpless babies. I know some girls that hv miscarriages and I was telling my frnd that ferminist r killing male children before they are been born. Surprise surprise, the child was male.

lilmax:
Will date a feminist but will not marry one

They're easily manipulated by massaging their ego

You do not have to spend, you also have free sex too

Hehe I need to become your student. Hehe

Biingoo:
Nigga stop scaring me biko

No am not trying to scare you am just trying to tell you that people usually die alone, don't say becouse you don't want to die single, then your partner will die with you.

Biingoo:
So I should die single? My mum will just swear for me

You are going to die single. Nobody will pair up to die with you, you will die alone.
If children are important to you. You can still have them without marrige

Honest opinions only please.

Biingoo:
13 to 14yrs old already into prostitution? God, where did we go wrong As a going bachelor to marry go hard us for this useless generation oh!


Shout out to all the married men out there . Una no know wetin God don do for Una

Probably you think getting married is fun, becouse they sold fantasies to you when you wea little. There is a reason they call it wedlock, cus its a prison.

tuoyoojo:
Some women are very wicked. How can u do this to a fellow girl. If someone did that her daughter, would see like it

It is even the men brought in to sleep with underaged girls. How can u sustain an erection with an underaged girl. Na wa o


I am still wondering the best punishment to given to her

Yep underage girls is a No No.
But all women starting from the age of 17 till they can't no more, are involved in some form of covert prostitution . AKA I need money to fix my nails, buy cloths, fix my hair or buy me dinner.
I think the biggest ring of prostitution they need to burst in Nigeria is some peoples mothers.

musictori:
The founder and Apostle in charge of the koinonia ministry in Zaria has said in one of his sermon that a man is poor if he doesn't own land


https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=6owiy_hsALk

Yep one of the reasons I stop going to church was becouse of all the dumb things they say. Well if I can get rich by telling people their blessings is coming from heaven why I take their money, I ll say anything too

musictori:
The founder and Apostle in charge of the koinonia ministry in Zaria has said in one of his sermon that a man is poor if he doesn't own land


https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=6owiy_hsALk

Yep one of the reasons I stop going to church was becouse of all the dump things they say. Well if I can get rich by telling people their blessings is coming from heaven why I take their money, I ll say anything too

Roadtoyesterday:
No wonder those useless tacha fans came for my head this morning on twitter just for advising them. Why contribute to buy 15M Benz for her when she's busy signing endorsement deals, and some of you are not feeding well. Just an advise and gbam they started sliding on my Dm, and I really give them hot back.
Check below

Yep stupid is a mental disorder.
Hope these people really get help or I hope all this will go away with time.

Chelsea82:
Source: https://www.google.com/amp/s/www.thesun.co.uk/sport/football/10394803/italian-footballer-suspended-sex-nightclub/amp/

Probably set up by the hoe, to exploit him.
Women will destroy your life. Know that

infonet247:
Hello Nairalanders,

I am really in disbelief and in shock hence am writing this here for all to advice me on what to do.

I am a man of 35yrs old and have been dating a lady for three years now and told her this December 2019, my people will come for the traditional marriage having gone for introduction earlier.
Hehe I wish more guys will go through this shit so that they will all learn. All women are like this, the one that is with you I'd eaither looking for another option or can't find an option. Well the bright side is he survive the biggest disaster in his life. (Marrige)
Niggah tell that bitch to give u bak ur 1.5m do not take anything else if it dosnt come in 1.5naira

After two months of introduction, she became worried and started feeling unease. I told her ok to make things easier and for you to believe I will marry you, I transfered 1.5m into her account for the traditional and white wedding, promising to add more wen we finally draw up the full list.

Then the unexpected happen, we plan going to Aba to get the traditional marriage items last Saturday, which we later purchased but to my utmost disbelief she had accepted another guy by Thursday in case am not serious!

Am shock because during the week of us going to Aba, I had sent 100k into her account by Wednesday to hold for the journey only for her to accept or tell another guy to come. Then by Sunday after the items have been bought, she sent the new guy a txt that she doesn't want again.

My question is, should I continue with her since she could act like this? Should I go ahead with the marriage or call it Off? Pls I need advice.

