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Seriously and happily hooked up! 

bethangel:
I call it stalking, he calls it love

Four to five phone calls a day
He's the first to comment on my FB status
incessant mail messages in my box
declaring his love barely two weeks after meeting me
suprise visits

I'm getting tired cos i think a guy should really get to know a girl before indicating his interested in more
or what do you think?

OK what's up with some naija dudes and declaring love just days/weeks after meeting a lady?

Honestly is that how they fall in love?

Are you tryna create some sort of remix?

Another case of trying to avoid responsibility for your actions!

Geezz If its that difficult to poke and not want to bear the consequences of poking. . .then get married or better still become GAY/CELIBATE!

It'll make me love him and appreciate him more!

I don't mean to sound insulting but I've got to say your pathetic!!! Dust yourself stand up and move on!

Life's setbacks are not supposed to paralyze you, they're supposed to help you discover who you are and teach you to learn from your mistakes not come here and seek sympathy!

You can poke but you can't bear the consequences of the poking?

I've got no words to describe you!!!!!

Mr blazer:
Maybe you forgot to buy her something or you yell at her cos of her stubborness and the next thing she was like '' That is one thing I like about John(her ex), he never forget to get me things and he doesnt yell at me. What does this implies? Is she still interested in her ex?

Then why doesn't she go back and date this ex of her's? mschewwww!

Not necessary. . .but certainly gonna have one. . .myself and hubby need to go relax and have some time to ourselves after the whole hassle of the wedding preparations and the wedding itself. . .

TheSeeker:
My nominees:

Most brilliant male - MrBrownJay

Funniest, controversial and smart male - Whitelexi

Playful male - 190, chic2pimp

Most direct male - izeek

Stupidest male - Charles316

Most easygoing and peaceful male - IFELEKE


Most brilliant and constructive female - TopUp

Most blunt female - posakosa, ebony

Most direct female - FL Gators

Most absentee female - Secretz

Most disrespectful and rudest female - TheAmaka

Proudest and Vain female - ThoniaSlim

I will come up with the rest nominees later

Yawn. . .You can go jump off a lagoon if it pains you!   

Now every dude claims to be quiet. . . 

Personally I do not like loud dudes they are simply a bunch of empty bags!

Ask yourself is your friend worth loosing for someone like her? Then make your decision from there!

NOPE! there's enough stress in the world already. . .why add on the ones that can be avoided?

Yea right. . .I bet your brother in-law also said he wanna have your babies! Next!

Let me see. . .another one got burnt!. . .

I heard you can tell how good a man is in bed by the way he dances and whines his waist. . .  

Ehmmm do they?

@topic

I think some of them dudes on here going yadi yadi about naija girls being unattractive need to check on themselves. . .The problem lies with you!

As someone said earlier people of the same class move together. . .

So if you ain't attractive tell me how you expect to meet/attract an attractive sister?    

mi2009:
Every relationship with a Nigerian will not turn out bad. If it does, it's just a learning experience. That can happen with any relationship from anyplace. I can read books. I can ask him questions, but it's better when you ask questions from people who are part of the culture.

My dear you don't get do you? Its not about the man being a Nigerian, but the character of the man himself. . .

A man who's been married not once but twice? says a lot about him!

What happened to these marriages, why didn't they work out? You can't tell me its the two women. . .

Also the man tryna make you into what he wants. . . is another pointer. . .what of if you fail to be made into this person he wants you to be. . .what happens then?

Girl be wise in your choices. . .

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Anthonia
wats KL
does it mean Kilimanjaro or wat~

Just curious
hows dat my preety face~ [/quote]Yes It means Kilimanjaro. . .am on top of Kilimanjaro! 

Your what?   

RuuDie:

but u still g'on cry. . . . . so why act like some kind'a super-hero or something. bet thats what y'all get from listening to all 'em beyonce CDs!

First of all. . .after the tears what comes after? My dear life! Life still goes on!

and FYI. . .Ehmmm I don't get my inspiration from Beyonce or any other hip hop/R n B musician!

Radiant:
Not again! Not again!!

How do NLders have the power to dissect a personality and intentions of a person they don't know? You guys beat me to this game for real.

I mean, a man with a history of failed marriages is a no go area. You've been with him for 8 months you say, haven't you seen enough handwritings on the wall that will help you make up your mind on this man?
You don't sound like you want marriage or you don't want to be a house wife. Why don't you tell him that and leave the r/ship since that's all he wants- a house wife? Trust me, if he's traditional like you say he's just gonna remain that way. Them kinda people hardly change. So, the earlier you decide, the better.

Besides, he's free to marry from any country and not obliged to marry from his own country. He already told you that Nigerian women are not romantic. Well, that's his reason and doesn't mean bad of him anyway. People and their choices.

My sentiments exactly!!!my sentiments exactly!!!

Some people are just the cause of their own predicaments. . .watch in a few years after she's married this dude. . .she'll still be the same person who'll come running here talking about how bad he treats her!

Good Girl:
Look angel2k,

Sorry about your pain in love. I'll tell you what to do. Simple. Next time you meet a man, harden your heart. Do not love him with your heart. Strictly use your head. Avoid emotional ties with any of them. If you meet someone, good. Make him know that you will not be emotionally available to him. Some men, infact a lot of men do not like the lovey-dovey stuff. Learn to be as hardened as they are. If you meet one that is insensitive, learn that insensitivity from him. Give him a dose of his own medicine and lastly, and most importantly, never rely on a man for anything, you hear me? Anything. Be emotionally independent, financially independent (look for a job if you don't have, or put up a business). Just learn to stand up on your own two feet. When you are independent, love takes a maturer form, and dependence ain't it. When you are not tied down emotionally to a man, one, he tends to respect you, and two, it's easier for you to walk out on a relationship with minimum pain. A relationship is like an institution, and just like school, you are to be in it to learn and reap the benefits. Just avoid the emotions. I don't know how old you are, but as you grow older you realize that love is a decision, not an emotion. So, make wise decisions.

Beautiful!

Mind your business ohh! Somethings are better left unsaid!

22medinat:
it happened to a friend of mine,we were classmates in secomdary school and we also talk and share gists,until she told me she was getting married.and later i heard the guy married another person very funny story but not a nice one,
she has worked with about three insurance companies in marketing dept,notable nones at that,and she was always getting awards as best marketer wherever she was and got promotions very fast,i always envied her and thought of how tlented she was,cos she was very successful,we didnt know that she always had to sleep with those customers to get their paronage,a very demeaning thing to do for a job,her fiancee didnt know until a month to their wedding,his elder brother caught her with his oga in nicon hilton,and it was obvious it was a runs thing and this happend after her traditinal marriage,which implies she could go on and on even in her matrimonial and that was how he called it quits
when i heard the story i was shocked thats ,that was how she was making success in her,job,meanig she was been used as a glorified prostitute to earn money for her firm.toobad that for her .
her story leaves me thinking,these money making empolyees have really contributed to adultery and immorality in nigeria.please save our youth

Nope don't really think so. . .everything we do in life depends on the choices we make! Was she beaten into sleeping with these men?

What of women who have refused to oblige to such form of doing business. . .have they all had their heads chopped off?

So my dear. . .it all boils down to choices! It was her choice to either do it or quit it!

And the fact that she even did it after her traditional marriage speaks volumes. . .because by culture she's already a married woman. . .and that's adultery!

Yes there are a number of good looking Nigerian men. . .but the rest bunch of ----------(fill in the blank) feeling like they some fyne blads!

A man that has been married twice. . .what does it say about him?