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Nazgul:
This post exposes two things.

1. You've never driven a car in a busy City in Nigeria

2. You've never driven a car at all.

When you drive in Nigeria you'll understand why you need the grace of God cos most commerical bus drivers and okada riders drive under the influence of drugs and alcohol.

This means that even if you're driving at 60km/h on a major road, a drug influenced okada rider can swerve into your lane for no reason causing you to loose control and either hit him or hit another vehicle or swerve and hit a tree or pole to avoid both.

Nazgul:
This post exposes two things.

1. You've never driven a car in a busy City in Nigeria

2. You've never driven a car at all.

When you drive in Nigeria you'll understand why you need the grace of God cos most commerical bus drivers and okada riders drive under the influence of drugs and alcohol.

This means that even if you're driving at 60km/h on a major road, a drug influenced okada rider can swerve into your lane for no reason causing you to loose control and either hit him or hit another vehicle or swerve and hit a tree or pole to avoid both.

Nazgul:
I would have easily blamed the tipper driver for recklessness, but considering how these okada riders drive these days, I'll rather blame the okada man.

Those guys behave as though they have spare lives stashed away somewhere pending when it will come in handy.

A friend of mine killed one with his car last two years, the okada guy just joined the major road from a street recklessly without even looking out to see if there's an incoming vehicle. That was how he made the innocent guy a murderer.

It will take the grace of God for you a private car owner to go out to work and return 365days with hitting any of them.

Rip to him.

Emperormartin:
Compliments of the season to all nairalanders...

Please I noticed a disturbing scenario playing in my house as I came back for xmas... My 67yr old dad use to smoke weed (Igbo) in our sitting room.

When we were younger, he use to smoke outside and occasionally smokes around the house especially late in the night or in the wee hours.

As a matter of fact I'm 30yrs and I have another younger brother who's 27yrs then my sister who's the youngest. But Non of us smoke weed or have toed in his line... My mother has tried in that aspect not to raise us like that!!!

I brought this issue here because I need help on how to make my aging dad DESIST from that lifestyle... It breaks my heart seeing him popping smoke like that and it's degrading when we have visitors in the house... And secondly I'm wary of his health!!!

Pls help a Brother!!!

EvilSec:
Anyone has advice on avoiding Burnout? I generally work 11-15 hours a day, then try to spend my limited free time towards Research & Development but since the beginning of the year I have started to Burnout pretty bad. It’s not that I lost my drive, motivation or passion. I just can’t do it. At this point, I burnout daily and I am having a hard time staying constant with studying for certifications or R & D in general. Any advice?

squad03:
I have been pondering on this for several years and I'll appreciate the inputs of good people on this forum.

Way before I got married,I had considered that should I encounter any delay in childbearing,I would be open to 'unconventional' means like IVF, Surrogacy or adoption.
Thankfully,I didn't encounter any delay and my husband and I have had 2 kids.I am not keen to have any more kids but my husband is open to more so we are keeping our fingers for a few more years.

Despite having completed my family (maybe temporarily), I have always kept on my mind the urge to volunteer to be a surrogate for another family.Why not since pregnancy treats me really well,my body snaps right back and I hardly experience that postpartum drag, it's a superpower I feel bad about going to waste since I probably won't be having anymore kids for myself.
Over the years,I have encountered couples I would gladly have engaged in this conversation but every time I run it past my husband (before I get their hopes up) he shoots the idea down.

I found it quite odd at first until I read about a woman who after 2 kids died during childbirth as a surrogate for another couple. That was scary for me but it didn't quite dampen the desire.

The first couple I spoke to him about are friends of ours who have been making efforts and he said he appreciates my kindness but that this is Nigeria where nothing is black and white and he wouldn't want any troubles as a result of it.
I paused for a bit.
We have all been friends for a while since we were all single and there's an adage in Yoruba that translates to 'Communual eating isn't sweet if one person doesn't contribute' and there has been that silent wedge even though it's often ignored.

For me, I can hardly see the downside to this,granted I will have to pause my career for just a few months during the advanced stage or early postpartum phase but that pales in comparison to going on the journey with a friend who can be a part of it every step of the way,can come to Antenatal and ultrasound scans..it's exciting to me.They will be rest assured that I will be taking all the right steps to ensure perfectly healthy babies.Please bear in mind that the baby(ies) will be 100% theirs (husband's sperm and his wife's eggs),I will just be a happy incubator.

There are legal aspects I am happy to follow through as they please and this is no quest for financial gains as my family is more than comfortable.

I also have a cousin who has been trying for a baby but has medical conditions which have hindered this so far and I will do this for her in a heartbeat but I have to convince my husband to allow me.
I have been having sleepless nights about it and I'm hoping that since it's family this time,he won't hesitate to give me his blessings considering it's a sacrifice for him as well.This is the only time I can take this break in my career and I want it to be meaningful.
God answers prayers in diverse ways,maybe this is it for my cousin.

Husbands in the house,how will you react to such a request from your spouse?

Wives,can you volunteer to be a surrogate?

Parents-to-be,will you allow known persons to be surrogates for you or have you considered any downsides to it?

I come in peace and for the love of babies,may the joy go round.

Dtruthspeaker:
I have defended the points raised, for and on his behalf and you have been Silent Ever Since.

But I understand, No Way To Go Round it or Through it Exactly As The Lord's Words Are

Rock of My Soul, in the bossom of Abraham
Rock of My Soul in the bossom of Abraham
Rock of My Soul in the bossom of Abraham,

Ooh, Rock of my Soul

"It's so High you can Never get Over It,
It's so Low you can Never get Under it,
It's so Wide you can Never get Around it.
It's so Strong you can Never get Through it!

Oh, Rock of My Soul!

Anas09:

Evergreen4:
God is great

Coldie:
Wike approved construction of 7th flyover... The guy broke fly over record in Nigeria since independence

toye440:
Psalm 14 : 1, 53 : 1.
The fool says in his heart, there is no God.

Davash222:
Umahi in APC can not win a polling unit in Ebonyi State.

Octopusssy:
That's the thing; other dogs kill for sport, mine kills and eats.

We are not starving him. He is very picky with food. Even the fancy dog mash with cooked meant and bones does not attract him. One time my mum had to force feed him eba and soup because he doesn't eat, but if he as much as sights the shadow of a rat, he becomes hyper.

There a quite a lot of rats in my hood because my neighbours are too stingy to pay their LAWMA bills. We have changed the window nets several times but 'em ratzillas won't let up. Change today, by next week another hole has appeared

Moferere:
Umahi
Biafrans will not even vote him

Angelacruz:
I just broke up with my boyfriend of 2yrs. He cheated on me with another babe. It's hard to move on. I wrote this with a bleeding heart.

Why do some men like cheating? I was never a liability to him nor a bad girl. Y would he treat me like this? Am going insane.

What should i do nairalanders?

Righteousness89:
Brethren What we are witnessing Calls for us to Sit up Physically and Spiritually...

Police killing Citizens
Soldier killing Citizens
Citizens killing police.

Nigeria has Officially Joined the world in this Worldwide Wahala hitting the Earth..

The Greatest Gift for ourselves today is to Genuinely Surrender to JESUS..
Anything can happen at anytime..
I just watched a video of a young man Directly shot by the police in the east..

Prepare for Eternity!
Prepare For Eternity!
Prepare For Eternity!

They That Have Ears to Hear! Let them Hear!!