Please Front page

Never turn a hoe in to a house wife.
A hoe that owns u 1.5M, how dumb can u be . Get that money back or you don't deserve to walk around with a penis.
Nver get married its a scam, its prison

efex01:
Good evening to you my lady, am Felix by name, Yoruba from osun state that was the introduction that led to another thing.

Less I forget, I started a new job in Ibadan as an accountant for a pharmaceutical store on Monday, in which I was introduced to all the staff in their branches but there is a particular lady in one of their branches that ask me a same question, can I meet?

After introduction the next thing she said is, you are not my type, you are too ugly to be my boyfriend.

My people, pls am I too ugly to be this lady boyfriend, cause I need to ask someone because I don’t have any girlfriend that I can ask

Hehe you are not too ugly but you do have some insecurities and some self confidence to work on.
You should know that a man sexual value is mostly measured by his status and resorces. I can tell you that you are in shape, just focus on getting alot of Money and making yourself better. Not everybody will like you, but that's fine. That girl will probably be older than you in the next 5years or she is already older than u. Your major problem is you keep screeming am too ugly. I don't want me.

merit1988:
I got married as a young virgin...probably didnt understand what love was all about then....I've never really felt love or being loved in my marriage..coupled with some other marriage issues..I wear the shoes and I know where it hurts...all I need is advices on how to build my love life and not yabs pls...it's very hurtful

Some how I feel like this is a set up question from a feminist. You know? Doing their devilish work trying to tell women to be promiscuous.

Anyways before I can give my take I have to know the following.
. did you have a job when you married him?
. are you fat now? Cus u eat everything u see, drive or take okada to everywea u go
. Have you had feminist frnds lately, since you are on nairaland, I think this is likely
. have you installed Instagram on your phone?
. Have you been watching porn!
. dose the guy have a port belly now? Yep these ppl just eat n drink anything, they end up look like pregnant women with a very low I. Q
Well tell me more and I can provide a full analysis of what's going on. As for love thou. Don't botter, its a myth and "the not yabs" thing makes me question your character. Maybe but not insults will be better but hey. I might be wrong
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emirateprince:
let's me pastor Nelson you ,I think u need it

Lol

cg

tinubulagos952:
I found out the woman I want to marry is HIV positive when we went for HIV test.

She is the reason for who I am today.
She is the one that connect me to a wealthy man that gave gave me contracts that made me a rich person today.

She stood and believe in me that I have the potential.

I love her so dearly but she had the virus.

I don't know what to do.

Help me

Ok how about you take good care of her, give her all the support she will ever want. U know the same ones she gave you but not die or doom your entire bloodline.
People always think becouse someone gave them money they mean well forthem and not playing them for their own personal interest. Yep I say support her but don't put ur self in a position that will risk u dying a slow death

Thatssobeyonce:
Yeah thts possible too
But what ur missing is Trust
For every relationship to work out there must be trust
Nd ion knw if you've had a bad experience before but not every lady is a slay queen or sexualises herself
Real women think about their respect and reputation first.
And u seem insecure nd karma is real bcox u can't sleep wit over a hundred ladies nd expect to marry a Virgin dear
Virgins deserve virgins
Thank you!

Hehe yep Trust! Why not? Hehe karma? Do I get to make money or find true love bevouse am a Virgo too? . Really don't care about the virgin thing, what I care about is not raising sombody else's kid. Yea so I refuse to accept your word of mouth which is non verifiable and its based on what I should think about you. Why am not with u half of the time. I will take my chances with DNA becouse you know like you said "that's possible too"

Khd95:
UNN belong to Jesus kho


Mtchewwww, African is still like 10 century behind civilization,modernization,social,economic, psychological evolution

What has the study of witches got to do with Jesus, if not over sabi wet dey worry us, the white that passed down the scam of a religion study anything possible, witches,extra terrestrial activities, 'satan', aliens,etc

Am starting to think modernization, civilization and that psychological evolution is not a good thing anymore. Religion might be hugwash but we need it.
The world is on the verge of self destruction. Example. Look at Feminism and all the nukes that are available right now. You probably don't have Jesus telling the leaders not to press the red button anymore.

pansophist:
If a girl stays with you when you're broke and have nothing, and can see the potential in you, and water it into maturity with you, especially when she still have in abundance her youthfulness and not in lack of male suitors, then she is a keeper.

