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tinu16:
@The Seeker,

This is not about bringing religious matters here, but just cautioning u[b] d way u react to issues or responds.[/b]

If u like hear, if not na u sabi.

eyonigger:
Brother, truly I am not that advanced in English language, so Im finding it really hard to understand your post, can you make it more clearer?

ibkaye:
Very true, that's how some girls sometimes have their guys dancing in circles, rather than getting straight to the point and over and done with, that is, if that's the point she was trying to make, but I'm speaking generally here.

whitelexi:
But why cant she just give it to him straight - like that pear cider made of only pears?
Why not just say: Eyonigger, u need to step up the plate and make a commitment or else i wont be kissing u for more than 20secs a day??

whitelexi:
I used to do that, then i heard news about where my money was really going. . .  So i had to revisit the issue and now, the only person who has a monthly allowance from me is my mum. Not like it achieves much for her, no, but the mere fact that she will appreciate it and pray for more blessings for u - that alone is a good incentive.

@Topic: Thats a no-no!

@TheSeeker - 110% correct!

sugabelle:
hmm'n, he wasn't a "baller" when we started dating; we were students in uni, and I stuck with him because what he lacked in giving cash, he made up for in being supportive and loving. And now that he's rolling in dough, who else is he going to blow it on but me, huh? . LovePeddler-talk or not, guys are demanding in their own rights, and if the babe is relunctant bc she feels he is too stingy to deserve her most prized possession, na crime? And for the record, I'm quite comfortable in my own right, but it feels extra nice when your man chooses to be generous and not act like he thinks you're a prostitute because you expect him to spend a little.

sugabelle:
mr seeker, i don't know wat u're seeking, but if you want to start something this early Sunday morning, I pity you. You've already shown that you're a broke-ass loser who can't get a decent babe. What ever, save ur name-calling for someone who could be bothered. Monkey.

sugabelle:
hmm'n, let me see: calling someone a gold digger, mumu, maga, and mumu(in that order) is not name-calling in ur own dictionary? You must be dumber than I thought. Please don't take out your frustrations on me ok, and leave this thread for objective and matured posters who can give their personal opinions without getting personal.

You will be the first one, particularly the first female to feel my venom on NL. Your comments and opinions on this thread on this thread so far reek of money mongering and sheer gluttony of someone else's money(This might not be your case as you seem to have 'cleared' the air about your case). You said I'd date someone and give her money, why? Because I'm her father? She's an orphan? If I'm her father, yes, I will; if she's an orphan, I will be more than a father to her. If she has parents, why on earth should I be giving her allowance? If all men do that do you have an idea how many relationships each girl will be in? You said I'm a loser, well, I ain't. California is one of the expensive states to live here and I'm doing so greatly but tell you what, I hustled so so hard to make money to expend and splash it on a gold digger, a nomenclature you fit in judging from your first 3 comments. My girlfriend can't sleep behind my back, you know why? I'll explain to you.

When I want to date a girl, I want someone with prospects, someone who knows what she wants to do with herself, someone who has goals and can act and take care of herself independently, someone who in my absence for whatever reason, will stand her feet and has strong opinions. Someone if at all we get married, can handle my business if I fall ill and whatever. . . . . I'll press on. I'm still in school, when I date, I date girls who don't depend on men for a living, hair or whatever. I don't date lazy girls "gold diggers" who knows nothing than their cosmetological advancements and go boundlessly around treachery when they can't get what they want from their "men" who they had thought would be "mumu". So if I date such girls, why will someone sleep with her at my back for what, money? Girls that have relationships with other men for money's sake are no less than an average prostitute, that's why they are called "Bitch"(Gifts is good every now and then and can be expensive too if I wish).

And to tell you something else, when my girl sleeps around, which is highly improbable, I will definitely know. I think I have what a woman wants, from patience, to prospects, to intelligence, to paper, to policies and ardent actions when necessary. So you see, I'm not taking out any frustration on you, you're the one who's disillusioned because you're yet to experience what a real relationship is all about. Forget about the "air" you thought you "cleared" that don't sway me cuz I definitely know you are outta that class -- you're still a gold digger. OK, let me start from your claims, let's assume you've been with your boyfriend since Uni, and he wasn't a baller then, why else would you ask him for monthly allowance if you weren't a gold digger? Should that have been necessary for a relationship you claim to have been existing in a long time? No, I don't think so. Even in marriages, why can't men pay their women? Why do women have to work? Why do women these days support their husbands in paying bills? Because they are respectable women, women of zeal and valor. Do you sound like that to me? No. Why? Because you get salary from your supposed boyfriend and you think you'll sleep behind his back if he doesn't perform his, what do I call it now, marital? Oh no, what? Ok, boyfriend-girlfriend duty.   .

No man will ever want to, as you've seen everyone say, do that; so why isn't he a mumu? What do you think his mom will say if she hears he's paying you monthly when you ain't married yet? She's a woman too, you know? And don't tell me she'll okay it because I've seen no mother who would let her son do that even if she knows the assurance of getting married is at its peak.  I was going to insult you but I won't because I'm too big for that and I won't stoop so low to argue with you, you think I'm arguing with you? No, I'm simply telling you where you stand with other women of class. That will do for now.

sugabelle:
lol> calling me a gold digger like it's a dirty word , who cares? Sticks and stones, dude. You on the other hand, show the tell-tale signs of being an aka-gum(stingy tight-fist) There's a four out of five chance your babe has a second or third bf.