If an influential man with female abundance, didnt cheat on his woman despite numerous women out there that will out-compete his mistress, then he loves her. (Eg Davido and Chioma).

Am still sure that davido and chioma thing won't end well. Mostly for future political purpose. Yoruba and Igbo. U know? Votes

midnighter:
I thought you had finally become sensible in that other post but I was expecting too much. What kind of stupid comment is this Do you think she has never been young? You, you no go old?

Hehe am sorry, you shouldnt expect alot from people, we are just humans and sometimes we act stupid. That was insensitive of me. Thanks for pointing that out

aishauju:
Must a lady suffer with a guy to prove she loves the guy?

Must a rich guy lie that he is poor to get a genuine girl?

How do we test true love? Is it in what ways.

Drop your contributions.

Am sorry to spoil your hopes but Their is no True love and sorry their is no soulmate eaither. A person is not going to accept you one day for who you are.
Their is only the game of surviver. The provider and the Nurisher.
The feelings women feel towords men is differnt and wat they use to measure that feeling is differnt. Women usually go for men with healthy ganes and the the resources to provide for them. Women also find older men attractive while men find younger women attractive.
A man feeling towards a lady is differnt too, the man is looking for the best place to deposits his DNA which usually is beauty and which comes with the term, thinking with your dick.
Men with Low resorces will have access to low value female
Men with resorces will get acces to high value female. So I suggest u get ur head out of the cloud and make Money if u want the best option.
People will find it difficult to fall in love more and more, as you would call it.
Becouse women go to school now, NYSC and a job. This automatically makes them high value female. The problem is women are only attracted to people superior to them or people within their class. And after all that schooling and working. The same people in their class find them a little too old for them. And the superior ones always have resorces to go for a more viable younger woman. That's why all the pre weeding pictures u see. Will have a vibrate young guy with an old female which manage to manipulate the guy out of his thirst and lack of access to woman that she is good for him knowing that she is running out of time. But she knows the guy will make it in the future. The guy thou don't know his sexual value is high and the womans value is ending and that woman is litching bevouse she can't find a superior provider. And the rich guys thou. Pre weddings pictures are usually with a younger girl. So a mans sexual value starts at 30 why the womans sexual value ends. As long as the mans has resorces he will get anytime type of female he wants. Look at buhari, buharri can fvck all those Instagram models u think thy have value. Which thy really don't actually.

Thatssobeyonce:
Tell them and i dont bliv in pre marital sex!
my virginity is for my husband
And i want a frnd nd companion in the person i will marry because my dream is a happy family.

Hehe then get married to that and discover, she is not a virgin. Anyways beware their are medical precedures that imitates virginity and their those ones that canter that, I will suggest test all and don't forget to go do DNA test on all your children too. These women are listening to feminist. If she is not a virgin thou. U probably have the greatest con artist in the hus. Hand her over the police ASAP

rtdCivilservant:
So are u now saying women are Zombies that they give in to whatever the men ask from them? They give sex just because the men ask? Are u saying Women are this stupid? God forbid my sweet mother can never be as foolish as u described.

Some times I feel like I am ignorant, I want to know from your perception. What do you consider a perfect relationship?
I don't know if you noticed but u hv a very sassy attitude that tells the brain on default that you are trouble. But I will like to see things from your view

Dulcinea:
Pure lies. Mister man, you attract your kind. It seems you're dumb that's why dumb women come your way. 90%? You've date all the girls in naija abi?

Women of potentials are everywhere but your egoistic attitude and view of the womenfolk will push them far from you. Think before you speak.

Feminist sometimes its best to understand that people have opinions, yes most of them are dumb. But you can't keep attacking everything head on with emotions all over the place. You can actually respond with love and show us how that is just rediculous and not true. If you are the president, you will lunch an invasion to a whole country if they say something you don't like. I can come here be bitter too, respond to u and call u names and we all end up enemies. Without the problem being solved. How can you show you are better when you sound exacly like that guy you are responding too? Mean this in the best way possible. If you are offended I apologize

kikake:
A few brilliant women, just a few, have more than sex to offer.

Yep but she is old thou. I wouldn't want to go near that ever. Except she is paying then am going to get wasted and do it under a dark room. God nooooo nope on second thought she can keep the money. No no no no no

franchasng:
men follow what women fancy, or what majority of women fancy.



My sister be honest to yourself, how many Nigerian lady will prefer to stay at home with her boyfriend playing computer game, solving assignments, watching CNN, BBC, etc without showing her man clearly that she is bored


How many Nigerian ladies would agree to have a date at a garden where she won't order drinks, fried rice, shawarma, goat head, pizza, cold stone, etc


How many Nigerian ladies are interested in extracting the wisdom God gave them


They are more interested on how to dress or walk or talk or move to get a rich guy that will be squandering money on them; me I love it oh, in fact, I am a fan of it but let's be honest, Nigerian ladies are interested in men for the below reasons:

1.) Money
2.) Gifts(phones, laptops, cars, houses, etc)
3.) House rent
4.) School fees
5.) Upkeep money
6.) Free vacation




Remove the above things, 99.99% of Nigerian ladies will never date or marry any man, they are ready to die single and be using candle, cucumber, finger, Biro, carrot, broom, etc to be dicking themselves whenever they are Hot


How many Nigerian ladies can swear that they have given their boyfriend a huge sum of money that changed his life, like money he used to buy a car, rent a house, travel abroad, start or expand his business, pay his school fees


How many Nigerian ladies can swear they have helped their boyfriend secure visa to travel abroad or helped their boyfriend get citizenship of a western nation


But there are millions of Nigerian guys doing these things and many more everyday even as we speak!!!


Dear Nigerian ladies please change oh, make una change for good, the world is changing, internet is making guys wiser and opening their eyes to their previous mistakes, their mumu don de do oh

Dude these types of ladies are better off single and minding their bussines, if you know this type around you, fvck and pass or don't. STD n stuff.

lavylilly:
Greetings to you all.

I have a disturbing thought I'd like to share. Recently, i stumbled on a video which had a caption "Apart from sex, women have nothing to offer in a relationship."

I totally disagree with this.

I am not disagreeing as a feminist. I am disagreeing as a sane woman.

In as much as a lot of women folks are guilty of the caption charged against them, i think the male folks should also be blamed as an encouraging factor to this.

Gentleman, apart from calling her to come over to your place for the weekend, have her wash your clothes, keep your house clean and have massive sex. Have you tried to engage her in an intellectual/an intelligent discourse?

Apart from drilling that hole, have you tried to drill and extract her God given potentials from her?

Have you tried to discuss your dreams and aspirations with her and see how she fits in by suggesting ideas that would contribute positively to your dreams?

Apart from taking her to the club and have countless sit outs, have you ever taken her for seminars and workshops?

These are questions a lot of male folks are guilty of.

It takes two to tangle. Until you give her room to show you her potentials, you will never see her showcasing it.

The reason why she gives you just sex is because that is the only thing you require all the time from her ever since you both met.

Require more than sex, and then you will see her come out in her fullness.

(c) Precious Pearls

Hehe women have no interest in inteligent conversation. Thy r like give me, give me.me, me, me, me. (Selfish)
Well I will agree that gf and mostly the devil-Diabolo(feminist) are useless. But a pregnant woman is at her most vulnerable point so need all the support she can get and I mean ALL. Since she can't do most of things she want at ease anymore. She is basically sick and will get to push all whole human being out of her. I say way power to the woman on this one. That is such service to humanity.
When a woman gives birth, she nature the child and watch over that child so that harm won't come to him or her, raising a child is no child's play. Try waking up every night at 2am to a cry of a baby and leaving ur sleep. At this point the woman needs a provider for her and the offspring, the best care and attention, not to mention help. This task is not easy. Not to mention some modern women do have a job and support the family and advise the husband on the best descion of investment. Its like having your own private Lawyar.
So a woman dose brings quiet alot to table. I will still advice people thou, stay away from the devil

genq:
True talk.

This is why I refuse to bite my tongue on this forum - these idi0tic feminists think they have monopoly of throwing insults. They'll gather themselves and be insulting peoples fathers and husbands because they have no male figure in their miserable lives.

Men must begin speaking up and refuse to be silenced.

Nope I say we should just ignore them.
The trash will take itself out.

CHoccolaTE:
See another example of how women keep getting scammed with this marriage crap.

Men will never ever agree that they should be responsible for housework and childcare but ther selfish arrogant asses want women to be co-breadwinners and providers.