Maybe because I have a generous and caring boo, and I see what my pals go through with their stingy bfs. But they want her to open her legs when ever and however they like. Shior. But of course you don't have to be loaded to be entitled to a girlfriend, so to the OP, I'm sure if the guy is broke, and the girl knows he's sincerely not able to provide, then she'll have to understand. But when the chap is obviously okay financially and decides, out of that old-fashioned "gold-digger mentality" that he will not "pay" to date her, then that makes me sick. I never have to "beg" or demand my man for anything, he knows the drill. And in turn he gets my full and deepest devotion.

sugabelle:
hmm'n, it would be rubbish to those who find it hard to even give N1 to their babe, just bc they don't want her to be a gold-digger. I didn't say she should demand  it of him, but that he needn't wait for her to ask. If you thought her worth asking out, then why won't she be worth spending on? Simple giving does wonders in a r/ship. It doesn't guarantee everlasting love, but when the affair is serious, it makes it all easier. Real men treat their babe like their own sister/mum and make sure she lacks for nothing they can easily provide.

silentc:
I see your point from your response to Mrjaybrown,

It is a case of double standards, most likely, a woman who is sexually liberated (freak if we want to call it that) doesnt conform or fit the bill of "decent, good girl". Most men want both i.e good girl in public, bad girl in bed. The public persona is most important to these kind of men, so they marry a good girl in the end and try to get her to be "freaky".

I agree that a man should marry a woman who suscribes to his sexual mindset, Some men marry women who are freaks and arent "good girls" in public. Those men know who they are.

But, there are some women out there that fit the bill i.e girls you can take home to mum and girls that would blow ur mind away in bed, Now that would be the ideal woman for most men, abi?

MRbrownJAY:
i think that the problem in all this is not really what you do or not in the privacy of your bedroom but why do you go for such person at the first place.
it is a well know fact that most men in 9ja look for women to marry that would be "good" in the eyes of everybody else (family, friends, colleagues etc) before theirs.
so it is safe to say that if a beautiful woman looks/dressed/talk/act like she is "sexually open minded" then she will have no chance of EVER getting married in 9ja.
on the other hand, if you meet that same woman in social settings (clubs, bars, party, wedding), she will be the one all the single guys (married ones too) want to get down with.
what does this tells you? well it is safe to say that if men didnt care so much about what others think then they would marry that open minded woman but since they have to consider everyone else's view then they go and marry daddy's girl.
now, daddy's girl might not have been is [b]true first choice but in a country where "face" is everything, you dont want to go against your parents wishes or have your friends look down on your wife
.[/b]
the term freak is too broad to even try to define it. some people might tell you that any woman who wears a mini skirt is a freak or that a woman with a foul mouth is a freak while others might say that a woman who has party is a freak.
everyone can decide for themselves what a freak is BUT there is one important point:
if a husband ask his wife to have anal sex(or whatever she think is freaky) and she refuses doing it quoting verses from the bible then she has only her self to blame when that man goes and get down with some "freak".
when a men asked his wife for anal, he is simply trying to turn his wife into the "freak" he desires, her refusal only open the door to some outside sexual help.
to each their own

FL Gators:
I promise to let you know

FL Gators:
Awww, plz keep it up. You keep me insane on this forum

FL Gators:
You sound very mature, intelligent, and you control your temper quite well.
No insult, no disrespecting women, no ego, etc.

Awwwww. . . . . now you got my head swirling . But hey, ain't no point tryna disrespect or insult another person, but seriously, I have a limit where I lose it but I always hope I don't get there. I don't remember the last time I demonstrated tantrums.

FL Gators:
cuz sometimes you dnt sound like the a typical naija man.


Thats a compliment

No2Atheism:
Tpia don't mind him let him keep boasting as if he has a 10liter keg for a scrotum. If have sex 10 times, does that mean u ejaculated 10times a day or does that mean you ejaculated 10times multiplied by at least 2 or something.

assume you at least last for 1hour per sex (assuming u include one round, then pre-intimacy, then freakineess, digging and all other sorts of things that your mind can think of) that means u have sex for at least 10 hours a day out of 24hours for just one round of sex per hour.

Now since u need to at least sleep for 6 hours implies u have only 8 hours left to work, eat, cook and do ur chores.

please give me a break, someone is not telling the truth here .

Even porn stars are not known to spend 10hours a day having sex,

Every ejaculation drains the scrotum and the seminal fluids, and common knowledge says that it takes at least 24hours to get back to the same level of semen and fluids needed for a proper ejaculation.

Didn't have an idea that you allot time to kissing, touching and digging -- too arithmetical. Do you watch time when you do? No one is boasting. I'm saying when I'm at the peak of my freakiness and that of course has to be when I haven't had sex in a long while. We all have different time limits in bed and how long we can go. . . . . I know people who cum just 10 minutes into the action, so it's no biggie. BTW, I did all that when I was on a long vacation.

Diva1:
Lol, anal sex in my case is wayyy tooo freaky but the role playing, dressing as a nurse and such, I personally don't see anything wrong in it, it could be an exciting way to spice up your marriage in the sexual aspect, husband and wife. You know something different for your husband. As for the sex 10x a day, that depends on the individual lol.
Leaving the Bible out of this, to me, it just doesn't feel decent. That's where one defaecates and health wise problems. I just can't pin-point a particular reason.

Diva1:
It depends on what you mean by a "closet freak".I think it is all men or at least "most" men like their women to be adventurous in bed just as women want their men to be more experienced too. In the case of matrimony which is permitted even in the Bible that women should please their husbands even sexually. No man wants a log of wood. You do what pleases your husband afterall, the two bodies become one, your body is his and his body is yours. It is only moral that what you do behind closed doors with your husband should not be let out in the public. But like I said it depends on what you see as being immoral or freaky. In my case, an example I would also consider being freaky is "anal sex" but I do not see any decency in such but people are different.