Op the lord is your strength. Ask yourself what he himself would do if you were the one sitting at home 24/7 not providing and not doing housework and then demanding that he should not employ house helps. Will he take it in patience and still show you love?
Or better still ask him.
Ask him if he enjoys seeing you get stressed and overworked because of his ego issues.

And the funny thing is that many men in marriages today are living like this because of the bad economy, they depend on their wives for financial support but will stubbornly refuse to help with house chores.

I have a solution for you. Don't get married. Its a scam. You will be happy without dealing with the above crap.
And get a job why you are at it. Cus living along requires money too

Pussywar:
See mumu. Nigerian men are such a disgrace. You? A price? A fucking price?? Shows that your father didn't raise you well. Its so pathetic how you beg on your knees for women to worship you. Lmao. We got real goals motherfucker. Dreams to chase. Not begging niggas. Bleep of now, the attention I gave should be enough to help you sleep. You're rejected too. Whoopi is 50+, you'd beg to lick her pussy, can't Say the same for you and your divk when you're 45 sef. Fucking price. Mumu

Like I said. Move along.

Pussywar:
Look at this retarded bastard that came out of the anus. That my attention you wanted so badly, you got it. Still won't pick you, you're not my type.

Sorry you got it all wrong, women don't pick anything. You are not the prize. Men are.
Somehow you keep waving this rejection card around like u are the only bitch on the planet. He can always do better even if he is 50yrs old. Get over urself nobody wants ur attention.

UnbiasTruth:
I am sorry this is rather too long but please I need to pour out my mind because I need your mature advice. I have been going through a lot of trauma since my husband stopped working and it is really getting to me because my blood pressure is high.

I love my husband and despite what is happening now, I still love him. I just need advice on how to manage the situation right now.

My husband is a hard-working, loving, caring and gentle man; he showed me true love from the first day I met him. He was very dedicated to his job and he received commendations from his boss and colleagues at work but something just happened that led to his resignation.

A kind of conspiracy against him. He was advised by one of his superiors at work to resign. Now it’s been more than a year that he is out of job. All attempts to get him back into the labour force had been futile because he keeps saying he does not want to settle for less.

He was earning six figure salary while at his former place of work and he has a side business which he still manages till now but the profit is close to nothing and it is not even constant.

Now, the issue I have with him is that my husband gets angry at almost everything. He nags and drinks (not with friends because he is an introvert) excessively, so he is always at home. He keeps on complaining about our house helps even when I investigate and realize that most of his complaints are flimsy. We have changed house helps in this year up to 4 times.

So, in August this year, I decided not to get any maid again since we could not find one whose domestic care service would satisfy my husband.

Mind you, I have been the one practically footing the bill after two months that my husband lost his job because we made a huge investment in acquiring some property shortly before he lost his job. So, I pay house rent, school fees, feed the whole family (we have 3 lovely children) from my salary.

My nature of work rarely gives me time so I can’t afford to take care of the children and do much of the house chores. I explained to my husband to assist since he is always at home but he keeps saying if he had not lost his job, I wouldn’t have asked him to do basic house chores.

I know he was raised with silver spoon so he rarely knows how to do most domestic work. I had been the one doing this before we started having house helps and my job at office got more engaging.

My pastor recently advised that I should consider getting a professional cleaner who will only do some routine cleaning and leave immediately because my husband may not be comfortable with a stranger in the house.

Two days ago, I came across a thread https://www.nairaland.com/5426688/what-cost-getting-regular-home here on Nairaland while searching for a good cleaning service here in Lagos and I decided to pay for the service of a male cleaner.

After discussing with my husband, he shunned the idea and still insists I do it myself. So, he asked me to demand a refund. I need someone to help me do some basic cleaning at home since I can afford to pay for the service, but my husband does not want to accept any stranger in our home.

I have asked my pastor and my mother-in-law to talk to him also but he is still keeping deaf hear.

Is there anyone with a better suggestion before I get fed up?

Yep! Married a rich guy, he lost his job and we all get to hear and talk about it, bevouse somebody is footing bills and can't allow the man to deal with grief his own way, he just need to keep providing attention even at his worse.
Imagine how happy he would have been if he did not marry am sure he would have dealt with all this without the internet knowing about it.